I want to go back to school (college or back to cosmetology school) but

Autymn - posted on 03/17/2010 ( 57 moms have responded )

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I don't really want to leave my baby boy yet. And I haven't decided if I want to finish my cosmetology license that I started while pregnant, now, or start my teaching degree. I just started getting torn between the two. And I just moved so I've been looking at cosmo schools and toured some and looking at the colleges to transfer loans to. Idk what to do...?

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Lacy - posted on 03/22/2010

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I am doing it with two toddlers, I just found a school that I could do on line classes and evening classes to lessen the time and money of daycare. Some days are hectic but it has been worth it. Also check with local agencies sometime that give grants and childcare scholarships for moms to help off set some of the cost. I use a daycare at my school on the days I need it so I can see my kids between classes. I think it has made the biggest difference to them as well, since they look forward to the activities they have while I am away. The online classes are the best so when they sleep I go to school, do my homework or what have you. This way I get to do the fun stuff with my kids during the day. There is no easier answer to this questions, you just have to decide something and the rest will work itself out in time.

Sabrina - posted on 03/22/2010

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I am currently working on an education degree at the University of Phoenix. My program is completely online, and I am home with my 2 boys.

I do my work when my boys are taking naps, and after they go to bed at night. After August, I'll have to change my schedule a little bit since my oldest son will be starting school and getting up earlier, so I will probably get him up and ready for school, get him on the bus and work on homework until my littlest gets up.
The way things are going right now, I will be finishing up my last semester right after my youngest goes to school, so I won't have to worry about having a sitter for them.

It is really nice. I get to be there for everything. I worked until my oldest son was 18 months, and it was horrible. I felt like he didn't even know me. I've loved being at home with them. So if you can, you might going online. This is time that you won't be able to get back with your son.

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Michelle - posted on 06/18/2013

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I think you should do what you feel is right in your heart because sometimes God puts ideas in our heads and we only have a small window to do what he is asking us also if your good at something no matter what it is the money will come. Don't consider how big your circumstances are consider how big your God is. Just trust in God and ask him to guide you to the right decision. Right now i am deciding weather to go back to Cosmetology school or not. I have a one year old son but i know that the sooner i get my license the sooner i can start making my own hours and be home for my son when i choose too but you have to do the hard part first. If going back to school were easy everyone would be doing it. I also think you have a 2 year window that you can go back to cosmetology school before you have to start over again and well today i am going to go to the school and see what my options are of coming back to school. Also if you do decide to do cosmetology and then teaching i think that would be great because with cosmetology it is so flexible you can choose your own hours so you have time to go to school and see your son. I know that while going to school and trying to have money is hard so it would be nice to have an income while going to school. Just pray on what you should do and God will help you no worries. I don't know if you believe in God but i do know that my life is so much better now and things are so much clearer to me now that i have gone back to God. So best of luck to you and God bless!

Heather - posted on 08/28/2012

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Wow congrats on wanting to go back to school! That takes a lot of dedication. I would recommend looking into enrolling in an online college. This way you can work where and when it's convenient for you. This way you can juggle motherhood, errands, family, friends, and any other commitments you have and you can still accomplish your goal of earning your degree.

Ashley - posted on 08/28/2011

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It is hard but at the same time finishing school will help you & your sons future. If you don`t want to leave him just yet, Try taking up some online classes. As for being torn between cosmetology & getting your teaching degree, That`s something you have to decide on your own.

Shannon - posted on 07/07/2011

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Either way you go it will be beneficial for you and your son for you to go back to school. I had my daughter at the end of fall semester and took the spring off. When I return in Aug I will only be going part time because my program doesn't allow me to have online classes. I have been with her 24/7 for her first 7 months and I'm going to hate to leave her but I know I'm doing what is best for us :)
Good luck!

Yalana - posted on 07/04/2011

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I decided when my marriage was really heading down to go back to school online. All of my classes have been strictly online and I will be finished in 2 weeks! I was worried that it would take up a lot of my time, but I have the luxury of putting my kids to bed at night and then doing my schoolwork, or even getting some of it done while I am at work. It has been a long 26 months, but it has been very worth it! I have a degree already that I really can't do much with, so I went back for something completely different and one that will better help me to become financially independent of my ex and I can take better care of my kids without having to rely on my boyfriend completely. He and I are wanting to move our families in together eventually, but i want to be able to contribute more than I am able to now. There may be a school that will allow you to take most or all of your teaching classes online...check it out and good luck to you!

