Heather - posted on 09/12/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )
now i know this is going to be controversal but please lets stay nice i'm looking for helpful advice...
ok So my Now Husband has a 11 month old son between our 6yr old daughter and our 5 month old son. I absolutly love my step son and wouldn't change it at all. I know that i am not and will not Be is "biological" mother bc his mother is around. i've tries to be nice to here and am civil to her even with the circumstances that there is. but she seems to not want me to be apart of his life when it comes to any of the important things or even minor things.. i've never done anything wrong besides accusing her of trying to get in my then at the time BF's pants but yet she makes it seem as though i have to bend over and kiss her butt. I treat her son as if her were my own.. he gets the same attention as my two children, everythign we keep equal bc i grew up having a step sibling and them getting everything and us nothing.. so i will not do that to him.. but she wont allow me to pick him up when its our weekend to have him or from daycare only my husband and his parents and then everyone and their mother from her side is allowed to do it.. i just dont know what to do anymore she is complaining bc my husband doesnt do anything in her eyes but yet everytime he asks for him more she turns him down.. i've been reading up on the step parent stuff online and it just stinks that we have no say especially when the mother is not being very cooperative..
please give me advice....
what do i do..
we did go on a "playdate" once it was nice except for the fact that she was trying to get information out of me about my husband taking her to custody court..
but now she is complaining that i havent asked to do that again, but she hasnt contacted me either..
she also acts and treats us as if we have no clue on how to raise a child when she is younger then both of us and we do have a 6 yr old daughter that we are raising on our own.. please help..