HOW DO U GUYS COPE BEING A TEEN MUM

Sasha - posted on 11/17/2008 ( 48 moms have responded )

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I AM A 19 YR OLD WITH A 10 MONTHS HOW DO U GUYS FIND BEING A MUM IN YOUR TEEN YEARS

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I'm 17 with my 6 month baby and we're coping just fine. I'm a full time student at a private University, 4.0 gpa for first semester, work 2 jobs, and come home to my beautiful little girl. Granted, I have help from my bf. But it's sooo possible and it makes me really mad when people say that it can't be done.

Brittany - posted on 02/13/2010

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Im 18 & i have a 16 month old boy. He sure is a handful, and hes a terror. but he is very smart, and i enjoy watching him learn more each and every day. I find being a mother is great. and i think me being so young makes it even better. I have tons of energy to keep up with my son everyday. That some older moms like in their 40's wouldnt have. My parents are only in their 30's and have trouble keeping up with my brothers. So im thankful for being able to have so much energy to keep up with my little man. At first i was scared, i didnt know what was gonna happen. or how i wasnt gonna be able to do it. but my boyfriend (who is now my fiance) stood by me every step of the way. I had my son olmost 4 hours away from home, no friends or family to help me out. Ive been raising my son by myself with barely any help, except my fiance since he was a newborn. Some teen moms are out partying all night. every weekend and stuff. but im a stay at home mom. Im already ready for another, i want a baby girl so bad. but im forcing myself to wait a couple years. I think itll be alot easier for me to raise another baby when my sons potty trained, rather than when hes not.

Goodluck to all you teen moms :)
being young doesnt make you a bad mom.
i hate labels just as much as everyone.
be strong, and be thankful for what you have.

Kaitlyn - posted on 04/02/2009

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I got pregnant about a week after my 15th birthday (too much celebrating I think) and now I am 17 and my son is almost two. Having a child young seems to be harder to alot of people, but in all honesty a young mother can be an amazing parent just the same as an older woman having a child. Everyone has the potiential to be a good parent. Its not always easy but it is so worth it. Take things day by day and you'll see how quickly time flys. Parenthood doesnt have to be something that ends life as you know it, but can improve it. I know that I had dropped out of school 2 times, and then I got pregnant and had my son and I knew that I wanted to better myself for him. It hard to juggle a social life as a normal teen and be a parent but it can be done, and its very rewarding

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Jessica - posted on 08/09/2011

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I was 15 when i had my little boy, im coping well, the only thing i would say that holds me back is familys negative interfearance.. apart from that, i am actually quite proud of myself, ive proved many people wrong on thier judgements of teen mums.

Brittany - posted on 12/12/2009

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I am 17 and I had my son almost 4 months ago. The hardest part for me was telling my parents (which I didn't until about 3 weeks or so before he was born). It does get frustrating in the middle of the night being alone and having to get up and pump while half asleep and stuff but it's a lot of fun. Plus, I have the cutest little boy in the world to parade around and get complimented on. :-)

Amanda - posted on 12/11/2009

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I'm 15 and I just had my son 2 1/2 months ago. I found it hard at first but with all of my support it makes it a whole lot easier. He is also a little angel so I am happy that I was blessed with him. High School is really hard with him but all of my friends are there for me so that helps alot.

Jamie - posted on 12/02/2009

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Its not easy, but you know what, being a mother period isnt' easy. I have a 14, 6 and 4 1/2 year old. You just have to take one day at a time, and keep your head up that you could have taken other options, but instead you were strong enough to have that baby and raise it. You did it/you are doing it....be proud of that....be the best mom you can be and take care of your baby and don't forget yourself. Take a break, if you can. I am a better mom, when I get some "me" time. Whether it be an overnight visit w/ gram or just a 30 min bath, hell anymore I would be happy w/ 5 min to pee by myself!

Good job Sasha!