Cassandra - posted on 07/03/2011

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yeah it may be hard at first to leave your child biut once you graduate it going to the best thing you ever accomplished!

Cassandra - posted on 07/03/2011

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i went back when my son was 2 months and now that he is almost 2. he knows that i have to leave and he doesnt cry if i leave or my husban. he is vey smart kid. i go to school and have internships right now so it not hard. it my time to get away to relax and learn. i go to school full time in the fall but i am also pregnant with my second child so i might consider going online for winter quarter.

Cassandra - posted on 07/03/2011

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i went back when my son was 2 months and now that he is almost 2. he knows that i have to leave and he doesnt cry if i leave or my husban. he is vey smart kid. i go to school and have internships right now so it not hard. it my time to get away to relax and learn. i go to school full time in the fall but i am also pregnant with my second child so i might consider going online for winter quarter.

Beverly - posted on 07/01/2011

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First off how long do you have to go back for your cosmetology license before you have to start over and also how long to you have left to go. Going to school to get your teach degree does take a lot longer than any trade school. I am in the same exact discussion with myself except my son is going into high school and I never did go back to cosmetology school which I am now really regretting. I decided a few years ago to go back to school and get my teaching degree and made it through the first semester and started seeing what I was up against in the teaching field and where I live they do not pay there teachers well. Maybe check into that find out what teachers make in your area. Where the demand is K-8 or high school then you will need to specialize in something like science or math. Cosmetology if you are good you can work for your self in a salon and dictate your own sched and make as much as you want. You have to just weigh the pros and the cons and go with what our heart says. Do the one thing that will make you most happy because when you do then it will never feel like a job. Hope it helps :O).

Jessica - posted on 04/16/2010

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If I were you I would finish the cosmetology course, get a job, and take online classes towards the teaching degree. That way you can get a good paying job with your cosmetology license.
Whatever you do, I wish you well.

Camie - posted on 04/16/2010

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Finish what you started. It will make you feel more accomplished and then you can work in cosmetology until you decide if and when you want to get your teaching degree. As a mom, you will always be torn on what to do because your decision affects both you and your son. Just try to remember that the sacrifices you make now will make a better future for you and your son.

Kim - posted on 04/08/2010

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I'm going through an online school, that will allow me to stay at home and still get an education!

Crystal - posted on 03/26/2010

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Hi my name is crystal and i went back to school 3mnths after i had my second child i was very upset at first but then i started thinkn i want my kids 2 b proud of there mommy and they really dnt know how long i will b gone 4 i went to school for cosmo and im very glad i did it cuz in the long run it will make u happy watever decsion u make u will b the right 4 u good luck

Michelle - posted on 03/25/2010

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The idea of giving my children a better future was what made up my mind. Not only that I wanted my children to experience what the real worls was about. I'm not going to be able to hold their hand for the rest of their lives and that they would need to learn to live in this world.

Alycia - posted on 03/24/2010

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One of the best things I have ever done is going for my teaching degree through the University of Phoenix. This has allowed me to do it from home not having to put my son in day care or leave him at all. I love it. I also live an hour away from the closest university campus so now I am able to go to school and stay home all at once. If you are going to go back to school for teaching, I strongly suggest this program.

Laura - posted on 03/24/2010

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wow your little one is at a good age where he can adapt to any situation as far as daycare so I would take advantage of that. I waited too long when my kids were little so don't put too much thought into it and do it go back to school. Its something that will benefit you and your little boy in the future. Good luck and don't give up, you will be done before you know it. :)

Renee - posted on 03/24/2010

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I am a mother of two boys, 4 and 2 years old. I am in a Community college, and it is tough at times. I felt that it was best for us to go through school while they are young and when I have some help to watch my youngest (my oldest is in pre-k). It works for us. The next year and half is going to be the toughest, but I am going to show my boys that I finish what I start. The decision has to be what is best for you and your situation at this time.

Jennifer - posted on 03/24/2010

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Also remember, the younger your kids are when you start the easier time they will have as they grow with you going away for periods of time.

