15 and Pregnant

Nikki - posted on 10/20/2012

Hey Emily.

I can totally relate to you, I had my first daughter when I wa 16 and got pregnant with her when I was 15. I can tell you it is possible to finish you life, and go to college. I can say from experience beause I am doing that right now. It's hard, don't get me wrong. But it is possible. I now have two kids, and I love them to death. It's hard to break it to your parents, because I was a daddys girl too. My dad was mad at first but he got over it. It's scary yes. But you can do it. Don't doubt yourself. There are always resources to look for around you that will help you.

Darcie - posted on 10/17/2012

Ok, I just deleted a really long post because they get hard to keep reading.



1. Your dad will always love you.

2. I think you should get your GED and then go to college, you will get everything done so fast and I think that's helpful with a baby.

3. There are tons of resources for all parents, like childcare for when you go to school or work, medical care, special schools... all kinds of stuff.

4. Take all the opportunities that come your way, you do seem awesome and you can do it!

Amanda - posted on 10/17/2012

you have to tell your dad i was daddys little girl aswell i was 15 when i told my dad and i was so scared to tell him because he told me he was going to kick me out if i got pregnant before i was maried. but he was the one who was the most supportive about it. if you really are daddys little girl you need to tell him. i would recomend online school thats what i did for a little bit. but after a while i got my ged. and do not ever let anyone talk you out of keeping your baby. your choice. im 18 now and i have my own apt and a great job and my son is still with me! hes a heathly and wonderful 2 year old. good luck honey youll be ok. im here if you need to talk ive been throgh it all..

Tracy - posted on 10/13/2012

It's been a while since your post. I'm sure many things have changed but I wanted to comment anyway. I will disregard much of the post and your concerns because I'm sure you've at least started to figure some of that out, but the part I wanted to comment on was this: I was a teen mom myself (older than you, 17). You said you wanted your life to continue as "normal as possible". Maybe you've already begun to notice that isn't possible. Your life will change. Your priorities will change. YOU will change. If you want your life to continue as a "normal" 15 year old's life would, then adoption is your best option. You can play and party and grow and make mistakes, but not when you have a child (except grow, I hope you always do that!) Every decision you make must be with him/her in mind. Yes, you will make mistakes but they can't be the reckless/dumb stuff people without kids get to make. You don't get to be daddy's little girl anymore because you are now someone's strong and independent mommy. The two worlds don't work well together. You can still finish school and go to college though, it will just be harder and a different path than you might have taken otherwise. You will make different college choices with your child than if you were not a mommy. If you are unwilling to do any or all of these things, then perhaps you need to evaluate if you are ready to be a mommy (only you will know the answer to this). Bottom line, it's not about you being 15 anymore. It's about you preparing another human being for THEIR life and giving THEM opportunities. This may mean that you accept opportunities presented to you but it also means turning down opportunities. I went to college and got my Bachelor degree but had to turn down offers to study abroad no matter how badly I WANTED it because I was NEEDED elsewhere.



Most importantly, you need to allow these changes and not fight them. Embrace them. It's you growing as a person. There will be things you will lose in raising a child (at any age, but especially at a young age). But the benefits and gains can far outweigh the losses, if you let them.



I wish you love and the best. You sound like a smart person and you'll get through all of this. If you are even around to read this, I would love to know how things are going for you. :)

Sandra - posted on 10/11/2012

I know that you can still go to school i think u puntil you have your baby unless you get put on bedrest. and then from the time your gone until you go back to school your teachers will send a friend or have your parents come home will all your work. i know at some schools you are allowed to bring your baby with because they will have a daycare class inside of the school and you would get a class period to spend time with your baby feed her and whatnot. i know you would be able to get all types of help from the government but its up to you if you want to do that. you need to go to your father already knowing what you are going to say so it makes him a little better becuase your not going to be a child anymore you are going to have to grow up fast and know what you are doing. and also to think not only for you but for your baby girl. im 19 with a son who just turned 6 months old yesterday. i dont have much of my family but i got my boyfriend and help and support from other people. if you need to talk more just message me :) hope this helps and congratulations!

