19 and expecting baby number 2
Nichole - posted on 08/14/2010
I had my son at 17 (2 months before I turned 18) when he was about 7 months old I got pregnant with my daughter.. So they are only about a yr apart... It was easy for me in the beginning because my mom took my son for 3 days out of the week (day and night) for about the first month Kelsie here. He was always great with her, made sure he was quit when she was sleeping. Always was wanting to hold her and kiss her and feed her. They are very very close to each other, I don't know if it is because they are so close in age or if its because they have never been to a daycare and we have no friends with kids. They are suer close, Brandon was better with her when she was a baby. Right now we are in a bad stage with them, they are not wanting to share their toys as much. And both of them are like 100% whinner than alot of other kids you see. They have always been with mommy so now both are fighting for the attention of mommy. They have their days tho when they can both be good or just one. I think that in away having them close in age will be helpful more later on in life. I think (hope) they will be alot closer to each other than most siblings. I hope that in school they will stick up for each other more than most brother and sister... But otherwise I think they do great with each other now like I said they have their days like most kids!!! I wish everyone best of luck with their new ones and soon to be lil ones! Everything works out for good resons!
Amanda - posted on 08/13/2010
i just turned 20 with a 27 month old and an 11 month old. I'm a single mom and i love having them so close. its pretty hard i won't lie and neither child was planned, but they get along so well. they love each other to bits. it was harder when my duaghter was newborn. because my son was o nly 16 months and still very much attached to mommy and i couldn't be there as much. now he's fine with it, he "helps" with his sister. (handing me diapers, patting her back to burp her) and he shares like crazy, he'll give her food on her trey if she finishes and i can't put more on there at that very moment. he hands her toys, blankeys etc. gives her hugs and kisses. if she wakes up from her nap he runs to her door and waits for me to go get her tem hugs her. his first sentence was "hi kaycie" its just adorible. and she's so happy playin with him.
i felt guilty when i was pregnant because i felt i was "taking away" my sons one on one time with me. he was only about 8 months old when i found out i was pregnant with my daughter. it didn't help that no one wanted me to keep her. but when she was born it was like my heart grew.
i would never change having them so close together.
Queen - posted on 08/12/2010
I am 21 but I have a 5 month old and i'm 4 months pregnant! I don't know how hard it is yet but i'm pretty sure time is not going to be a luxury. Ive been told keeping a steady routine helps. That and having a helping hand every now and then. Good luck, I'm sure you'll do fine!
Alicia - posted on 08/12/2010
Im 19 and expecting my second also. i have a 2yr old boy and Im due in Sep so as the days so by im getting a lil nervous about it. Expecially because my 1st is gettin really clingy all of a sudden like he knows a big change is about to happen
Chloe - posted on 08/11/2010
Hi there, im 18 now and i had my daughter when i was 15 and my son when i was 17 and there is 18months ae differenct between them, it was really hard at first when my son was a new born basically just learning how to juggle things and be there for two children instead of just one.. The nights were the worst but as time goes on its fine .. each week its gets easier, my daughter will be 3 in 2 and a half months and my son is almost 14 months they get along together great and it is so much easier for me to get things done and just be a mum in eneral becuase they r at an age where they can play together :) hope this helps
Sarh - posted on 08/10/2010
My children are not that close in age. My daughter is 4.5yrs old and my son just turned 2 months yesterday. I will be 21 on the 25th of August. For me it is most likely a bit easier, because I only have one diaper to change and my daughter being 4.5yrs old is most likely much more understanding about mommy feeding the baby etc. You will just have to be patient w/your daughter, try to explain things to her, and she should be walking by the time you have baby, so include her in taking care of baby, ask her to grabby mommy a diaper and simple things like that. When you become close to delivering your daughter will sense this she may act out. For my daughter she would pee in her pants randomly (that was something SHE was in control of!). If my son is being demanding for too long then my daughter will go and get into thing as if she were 2 again all because she can at that moment and that is her way of acting out. My daughter has told me that I'm a horrible mother and then 5 mins later says she loves me (I think she gets this from her 11 yr old cousin though). It is VERY tiring though!! Hopefully your partner will be able to take leave from work along w/you so you can have a bit of help for first wk at least. It was very hard for me the first few weeks, my husband was unable to take leave from work.
Autumn - posted on 08/10/2010
I am 19 and expecting my son in October. I had my daughter when i was seventeen and I am also worried about how hard it will be. My daughter is 2 however and is very excited and actually helpful just preparing for him so i believe that she wont have too big of an issue with the new baby. I also have been told that its better to have children close together rather than several years apart. I wish you the best of luck and happiness! :)
Raven - posted on 08/09/2010
Hey! Im 19 and having my second child also. I have a 26 month old and im 9 weeks pregnant. My sister had her children 19 months apart and shes done a great job! The hardest part is that u have to wake up 2 children and get them ready and always have to make sure ur spending time with both of them so the other child doesn't feel left out or forgotten.
Jasmine - posted on 08/09/2010
I am 20, I have an 11 month old son and i am 13 weeks pregnant with my second- i found this pregnancy hard with the morning sickness and taking care of my son, I am looking forward to having my second child close together because i know it will be worth it in the end! Good Luck
Allison - posted on 08/08/2010
hi i am 20, i have a 17month old and an 8 week old. it is a bit hard to start with but once u get urself into a routine everything gets a bit easier. it can be really hard at times but if u try and sleep wen they r both asleep that helps cause i will be really tired and everything always seems worse wen u r tired. try to make ur daughter involved with things aswell so that she wont get jelous.
Helen Katrina - posted on 08/08/2010
hey im 20 and currently pregnant with my second, my kids will have a 2 yr age gap, so im hoping my first doest have really bad terrible 2's lol... i think its hard no matter what the age gap is, but as long as you keep your kids in a routine it will get easier in time. =) good luck and congratulations about the pregnancy xx
Nikky - posted on 08/08/2010
Hey im 21 now bt had my first daughter at 18 and my second at 19, theres only 11 months between them. Its not to bad most of the time the night feeds are worst but if you make sure you have your older child in a good steady routine before the babys born and try to keep it as much the same as possible when the baby arrives. You will have days worse than others as i quite often do but when you see your children smiling and laughing you forget about it all. My daughters will be 3 in November and 2 in October and the bond between them is amazing i would never have it any other way. Make sure you get time to yourself as well, be it even watching a dvd when the kids are in bed and mother and toddler groups are great so check if you have any in your area.
Good luck for the future.
Chelbie - posted on 08/07/2010
hey im in the same boat! Im also 19 but with a 10 month old and im 7 months lol lol ive been told its hard but as long as you get into a routine that works for you and you have at least one person that you can call for help then its easyish
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