Managing school, work, social life, and a 2 year old...

Lauren - posted on 05/21/2009 ( 15 moms have responded )

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I'm so scared to go back to school full time, I haven't done that since I was pregnant. I'm only 21 and it just seems like a lot to juggle. (child, boyfriend, work, college). I've applied for a working families grant which would pay for everything need-be, but if i don't get it, then what? It's not even quite summer and already i'm freaking out. Please reassure me, I'm doubting everything!

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Brittany - posted on 07/06/2009

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I am 23, I went to school before, during, and graduated with my associate degree a couple of months after I had my daughter (18 mths old).



I am having to go back to school and do dual enrollment in 2 colleges for my bach. degree, and the FASFA Grant I recieved states I have to take 12 hours per semester at my JR/SR college in order for me to keep it. PLUS I have to go to my community college for a couple more Soph. lvl classes. (which are not covered by grants) >



I will be doing the same thing as you, work around 30 hours a week, take around 4 classes a semester, and take care of baby girl. Luckily my fiancee and family are very supportative and encourage me A LOT.



Keep your head up! You will be fine, and dont forget ....you have all of us here to help you out :-D



As long as we all support and encourage each other, than we will make it! :)

It will only be for a few years, but just keep in mind, we will have a better future for our kids :-D

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Jennifer - posted on 07/22/2009

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I'm about to be doing the same thing! I'm going back to work like 30 hours a week and going to school full time. I'm in the pre nursing program and I have to take anatomy and my college math this semester so i can get in the nursing program and im not very good in those subjects lol so im very nervous because that means even more studying. I have no idea how im going to juggle it all and I really dont want to be away from my son that much especially when he is only 4months :(. But good luck hun! We will make it! :)

Sam - posted on 07/18/2009

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Im aloso 21 with a 2yr old. its very daunting to leave your child. i suppose i had it easy really as i was able to leave him with my mum so i had no concerns over child care while i was at university. You should get the grant to be honest. if not, there are other ways you could be helped financially so dont panic, just contact your local education authority, college/school, or look at student finance direct.gov website for advice. education and motherhood are both alot of hard work, but are also both very rewarding. if you're happy, your child will be. you have to be proud of what you can do and have done, and it could make you feel like a better person for even just trying. limitations of a social life is just a sacrifice that has to be made, it doesnt rule out the odd night out though!, you are entitled to a bit of fun too.

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Julia - posted on 07/14/2009

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i wish I could reassure you but if you want me to tell you it is going to be easy-I just can't lie to you like that. It is not going to be easy but you can do it if you really want to. For me, I had to let something go, and that happened to be the social life. That's not to say that I do't go out and have fun sometimes but that had to be put on the back burner because there is only 24 hours in the day and i need at least 4 hours of sleep. if i have "spare time", I need to spend that with my child because of all of the days I could only spend a couple of hours with him. As far as the tution books payment, I don't know what school u are going to but almost all have FA programs that will give you a mixture of different types if aid so if u don't get that one grant, you should still receive others and maybe even a loan

Karla - posted on 06/17/2009

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Fill out the FAFSA (i believe the deadline is July 1st) to help you with Pell Grants and student loans, so that relieves some stress on the financial side. As for juggling it all I had to sit down and write a schedule, try your best to map out what you want your day to look like and don't take too many classes! I did that and it was overkill. 12 cr. hrs per semester is great (about 3-4 classes depending on what you are taking) and while I was doing homework I would have my little one near me and make contact with her plus taking breaks helped with major bonding and stress relief. Also your boyfriend can lend a helping hand by doing small chores (dishes, laundry etc) it may seem overwhleming right now but soon you'll see how us moms can really handle almost everything LOL :)

Jennifer - posted on 06/16/2009

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I can totally understand, I was pregnant and had my daughter while I was 21. I took the first year off and just went back last summer. It is really overwhelming at first and it definitely gives you a new respect for all the moms that have made it through! The best advice I can think of to give you is that while it is hard at first, it will get easier, because you'll get better at managing your time and fitting everything in. Just take it one semester at time, and while doing that, take it one day at a time. You'll be done before you know it! I feel like I just started back and already it has been a full year. Being that busy makes time fly! Another thing that helped me was to realize I really had to set some time away to just be at the library or somewhere else besides home to study and get homework done, so that way I can make the most of my time without distractions and really enjoy my daughter when I'm home, instead of trying to do homework with her running around. Good luck with everything!