Jamie

Kelsey - posted on 11/30/2009

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im 17 with a 6 months old daughter. being a young teen mom can be very difficult but it more hard if your on your own. im lucky to have stayed with my boyfriend who is also the father of our little girl. i also have help from my mother as well as him because i still live at home and he lives with me. it does get alot easier as time goes by but there are still days where youll find yourself kicking your own ass to keep in gear and make it through the day. best of luck with the future and treasure every moment with your little one

Tiana - posted on 11/28/2009

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With the right partner and family it is a lot easier. But I think it all has to do with some luck and adapting, Though I'll admit some days are quite stressful. But I love it :)

Deanna - posted on 11/09/2009

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im 19 and i have a daughter who turned 1 in Sep. At first i was disappointed with myself when i found out i was going to have a baby. i was a senior i had tryouts to play volleyball in collage. But now i wouldnt change anything. Is it hard? yes. but i think it is worth it. im now engaged to her father, taking collage classes, and the happest i have ever been. i hope everything goes well with u

Rhonda - posted on 07/08/2009

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i am a 16 yr wit 4 kid. had babe 1 at 10. dis is hard. i cwit scool and is still hard. i cant imagyne go to scool wit all da kis but in my house mum tell me dat we need to be fuitful and multiplay. mum is 29 and she livin on da state monies but dis is hard life and i want da best 4 mi kids but sum times i wana cry cause i wana be a kid and 1st just thoght dat a babe i could love em and some 1 love me but da dad left and i had a nother to try 2 keep my guy but he left and i had another cause my babe need friends but i think i made da bad choice and i feel is so lost now.

Lisamarie - posted on 06/21/2009

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I was 17 with my first. He was due 2 days b4 my 18th birthday, but came a month early. He was sick. So it made it a little harder on me. I was blessed enough to have a great father at my side to help and didn't leave me and the behind. We are still together now, going on 9 years. I think the hardest thing for was getting him to sleep through the night. That, and when I turned 18 I wasn't able to get out like I wanted to. You are forced to grow up, and mature faster than other teens. I find that a good family to support you helps tons. Never feel like your life is ruined. Your career goals can remain the same, they just might take longer to achieve it. Ask for as much help as you can or need. It gets easier, and try not to have any more until you are more ready to deal with it. I had just the one for almost 4 years, and it was sooo.... much easier with just the one. I now have 3.. lol.. but I am much more wiser than before... and the experience has made me who I am today. You can take this situation and create a great life, or worry too much and have it fall to peices. Just be strong. We women can do anything we put our hearts to!!

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im 18 with a one year old daughter and a one month old son. I just moved out of my moms house and I know it was hard before but it is really hard when your on your own and your a part-time student and working full time. its really hard till you have the next baby then you have to jump from feeding one child to chasing the other down the hall way to watch her. just take it one step at a time and if it starts getting really hard just take a deep breath and count to 10 in your head.

Katie - posted on 05/18/2009

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I'm 19 and have a 7 week old baby . Of course it's hard, but it's hard for everyone. I love being a teen mom I don't feel its ruined my life like alot of people do. my son is the best thing thats ever happend 2 me :)

Brooke - posted on 04/27/2009

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Being a mum is something i have always wanted so i have always looked at it as rewarding... the only hard part has been seeing my baby girl get sick with a chest infection other than that motherhood isn't hard it can be very easy it depends on what you make it.. i have never been one to want to go out and party or anything like.. my main priority is family.

