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2 year old, 5 months pregnant, School, and work

Ashleigh - posted on 01/25/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I was just wondering how other moms worked out the day with schooling for young mommies ( online ) , working being there for the baby and being pregnant to boot. I'm having such a rough time I feel bad because this pregnancy is so bad I was hit with every single pregnancy symptom you could think of, I'm working part time to support me and my son and I'm also trying to get my GED. I feel like I maybe don't give enough time to my 2 year old as I should. I don't want to see him suffer in the end because i'm doing all these things now and trying to get ready for the new baby as well. I find that he spends more time with my mom or her boyfriend because of all the things i'm doing. I work through-out the day usually from 7-2 and then home from work I have to fit in at least 3 hours of schooling a day ( trying to fast track lots before the new little guy gets here) I'm usually done school around 6pm then its dinner time and getting my boy in the tub, and by the time thats all done its time for bed for him. (he stays home with my moms boyfriend during the day) come weekends I squeeze in about 5-6 hours of schooling.

I guess am what I'm trying to ask is Am I doing way to much for there to be a real healthy relationship/bond with my son? I stayed off work and school for a year so just this past year I find myself doing all this stuff and being pregnant has made it worse since i'm just so burnt out and tired

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Stefanie - posted on 01/28/2010

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Well I admire your spirit. I myself feel the same way. I had my daughter when I was a sophomore in high school and dropping out just wasn't an option. So I finished on time and knew that going to college would ultimately provide the best future for me and my daughter. Do I regret the time I lost in her first 5 years - yes. But do I think that she will benefit in the end from the choice I made - yes. Now that I am graduating from nursing school in May I know I will be able to spend more time with my daughter and now my son who I had last year knowing that I don't have to worry as much about providing for my family becaus I have a steady job as a nurse.

I guess what I'm saying is that you have a lot on your plate and you feel like you're neglecting your child. You're not. You're just doing what everyother single mom is doing- trying to provide the best possible future for your family and that is what matters. You still see your son so just enjoy the time you have and know that in the end you're doing what you know is better for yourself and your children.

Kat - posted on 01/26/2010

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Every caring mom of every age feels guilty for not spending "enough" time with her kid(s). The fact that you're thinking about it shows that you're not neglecting him. And if you're spending time with him when you can, and not running around with friends all the time, I'd say you're doing all right. Just don't stress too much; things will get easier. =)

Yesenia - posted on 01/26/2010

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first off let me congratulate you and tell you that you are amazing!. not alot fo young mother would be able to keep up with the load your taking on!. i myself never went to school after i graduated high school and i regret it, i can never seem to just do it, i guess its fear. in the long run you and both your children will be much better off because of the sacrafices that you are making now!. im sure your an amazing mother and you son loves you very much. i understand how you feel , sometimes when i get home from work im just 2 tierd to want to play with my 2 year old and i feel terrible for it, like im neglecting her in some way or shell resent me wile shes playing alone in her room lol. if the most time you get to spend with him in the day is during bath time try to make that as fun and special for him as possible let him play with toys or fill the tub w/ bubbles , let him know that his special 1 on 1 time with mommy, at that age anything you do with them is special to them. dont beat your self up , im sure alot of young mommys out here would find you an inspiration!

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