Dad and grandma want me to go to teen parent school

Sarah - posted on 01/05/2013

If you have time to go to normal school I see nothing wrong with that. Do what is best for you and your child. If you feel you can get things done the best way by attending your school, I would continue to do so. If you are falling behind and caught up in having friends and doing what you want in your normal school, you may find it beneficial to go to the teen parent school. I am sure you could relate to more people there, and gain real friends from that experience. Because lets face it, I know for myself and I had my son at 22, all of my friends I was in high school with I am only friends with about 2 now. I am 27 now, and still not all of my "school" friends have kids, and once you can't hang out with them and do what they want to do they stop calling and hanging out with you.

Erica - posted on 10/15/2012

Well ask your parents why they have those opinions. Maybe your father has daycare worries, and everyone can come to a happy medium. Maybe they are worried you don't have real life skills to raise a child, in which case it is up to you to acquire them if you want to stay in regular school. The key is communication, and that is REALLY hard to successfully achieve. Good luck honey and NEVER EVER give up.

Nicole - posted on 09/26/2009

you should stay in school, you dont want to make major changes while you just had a baby it can cause depression. i say no you want that time with your firends away from the baby so i think you should stay in high school its a place were ever one is not talking about babies and baby problems.

Paige - posted on 09/19/2009

I would have said reg school until I read all these.... the other school would be awesome if u get to spend more time w the baby!!!! Thats my biggest issue now I hate not seeing my daughter alot!!!!!! But if there is a way you can stay at your school I thik that'd be cool and more normal for you! In my school there was a program where you went to school and work so you were only in school for liike 3 hrs then worked the normal 20.. if you plan on working anyway that would be a great plan!!!! Good luck either way

Cheyne - posted on 09/19/2009

Do what feels best for you!!! If you do continue going to regular school, that's awesome!! Means you keep the same friends and have their support and things can stay pretty much normal!!! I left my school to do correspondence and really regret it. I do hang out with my friends every now and again but it's still really lonely. I only left because I was ashamed of being pregnant!!!

Winnie - posted on 09/16/2009

From my personal experience, I tried going to a teen pregnancy/parent school and I didn't like it. Some (very few) moms were nice, but most were really mean. I think it was the crazy hormones though lol. Personally, I didn't enjoy my experience with that kind of school. I was only 17 (almost 18) at the time. I ended up working instead and going to an "Adult upgrading". Which is for 18 yrs old and up doing high school subjects because they weren't able to do so before (for any reason). I loved it. I didn't feel out of place because my classmates were mature. Ages ranged from 18-40 (seriously!). When you become a mom, you instantly become a mature person. I wasn't worried about getting teased or whatever.

Don't know if you have that kind of option where you live.



It's really up to you where you feel comfortable =]

Renee - posted on 09/12/2009

Try to make the best decision for you and your baby. I had my first child at 18 only a few months after graduation. I missed doing the "normal" highschool stuff and regret that. But if you feel it's better to go to the mommy school than do it. Dont just make the decision for one of you make it for both if you. Just because your a mom doesn't mean you lose yourself you find yourself. The true person you are when no one is looking. Good Luck you are already doing your baby a huge service by stay in school. Some day they will see how strong you were and be proud that You are thier mother.

Chasity - posted on 09/05/2009

I advise staying in your normal school. Life changes because you have a baby but you can still be yourself and shouldn't have to change something like your school. It's hard being a teen mom and the best thing for one is to keep your life as normal as possible and still take that time to be young. Have time (like at normal school with friends) to not have to worry about being mom and just be yourself. If not you'll go crazy and feel like you were cheated out of your younger years. I am 23 am have 3 kids. I love being a mom and spend lots of time with me kids but the worst thing I did that I regret was that I quit school after getting pregnant at 17 and isloated myself never talking to my friends. Now none of my friends from school talk to me but they all still hang out and I feel like I missed out on alot. I could have stayed in school they had a daycare there! I could have kept my friends but I punished myself for getting pregnant young and was in too big of a hurry to grow up. Don't do that to yourself. You can be a mom and have a normal life to. You don't turn into a soccer mom over night that only stays home and takes care of kids or goes to mommy meetings and classes LOL. Your child will be there for the rest of your life you have plenty of time to spend together. You aren't cheating your child by having a few hours a day to be your age. It's no different than being a working mom. But if you need some parenting classes then lots of places offer them and they are just like a little one hour thing to go to once a week. Hope this helps.

Stacey - posted on 09/04/2009

Hi Kristina my name is stacey, i live in louisville ky, im a family support worker for a program called HANDS. we work with first time parents. My advice to you, like a tell plenty of young ladies in your position is to attend the school for teen parents. You will have a better support system from the teachers and staff.

Amanda - posted on 08/28/2009

I had my first child when I was a freshman and I stayed in school. there were about a dozen other moms that stayed too. As long as you feel comfortable with being at your regular high school stay there. Also check to see what your options are. I know, in MN, once you are in 11th grade(sometimes sooner) you can take post secondary options and go to a local community college instead. that way you get a head start on college, it is free, and you get to have a college schedule which could free up more baby time. also check with your school to see if they have a mother's group. I loved participating in the one I went to and I got to vent, discuss and get feedback from my peers.

