What do you do when you are meeting your step children?

Katie - posted on 08/19/2012

I was 22 also when I met my husbands 12 year old daughter for the first time. She also said she was ready to meet me and when I walked into his house she was sitting at the computer and he announced that I was here all she did was hold up her finger and said "wait a minute". It was very awkward and I'm sure she was just as nervous as I was. After that it was a little awkward and she didn't want to be alone with me (not because she didn't trust me but because she didn't know what to say or talk about). As the adult, I tried to find things that she liked and we would either talk about them or go do those things. After awhile she has opened up to me and will just come and sit with me and talk to me for hours. I've become the person that she trusts when she's having a problem. The only advice I can give you (learning from my own mistakes) ask the father what her interests are and go from there. Hope this helps!

Anastasia - posted on 06/29/2012

That's great that you even thinking about it and taking in consideration her feelings. She is already a big girls, so talk to her as its one of your friends, accept her as an another adult, another individual. Ask your bf what's his daughters favorite place to go, maybe some nice sushi restaurant, or cute nice cafeteria. See if sometimes soon you and her could hang out together, go shopping or something. Be yourself, kids could since lies and fake!)
Good luck! I'm sure whatever happens - it'll go great, cos you'd try your best!)

Reena - posted on 04/12/2012

Maybe have her pick an outing that you can all go on so the focus isn't just on the "first meeting." Is there an interesting museum, zoo, botanical garden or something like that nearby? I wouldn't be too affectionate with BF in front of her earl on either. Show interest in her.



Good luck!

Monica - posted on 04/08/2012

I have one step daughter! Her name is Mikayla! When i met her i was nervous too. I made cookies for her and asked her a lot of ?'s about school and her friends and now we r really close!

Sarah - posted on 03/18/2012

Ask her questions about herself. What her favorite band is, colour, activity etc and genueinly listen to her... Kids know when someone isn't listening... I think you will find the first convo surpriseingly easy if you make it all about her :)