15 and pregnant, new here and would looove someone to talk to! (:

Sally - posted on 07/04/2012 ( 28 moms have responded )

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I just came across this site so I'm not quite sure how everything works! but I am keeping my baby! i'm about 8 or 9 weeks along. EVERYONE in my family and in my boyfriend's is telling me to abort, including him. but I'm trying to stay strong and do what I FEEL is right! I don't have too much support from people who are expecting at my age. I have some support from a lot of friends and some family but I'd love to talk to another girl in my situation! I'm nervous but more excited because I know I'll do fine! I know I will make my baby my first priority even if their father doesnt. ♥ please, I'd love some advice and just someone to talk to because my whole situation is pretty tough right now and I'd love to talk to someone who's going through or been through this. Thankss! xoxo

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Lauren - posted on 08/08/2012

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Hello Noelle!
I was in the same situation. I was in the middle of my schooling when I found out i was 9 weeks pregnant I didn't have any symptoms untill then. Anyways, it took alot of guts for me to come out and tell everyone. When I told my boyfriend he laughed in my face. When i told my dad he screamed at me to abord it, when I told me mom she hung up on me. But they came around. It took my boyfriend a few days to think about it and catch up to the reality but I really dont think it actually 'clicked' to him untill my babys head was comming out lol. my mom was very excited after she saw my belly start to grow. my dad on the other hand is just 'meh' with it still. but he's pretty up tight anyway. if you need to talk, i can talk to you. i went to the abortion cliniq just to see what it was all about and i broke down crying. they even asked me if i abord the baby would it feet like it was murder!!! who asks that kind of thing! so i didnt abord her i stuck to my gut feeling and now i have the most precious gift life can give me. sure it put off alot of things in my life but im only young, i have the rest of my life to finish what ive started. but i only had this one chance to have this baby. she's the most beautiful thing i have ever seen and she fills me heart with so much pride and love, i could never have imajined life anyother way. i really hope you stick to keeping your baby ♥

Ana - posted on 07/28/2012

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Well, I am glad that you are standing your ground. You are already a good mother....the father, another story it sounds like...

So, now mommie needs to be sure to take VERY good care of herself.

Eat well, vegetables, fruits, water (more than juice and soda), protenin, and milk..just be sure you mix these things up a bit..

cook at home more than anything, fast food has almost NO nutrition..

Takes thoes prenatal vitamins...they help give you what you need so that the baby can take what he/she needs from you. If they make you feel sick take them at night before bed..

Don't do crazy sports, or things that could have you to injure your stomach...or your limbs..get your rest.. you WILL be tired.. so rest.. if that means at a friends instead of home or where ever.. just sleep, you and the baby need this to grow together....

You will be fine..

But while you are doing all the above like the rest of us who are pregnant (i'm almost 15 weeks)
you need to think about wether or not you want to finish high school, and where you and the baby are going to live and how you intend on supporting the baby...hopefully the parents will help, but if they don't you can do it.. plenty of moms do..it won't be luxury, but it's possible..

Start thinking..this is what responsible mothers do while pregnant..

Happy planning..

Missy - posted on 08/08/2012

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Congradulations on your pregnancy!! I'm 17 and just found out my fiance and I are expecting a baby! I would love to get to know you and talk to you throughout our pregnancies! :)
I support you on your decision to keep the baby. I'm so thankful to hear you are doing what is right in YOUR own mind. It's your body, your baby, and you participated in making it and you are handling your responsibilites! Kudos to you!
The twist to my pregnancy is only my mom, fiance, sister, and 2 friends know.
The only one I am worried about is my dad.. That's gonna be the hard part. :/
Keep strong and smile. Babies are blessings. ♥

Alisha - posted on 08/07/2012

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Hello!! I'm Alisha and I had my daughter when I was 19, you are making the right decision not to abort, your precious baby needs you and others to love him or her. Congrats on making that decision to save your child's life! It is really tough when people in your life don't support you. I can't imagine that! I'm here for you! I am a single mom and my daughter is 6 years old now, and she is the joy of my life. You can do it, things just may take a little longer and a lot more planning! If you would like help in your area with diapers, resources, and other important information about the help out there that is near you, go to www.optionline.org and they will be able to tell you about pregnancy centers near you where they may do classes, counseling and provide you with free diapers and clothes.