Maddison - posted on 04/25/2009

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hi i have a baby girl she is 1 month old and it is a bit hard sometimes when she dont want anything but she is crying none stop its very stressful but its worth it but i do have close family on both sides so i get help its very hard to sleep too lol good luck everyone xxxxxx

Anna - posted on 04/11/2009

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im 19 and have 2 girls. .. one will be 3 soon and the other will be 1 soon. . . . there are easy and hard times. . . but there all worth it. x

Hailey - posted on 03/20/2009

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oh yea...my son is now 15 months old and i am going to be 18...he can out talk a lot of 2 year olds and is brilliant...he can open childproof lids...he can open doors and climb stairs...he can put lids on and off things...he can use sentences...im a proud momma

Hailey - posted on 03/20/2009

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I got pregnant at 15, my boyfriend stayed by my side. Then he got into some legall trouble because he watched his friends fuck around and a girl that wanted to date him found out i was pregnant so she said he malessted her...my pregnancy was easy being pregnant wise, but without him it was hard. When my son was born in December he got to come back around and everything was and is going good. my son was born the 22nd weighing 7 pounds 5 ounces. i had him in 2 hours and 36 mins...my mom helped me a lot while i recoverd since i lost so much blood and was on bed rest for two days after.. my son had acid reflux so he was VERY fussy...my mom helped a lot which was good and bad... I am moving out in may to go to college with my son and boyfriend and she wants me to leave him at home since she did so much...she also worries about Ayden since he has asthma and allergies...my son goes where i go...but i work 3 jobs so its hard...



though all that may be, i wouldn't trade it for anything...its a hell of a job but i love it...i don't miss what teens usually do at all...but then again i was always out of the loop...My friends invite me to games and things, and i go sometimes, but the caddy shit that is being a teen is so stupid...im amazed how much you have to grow up and everything...



I wouldn't go tell teens to get pregnant...but if you are a teen mom i would say yea its hard, but it is totally worth it in the end...

Alanah - posted on 03/13/2009

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I just turned 17 when i had my girl.im 19 now and she will be 2 in a month.I think she changed my life for the better.Whos knows where i would be today,but i think having her made my life better.The father is a bum and dose nothing for her.He still sees her tho(gives me nothing).I think having kids young is a good thing.People say live your life while your young but i say have kids young(a teen) and when your old you dont have any more kids in the house.My daugther Kyla means the world to me and i wouldnt change it for a thing!

Shelby - posted on 03/11/2009

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i find it difficult at times but you just have to remember that you made this child and you have to do everything in your pwoer to keep them happy and healthy and yea its hard but it is also so worth it to

JaimeyLynn - posted on 03/11/2009

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Hey Megan, I am 18 with a 5 1/2 month old son and I absolutly disagree with the society's prospective of being a young mom. I think you just need to go about it the right way, set your priority's and goals and you can still do everything you dream of doing. With Hayden, my fiance works 4 days a week and I work 3. We still go out with friends and still get some time to ourselves if my Mom wants to take him for a couple of hours. The key is having lots of support and staying positive...the good time's will always outweigh the tough ones...and if you ever need anyone to talk to you can add me! Jaymee-Lynn Welsh :) Hope the labour goes well! When are you due?

JaimeyLynn - posted on 03/11/2009

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I am 18 and have a 5 1/2 month old son...to be honest...it's much easier than I thought, he lights up my life and is a very good baby, I wouldn't have it any other way...I want another one already! It gets easier as the days go by so I dont feel stressed...just blessed. :)

Alona - posted on 03/02/2009

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I am a 19 year old mommy with a 11 month old son, yea i can say it is frustrating at times, and hard and you dont know what to do, but its all worth it, children are a blessing :)

Megan - posted on 02/26/2009

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thanks for replying =] and its good to hear how successfull you are even wiht  4 kids and starting at sucha  young age i gve you mad props becuase imsure that couldnt of been easy.  waht do you think would be  the toughest part of raising a baby? do things letup and get easyer? cuz i know its like a around the clock type deal at first.

