making time for your significant other?

Brittany - posted on 07/06/2009

With our work schedules plus my school it's crazy and we dont have an exact day to make time for each other. We work op, shifts, he works in the mornings while I take care of everything at home and our daughter, then I either go to class or school when he gets home at night, then he watches our daughter.



When we are lucky enough to have a day off together, we all go to the mall, lake or park, then if it's night time we find a friend or family member who is willing to watch our daughter, and we go out....either to dinner or dowtown.



If it's a last minute thing (like I get off work early) then we just relax with our daughter, the when she goes to bed around (9:30-10) we have our time...bubble bath, or a quite movie time.



It's hard, but when we do get "us" time, then we make the most of it. Even if it's just us watching tv.



Everytime you even get a few minutes, then just make the most of it. Talk, have an at home dinner with the kids. Even with the kids around you can still have your time.



Just be creative, and every minute you're together, make the most of it! :)

Alycia - posted on 06/12/2009

It is not easy but nothing worth it in life is ever easy lol! Both my fiance and I are in school full time and work part time and one of us is always with our son. Right now with school out he's gone for two months on a military course and I'm home by myself with our son. It's important to MAKE time for the two of you. My man and I enjoy movies so most times on a Saturday night you can find us cuddling on the couch watching a movie together. Also when we're both home, if we haven't seen eachother all day and life's been hectic then if we both go to bed at the same time we have a little chit chat about the day or the week even sometimes and it's our quiet time to talk. We don't really go on dates much, but we try once a month to find someone to care for our son and we go to dinner and a movie or something. You'll find what works for you guys when you get back to school and start a new schedule...Good Luck :)

Cheryl - posted on 06/10/2009

I'm a full-time student with 2 part-time jobs and my fiancee works the graveyard shift plus a part time job during the day and our son is not in daycare and rarely with a babysitter. Our schedules are literally opposite of each other so that we can make sure our son is always with mommy or daddy instead of in daycare but it is HARD. The important thing is to communicate, even if it's only in the car dropping one or the other off, sometimes you just need to say "wow this is really hard" and hear him say it back. We also make a big point to spend holidays, birthdays, etc. together and turn it into an all-day event. A lot can be expressed in an hour or two as long as it is quality time that is uninterrupted. One of our favorites we call "family bed" and we all just jump in the bed and play and wrestle and our son (almost one) climbs all over us and gets to sit or lay in between us, we are always smiling during family bed. I wish you the best of luck!

Rebekah - posted on 05/30/2009

We chose to take one evening per week to set aside for 'us' -- no matter how busy we get! Our night happens to be Friday night...it just works best for both of our schedules. He works full time, I work full time, I have 2 other part time jobs, school and baby :o) Most Friday nights we get a sitter and at least go out to supper. Sometimes its McDonalds for 30min and other times it is something better. Sometimes we can't get a sitter so we wait till the little one is asleep and then we get take out.

We also do at least one family thing each weekend with the 3 of us...whether it is a park or zoo or just making a nice meal together.

By doing both of these each week we manage to stay connected - even when things get crazy!