Jennifer - posted on 03/24/2010

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i am 28 have two kids at home, the children are only 11 months apart, run a household, help my in laws to the best of my ability, and I go to school. If I can do it you can. I chose to go back because my husband got laid off his position. I started school when my son was only a few months old. I will be finishing school when my daughter is only ... See Morea few months old. Then my husband will go back to school. I do a mix between online and in school classes. I am studying to be a Medical Assistant. I go to Sanford Brown Institute if that helps any. But remember I didn't go into all of this lightly, I thought and weighed all of my options and the different programs for education that were available to me.

Jess - posted on 03/24/2010

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Honestly, I would go for the teaching degree. You can do more with it and make it work for you easily. Cosmo school requires you to be in class but a university or community college offers online classes that you can take when your little guy is sleeping. Also, with a teaching degree you have a long road ahead of you so it's best to get started right away. Not to mention that once you are ready to start working you can get a job as a teacher's assistant or as an emergency sub while still going to school. Most schools are flexible if they know you are going to class, some offer tuition assistance, you can make good money and have summers off, and you can work at the same school your son attends. Teachers are in high demand and you have many options with this degree. I really think you would be wise to persue it and leave cosmo school as a last resort.

Amy - posted on 03/24/2010

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You have to do what is best for you. There are certainly two sides to this issue. I was in school prior to my son being born, took a semester off, then went right back to school to finish my undergraduate degree. 3 years later, I graduated. And a year after graduation, I decided to go to law school. My son is now 4 years old and he is so proud of mommy for going to school. It is a sacrifice of my time with him, and it is a lot of work, but for me, it is worth it. I know that in the end, i will be able to provide a much better life than I would have been able to had I not completed my education. While I did miss some time with my son, it made the time that I did spend with him that much more precious. I have a lot of help from my family in providing care for my child while I am in school, but in the end, the quality of life my son and I will have will be much better than had i not finished school. It is easy to put off yourself in order to raise your kids, but then you find yourself down the road, 20 years later when your kids are grown, and you find that you need to start your own life at that point. It is much harder to go back to school then. Weigh what works for you best and make a decision based on your family and your child. Only you know whats best for your child. Good luck and you can do it! :)

Danielle - posted on 03/24/2010

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It is really all up to you want to do. I started school when my daughter was three months old and started working part time when she was 2 months old. I had to do what was best for our family in the future and I thought that it would be best to have a job and go to school to get to where I can give her what she needs. But it also depends on the situation because I don't work very much and always have homework. It is definitely a hard decision

Sarai - posted on 03/22/2010

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Try school on line, that way you can get your degree and still stay with your baby boy.
I go to school online and it is a lot earier having a family and working.

Renee - posted on 03/22/2010

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I went back to Lansdale School of Business for Medical Administrative Specialist instead of Medcial Assistant . I could focuses alot with classes and how long it will take for me to finish so i swithced to a diploma for 30 credits and now i only have 6 classes left and then i will decide if i want to go for MA ,which would lead me to do 40 credits , i am going to take my time before rushing into it and stopping the classes.

Ashley - posted on 03/22/2010

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I am a mom of 2 (1yr and 3yrs). I do the online schooling. That way I can stay home & take care of the kids. And do my school work throughout the day as schedule permits. As long as the assignments are posted by midnight, it's all good. Then I can worry more about the important things, like playing and learning with baby!

Rona - posted on 03/22/2010

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I say go for it. I have 3 kids (5yrs, 5yrs, and 15 months). I'm 29 years old and JUST now gettin back in school to finish my bachelor's degree in Businiss Administration. I love my kids and wouldn't miss ANY part of their young growing up years, but I would give ANYTHING to be able to say "I'm thru with my degree", but now I'm almost 30 and STILL no degree.....

Kathryn - posted on 03/22/2010

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I have a 3 year old daughter. I am in nursing school and my husband is in school as well. It's hard to do but it's really a necessity if you want to be able to provide for your kids they way you truly want. I would also say it's almost impossible without help. My child goes to preschool twice a week and my mother in law helps out a lot. Decide on what you want to do and go for it. I would also do it now while they are still young. The longer you stay out of school the harder it is to go back!

Faith - posted on 03/22/2010

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as a cosmo school graduate, with a little boy at home, i totally understand. I have health issues and one being diabetes. I was 3 months into my schooling and i had no clue i was pregnant. I started having trouble keeping my sugar in control and was having trouble concentrating on school. I took a leave and 2 weeks later found out i was pregnant. it was the week of mothers day.i went back to school and had to take a second leave to have my son. I then went back and finished my operators course. I just found out i am pregnant with #2, and currently am attending my teachers program. i will be done in July of this year. my experience was a legnthly one, but well worth it.