NaQuisha - posted on 08/27/2009

It's important to get your education so continue going to school regradless of where you're going. I had my oldest at the age of 15 and I left regular high school and went to a parent school, and I loved it! There was a bus that picked you up at your house with the car seat on the bus for your child. There was a daycare and a clinic inside the school so you can go see your child whenever you wanted. It was smaller classes so the teacher's could interact with you more and the plus we go out of school 2 hours earlier than regular school. I stayed there for two years and my senior year I went back to regular school so I could have some normal high school memories. This is only my experiance and I hope this helps with your decision. Good luck and God Bless!!

Karin - posted on 08/18/2009

You should do whatever you feel is best for your child and yourself. Talk to your parents, school counselors, and the parenting school people. After getting all their input make a wise and informative decision. I had my son at 19. And started going to college fulltime in April of this year. He was 7 months at the time. It is tough but i know that to be able to support a child you need to have a high school education. And a college one if its feasible. And with both of those its alot of time away from your child whether its homework or actual class time. And it is completely worth it. With either school you decide on itll take awhile to get used to. And once you do itll get better I promise. Just try and make the best decison for yourself and for your child.

Codie - posted on 08/15/2009

Keep in mind this is all opinion and what is good for one person may not be so good for another. I think a lot of these ladies have good words to say so I will just say what worked for me and what didn't. I had my first child at 16. I started out with the parenting school but only becuase it was the only way I could graduate on time. I missed a lot of school that year but I also had a VERY ill parent who eventually died. I was not only prego I was depressed too. If your school has a program that integrates the parenting school with the graduating credits that is cool then that would work for you. I only say that because to do it over again I would have only done the program for a year not three. I don't know how the program works where you are but we got graduating credits but the classes did not focus on classes that help you in college; that is if you plan to go to college. If it doesn't then you really have to look into what you plan to do with your life afterward. Children are supposed to come before us but we often forget that we as parents have to make the choices about what is going to make our life and the life of our child better. I was so unprepared for college that I struggle so hard in Math and Science classes. I am twenty seven now and am just getting back into the swing of things. The program helped me more than anyone will ever know but it did not prepare me for college. They taught me living skills; which are VERY important especially when you are going to be a mom but so is regular math and science in case you plan to move on with life and go to college. Now I am at a State University and doing VERY well but with a lot of work and sacrifice. Bottom line is it takes more determination than most people realize to go to school (be it high school or college) and be an active parent. I wish you the best of luck so if you have a good support system and the drive to succeed you will do just fine and make the right decision for you and your child. You have to make the decision; it is you and YOUR child's life....but do not forget to give mom's advice a thought :) Like I said, to do it over again I would have taken the opportunity to go to the program just not as long.

Lyndsay - posted on 08/14/2009

I don't know how it works where you are, but here teen parent schools are great! Not only are you learning what you'd learn in a regular school, they help you learn how to be a mom too. My sister went to one of these and they would have regular school work in the morning, then in the afternoon they would have some sort of parenting program. Also, you'll be around other moms and have an opportunity to make friends with people in the same situation as you are.

Ana - posted on 08/11/2009

I think you have to first decide the pros and cons of each choice and decide for yourself what you priorities are. Do you have adequate care for your child when you are in school? Do you feel that you should or need to spend more time with your child?

There are many factors to consider here, but your child has to be your first priority. You will need to do what you feel gives you and your child the best chance at life. Another option in your area may be online high school that is associated with a specific school district. That may be another option.

Take it slow and figure out what best meets the needs of you and your child and your life goals.

Krista - posted on 08/10/2009

You should definitely finish high school! You want a good life for your child so you need a good education to back that! You should go to college too! I'm 23 with a 4 year old and I'm going to college! You should want to be able to support yourself and your child comfortably on your own... education is the key to that!

Katherine - posted on 08/07/2009

Whatever allows you to spend more time focusing on raising your child. I'm 20 and I just had my daughter at 19. I was in the middle of college. I left and took time off. Idk if you can do that with HS or "parent school". I now go to school at a community college. Its important to raise your child and not let others do it- because I'lll tell ya, it's real easy to just let my mom and dad take over and do it (since I live with them). Its going to be hard as hell! I kind of think you should do the parents school thing because your goals are all changed now as a parent. You want to be there for your child as much as you possibly can, and you want to provide for him/her. So if parenting school lets you, then do it! At the college I was at while I was pregnant, no one understood waht I was going through! None of the kids my age cared. Now, I'm at a community school where half the students are parents/older adults. I relate to them so much more- its all easier! Anyway, good luck!

Olivia - posted on 08/07/2009

i think parenting school. you will be able to have time with your baby and learn from other young moms. you wont want to leave your child for that long. and parenting school will understand more then regualr school

Ciara - posted on 08/07/2009

If you're able to stay in regular school then thats awesome! you can graduate with your class and have a somewhat "normal" teen years. But if you really think its best to go to a parenting school you have the option to be closer to your baby. It's really up to you. Either way its amazing that you're still continuing school! thats the best gift you could ever give your child. Best of luck!!