Hubby not diggin it so much.

Erin - posted on 08/09/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Hi there. I need some advice amongst other relationship issues we've been having I'm finding that my husband isn't totally with the idea of being a sustaining family. He thought that all sustainable living was, was growing some of your own food and buying some more healthy item for the household. He's learning as we go that it's not quite like that. I'm trying to make things easier on the family as far as transisiton goes. If I had it my way I'd be living in a yurt by the lake. We live on an acreage in SW Saskatchewan with two children and I'm slowy lessening our footprint. I kind of got a glimpse this weekend into what it could be like. We took my neice out camping with us and we were all having a blast except him. He was cranky since he didn't get a "good" sleep and would just sit in his camp chair or lay in the tent while the kids were crying or whinning and my neice and I were either cooking or cleaning. He said he was bored buy the only time he took effort in making himself busy was when we set up camp, he read, or when we took down camp. I don't think I could ever take him camping with us again. He's going to miss out on a lot of fun family experiences. After this weekend his future looks pretty uninvolved in the sustainable front. This is the man I've been with for 6 years, raised two amazing children that were premature and been through so much. I don't want this (and his parents) to be the end of us. Help!

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NAOMI - posted on 10/17/2011

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With my husband I've just had to accept that I'm the one driving any family sustainability project/changes - he makes other contributions to the family and we love each other so I've just learnt to accept that. He would be way too stressed if I pushed him too far out of his comfort zone. If your husbands not into the camping then let it be - a lot of people aren't (wierd I know). If you really love him then be gentle and introduce ideas and changes very slowly and don't mind if he doesn't want to go camping - he might change his mind one day - but in the interim at least he wont be bellyaching.

Alison - posted on 10/22/2010

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men are funny things , my partner of 6yrs is the same he has one day off and wants that day his way only, i was the same when i worked, i find if i let him own the idea or make it a better idea and praise him he is more gracious and involved, everybody hates there inlaws 98% of the time ur not alone, just keep communicating with him goodluck, treasure everyday with him xo

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