Lilly Lady - posted on 04/10/2012 ( 22 moms have responded )
So I think a child should call their step-parent by their name but we all have our own opinion. I just have a had time with the fact that my daughter's SM and BF force her to call her SM "Step-Mom" . I honestly have never heard any other child calling their SM "step-mom". My daughter says she has to call her mom or step-mom. If she doesn't she gets a long talk about it and sometime punishment. She calls my husband by his name. My husband and I now have 2 other children, so from time to time she will call him dad but she corrects herself. One night her dad put it on speaker with my daughter when i called one night to talk to her. He wanted clarify she is NOT to call him dad or daddy..etc. How could he make such a big deal when he expects the opposite for his spouse?? I only refer to my husband by his name to her. Her father will refer to his wife as "step-mom" or "mom" even in cards and in the yearbook..etc they write daddy and mom (step-mom).Even when we are all together for an event for our daughter he will refer to her as mom. Its ackward for me and our daughter.. Does a SM really want to be called step-mom would't you rather your name? I was given advice from a parent advisor to tell you child it is polite to call the step-parent by the name their mommy and daddy gave them it is what they wanted them to be called and its respectful.. I think that is better than Step-mom..or mom when the child has a mom...