Wanda - posted on 10/09/2012

I was 16 when I got pregnant, im 19 now, and in university.. You can do it.. It will be a lot of work, and there are times when I just want to sit and cry because it's a lot of work.. But it is possible, and i was a daddy's girl too, and he turned out to be more supportive than I thought.. Sometimes even more than my mom, but hang in there.. And try to take some extra classes now while you don't have the baby so that it will be a course or two less work :p..... If you want to talk, I'm also here, I know alot of other mommies have said that, but if you want to talk to more than one, I'd be happy to talk :) and kudos to Christina blue who was 12-13 who is getting through it.. Ladies,im proud of all of you.. Way to go! :)

Kara - posted on 07/16/2012

i was 16 when i was pregnant with my son, single for part of my pregnancy, and i finished high school. i would really like to talk to you and give you advice on what i know. i've always wanted to talk to younger girls about it because i lived it. so please message me anytime. and hang in there, it seems like the end of the world right now, but it will all get better with time.

Christina - posted on 06/20/2012

I was 12 when I got pregnant , and 13 when I had my baby , she'll be 2 in a week or so .
when I found out I was pregnant , I was scared , but with the help of my grandma , it was easier than I thought . lots of cities have resources for clothes , counseling , clinics etc , I would suggest just looking it up :)

Anastasia - posted on 06/15/2012

Also, the sooner you tell your dad, the better. He may feel betrayed if you wait to long.

Anastasia - posted on 06/15/2012

I also got pregnant at 15. Don't worry there is hope and you can still accomplish all of your dreams. A baby doesn't make it impossible to complete your goals he/she gives you more of a reason to reach those goals. It is very hard breaking it to your parents that you are pregnant as a teen but it won't be the end of the world, im sure your dad will understand. Talk to your counselor at school and see what is available to you. My family kept my son while I went to school and his dad also kept him when he wasnt working. If you don't have family who is capable of keeping your baby you can put him/her in daycare. But you really do need to finish school, although you are a teen mom you can provide everything an older woman could for her child if you make something of yourself. I just walked across stage and got my diploma the 1st of this month and now I am looking into college( community college for now). But I won't tell you it is easy because it's not, finishing homework and keeping good grades is definitely going to be a challenge but my motivation was my son. Knowing the statistics on poverty for teen mothers is also another motivation I have. I won't be a part of those statistics, I will be sure my son has everything he needs and much more by completing college. If you ever need somebody to talk to look for sites like these and teen mom groups in your city, it will help alot.

Paige - posted on 06/13/2012

When you do tell him, make sure he know that you intend on finishing school, which is something I have a lot of respect for! I was 18 when I had my son, but was still in high school. Sadly I didn't finish school. I have watched several girls complete high school and go on to bigger and better things. I wish for you that you can make strides through what is veiwed as a tough time. Good luvk to you in telling your dad, I think you should just spill the beans, so he can help and support you. I hope he will for not only your sake but for baby aswell.

Jess - posted on 06/12/2012

i know exactly what you are going through i found out i was 15 weeks pregnant in january and i was 15 but obv now im 16 cause bday was the month after, but i also was a daddys girl and was very scared to tell him about it but i finally bucked up the courage to do it, i thought about it left school early told my dad over the phone it took him a while to come around with the idea i was having a baby so young and that i was no longer going to be his little girl, as now im 33 weeks pregnant and my dad still havent gotten the thought that this is realitty not just a dream, its going to be hard to decide what to do, i understand but im sure you wil make the right decission and do whats best for you and the little one, i dont know what to say about the father of the baby or cant give much advice because im still with my partner so dont know what to say, But i hope ive helped you ina way, if you want someone to talk too just mail me on here anytime, im always here if you need someone to talk to or just open up too, hope everything goes well for you, and goodluck with everything.
from jess :)

Cariann - posted on 06/08/2012

I was 15 and pregnant too. Its alot of hard work and a differant life style complitly but if you really want it then you cant do it! Never let anyone tell you other wise. Im finishing school and have a job! You can still have a life after your child is born. You need to tell your father, beacuse he will never denie you exspecailly if your a daddys girl! He'll obviously going to be upset but I am positive he will support you as much as possible. your mparents love you just as much as you love your unborn child, you'd do anything for your kid. Make the best of the situation and never put aside your dreams because you can acomplish so much still. Good Luck

Ricola - posted on 06/07/2012

a child is a blessing not a mistake just remember that.... i got pregnant at fifteen and my baby daddy didnt want no part...... but that didnt stop me from fullfilling my dreams keep going to school wuth ur pregnancy and when baby is born everything will faall into place ok honey just keep praying

Casey - posted on 06/07/2012

I was 17 when I got pregnant. I was also scared to tell my dad. I asked my brother to go with me when I told him. My parents have been devorced for 20 years now and I didnt want to put them in that possition. My brother was wonderful. I just told him and waited for the worst. I said something like. "Dad I know youre goin to be mad but Im pregnant." he cried. But he still loves me and he loves my kids just like any other grandparent would.
As far as finishing school. You CAN do it. I was a single mom and I worked and finished highschool. Most schools will work with you to help you get through highschool. You got to think thats the schools main priority. You could always go to an alternative school. They do it a little differently and may make it even easier to work and take care of the baby.
The main thing is that you always belive in youself. You can and will do it. Everything will be ok!

