Single Student moms??

Amy - posted on 10/29/2008 ( 14 moms have responded )

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HI - I'm wondering if there are any single student moms out there with any words of encouragement?! I've decided to go back for my doctorites but have been interviewing at jobs to return to work b/c I am not seeing how 4 more years of this is possible!

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Bekki - posted on 01/10/2009

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hi there, im on year 2 of my degree at uni, im a single mom of 2 boys, one has autism and adhd. i can totally identify with you when you wondered if you were being selfish by going back into education, i felt exactly the same. but my boys respect me more and are so proud of me, they tell everyone that im at uni! lol! plus it has given them more ambition and they want more for their lives which is so important, especially to my son who has autism. plus they have seen that you have to work hard to get what you want, and their deadbeat dad certainly didnt teach them that! its hard work though and you will have times when you feel like giving up but it will be worth it. after next year i'm going on to do a doctorate (i hope!) so the past 2 years hasnt put me off. good luck with what you decide!

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Myra - posted on 01/31/2009

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What would you want your son to do? Alot of really successful people had high archiving single mums who showed them all is possible :)

Venetia - posted on 01/13/2009

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You aren't alone. I just got down with two years of college before deciding to change my majors. Now I am heading for my Bachelors and after that possibly getting my masters. It is a tough job, juggling a child, work and school. Sometimes I feel like I am not going to be able to get through. But some how I muddle through. But isn't that why we are on here is for support. Just hang in there and keep your eye on the prize. You aren't doing this for yourself you are doing it for you little one. Good Luck!

Trish - posted on 01/10/2009

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I have a very supportive partner now, which makes thigns easier, however starting out it was rough.
I worked full-time , studied part-time and parented two girls 3&5 on my own. I ended up increasing my course load so I'd qualify for financial assistance as a full-time student and taking a year to not work and focus on school It was still extremely challenging. I actually have taken a year off of school to return to work full-time. This summer I return to my studies part-time, while still working. I'm hoping it will go more smoothly with my partner here to help now, however, he's not their dad, and they still want me most of the time. Plus it doesn't stop me from feeling that guilt of pushing them off to do other things so i can make time to study...

User - posted on 12/18/2008

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I am a single working mother of a three year old. I also this year decided to go back to school to get my bachelor's. I understand I do not know if I can take all the years if sleep depreviation. I believe I am doing what I believe will be best for us in the long run. What is a few years without sleep?

Stacey - posted on 11/16/2008

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you have to do things for yourself to help for you child. do not feel selfish because by furthering your education you are helping to benefit your family. My son is 4 and has severe ADHD.. his dad hasn't even seen him in almost a year. I'm also a full-time student & a part-time employee. I feel like there is not enough hours in the day to accomplish what I need to do, but I also know that if I don't finish school, we'll always be stuck. I will be graduating in 4 weeks with my Bachelor's degree & my son is doing great. Sometimes I wonder if he's missing something because I don't have as much time for him as I would if I didn't always have schoolwork, but I know he's okay & when he gets older, he'll understand. I just follow my heart & trust that I'm doing the right thing for him. If you feel that you've already got a good job & gaining your doctrite is not going do anything for you, then you should just assess the situation.. if it's truely not going to benefit you, why waste the time or money? but if it is going to benefit you just weigh it out & see which option outweighs which! I am doing all this with the prospect of returing to school next fall for my masters. Just trust yourself!

Amy - posted on 11/14/2008

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I am a single mom of a 15 month old with special needs and am a full time student finishing my nursing degree. I also work about 3/4 time right now(on breaks from school i work full time). There are days when I get up and think I can't do it anymore but then when I go pull him out of his crib I think wow...what a gift! It is the hardest thing you will do but I just have to keep thinking of the future I will be able to give him when I finish! I will be done in January and able to take my nursing boards in march! I just have to tell myself it is so worth it!

Kristin - posted on 11/14/2008

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Go for it! You are such a great role model for your child when you are going to school. It will be a bit stressful at times but it is all worth it in the end.

Katie - posted on 11/13/2008

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I'm doing it too and it seems impossible but i'm trying my hardest. We don't make all that much money to begin with and with me trying to go to school full time and work full time and be a mommy full times its rough. But having family for support is what helps me alot!!

Amy - posted on 11/13/2008

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Awww, thanks everybody! VERY glad to hear that I'm not alone!! What's hard is that I already have a good job, so I keep wondering if I"m being selfish for taking time away from my son, when I'm the only one he has, to pursue something that really isn't needed. Hmm, decisions! Thanks for all your input!

Kari - posted on 11/12/2008

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Keep at it. I have a two year old son and have maintained a 4.0 for the past 4 years going to pharmacy school..I'm also 19 years old.

User - posted on 11/10/2008

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I have two kids on my own and have begun a two-year diploma program in a college. (not quite a doctorate to be sure!) but i was really worried at first, especially because i have to move away from all family and friends to get close to the school i needed to go to! turns out that its easier than i thought it would be.
i have always been good at academics...and 14 years after gradding from high-school i still seem to be able to get those A's...even with two young girls and no family support!
i say if:
- your kids are at an age that they can handle you doing homework and going on full-time schooling...
- you are capable of getting good grades usually
- you have the motivation to get the paper (degree, etc) that you are thinking about

if you have these things then i can't see you failing! some days might be hard, but its not actually toooo bad at all!

good luck!

Amanda - posted on 11/04/2008

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Right now I am a single mother of one three year old and one on the way in December. I work part-time at the university and go to school full time. I have about two years of school left. My best advice is keep your head up and take it a day at a time. I have good and bad days but in the end I have to remember who I am doing this for, not only for myself but for my children!! Stay strong and don't let anyone tell you that you can't. A very wise person told me (my mom...lol) "The only person that can keep you back is yourself." Good luck and I hope everything works out for you.

Michelle - posted on 11/04/2008

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hiya! im single working mum at uni. its hard at times it feels like ur bashing ur head aganist wall n not geting anywher. i had my daughter when i was 16 n i swore she would never miss out on anything cause of that so that means GET OF MINIMUM WAGE, so i always think of how good it goin feel when i have good job, im doin wat i want n im proud of, i can travel n know i can get job easy (im doin nursing) 2 support us.



encouragement... think of wat u want for u n ur childs future n how good its goin feel n be when u achieve it, if u do fail DO NOT GIVE UP ( i have dyslexia my 1st year was hell) cause it doest matter how many times u fall down all that matters is u get back up! listen 2 alica keys 'superwoman' that song is wat i listen 2 jst about every day! also here r 3 of my favourite qoutes i have them up by my desk they help me:)



He who is not courageous enough to take risks will accomplish nothing in life" Ali



"Its not whether you get knocked down.Its whether you get back up again" Vince Lombardi



You gain strength,experince and confidence by every experince where you really stop and look fear in the face. You must do the thing you cannot do" Eleanor Roosevelt



hope that helps:)

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