a MUST read poem for young mothers

Frankee - posted on 11/25/2009 ( 36 moms have responded )

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For the Teen Mother;
We know who we are.
We are individuals, each with our own story and our own dreams.
We are women who had our babies in our teens.
We know who we are.

But do you?

We hear people talk about us on the street, in the store.
We read about "teen mothers" in the paper.
We wonder--"Who are they talking about?"

This is what we hear and read:

"Babies having babies.
"I hope you're babysitting!"
"Your life is over now."
"How old was she when she had him?"
"They just think their babies are dolls to dress up and show off!"
"They will be welfare mums forever."

They don't know us. Do you?
If you did, this is what you would learn...

We are individuals, and our lives are not over.
Many of us stay in our high schools, vocational schools, and colleges, and we intend to finish.
We are confident that we can reach our goals.
We look upon parenting as a challenge, not an obstacle; we are committed to our children and don't take the job of parenting for granted. We seek information and help when we need it. Of course, we like to show our babies off (What parent doesn't?). We are rightfully proud of them, not ashamed, and we know they are not dolls. We love the individuals they are, and we are excited and pleased to see them grow and develop.

We are excellent role models for our children because we are working hard to attain our goals. And... our children are not doomed or deprived because we are young. They are happy and smart and loved and cared for very much. You'd see that if you really took the time to observe before you judged us because of our age.

So--please don't talk about us as we pass. If you are so concerned, talk with us and listen.

If you are a parent, you'll find we share many of the same concerns, joys, and challenges.

Be role models for us--save your negative comments and your unasked-for advice.

Give us information and good access to birth control. But remember that a high percentage of all pregnancies are unplanned, and some of these will be teen pregnancies. All the posters in the world will not make us go away.

You can help us do our best by continuing to provide us with emotional and educational support--peer support groups and programs that help us stay in school make a difference in our lives.

Support quality subsidized child care programs so that we can work and/or go to school. Support parent education and family recreation programs that are affordable, with child care onsite.

Support temporary shelters for women with children ­as we struggle to become independent we sometimes need a safe place to stay for awhile.

And most of all, acknowledge and appreciate us for our commitment to the challenging job of parenting.

We know who we are.

We are building good lives for ourselves and our children.
We can struggle and do it alone, or you can lend us your confidence and assistance.

You can continue to view us as statistics or as part of an epidemic social problem, or you can look beyond the stereotypes and know us for who we are...

We are young mothers, each of us with our own story and our own dreams.

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Chanda - posted on 08/14/2012

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Beautiful! There are many young ladies that became young mothers and guess what most of them are better mothers than grown women that leave their children for drugs, men, or just because they are worthless mothers. I applaud these young ladies. Get off their backs with your judging and negative remarks, instead thank them for stepping up and being the best mothers they can be.

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Jada Nakayla - posted on 12/18/2013

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i swear this just made my night/morning i am 17 years old & i have a one year old daughter and i thought no one understood me until read this

Alicia - posted on 11/03/2013

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I just recently found out my 15 year old cousin is pregnant. This poem is very inspirational and so true. Like the old saying is" Don't judge a book by its cover". You have no idea that persons issues or life. Give an outsider a helping hand, sometimes the small things in life count the most.

Alexandria - posted on 12/16/2012

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i love this !! this is so true !! i feel being a young mother pushes me to do better with my life for my child ♥

BREANNE - posted on 08/14/2012

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I absolutely LOVE this!! Thanks so much this made me feel so much better! im 16 and have a 6 months old i wouldnt trade it for the world i love him so much!! people are too quick to judge!

Brooke - posted on 10/17/2010

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I love it! Thanks for posting! I have a daughter, but I am more motivated than ever to finish college. I worked full time and went to school part time for 2.5 years after having my daughter and now we are financially stable that I can work part time and be home with my daughter and my boyfriend will continue working full time. I love being able to spend my days with her and watch her grow and learn. She is the best thing that ever happened to me!

