lost my baby at 26 weeks

Jenny - posted on 07/18/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )




Hi all, I lost our baby girl Jessica Louise Grace at 26 weeks, i didnt feel her move for about 12 hours and was worried so went to the hospital to get checked out,that was on the friday they couldnt find a heart beat and i had a scan to confirm. they let me go home after giving me the tablets to prepare my cervix and i was told that i had to come back on the sunday to be induced. it gave my partner and i time to come to terms with what was going to happen. i went back on the sunday and she was born at 4.24pm after only around 3 hours of labor. it was the hardest thing i have ever been through. i got to dress and hold my little girl, and we spent time with her and had her blessed. i already have two children a 3 1/2 year old girl and a 2 year old boy they are my world. i dont know what i would do without them and my fantastic family.

i just want to know everyones experiences and any help or advice they can give me. i have organised her funeral and its this wednesday and she will be buried. i along with my partner have chosen everything, even down to the music and her burial plot. i just dont know where to go from there really.
i want more children but i just dont know if my partner feels the same. i need and want to have another baby and dont think i can wait for years. Please if anyone can help me in what they did i would be greatful. everyone says im doing well and being strong and carrying on with things but i just feel like i want to close the world out and scream!

thanks and sorry for the long post. xxxxx

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Samantha - posted on 08/06/2012




My heart feels for all of you..I myself have been in the place...It's taken me 2 years to talk..I was almost 7 mons we lost out baby boy..I've pretty much sheltered myself I really havn't gone anywhere or done anything always afraid of people asking me about it.. I'm scared that I'm gonna be like this forever..

Faith - posted on 04/18/2012




I'm so sorry for your loss. I also lost my twins at 26 and half weeks of pregnancy. I was expecting a girl and a boy. I woke up with a slight pain which quickly got worse by the minute. My husband rushed me to the hospital, where I was told my obgyn was at another hospital and will be back soon. I don't remember what happened afterward, I just remember the gynae telling my husband that he can't find their heart beats and told me I had to be rushed to the OR. I had placental abruption. I woke up a week later in ICU, 3 operations later, memory loss, only to be told that, not only had I lost both my twins, I lost my uterus too. This happened on 28 August 2011 but it honestly feels like yesterday. I had to have physiotherapy to learn how to walk. It took me 5 months to sort of get back to my normal routine. I have scars all over my body that make it difficult for to forget what I had been through. Counseling has helped me a lot. I want you to know you are not alone and don't give up on having a baby. My two elder daughters are what make me get up in the morning and continue to live. All the best to you..... Faith

Adriana - posted on 07/22/2011




first of all i am so sorry for your loss:( me & my husband went thru that already so i know how your feeling.i have 3 beautiful girls and was 26weeks preg expecting our baby boy. he was a stillborn baby this happend in jan,24th 2011 and up to know still hurts like if it was yesterday.all i can say is give it time,you wont forget but eventually you'll feel better,the thing is that everything your feeling & thinking is normal but never keep things to your self,that helped me alot always talking about my feelings and how i was doin.....sorry again for you loss & god will lay his hands on you to help you in this difficult times!

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