3month old lil girl wanting another wat is everybodies opinion?

Stephanie - posted on 12/09/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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i have a 3 month old lil girl and just been thinking about wanting another baby, i love the lil baby stage. my hubby is sub contracted with florida power and light and is thinking about joining the army if he is able to, i am unemployed staying at home watching the lil one but in feb i will be starting school again going to palm beach community college for the nursing program. we are having a lil money problem. i just wanted to hear wat others think and hear from others in my situation or who already has two young ones.

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Renee - posted on 01/11/2010

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I also have a 3 month old baby girl and would love another one. It was always inthe plan for us to have our babies close together. I grew up with an older sister who is close to my age and she was then and is now my best friend. I know that it will be hard and that the demands on my time will double, but so long as you both want another one soon and you believe that you can emotionally as well as financially support them then Go for gold.
And rember, affording the essentials in necessary, being able to afford expensive toys and the best of everything is not.

Jodie - posted on 01/09/2010

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i know how u feel my little girl is 4 months now and i want another but i know i cant right now cos the suituation is not right at all my parter got made redundant and im jobless at the moment and i plan to go to college and my partner wants to retrain so he doesnt end up doing what his dad did to him which was barely see him n he wants to be part of our daughters life insted of just a money earner and i support him with that because i didnt like him job in the first place because of how dangerous it was while ive been with him 2 of his friends got killed doing it. My advice to you would be look at ur situation and decide is this guna b right for me? am i guna be able to give this child everything and then decide x

Pia - posted on 12/15/2009

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I think if you are able to provide for yourselves and your children, and you are both wanting another one then go for it. But only if you are capable of providing everything you need for two young children. You'd have to buy two sets of nappies, you'd need another cot, another car seat, a two seater pram etc. If you can afford all this, go for it.



The only thing I would say is, wait until you start school and know what demands that will place on you. If you are serious about completing a course, you need to know you can balance at least being a mum with school first. Trust me, it isn't easy. I've been doing it for two years and only just started to find the balance between being a mum and being a student. If you find it hard, you may end up needing to sacrifice either going to school or having a second baby for a while.



I would also wait until your husband is settled in a job. If he's thinking about joining the army then the stability you need for your family may not be there for a while. I dunno, these are things I think about when considering expanding my family. Good luck.

Alicia - posted on 12/14/2009

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I have three little ones, its hard. I would say that the want for you is there to have another one, but it doesnt sound like the means are (money). Not that you can make things happen if you had to but this is really a decision that you and your husband need to decide about. Dedicating your life to having more kids now means that you will have to wait until later to live your life you know.. which isnt always a bad thing. I find myself looking forward to hs graduation more than most parents and my oldest is only 9! Having more makes it harder to get sitters or alone time with hubby, keep that in mind. But if you two do definatley want more than one, Id make the plans to have another one soon, as you really dont want to have one kid getting out of highschool while the other is in 5th grade :) Good luck to you whatever decision you guys make will be the right one :)

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im pregnant with my fifth and im the same i love the baby stage!! all my kids are 15 months apart and i love it as afr as im concerned as long as there is enough money for food and housing then thats all u need. Babies need love not expensive toys! so if u want to have another bubba go for it!

Stephanie - posted on 12/10/2009

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thanks yea im sure im not going to have another one anytime soon because my other half doesnt and the only way would be if it was a complete accident. but yea ill try to hold off until she is like 1 at least and see from there. but thanks you 2

Emma - posted on 12/10/2009

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i have a nine month old son and i am 6months pregnant with a baby girl of course im happy but i do feel that my son is suffering a bit because im unwell and starting to get big its hard to play on the floor with him i struggle to cuddle him for long wen he's upsett cause he hurts my tummy i dont know wot its going to be like once the baby is born but from my experience through the pregnancy so far i wouldnt recomend it but only u know wot is best for u good luck

Ashley - posted on 12/09/2009

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I only have one but I don't think you should have one right now. Things are tough and although they are adorable right now I think you should focus on her right now til she is about 2. Two years apart is a good distance they can grow up together. It your decision but you should just record record record and watch her videos when you need to.

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