Leandrea - posted on 10/16/2010

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Hi Frankee.
This poem was written by me and i dont mind you using it but u think it is unfair that you take credit for it... i worte in in 2003 for a uni assignment.. like i said feel free to use it but please dnt put ur name to it

Emma - posted on 03/08/2010

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that is a lovely poem and so so true! i live in a small town and all through my pregnancy and even now when i got anywhere a have older parents looking down their noses at me and whispering behind my back!!! but im proud of being a teen mother, my daughter is the best thing in my life and i wouldn't change her 4 the world!!

Tessa - posted on 03/08/2010

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amazing inspiring poem! i wish we could see more of those type poems! many girls in our situations need that support.

Emma - posted on 03/08/2010

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this made me cry! its so true i get the looks and the abuse but to hell with them i am a young mum happy and proud i support my child out of my pocket not theres i work and my partner works and im only 18 so they can shove that in there pipe and smoke it as i bet we end up being better parents than them as we have the energy to do so !

Amie - posted on 01/01/2010

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I Love this poem.. I am a teen mom and everyone in my old town used to talk bad about this other girl that was pregnant in highschool and i felt so bad.. Being a mom younger i think is better because you get to do alot more things with your child than when you are older and cant do things that they wanna do..and also you know whats instyle and what kids are doing so you know what your kid is up to.
thanks for the poem :) Makes me feel good about myself being a teen mom

Lindsay - posted on 01/01/2010

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i really like that i wish more people would think that way ive lost alot of friends because they think its going to mess them up by association and they are wrong

Jenn - posted on 12/09/2009

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awesome teen mom poem ! i love it, it make me feel stronger and more confident thats for sure, i love every moment of parenting, but make sure everyone stands up to all those rude comments that are everywhere, lets show them we can do it just as good as they can !

Toni - posted on 12/06/2009

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So true it can be done. I did it. I'm a m just barely 30 now and my oldest was born when I was 16. It has been a struggle no doubt but I wouldn't trade a moment of it. I put myself through school, worked two sometimes three jobs. Had two more kids along the way. Never went on welfare and did that all by myself. My sons dad left me at 4 months pregnant. Stand proud girls it can be done!

KATRINA - posted on 12/06/2009

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THANX FOR POSTING THIS TEEN MOM POEM!! ITS VERY ENCOURAGING!! I LOVE IT BECAUSE ITS REALLY SAD THAT PEOPLE STEREOTYPE US AS YOUNG PARENTS INSTEAD OF LOOKING AT IT AS US BEING BRAVE, DETERMINED, AND "STRONG". I KNOW MY PRIORITIES AND I KEEP "GOD" FIRST IN MY LIFE CAUSE HE IS THE ONLY ONE THAT CAN JUDGE ANY OF US!!

Tameka - posted on 12/06/2009

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that is so true thank you for sharing that with everyone for all the young mother's to be out there dont listen what people have to say just be pround of what you know your doing and bring a buddle of joy into your life

Stephanie - posted on 12/04/2009

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I love this poem. It made me feel better about being a teen mom and all the crap people say. Thank-you for posting it! :)

Frankee - posted on 11/26/2009

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no probs, my friend posted it on her facebook page and i was just lik omg so tru!!

Jenn - posted on 12/09/2009

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awesome teen mom poem ! i love it, it make me feel stronger and more confident thats for sure, i love every moment of parenting, but make sure everyone stands up to all those rude comments that are everywhere, lets show them we can do it just as good as they can !

KATRINA - posted on 12/06/2009

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THANX FOR POSTING THIS TEEN MOM POEM!! ITS VERY ENCOURAGING!! I LOVE IT BECAUSE ITS REALLY SAD THAT PEOPLE STEREOTYPE US AS YOUNG PARENTS INSTEAD OF LOOKING AT IT AS US BEING BRAVE, DETERMINED, AND "STRONG". I KNOW MY PRIORITIES AND I KEEP "GOD" FIRST IN MY LIFE CAUSE HE IS THE ONLY ONE THAT CAN JUDGE ANY OF US!!

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