Krystal - posted on 10/10/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )
I am a 24 yr old mother of 5 yr old twin boys and a 4 yr old son. I am going to school to be a nurse. Up until this fall semester I have mainly been a stay at home mom. Now I feel like I am trying to better myself to better my family. My typical day starts at 630 am so I can shower/ feed the boys breakfast then get them dressed. Then I have to take the twins to kindergarten then Devin, my youngest to daycare, then go to school to 11am pick up Devin where I can try to study or clean then 3pm get the twins, let them play til usually 4pm, go home cook dinner, work with kids on homework/clean and then bathtime for boys then bedtime by 8pm. This is usually the only time I can clean or study while the boys are asleep. Because even during the day with a 4 yr old I cant get much done. My husband is literally no help at all. He is self employed and opened his own tattoo shop so he makes his own hours. Yet he usually sleeps in til 10 or 11am then goes to the shop where the majority of his time he spends just sitting up there waiting to see if anyone will come in. He usually stays there til at least 11pm to 2am. He works there M through Sa and supposedly takes Sundays off to be with his family. But lately when he is here he sleeps, and just doesnt play with the boys. Or he will say ( like tonight) that he needs to run up to do a quick tattoo and be gone 7 or 8 hours on his only day off. I try to ask him to help out more and it really drives me crazy when he complains about the house being messy or not having a particular shirt clean. I am like you are here til noon every day with no kids you can get up and do a load of clothes or pick up some stuff. It is so annoying I am basically a single mom but he supports us financially. Lately I am begun to think it might be best for me to leave since I am doing it all by myself but I feel bad for my boys. We currently live in ND and if I leave we will move to TN where all my family and friends are. So if he doesnt see the boys now when he is living with us, I doubt he will make an effort when we are across the country. So confused and sick of thinking he will change and help out when he never does.