Anyone else hating being a mother in school?

Alsynnia - posted on 03/20/2010

Yeah I am a mother of 2 they are 6 and 8 I am in school full time I go while they are in school then I come home and finish what house work I have to do but see I used to work full time but now I work from home I am now a stay at home mom. I started my own home based business with a great company so that I can still have a income and not have to work at night like used to I missed my kids I was to busy for them not I am not hating school any more and I get the QT time with my little munchkins that I want no stress here anymore....

Jenny - posted on 03/12/2010

You are not the only one! I did my BS when my son was little, newly divorced and working full time. The only thing I can say is you will get through it and be better off for it. I am actually back in starting May so it must not have traumatized me too much. Just be easy on yourself and if things around the house get let go a bit, it is not forever!! Good luck!

Megan - posted on 03/12/2010

I am in nursing school and I have a 9 month old and it is hell!

Kristin - posted on 03/12/2010

It is SUPER hard!! I find that I can only study and do homework when my little one is sleeping. Which means less sleep for mommy! I do know that I am only capable of doing well in school if I attend P/T. which means only 2-3 classes per semester. I noticed when I went back to school for the first time after having my daughter, I went on overload, trying to do as much as possible. It wasn't fair to my daughter, my grades weren't as good as they could've been, and I was so exhausted. So know what you can handle and make sure there is always time for the little ones :)

Eva - posted on 03/11/2010

I've been there for years now! lol. I'm a mom of 3; 8, 4, and 2, and at this point, I just feel like I'm going about things so wrong. I graduated HS in 2003, and after almost 7 years (in and out) of college, I've only completed an AA degree so far (going PT while working). In Aug of last year, I left my job to try and finish school FT (degree in Elem. Ed), but now I'm finding that all I want to do is be home with my kids. Right now I'm taking a Career Planning course as an elective and with all of the self-assessment and research I've done in the class so far, it has become quite clear that I just don't have a passion for any of the fields being offered/taught right now and that my true passion is for my family. It just kills me to have to leave my kids with someone else (daycare, relatives, etc) to attend classes across town 4 days a week (volunteering on day 5) that I could really care less about right now.
I know this doesn't apply to everyone, and if you enjoy/look forward to the field you are studying, then by all means, hang in there! It's just for me, I don't have that right now and as a result, I don't feel personally "justified" missing out on time I could be spending with my kids. I'm just thinking of taking a break after this semester and going back when all my kids are all in (real) school and I have time to pursue a "new" passion/direction in my life.

Casi - posted on 03/03/2010

You guys are making me cry! It is so nice to see other mothers who are struggling too and to know that it is possible to succeed. Thank you soooo much, all of you were a big help. Oh and by the way, caden's father (whom i call sperm donor) is not in the picture and i am trying to get out of my mamas house right now. it is so hard to take care of what i need to do and listen to my mom tell me daily how i screwed up my life by getting pregnant at 18. Thanks for the support!

Janette - posted on 03/02/2010

Casi,

I totally understand you.. I have to say I agree with Amy Fernald; I just finished my BA and let me tell you that having my 4yr old daughter at my graduation was one of the best moments... my little one can't wait to have a graduation of her own and talks about it all the time! I just started my Masters program and really look forward to seeting that example for her, our children admire us more than we think... good luck and YES, YOU CAN DO IT!!!

Sarah - posted on 03/02/2010

You are definately not alone. I live with 3 guys and a baby. I am the only female. I am up at 630 with my son, getting him ready for his day. I am also trying to get myself ready as well. Shower, dressed, breakfast, homework I did not do/finish. And than straighten up the house. Thats just the morning. Than school is a load on all its own. His father is working almost full time and he is wanting to return to school for his Business major. I am going to school for Nursing and Psychology. I moved shortly after I had my son, so I have no support where I am at now. When I get home, its more cooking, cleaning, homwork when it fits in. I am doing so horrible in my Organic Chemistry class that my teacher told me it was pointless to show up. I am attempting to prove him wrong and do better but the stress is killing me. Finals are 2 weeks away and I havent even started studying. But back to the topic, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. In the end I feel that I will have bettered my son's life and mine as well. Good Luck to all the mommies out there.

Mary - posted on 03/02/2010

i did it in high school. now me and me girls daddy are both in college. talk about twice as bad. you just have to remember that when you are done with school you will make your childrens lives and ours more comfortable. i often times feel guilty that i am not at home all evening with my children because i am at school. i just keep that thought in mind

Deborah - posted on 03/02/2010

I would love to be able to just go to school and then come home. Since I was 16 years old I went to school went to work came home and did all those things, and now I have 5 kids including two year old twins. A suggestion....ONLINE SCHOOL!!! So much more flexible but warning it's a lot more writing papers than normal.

