21, expecting number 3 help?

Amanda - posted on 05/17/2011

would be fine, except i have a uterine condition and it would only hurt it more.

the doctor thinks i lost the baby, negative test at 4 ays late, no bleeding yet.

Sarh - posted on 05/14/2011

My fiancee and I do not see an abortion as an option... I'm only 21, had my daughter with a different man at 15. I've been with my fiancee since May 09', we had our son who is 11m old together, I had an IUD put in 3 wks ago and I'm 6wks pregnant! Completely unplanned for us as well. We are struggling so bad, but we laid down and had sex so we are keeping the baby instead of aborting the baby and punishing the baby.
Why can't you take birth control? I have horrible side effects from the hormones in birth control, but I had the paraguard IUD put it, it has NO hormones! It's a great birth control, if your not already pregnant when you have it put in. lol.
just enjoy your pregnancy, things happen and we adjust.

Samantha - posted on 05/14/2011

It shouldnt affect it when i was pregnant and talked to the adoption lady she said there are people out there who are specificly looking for special needs kids and people out there who just want kids.

Amanda - posted on 05/14/2011

I took all the precautions i could. I asked for my tubes to be tied and they agreed until i was in labour with my daughter when they changed their minds and told me no.

I already know I'm keeping it. abortion is not an option for me. and I don't know if i could adopt out a child already having two, I would imagine that child would feel like i loved it less then its brother or sister. thankyou for the girls with 3 kids and the positives of it. Me and the father are meeting tonight to discuss things.. we;ll dicuss it all, and maybe on monday go to adoption options and ask some questions. My son is special needs, so I'm not sure how that would effect a baby's adoption prospects if i chose it. if i choose to keep it I suppose I'll need to figure that all out.

Bridie - posted on 05/13/2011

If you dont feel that you can give your baby the home life it deserves then maybe you should consider giving someone else a chance to or maybe even terminate. However, as a 21 year old woman with two children you know as well as all of us that every time you have sex there is always a slight risk, NOTHING is 100%. And I feel for this reason to have a termination may be taking unecessary advantage of the procedure. I do agree with Nikkole that maybe knowing your situation and your body, as it obviously is extremely fertile, you should have taken a little more care in deciding when to have intercourse with your new partner. Though that being said I do believe that you, just like everybody else, are entitled to a happy and healthy sex life. I you do choose to continue with your pregnancy and keep your child I'm sure you will be more than fine. I wish you well. All the best.

Vicky - posted on 05/13/2011

i have a friend in a similar situation to you, and what i said to her was you cant dwell on what has happened. think about what is best for you two other children you already have, would it jepordise anything such as you relational with them? can you realiisticaly afford your 2 children when another one comes along? can you give them the right amount of love if another one comes along? obviously its entirely your choice, but you need to think about every possibility, as having children, as you know, is the biggest choice in life.maybe speak to a family member to help go through options. good luck with your choice though.

Bridget - posted on 05/12/2011

I think you should keep it or put it up for adoption. Its a innocent child who deserves a chance to live. I was 22 when i had my third baby and we are doing just fine. They are five, four, and two now, and i don't regret any of my choices that i have made.

Christina - posted on 05/11/2011

You either abort, adopt, or keep it.
Just let him know there are no expectations. If you plan on raising the baby alone from the start, then it won't be a shock. Going from 2 to 3 kids is easier than going from 1 to 2. I was 20 when I was pregnant with my 3rd (delivered at 21). I had four by the time I was 23. I am allergic to B.C. so I can't take it. The kids I could take didn't work. I even got preg after I got my tubes tied. My new husband and I are just praying it doesn't happen again because we have five children!

Nikkole - posted on 05/11/2011

I guess you have a choice to make adoption,keeping the baby, or abortion. For me i would keep the baby and just deal with it because its not the baby's fault. If you know you can not take birth control you should have waited longer before you had sex with this person and if you know FOR SURE you do not want any more kids i would talk to your doctor about getting your tubes tied maybe? I wish you good luck :)