User - posted on 07/09/2012

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i was 15 when i got pregnant. my mom was telling me the same thing. but i kept my baby when i was a few weeks along i told her. she was not happy at all. so i moved in with my bf. she got used to it along the way. she was in the room when i had my baby. now she is glad i kept her and coulnd't imagine her not here. i still live with my bf we go see my mom all the time. for me it got easier along the way. i hope it does for you to:) hope i helped..good luck:)

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Tracy - posted on 08/21/2012

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My name is Tracy. I am 33 and the mother of a 15 year old and a 2 year old. I wanted to wish you a congratulations on your baby. It's a VERY tough road ahead of you but only YOU know if you are up for the challenge. I had my son at 17 and it was tough, but it was the best road for my son and I. I wanted to offer you my ear, if you are interested. You may email me at ladyloerya@hotmail.com if you wish to just chat. I offer nothing but support and honesty. My friend also created a group on facebook that is the most supportive group I have honestly ever seen in my life. It's amazing. We've tackled tough subjects that break most groups apart and never had a mean word said among us. If you are interested in joining this group, just drop me an email and I can send you an invite. It's a closed group so that people can feel more open to speak about things. It's all parents.

The one thing I can tell you right off the top is that I have known several teenagers forced into abortions - either physically taken to get one or pressured into it by family/friends. NOT ONE OF THEM, even many years later, thinks it was a good choice in their life. If you are not wanting the abortion, then don't let anyone push you into it. I am not sure exactly where I stand on the abortion issue myself, but I can tell you that I don't believe any female should be forced to either have an abortion OR have a child they don't want. It should be left to their own decision. Also, remember that adoption is always available. I went through years of infertility and so has my cousin (who still doesn't have children and is looking to adopt). If no birth parents chose adoption then there would be many people out there who would never get the chance to be a mommy or daddy. Again, the choice is all yours though.

One last thing, I am happy some friends are supporting you, but make sure they aren't just excited at the situation. I had supportive friends until the baby was actually born. Then the fun wore off and reality set in and they disappeared. Babies aren't FUN but they are worth it. :)

I wish you all the love and support you can get.

Sincerely,

Tracy

Bobbie - posted on 08/20/2012

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I was pregnant at 15. After a confirmed pregnancy test and first doctor's visit I began to spot and spot very heavily. I was freaking out. My family took this chance to swoop down on me and I was going to be a very high risk. That I would go through the public humiliation, fall behind at school and put them through difficult times just to to loose the baby months down the road. They hurt me more than they will ever know. I aborted and even though I bled heavily for days prior to the procedure it has scarred me. I was left feeling very guilty. I thought of that baby with every birth I gave later

Sierra - posted on 08/15/2012

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Hey! My name is Sierra I am 23 and have 4 boys now ages 5yrs, 4yrs, 2yrs and 5 months. I got pregnant with my first at 16. I told my mom first because I wanted her to be there for me. the first words out of her mouth were " you should abort because you obviously are not responsible enough" it blew me away.. I realized at that point there was no way I was going to give up my child. and I am happy to no end that I made that decision! Stay strong because you CAN do it. There are plenty of people out there that can help with anything, and im sure you will make friends that will be there for you! Its not easy but the love that the child will have for you is unremarkable and it will be something you charish for the rest of your life! If you ever need to talk let me know!