Jessica - posted on 03/02/2010

No honey ur not the only one!!! I'm a mother of two beautiful children and i went back to school and some times i think it was a mistake!!! Sometimes i wonder if i'm going to make it??? Seriously it has been the hardest thing that i have ever done!!! There is not enough hours in the day to get everything done...I'm sure were not the only two mothers who are going thru this..Good luck..

Shanta - posted on 03/02/2010

I enjoy being a a full time student in graduate school and a full time mom, and I work full time..Thia helps keep me balance and improve my multitasking abilities..I believe by me having christ as the head of my life and my marriage is where I get my strength..

Melanie - posted on 03/01/2010

I graduated in December, but I thought it'd be helpful to let you know how great it feels once you finish. I moved my daughter and myself 80 miles away from all friends and family in order to attend a state university. I'm not sure if the father is in the picture for you, but my daughter's father was not there so I was doing this completely by myself. I went to school full time, 5 days a week, 3 semesters a year (I attended full time in the summer, too). There were many a days that I had to just break down and cry, I did also work, so it was difficult to make a full time school schedule fit with a work schedule and daycare. Now that it is over I can look back and take a sigh of relief, I do not know how I did it, but I did. When you're thinking it's terrible and can't go on, just know you can and that it is possible, I'm living proof! :) Good luck and congratulations on being responsible and continuing your education!

Laura - posted on 03/01/2010

It is hard. I finished most of my modules when I was still pregnant, managed to get through being extra tired during exams but my dissertation supervisor thought it best to leave that til this year. My daughter was born on december 7th, and then at 2 weeks of age she was taken ill into hospital because they found B-strep in her blood, we spent her entire first christmas in hospital. I mean when you get home from something like that it's not like everything goes back to normal straight away. My tutor is very understanding though and asked if i wanted to postpone til the summer. It's just got to the point where I've had enough, and hopefully i will have the 15,000 words i need by april 16th. I'm coming to realise that there will always be some kind of distraction when children are around. It would be stupid not to do it though because like i say i've already done everything else. It makes me feel guilty too cause i'm not spending as much time with my daughter as i'd like. Infact today was a nice sunny day, and my husband was off work so we took a day off all three of us and just went for a walk in the countryside and had some lunch at a little tea shop, it was nice. I think it's more about quality time than quantity though. I totally agree with you that it's hard, but it will be worth it. Personally i refuse to be stuck in some dead end, minimum wage job just because i'm a mum. I will say when you've got a particularly large amount of work on, know when to ask someone else for help, my mum is certainly a lifesaver.

Latoya - posted on 03/01/2010

i know what u mean i have custody of 3 kids that are in school and im also in school. i have to come home cook, help them with homework, get they settle and then i have a 15 page report do next week. it is all worth it when u have a great job. plus ur setting a great example for ur kids. keep ur head and keep pressing on. good luck

Naytasha - posted on 02/28/2010

I feel the same way. It bad enough that the professors seem to think that all you have to do in life is homework. But all I can say is keep on going because if you stop now there will be more reasons for u to not go back and your child will be so amazed that you did all this to take care of him.

Trina - posted on 02/28/2010

you are def not alone i am a single mom going to school full time and working part time. and yes juggling it all is so over whelming at times. but stick to it it will be worth it in the end

Sara - posted on 02/27/2010

I always feel relieved lnowingni am notalone in being a single mom, going to school, working weekends, taking care of baby, and finding time to study... Whew, it's exhausting but I can't wait til it's over then it will so b worth it, the bigger pay checks, possible house not an apt with noisy neighbors, lol... Thanks for bringing up topic, reading everyones stories makes mr feel better too that I'm not slnoe either!

Erika - posted on 02/27/2010

I do. Trying to write a 20 page paper now that I have due on Monday and all I want to do is go to sleep. I often find myself saying, I'm going to focus on my school work today, and then next thing I know it's 8:30 in the evening and I've done nothing but housework and care for my son all day. Staying up til 2 in the morning is making me cranky. Coffee doesn't work anymore. I absolutely hate it.