Amber - posted on 02/26/2009

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Hi Megan. Well that's kinda the deal, everything about you will revolve around your baby. I had my first almost 11 years ago, at 15, and everything revolved around him. There is nothing that I do today without thinking about how it affects my family (I have 4 little ones now).
That doesn't mean that your dreams have flown out the window. I was able to finish highschool (with a lot of hard work, and with the help of some programs), I went to college, and it wasn't easy, but my kids were worth it. I was a grade 9 drop out when I had my son, and I decided, that I did not want to keep working at the coffee shop that I was at. I got a decent job. I don't go out much, but of course every mother goes out. An outing for a mother is a time when she can enjoy worrying about her baby from a different environment :)
You'll see that everything will be as it should. Everything about you will be about your family, and you'll be ok with that!

Megan - posted on 02/25/2009

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hello.... im 18. and still prego wiht my first...i know im in for a bumpy ride  but for some reason i feel the need to prove everyone around me wrongbecuase they all say well your dreams are gone and now lifes all about your baby... or well its going to be. but when you have your child is thatreally IT?  the whole word has to revolve aorund them? do you every get time for your selves?  i know i will cuz my mom already told me she will take care of the baby anytime i neeeded her to [tho i d  rather do it myself unless i REALLy needed a break] so i know ill have me time  if i needed it but... i dunno wahst the best advice you guys have for whats instore for me here in the next month?

Hollie - posted on 02/25/2009

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sometimes its realy hard when u just wanna go out and have fun but kids shudnt stop u doing that. include them or get a baby sitter ur life shuddnt stop cuz u got kids. ive just turned 20 i have a 4 yr old a 18month old and im 6months pregnant! and i hav got the best life ever i enjoy my kids so much and when u r a friend to them rather than a mother u get along alot better ... babys a re hard cuz they dont understand its just hard work but when they get to 2 they start gettin fun!

Tania - posted on 02/20/2009

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i was 17 wen i got preg with my 1st lil girl & had my 18th b day a month b4 she was born & 20 wen i had my 2nd lil girl n woodn't change a thing!!!!age doesn't matter,i just wish others woodn't b so quik 2 judge!!!!my gorgeous girls r 3years & 7months and beautiful clever little girls!!i have had the odd day wen i struggle but wat good mum doesn't!!??!! 

Ashley - posted on 02/17/2009

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i am 17 and just had my son he was born at 35 weeks so he was a premie, it made everything that much harder, i am so glad i have my mom because it is so hard sometimes.

Louise - posted on 02/12/2009

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hun im a single mum, on my own in my own flat.. my daughter see's her dad maybe once a week ish.. and i know its hard but that what its all about... sometimes you wanna cry and just wish it all away i know but you'll get through i found it hard i was in a relationship with someone else when my daughter was born and not only having to  cope with a new baby but a partner that used to beat me up on a daily bassis i thank god he is gone nnow but it was harder then... we all have bad times.. there is always help like babysitters if you need a night out.. and dont feel bad to want to be with yr friends i know i did for the one time i wanted to go out i only stayed out till ten cause i felt bad and  wanted to be with my baby... there is no right or wrong way of being a mum just your way.. your baby is lovely soo your obviosly doing everything fine!!!!!!!!  were all going through it babes!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Desirée - posted on 02/10/2009

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Im 19 with twin girls that are 16 months old.Ive found its been a bit hard but I have alot of help and support from both my family and my boyfriends family.You have to grow up fast.But I love being a mom.



I do miss the days when I would go out with my friends but I also love staying home with my babies.

Michelle - posted on 02/09/2009

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I was a 16 year old mother with my first child and she is 5 im very proud of her, Things have been pretty easy for me because i had a great guy that stuck it out with me and we have been married for 3 years and been together for 6 1/2 years. We are now expecting our 2nd child and im 22 now. It wasn't easy for either one of us being young teenage parents i swear we were the first ones in our school to be pregnant at 16 so alot of people gave us dirty looks and had shit to say but who cares we loved our daughter and got through it. if anyone ever needs to talk i love to talk to other teenage moms

Amy - posted on 02/09/2009

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im 18 and my little girls 3 months i found it hard at first but now i think its a lot easier

Emm - posted on 02/04/2009

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I am an eighteen year old mother of a fourteen month old I know it's hard but it's worth it. I think as my son, JP gets older it gets easier. I'm trying to find balance in my life right now by going to college to better myself and my son's future.