Melissa - posted on 08/13/2012

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Hi noelle am melissa i also got pregnant at 15 and all my family was telling me to abort but i didn't i kept my baby i gafe birth to him at 16 years old and now am 17 and my son is 16 months today am glad that i kept my son either way i wasn't gonna let my family tell me what to do with my pregnancy. So i stayed strong and kept my baby am also happy that when i found out i was pregnant i had a friend named michael and he also told me to keep him so i also listen to him cause its not a baby faught he/she should'nt pay the price for what we teen girls do but ever since then me and michael grew feelings for each others and he become the step father of my son jayden and now i might be pregnant with my 2 child am happy but my family don't support our relationship but it don't matter we moved in together and i don't have to deal with my family drama. I hope everything goes well with your pregnancy & congrats c:

Carlisle - posted on 08/12/2012

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Hi! Im 14, i was raped but other then that i no ur situation, im about 5 weeks and i havnt yet told my family! I think it would be great to be here for eachother,

Bridgette - posted on 08/11/2012

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Congratulations darling!

It's wonderful to hear you so enthusiastic to keep the baby especially when the negativity tries to bring you down and make you do a decision that isn't right in your heart, the mother gets the last say darling so if you want to keep your baby, there's no one who can change that. I have a similar situation with my ex boyfriend, he is actually trying to stress me out to the point of miscarriage! But anywho, I'm just 8 weeks pregnant this week as well! I'm also just 17 years old as well.
Talk to me anytime. xxx

Isabella - posted on 08/11/2012

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Congratulations! You're a very strong and brave girl. I am 20 and have a 2 year old myself. Motherhood is absolute heaven. Email me at bellaenchanted@rocketmail.com if you want to talk! :] Mama love♥

Jessica - posted on 08/10/2012

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Hi Noelle[=
I am 17 and I have a son who is almost 7 months old. I guess I was technically 15 when I got pregnant too. I found out the day before my 16th birthday!
My family and baby's father were supportive though but they weren't at first. My dad wanted me to abort too and the baby's father's parents wanted us to put him up for adoption. My friends on the other hand, acted supportive at first but quickly vanished. I haven't seen or talked to any of them since I was 4-5 months pregnant. You'll deffinatly find out who is really true to you and who isn't!
Even though our situations are kind of different I'd love to talk to you and help you with any questions or anything about what to expect since I've already been through all that.
Feel free to message me! Hope to hear from you soon(:

Lauren - posted on 08/10/2012

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Noelle, I am so proud of you for making the choice not to abort your baby. It is not good for you nor the baby (obviously), so you are making a brave and amazing decision. Whether or not you keep your baby is another situation. While I fully support keeping your baby if you are up for the task, having no support (and no degree) will make it extremely difficult for you to build a life for yourself and your child. That being said, it's not impossible, and with a huge amount of determination, you can definitely do it.

I just commented on another post like yours and offered to chat with that person more, as I had my first when I was 19...not quite the same as you, but I understand battling that dilemma. Feel free to reach out if you want to talk more (adverbs227@gmail.com). I'd love to offer support, advice, an ear to listen or help in any way I can. Take advantage of help when you can, be grateful for it, and raise your son/daughter with lots of love. Show him/her a strong will, and he/she will admire all you've done to overcome the statistics!

Alex - posted on 08/05/2012

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Hi Noelle,

You'll find a lot of support here on circle of moms!! I am 19 with an 8 month old daughter. I didn't have support from family, and my boyfriend left as soon as he found out I was keeping my baby. You CAN do it! Feel free to message me if you want to talk. Pregnancy had its up and downs especially when there is drama around, but once you hold your baby it all fades away. Hold your head up high girl and I commend you.

And most of all CONGRATULATIONS!!! Hold on to every moment because it goes by so fast!

Peace & Love

User - posted on 07/29/2012

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Hey I'm not a single mom but got pregnant with my son at 16.
I would love to give you advice, or a shoulder to cry on! I'm alone a lot since my boyfriend works a lot and had to move out of my parents house when I got pregnant.
Message me, or e-mail me sarah_3399@yahoo.com. I'd say add me on facebook but my name is wayy too common.

18 years old with a 14 month old, alone a lot, mom tried to make me give the baby up for adoption. Been through a lot and would love to talk with you!