Jeanette - posted on 02/27/2010

I feel your pain! I've been in school since 2007 and still have 3 years to go, because I'm only going part time. When I started I had a 3 yr old and had another one in 2008, so it's definitely hard! But it will be worth it when you graduate! We're doing it for our kids, setting a great example by going to college, and we'll make their lives better in the long run when we're bringing in more money!!

Tyra - posted on 02/27/2010

Your not alone. I think I actually have all of the replies beat. I am a single mom of four ages 7, 6, 4, and 2. I'm a full-time student taking Study of Disease, English, Medical Insurance, and Anatomy that relies on public transportation. So my days go something like this. Mon, Wed, and Fri I wake at 5:45 am, wake kids at 6 am, we leave for daycare at 6:45 am, I'm back on the bus by 7:22 heading straight to school. On Tue I'm up at the same time heading to daycare but have to be in class all day from 9 to 7. On Thur I have evening classes but on Tue & Thur I don't get home from picking kids up until 8:30 pm. I put them to bed and hit the books in which I don't usually get to sleep until 2 am and then the cycle starts all over again. It's very hard due to the lack of sleep I get that will hopefully get better if I can get my hands on a vehicle before I graduate. What keeps me motivated is that graduation will be in Aug 2010 for me and knowing that I'm doing this to benefit my children and myself. Another plus is that my kids will see the importance of education in their futures and that if mommy can do it raising all 4 of them there is no reason they can't do it. So far the only thing that seems to be working for me is prayer & routine. Other than those two things I have no idea how I would get through. It seems like the last semester before graduation for me is the worst ever, but I'm looking forward to externship and graduation this summer and my kids and god son will be sitting front row to see there mommy walk across that stage. Remember ya'll keep ya eye on the prize, determination is the key.

Suzanne - posted on 02/27/2010

I'm going thru the exact same thing.I have 2 years left and m over it. I have a 2 year old ( In may shes 2) and I go to school mon thru Thurs til 4 and m exhhausted when I get home. Once I'm home Dinner,playtime,bath read and bedtime by 8. My daughter wakes up at 6am so I'm finding it hard to get my homework and studing done. I have Anatomy so I need to study at least 2hrs a day. I wish I could study at night but my brain is off at that time. On the days I have off I have to do laundry and spend time with the family. I feel guilty sometimes when I'm doing work while shes awake like I'm ignoring her. Her dads no help. He feels if I'm home I should take care of her. UGH! we just need to get through t and remind ourselves that its for a better future. Hang in there, You are not alone. So many days I want to just throw in the towel.....

Lisa - posted on 02/27/2010

I have three school aged kids, i work part-time involved in cubscouts, and full time student. The last time i was in school was ten years ago. when i only had one child. Now it seems more difficult, my time with my family is less and my husband is having to carry some of my weight which i don't want him to but he insists. It is hard to find a balance while being in school and having a family. Your not the only one!

Lakeisha - posted on 02/26/2010

u r not alone. i just started school. Trying to balance everthing is horrible. I got a c on a math test today and i almost cried. i am so stressed.

Charmaine - posted on 02/25/2010

ur not the only one i also find it hard!!

Mariah - posted on 02/25/2010

i totally agree that its hard but b4 going back to school i worked 50 hrs a week and i still had to do just as much now i'm home more and sleep less but i see my kids a lot more and have more days off i love it

Amy - posted on 02/25/2010

Casi,
I totally understand! I am a single mom, work full-time, and am in law school right now. I graduated undergraduate school as a single mom as well. It is so hard to juggle things but making a schedule is great and works wonders. Right now, I literally have a daily planner which has my schedule marked out to the hour. Otherwise, I will put off myself and my school in order to enjoy time with my son. However, that doesn't benefit us in the end. Know that it will pay off in the end, and you will have a very proud child sitting at your graduation! Good luck and YOU CAN DO IT! :)

Crystal - posted on 02/24/2010

YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I have no suggestions. One statement...It will be worth it in the end.

Christine - posted on 02/24/2010

When I first started I loved it because you could see the results from the hard work you were putting in. Where else are you gonna get credit ( or in this case grades) for doing your work. It made me feel great. Now I find myself putting homework off and at times not even getting to it. but we gotta Hang in there girls, It's gonna feel so good when we are actually in a career we want - getting paid!! much love and I wish you all support.

Nicole - posted on 02/24/2010

i also find it hard! on the days i go to school which are tuesdays and thursdays i have to be there at 9 am. im in class til 4 and then i have to be at work at 430 to 8pm. then i go home and give the kids a bath get em fed and clean and do laundry and then when all thats done i get to sit down and d my homework. Its very hard to do