Emma - posted on 02/03/2009

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Hi im 19 and i have an 8 week old boy, i found it really hard at first coping on my own coz i was so used to havin my mum around and then all of a sudden she wasnt there, and i had this life to look after, i also found it hard and still do at times when my partner is at work and my little boy is crying and crying and getting himself so worked up and i cant do anything with him, i find that totally distressing.......



Where you from???

Emma xxx

Nikita - posted on 02/02/2009

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im 18 and i have 1 son that is 2 i found it hard at first but it gets better with time

Lauren - posted on 01/31/2009

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I was 16 when i had my daughter and although i did have to grow up fast i wouldnt change a thing. i am a single mother and living with my mum so i get alot of help from her. i can say i found it hard at first but i love being a mum and wouldnt have it any other way.



im 18 in a month and kayla is 17 and 1/2 months and very healthy and happy.

Kym - posted on 01/30/2009

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I was 15 when i had my son and i found it really difficult. but with lots of help i got through the hard stages, i dnt find it hard anymore. My son is not 11 months and im turning 17.

Jasmin - posted on 01/29/2009

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i am 25 i had my son when i was 17 . i can say that it was hard but only because i felt that i need to show people that i was able to do it my self . so i did not get help from my fam.



i did miss all my freinds i need to grow up. so i did and thay all left me .



so i joned a head start prog, with him and i was able to make friends wth people going throw the same things as me . it did help . i can say looken back the only thing that i would have changed was i did not let other people help so i did not get that time for my self and we need it to even thow we are mums.

Dina - posted on 01/27/2009

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I WAS 17 WHEN I HAD MY SON, I AM NOW 40 WITH A 23 YEAR OLD SON. IT IS VERY HARD TO TAKE CARE OF A BABY AND HAVE A LIFE, I THANK GOD FOR MY MOTHER WHO HELPED. I LOVE MY SON TO DEATH BUT WOULDNT RECOMMEND ANYONE HAVING A BABY AT A YOUNG AGE. GO ENJOY YOURSELF WHILE YOUR YOUNG

Crystal - posted on 01/23/2009

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You do have to grow up. I didnt want to but i had to. I was working at a bar and had the life people wanted to live. I was out all the time parties every weekend and alot during the week too. When i got pregnant i got a new job teaching, gotten everything for the baby and grew up. Did all that while living on my own and being superly broke. haha! I was fine. Still go out not as much casue i dont want to be away from my son much i love him being near me. Its really hard and i'm sure nothing is going to lighten up for me but i am pretty happy with how things are for me.  Just gotta grow up.

Amber - posted on 01/23/2009

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I'm a 26 year old single mom of a 10 year old, an 8 year old, a 5 year old and a 4 year old. Somedays are real struggles, but most just seem to fly by. It was like I blinked and 10 years had gone by. The hard times are so worth it tho when I get "Harleyhugs" or smoozes.

Abigail - posted on 01/21/2009

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I'm 19 and have a 7 month old dauther. Of course it's hard, but it's hard for everyone. I love being a teen mom I don't feel its ruined my life like alot of people do. I wanted to get pregnant after I got married (at 17) and it happend at 18 :)

Nicole - posted on 01/21/2009

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i think being a mom at any age can be a struggle.even if were young or old.. good luck with every thing and enjoy ever moment. : )

Sabina - posted on 01/19/2009

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im 19 and my babys 4 months im coping fine but gotta say its all down to lots of help from my partner and babys grandparents especially my mother but i really enjoy bein a mother shes the biggest joy of my lfe but she also drains me out but wen my baby looks at me and smiles it makes it all worth it and thats what motivates me!

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well i am only 18 and have 2 kids a son who will be 2 and a 7month old daughter and i found it hard at 1st but now it is not so hard

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