Should I be concerned?

Theresa - posted on 09/13/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I have a 9 year old son and his step mother seems to be overly obsessed with him. He spent 8 weeks with his father and her this summer and she has taken hundreds (maybe thousands) of pictures of him and has created all these scrapbooks with him as the star. They live in another state but when she was here visiting her mother she went to the first day of school with him taking yet more pictures. I only found out about this from my son. My mom radar is binging and beeping. I keep thinking if this was a stepfather and a little girl everyone would be so shocked. Why is this ok because she's a woman? I have tried talking to my Ex but he's ignored me. I went so far as to tell the school she's not allowed to pick him up without my permission. How can I protect my child without causing a family rift?

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Molly - posted on 10/20/2012

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It sounds like you are very protective which is great, but do not forget that she is NOT a stranger. She does seem like she is going a little overboard, but sometimes as a "stepmom" we do not have a clue where we fit in. And if she is a motherly type, or family oriented, she may just want to have something that makes her feel like she's part of your little family (well the dad's and his). I would suggest breathing, and try to remember this woman is possibly going to be in your sons life, so try your best to not judge. I'm sure over time things won't seem so over dramatic or weird, it sounds like this has only happened once. Everyone shows their emotions and love in different ways.

Mellisa - posted on 10/17/2012

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I dont think you have anything to worry about. I personally love to take pictures, matter of fact just took one 10 minutes ago of the boys before school lol. Maybe you should just ask her, or ask to see the scrape book. I haven't started any yet but I do plain on making one for my son and step son. I do have my own (sort of) of what the they have made just for me at school. I think later on down the road they would love to have them special memories from being with just that parent

Stacey - posted on 10/16/2012

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Be happy that she is showing love and not hate towards him. Taking pictures of your child is not the end of the world.

Christine - posted on 09/18/2012

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I don't necessarily think you should be concerned. Maybe she's showing an interest and making the attempt because she loves your ex husband. I'll agree that she sounds like she's going overboard. I'm a stepmom to a 9 year old girl and have a 14 yr old boy of my own. I know from my experiences with her I have to make sure I treat them with both with the same amount of love and attention. She is a very jealous girl and I can't say something loving to my son without her feeling left out. Maybe this is a similar situation? Does the stepmom to your son have any kids of her own.



At any rate, unless you feel like she's being inappropriate with your son you shouldn't worry too much. The more people that love your son the better. Also, imagine how you would feel if it were opposite and she didn't like your son or you thought she was mean to him. Good luck!

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