Why does the BIO MOM make it so Difficult for the Dad

Maree - posted on 02/29/2012

I am a step mum and a bio mum. I get along well with my sons father, step mother and their families. I don't understand why some people find it impossible to allow their ex to move on and be happy. My husbands ex is just like this. She is a constant problem,stopping visitation,making false accusations of child abuse,asking for more money when she gets way too much already.



She is jealous of us and the fact we have a nice house,nice life,a new daughter together....and she can't get her shit together and provide their son with his basic needs. I for one am sick of trying to get him everything he needs on top of paying child support,because she won't bother getting off her lazy ass to get a job,cook meals or do anything.....I can't wait till the day that she is out of our lives and we don't have to give her anymore money to spend on herself.



I was judged harshly in another thread for saying this but i think so many people (especially selfish bitch,bio mums) don't understand or simply don't care about what they are doing to their childs father and other family...and in the end,what they are doing to their child...they should feel guilty for their disgusting behavior.

Bri - posted on 11/14/2011

my dh does make it hard for the BM in ways , so really its not a one way street, i do tel my dh what i feel that was wrong doing what he did towards her , but im not going to let the BM know of course since im married tomy dh.
But inside i keep quiet, i dont think the BM is jealous in our case, she moved on and so did my dh, so no jealousy I think its really hard for the BM tobelieve what me and my dh have to say, she won custody in Aug, it was very hard month but we re filed to get my SK DS7 back in our care.

Treasure - posted on 03/22/2011

From the other group, Step Moms, there are a lot of us who are married to men with custody of his children, so we have similar stories such as mine...
The BM just simply causes havoc because she can. It is almost as if they are not ever over their relationship bc they had babies together. Dad moved on, so they are jealous...
I, myself am a biological parent to 3. (Raising 3 SKs... on top of my own full time) There are many more issues with the BM than BDs!
BM pays her support once a month, and then will call and "arrange" to pick up the kids... never shows. She will say "I paid my support, why won't you let me take the kids?!" Never the case, she always has an excuse (lately it is "i don't have car seats to use").
The BDs simply stay away from my biological children...
I don't think there is an "age" when it stops, all the drama. Best of luck! Join the other community, there is a lot more action, advice, debate, and such for you! (If you haven't found it already!)