Shannon - posted on 06/07/2012

I was 15 when I was pregnant with my daughter. I would love to tell you life from here on out will be easy, but that's just not true. But the one thing I can say is when you hold your baby in your arms it will all be worth it. I expected to gp to school until I gave birth and then go back after I had her but I had pain in my hips so bad I couldn't walk so I switched to an online school called ashworth at about 8 months. I highly reccommend you look into that as a backup option because you will really need your education. As of now I'm 18 pregnant with my second, because I continued to be careless with their father, who has never done a damn thing for me. I work overnight to make sure I can have money but still be able to spend time with my daughter. And as for telling your dad, there is no easy way to do it. I told my mom in a letter, and that worked for me. But no matter how you tell him you have to be relaxed. Don't stress yourself out because that's no good for your baby. Just remind him, no matter what you go through, you'll always be daddys little girl. Good luck in all of your journeys, you came to the right place :)

Kachina - posted on 06/06/2012

Hi , I was also fifteen and pregnant, i have a 5month old son now, i didnt give up either, i still have my son to this day. and how is your mom about this is she supportive at all ? i think the reason why i made it as far as i did was because of my mom. parents usually tend to help alot once they see they grandchildren, i really hope you will be strong for your baby and i believe in you

Tiffany - posted on 06/05/2012

hey there im 16 and 4 and a half months pregnant to my ex we had boken up when we were still having sex when i fell pregnant it was hard breaking it to my mum but new it had to be done i didnt know what i wanted than i was consdering abortion but couldnt bring myself to it i only have ths year to finish school and am still going to be finishing my school was happy that i was finishing i just have to get all my school work finished earlier it is hard at first but you just have to keep thinking about you and your baby if you need to talk you can email me on tiff_waine@hotmail.com

Louise - posted on 06/05/2012

You have to tell your dad in a calm manor and get him on side to help you. You are going to need a lot of support and help to get through the early years of parenting alone. I hope you have gone to the doctors and got some prenatal checkups and advice. Once you have told your dad then you can move on to how you are going to finish school and cope with a baby. Most high schools have some sort of programme for teen mums. Be brave and find out what they are. There could be a chance of you taking the baby to a creche inside the school or home schooled. What ever you decide this baby is coming and is coming fast. Tell your dad today and then you can work towards a better future for you and your baby. I wish you luck!

Amanda - posted on 06/04/2012

I agree with Kelina, you should definitely look into how you will be finishing school and have daycare for the child. I know at my high school we had a child care program where childcare 1 and 2 had toddlers in it part time that anyone in our town could bring (at a very low cost) and childcare 3 was all the babies of the high school kids, where the mothers would be able to take one class period to be with their child and still do school. I don't know if your school has anything like that but being a young mother, I know you would be able to get financial help for childcare from the government. Do as much research as you possibly can now and then break the news to your dad. If it would be more comfortable for you, tell your mom all the information you looked up and have her sit with you while you tell your dad so she can help if you forget any information that you found. It will definitely be hard for you, but if you put your mind to it, you can finish school. Even though I was 18 and married when I got pregnant, I was still going to college online because my husband was in the Navy and it wasn't possible for me to go to a campus at the time. I was working full time and doing classes online when I had my son. It was very difficult and it took me 4 years to get my 2 year degree, but it was well worth it, and I didn't ever give up. Even if you have to see if you can finish high school online and try to get ahead so when you do have the baby you won't fall behind and you can focus more on the baby instead of school. It will be difficult not having your friends around all the time, but you have to do what you feel is best for your child. Financially, I wouldn't expect a penny from the father of your baby, so you would definitely have to figure that one out as well. If you have to, post ads on Craigslist seeing if anyone would be willing to give away baby items for you. Start now and don't wait til the last minute. Good luck to you and just remember do NOT give up hope, stay strong, and finish school!

Kelina - posted on 06/04/2012

Would it be possible for you to talk to your school counsellor and see what resources area available in your area as regards to daycare or distance ed? That's a good start. Being able to go to your dad and tell him that you've looked into your options might help soothe the heartattack he'll no doubt have lol.