Christina - posted on 03/22/2010

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You have to do what is best for you which means go back to school and get that education you can do this! It is up to you if cosmetology is best. I will just state my opinion though I think the teaching would be better in my opinion. It will get you further and I think there is more money involved plus there are so many cosmetologists out there and schools like that and its very competitive finding a job. Not that I doubt your capabilities I just think with the benefits of a job like teaching and with schools needing more teachers that that would be the best route. I am currently in school getting my associates degree once i finish i hope to go into the physical therapy program. Its hard work going to school with children at home but its well worth it to get the career you want and be able to provide for your family especially in this economy. My husband is working right now while i go to school. Once I am done he is heading back and I will be working while he is in school :). I started school when my daughter was 16 months and I don't regret going back.

Katrina - posted on 03/22/2010

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when I had my first son I was in the 2nd semester of my first year of collage luckly he was born in july so I was able to get a whole year done. I finelly when back when he was 5 mo old and it was hard, but it was something that I wanted to do, but then about two weeks later I found out I was pragent again so I deside to put a hold on collage untill he was born. but after that I was even harder to go back with two baby boys, so what I found that help me with being able to be tere for them and do school together was online schooling and so far it has worded out GREAT. so maybe if you can find a school online that will transfer you credits then that might be a thing to try. GOOD LUCK

Meagan - posted on 03/22/2010

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Do what makes you happy. But also consider what you do now affects his future. If you go back to school now, you will have most of it out of the way when he starts. You will have an education and benefits that you dont get from staying home. Im not saying anything negative about stay at home moms. I go to school T and TH 9:30-1:45, other than that Im at home. But I know the time spent away from my daughter is healthy for both her and I, also she is benefiting from it. I see it like this, she is going to have a mommy that she can be proud of and know that I gave her my all... But if youre happier at home, stay home ;) plus homework is easier when there smaller! :) Pray about it!

Julie - posted on 03/22/2010

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i just decided to go back to school to get ahead in life. I have a teenager, a kindergartender, and a 3yr.old. I decided instead of leaving my children, i am going online to continue my education. getting my degree wasn't an easy decision, but it's what is right for us. I want to have the income and career that go with degrees, insted of minimum wage jobs for the rest of my life. I want my children to look up to me and see that education is important. And..... i want to make a difference in this world, and a degree is the way to do that. you can't get anywhere nowadays without one.

Dawn - posted on 03/22/2010

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I was going through the same thing about a year ago. I weighed all my options, and I decided to go to school online. (It's more expensive, but for me.. it works.) By the time I graduate, my girls will be a little older, and it will be a little easier to go back to work. I graduate August of this year!

Angela - posted on 03/22/2010

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Staying at home with our children/child is a given want/instinct, however, the world awaits..with so much opportunity to create a future for yourself,which basically sets the grounds that your child will walk on..You will be the one creating the opportunity of future options for both you and your child!!!!! I commend you for choosing to stay home and if you are absolutely certain that you are not ready, depending on his age, than definitely take a little more time to make that decision. I am 30 and I started college when my first daughter was 4 and I just had another baby girl 5 months ago, which set me back a bit and it has been extremely difficult, however it has to be done!!! Best wishes to you:)

Jacqui - posted on 03/22/2010

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I have my teaching degree and quit right before I had my son. With the economy, teaching jobs are actually getting really hard to find. So I decided to go back to school, but to do medical transcription. The schooling is all online and your job is too! That way my fiancée is happy that we have 2 incomes, but I get to stay at home!!! I researched everywhere and talked to friends that I know that do the same things and I am enrolled at Meditec.com. The schooling is at your own pace which is really handy with a little one! I hope this helps, and good luck!

Kelli - posted on 03/22/2010

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I'm starting back to school for a business degree. I don't want to leave my little guy yet either, but everytime I start to feel discouraged about it, I tell myself its what's best for him in the long run... I don't want to be living paycheck to paycheck forever, and I want to make a good life for my son, and his siblings should he ever have any, so I need to go get a degree to help me do that! Now while he's young seems to be the best time, when I don't have to worry about sending him to school (paying for books, clothes, supplies, etc.) or other things. Seems to me the older they get the harder it would be to go back.