Livia - posted on 07/29/2012

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Hi :) I think youre definately making the best choice, im 17 and my son is now 5 months old, i thought itd be easier and its not, but i love my son more than anything in the world, itll be hard but dont give up!if you want to talk message me!

Allison - posted on 07/24/2012

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I was in the same place but I was 14 I kept my son he npw goin to be 2 n im 17 now my son is the greatest person that ever happened to me , but if u need any one to talk to im all ears

Belinda - posted on 07/21/2012

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I had my first child at 19...then had three more by the time I was 23!! I am also the only child of a single teenage (17yrs) mum.

It hurts hearing people say you should abort. It was even harder for me when i had a family member tell me I should have aborted when we found out that my youngest son (now 3yrs) had cystic fibrosis (and I already had other special needs children)

I think you have a very mature attitude, and the decision is ultimately up to you, and you alone! Having support around you just makes the whole situation easier.

Since you arent very far along, I imagine that a lot of people are still in shock from the news, so you may find people will start showing more support once they get their heads around it.

But in the meantime, you have plenty of support here and my email is bellasblog@hotmail.com if you ever want to chat (even if I am now 26.....lol)

Kara - posted on 07/16/2012

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i had my son at 17 and my daughter right after i turned 20. you can message me anytime, i've been through it all and would love to help.

Stephanie Elizabeth - posted on 07/13/2012

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Good for you! Love your adittude! I was also fifteen and pregnant and it was definitley hard for me but I had support from friends and family so I can only imagine how you feel! Hang in there and just know that at the end of the day your baby will be perfect and that's all that matters! If you ever have any questions or need some advice, i'm here for you!

Stephanie - posted on 07/13/2012

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hey i was 15 and pregnant now my boy is coming up for 6 , it was pretty tough but in the end he was worth it , dont listin to what other people have got to say as its not them thats carrying it , honestly hun youll be fine x

User - posted on 07/12/2012

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hey girl, i was 15 and pregnant at one stage and all my family and friends wanted me to abort. i kept my baby who is now 3 months old! i and her father (who didnt want her when i was pregnant) wouldnt have it any other way now! i am now 16 and back at school and in 4 months i will have graduated, it is possible so please keep your chin up and dont be scared to talk to me any time! good luck xo

Ammie - posted on 07/11/2012

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Hey Noelle, I was 16 when I got pregnant with my son.(Now 18 with an 8 month old) Both my parents were pleased when they found out but now they are so happy that I had him and decided to keep him. My mom became very supportive after a couple months of me being pregnant, and the same as my father. But my now ex boyfriend ( baby daddy ) wasn't so I can relate to that. I am also new to this site, I am not sure if there is a message area on here but if there is for sure message me if you ever need to talk I have been threw it all. Congratulations and do what you feel is right! Nobody can make you do anything you don't want to do! ♥

Becca - posted on 07/05/2012

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Don't mind what everyone else wants it's your body and your life. If you want to keep you baby by all means you should, no matter what anyone says. I am 17 and have a 2 year old son and I know whats it's like to have people trying to push abortion. Message me on here or email me at costello_rebecca@yahoo.com I would love to talk and help you on anything.

Alura - posted on 07/04/2012

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I am not a single mom but i Cannot imagine how hard it is doing this alone.. especially at 15, i am 19. If you believe you can do this on your own then you should! Start workin your ass off now cause its not only hard being a mommy but EXPENSIVE... kids dont make life easier but they sure as hell make it better lol

Ashley - posted on 07/04/2012

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Yah! Congrats, so glad to hear you are keeping your baby! I had my first at 19, but I'm also a adoptive mother (I adopted one son when he was two weeks old) and as much as I LOVE adoption, I believe that if at all possible, women should keep their babies. You are making the right decision! I don't know where you are located, but you should find a birth center and talk to a counselor, they can find you resources in your area, even other pregnant young moms to talk to! Hope your pregnancy is easy for you and that everything works out smoothly! I will pray for you for sure.

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