I just need to know if this is the right decision..

Ac - posted on 01/12/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Hi there.



I don't know where to turn. I am a young Mommy (19 in a month) of two little girls (1yr and 2yrs) and just found out a week ago that I am 8 weeks pregnant. My two girls' Dad and I separated but are on great talking terms and are good friends. My boyfriend (this babies Dad) already has a little one of his own (she's 2) but he is a few years older than me. We have a car, he makes good money and we live on our own and get along fantastic. I have an extreme sensitivity to birth control (the patch, the pill, depo etc) and I feel so guilty having gotten pregnant again.. Could I have opinions on what I should do? (terminate, keep, adopt). I'm just so afraid to jeopardize the time my girls have with me now by bringing another sibling into the picture at such young stages in their lives. I'm very confused.



xo

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Erica - posted on 01/12/2012

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If the only thing you're worried about is the time you spend with your girls (not finances or care for the new baby), I would keep it. Bringing another sibling won't make your relationship with your girls worse, it will probably make it better. If you don't want any kids after this, schedule a tubal ligation for right after the birth, while you're still in the hospital. Don't terminate this baby just because you're afraid it'll take up some of your time. Worst reason ever: inconvenience. If you and your new man decide you don't want this baby, give it up for adoption. Plenty of parents are out there just waiting to snatch up a newborn. Good luck with making your decision.

Leanne - posted on 05/14/2012

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Really, you sound like you can handle it. You can't be afraid about losing time with your girls. I was afraid my son wouldn't get as much time with me after my daughter was born, but if anything he spends more time with me because he wants to help with his little sister, and he's only 2.

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Emily - posted on 03/17/2012

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Well, when it comes to raising child it's not what is said to be "right" or "wrong." What you really need to ask yourself is if you feel like you want another child. It is absolutely up to you. You don't want to end up with a child you aren't prepared or ready for. You also might think about the time you might miss with your girls you have now bringing a new baby into the home. On the other hand if the idea of a new baby excites you and makes you happy than go for it. You might really enjoy having a brand new baby and it could bring you and your man together. In the end its all up to you. Whatever decision you and your partner make will be the right one. Just talk about all your options. This is a big choice to make. You have the choice to do whatever you like.

Haley - posted on 02/29/2012

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terminating is rough, emotionally and physically. If your relationship is healthy, id say why not keep it:) ya youre young but sounds like you can handle it.

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