step mom of a one year old

Suzanne - posted on 10/22/2009

Quoting Carol :

step mom of a one year old

Is there anyone else out there with a step daughter that young. would love to see if you have some of the same issues I am having with the bio mom as I am.... Met my husband when is ex girl friend left him when she was just 3 months pregnant.. So I have had the baby sence she was born we have joint custoday of her and live hour and half away from her mother. I have three children of my own 21 yr daughter and two sons 16 and 14 so this diffenitly not the first child I have raised.

I am the step mother of a four and half year old and a 21month old. I got with their father when the ex was about five mos. pregnant with my stepson. We also share joint custody of the children with her. Unfortanantly we live much closer LOL!! We do a 6month-6month rotation with her. Right now the children are living with us for our 6mos. There are many issues when it comes to her! Send me a private message and maybe we can compare notes!

Sarah - posted on 09/25/2009

i wasn't around my step son at that age but i have been around him since he was two... he is now 5 years old.. we have 50/50 custody we get him from Friday to the following Friday and it has been that way since he was 3.. before the straight seven days it was all split up and that didn't work very well for him.. he had alot of trouble being at a different house alot... and with the bio mum talking the child out of the state she is meant to ask for the father for permission and i am pretty sire she needs the father signature to get the child a passport... well that what it is like where i am in qld Australia..... and the bio moms dramas i know whats that like.... my step sons mum changes everything without letting us know.. she is a very self centered person... she can never do anything wrong and its always our fault no matter what is wrong.... sorry if this isn't much help but i wish you all the best with everything that is going on with your little one and it all gets sorted out...

Carol - posted on 08/06/2009

sounds like are going through the same things we are.. We have 50/50 custody of our little angel but its starts are real strange from the courts.. Like we have to prove we can tend to her..As you can see I have three other very healthy children already. We get every tue and wed pick up at daycare at 2 which is 1 1/2 hour drive away sence my husband works nights they want him to sleep before we pick her up then back to her moms house wed night at 5 which is the same distance. then everyother weekend from 7pm friday night she has to meet us half way then back there sat at 7pm starting november its extended till sunday and if sunday is a holiday then monday at 7pm. and we pay 1250 a month child support. She just informed us that she is taking her to jaimaca for a week in november we are fighting that and thinks she can change weekends with my husband with out asking, Always drama and I have to say it weighs on my relationship sometimes and upsets my youngest sone when he hears us discusing it.. He is afriad for his baby sister go out of state so far away. Hope things go better for you please keep in touch you are the only other person I know that has a step child this young.

Karina - posted on 08/03/2009

I have and 18 month old step son and the Bio mum believes that she is the only one with rights to her son. I ahve been with his father since he was 10 days old and Bio mum and I had an ok relationship till we ask for increased access as we were only given by her 3 hours a week when step son was born. She said No so now we are going through the courts to get 50/50 access. Bio mum has 3 kid different dads this is my boy friends only child and I have no kids.