advice???i dont know whats going on?
Ruth - posted on 08/27/2009
hi kc! my name is Ruth and i had my 1st child when i just turned 19. i know exactly how you feel! i felt so much love for adam but completely overwhelmed too! your body has gone through so much over the last 2 months. when you are up evey few hours for feeds even through the night it takes so much out of you physicall and emotionally. i agree with the other mums that is could be post partum depression. i had this too. i didnt want to see anyone, i felt isolated, like nobody understood me, like i wasnt good enough, i cried and felt like a failure. i went to my doctors and told her how i was feeling. i was prescibed some medication to help me be balanced again until i felt stronger in myself and i was able to come off them again. i didnt have very much support even from my partner. so i found it helped to get out for a little walk everyday, to join a mother and toddler group where you can meet new mothers and make friends, to call friends that can babysit a few hours so you can sleep or take a relaxing bath or just go out to the cinema, i slept when the baby slept too. all these little steps made a huge impact. my son was a poor sleeper at night but by the time i had my daughter i became a so very strict, the best thing i done was develop a strict nighttime routine. i bathed her, massaged her with baby oil then dressed her, gave her her bottle then placed her in her cot with a musical teddy. i started this the minute she was brought home form hospital. the bath routine started at 11pm until i gradually brought it forward 30 mins every so many days until she was sleeping from 7pm to 7am. if i can help anymore let me know. please dont worry it does get better. x
Laura - posted on 08/25/2009
I didn't have post partum depression with my son, but with my daughter I did. I didn't have it bad enough to be put on anything. I had it until she was 8 months old. A lot of it was because right after she was born my dad and my brother moved to Oklahoma to help out my grandparents, and I was also overwhelmed with the house work, and two kids and hubby. What helped me a lot was talking to my hubby all the time. My daughter is now 19 months old (going to be 20 months tomorrow), and every now and then I just start to cry. I know that when that happens I'm more overwhelmed than what I thought. And like someone has already said it could be happiness and sadness mixed together. I was that I had a new baby, but I was because two of the most important people to me moved out state right after she was born.
Becca - posted on 08/22/2009
honey, my son is 14 months now, and I still cry over little things. I think it could be a bit of the hormones. Or you know, just lack of sleep. Also it could be happy and sad mixed together. and amazing baby, and sad could be just staying home, going a bit stir crazy. Just messge me if you need to talk! lol!
Amber - posted on 08/21/2009
if its not really bad, its just the "baby blues"...thats normal!! if it lasts more than just a couple weeks or gets REALLY bad, see a doctor because its probably postpartum depression. when the placenta was delivered, the hormones stopped. your body is still trying to get used to the dropped levels. it sounds like its not too bad right now so dont worry about it.
Kc - posted on 08/19/2009
the werid thing is i dont really feel lost likei feel in control of things.. i just get the werid teary moments i have a werid appetite now but
im just confused because i get the teary feelings but not the "sad" type things
just very confused!!
Rene' - posted on 08/19/2009
It sounds like you are having postpartum depression which can be very serious. Check www.babycenter.com for help. I had it with my fourth child at age 27 and it only got worse. Plus my child suffered because I was so LOST!! here is a clip from that webpage. Good luck
If your mood doesn't lift after two weeks, you may have postpartum depression (PPD). Up to 20 percent of new mothers experience clinical depression, which can surface any time within the first postpartum year.
Symptoms of PPD include:
• weepiness or sadness
• diminished interest in once pleasurable activities
• difficulty concentrating
• change in appetite
• moodiness and irritability
• withdrawal from family and friends
• excessive guilt
• panic attacks (symptoms include a racing heart, dizziness, confusion, and feelings of impending doom)
• suicidal, scary, or constant negative thoughts
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