Bernadette - posted on 09/10/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )
I am both a mom and a step mom, I have dealt with the women that think that all is alright with them raising your kids to those that have a problem with their new guy having children and the guy stops seeing the kids.
So what if the real mother is hurt and bothered that a new woman is caring for her child(ren). As a step mom you may love that child and care for that child but they still arent your child. You as a step mom may care and love and protect that child but that child isnt yours. Put yourself into the place of the mother it is the hardest thing in the world to let someone else care for your child.
And knowing that the father of the child isnt really going to do any better a job at parenting now then he did when he was with you, That he will let the step mom due the raising. That is hard and hurts too.
Think about it moms and step moms get the bad rap for everything while dead beat dads get away with everything. Try and understanding that some of the troubles that go on are due more to the dads and the crap they say and do not the moms or step moms.