Jessica - posted on 03/22/2010

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I had that same problem. So, I decided to start taking online classes. I am taking them through the University of Phoenix. It is not so bad!! Good luck in whatever you decide to do! I know it is a tough decision to make! I like it because it still gives me the freedom to do what I want. I can still take my kids to the doctor, run errands, do house work and still be home for the kids!!

Teji - posted on 03/22/2010

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Have you considered just going back to school part time? Right now I have a 10 month old girl and I am going to school twice a week. It will take me a little bit longer to finish, but that way I still get to spend most of the week with my daughter. I try to get a lot of reading and homework done during her naps, it is a balance, but I do find that it is nice to have some time away from the house with a purpose. As for the loans, most schools will allow you a certain amount of loans based on your income (you should also look into filling out the FAFSA, if you want federal loans) so if you start at a new school you could probably use the new loans allowed to help you pay off your old loans if they will not let you transfer them.

Jenny - posted on 03/22/2010

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I just enrolled and don't start for another week so I'm not sure how it will be for me and my boys yet. I remember my mom going back to school when I was younger, she studied early childhood education. She was a single mom who worked full time and went to school full time so it was really hard to only see her for a few hours a day. But the skills and tools she learned were invaluable, she was learning to care for children my age, she became more patient and had other resources to help her raise us. It was hard not to have her, but after she went to school the small amount of time we had together was so much better. Also after she graduated she got a better paying job and was able to move us into a better place and she was so happy it made it all worth it.

Vernice - posted on 03/22/2010

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I want to go back to school too, so afraid because I have being out of school since my first child. I would love to go to cooking school, love to cook just want to be better.

Abby - posted on 03/22/2010

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If you are married, then you should wait and enjoy your son's babyhood. There's really only about a 10yr window of true childhood and then they start to change into manhood.
I have many sweet memories of my first son that no dream home or braggy job can ever messure up with. I had a choice to sart on my GI bill- but I waited until kindergarten. There are so many legit online programs also- And there are parttime school choices also! If you have a good relative willing to help watch baby, fine. But I kept running into deadbeat childcare- I'll spare u the horror. but I'm now a happy mom of 8 and have now regrets.

Jesica - posted on 03/22/2010

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I started school right before I found out that I was pregnat with my now 2yr 8mo old son. I had to stay home with him and go to school online because we are a military fam and we had no family where we were stationed. It has been and is still the hardest thing I have ever done, but its worth it. Just think of how better off they and you will be when your done!

Ivory - posted on 03/22/2010

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I waited till my daughter was 3 before i started school. I wanted to wait until she was old enough to go to a school based daycare and now i take her to school with me and i bring her back home at the same time i'm done. My college has a GREAT program for kids 3-5. If you want to go back really do your research on the best places to put your child while your in school. It's hard though because that not only cuts the hours that your in class out of your day but also the time for studing and homework have to be counted as well. Along with the normal mommy duty.

Laure - posted on 03/22/2010

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My decision was very simple...I asked myself if I could accept the fact that I could possibly miss out on my childrens' 'firsts' and the sweet time of being with them while they are young. School will always be there...but my childrens' youth will not. I have chosen to return to school for a second degree when my children go to school. Good luck

Lynnsae - posted on 03/22/2010

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and your baby is still smal enough to adjust to anything as long as you allow it

Renee - posted on 03/22/2010

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i did the better of the two i am going to college at home im doing the university of phoenix so i can stay at home with my 1 yr old boy and still get a college education. these are the years you dont want to miss. i know i didnt want to miss it.

Laura - posted on 03/22/2010

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I have two kids. My oldest is 6 and my youngest is 2. My son started Kindergarten this year. I've been a stay at home mom since my son was born. When he went to school I started thinking about going to school, but I wasn't sure if I should leave my daughter because I stayed home until my son went to school. But after I thought about it for a little bit. I realized that soon enough my daughter will be in school. And I want them to have a home to come home to not an apartment. I know a lot people say that wherever the parents are the child has a home, but I want them to have a house. I'm also a little bored now since my son is in school. There's less noise, and less everything. I'm not used to it. I also like a little bit of a challenge. My husband makes good money, but I want to feel like I've accomplished more than well behaved children, and a clean house. Just take a step back and take deep breath. Do what you feel is right. Talk with close friends, and family. I'm not sure if you're married, but if you are talk with him and get his input. To a point dads are little bit more understanding because they have to leave home to go to work everyday and leave us. Sometimes that can be hard for them some days.

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