Meagan - posted on 06/16/2009

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I am living your life!! I have a soon to be three year old, a fiance, play dates, 30 hr a week job (that doesnt unerstand my life) and I take 5 course a semster! It is going to be fine, your boyfriend will help you cope, your family will lov you when you are crabby at test time!!! Remember it is only temporary, and it wont be like this forever! Good Luck! Always put you child first!

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Lauren,



I am 22 and just graduated, but for the last two years of college, it was work during the day, school at night (thanks to a good support system) and baby as much as possible. I had my school paid for by being a single mother (through FAFSA). It is absolutely worth it. Your child will be the best ambition you can have for finishing school. I love knowing I am providing a better life and have the time to spend with my daughter now that I am done.

Samantha - posted on 06/15/2009

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I have been going to school full time since I was pregnant with my daughter who is 16 months. I apply for grants by filling out a FAFSA and for the last year it has paid for all of my school. So I know how stressful it can be but it is worth it to me so good luck!

Joanna - posted on 06/09/2009

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I am a mom of 3 kids, I go to school full time, work part-time at the community college, and run my own photography business. I still, also, make sure that I attend all of my kids' ball games and extra curriculur activities. Oh, and I also have a husband that I have to keep happy..LOL At first it was hard adjusting to everything, but you have to manage your time. Keeping schedules is important - such as when you're going to do homework, when you're going to work, when you're going to take time on your own. As far as paying for school, as a single mom you should be eligable for Pell Grants and SEOG grants. You will probably also qualify for student loans - but be careful with how much you borrow, cause remember you're going to have to pay all that back. Good luck, hon!!

Kyra - posted on 06/07/2009

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I am a single mother of a 2 year old girl. I have been going to school since I was pregnant with her. Take advantage of the grants if you can get them, but don't be afraid to use loans either. It's an investment in yours and your child's future. Be glad that you have your boyfriend there for support/help. It's a lot of work, and sometimes you will want to give up, but it will pay off in the end.

Emma-Lee - posted on 06/04/2009

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i am a single mum of an almost 3yr old boy... i study part time ( 2 topics per semester) and work part time too...... it isnt easy but it is possible. before i started my first semester (this is my first year) i was very unsure how i would cope fitting it all in.... but you find a way. if this is what you want to do... then DO IT :) because the happier you are the happier your child will be

LaToya - posted on 06/03/2009

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HI.

I know how you feel. I have a 10 mo. old. I just started working part-time and am studying Grad school part time (2 classes per sem.), and I'm a Naval wife, so hubby isn't always around. It's difficult. There will be tears and sometimes screams. But faith, and memories of all those tough moms who made it before me help me to keep pushing through. It will be worth it. Plus, the education process really does give self-worth a boost. You can do it.

Qui - posted on 06/03/2009

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Its possible, hang in there and eep pressing on! It sounds like alot of work, but I knowplenty of people who managed to make it happen and still enjoy life. I didnt have my son til the end of grad school, if you have a good network of people around you, you can make it happen with the help! Good luck.

Claire - posted on 05/24/2009

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I have a 4 year old and a 20 month old and work part-time and go to school part-time ( 1-2 classes per semester!) I feel that my family comes first, then the necessary amount of work, and finally whatever time is left goes to school! I am 26 and have been going at it on and off since I was 19. I am halfway through my bachelor of history! Lol! It sometimes seems hopeless but as long as yopu keep at it, you'll eventually get there. Just don't forget how fast kids grow up!

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