alcohol and drug use during pregnancy

MX - posted on 04/07/2010 ( 117 moms have responded )

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any mums used meth, sleeping pills(benzos) and alcohol during pregnancy? i heard there will be birth defects is it true.

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Danelle - posted on 04/09/2010

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um eleisha...? birth control doesnt ALWAYS work... and no, i didnt forget to take mine so dont pull that one on me before you say anything.



and also the people who didnt read MX T's post saying that she stopped when she found out? scroll down the page before you keep having psychos at her, we're supposed to be giving advice not saying that shes irresponsible or selfish- she didnt plan her pregnancy therfore didnt know she was pregnant at the time she was doing whatever she was doing so she cant really be spoken to that way its not kind, she posted asking for us to give advice because she was obviously unsure of the answer and worried so stop 'shaming' her- shame on you for being rude and just posting to have a go at her when she was basically asking for help, how would you like it if u asked complete strangers for advice and most of them were just hateful replies. if your guna say something give her the truth but you dont really need to start on her while you say it, sure if her using while not realising she was pregnant pisses you off then jeez keep it too yourself because your just starting arguements between all of us and noone wants that do they? :)



im not perfect btw i was experimenting and all that jazz before i realised i was pregnant and so far my baby's perfectly fine from all the tests and scans ive had so far, i thought i was 2 months pregnant (in january) when i stopped doing all the crap i was doing (tho i had stopped most of the heavy stuff and was only smoking and drinking (with the occasional joint) before i found out) and i stopped as soon as i found out, but when i went into my first doc's appointment later that week i found out i'd been pregnant much longer than that (since september) and i was shocked and afraid for my baby and for the same reasons that MX T's asked her question and i did stop as soon as i was aware that i was pregnant though it was a little late, but hey, its not my fault my period didnt miss till i'd already been 2 months and it was october.



anyway sometimes theres a defect and sometimes there isnt. either way its good that you stopped just incase. i know how hard it is to quit something cold turkey especially if its a number of things and its not fun but its the best thing you couldve done in that category. just remember to keep eating right and keep taking those iron/folate tablets those doctors oh so do try to cram down your throat :)



congrats and goodluck with your your pregnancy hun and have a safe and wonderful birth.

xx

September - posted on 04/08/2010

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Wow! Some of these responses are just ridiculous! Christina here is a link so that these teen moms whom you've given advice to and agree with you can educate themselves a little bit better since you're way off on that one!

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/prenata...



And Alycia "Smoking isn't that dangerous although it has a lot of risks" what the hell does that mean? Of course smoking while pregnant is dangerous and has tons of risks! I read so may post from teenage mothers that ask "why do teen moms have such bad reps". Well here are a couple great examples!

Brittany - posted on 04/07/2010

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Well since this is a very specific question and you're not talking in general terms I'm going to assume you have been doing those things which isn't good but I'm not here to lecture you. I didn't go to the doctor until I have almost 2 months left. I drank one time in maybe the first 3 months (stopped once I found out for sure), smoked through all but the last month or two (not looking for people to lecture me, i cut down but the shit i went through was too stressful to stop), and did one other substance I'm not naming because it's really nobody's business (I did it before I even missed my first period). They thought (based on ultrasounds) that my son's corpus collosum was severed (thats the thing that connects the two sides of your brain) and then they though he either has a cyst on his cerebellum or that he had extra fluid around it. It turned out to be nothing but it still scared the shit out of me. I can't say whether or not the drugs and alcohol played a part, that's just what happened with my child. It's really just a game of chance, some babies come out with problems and some don't.

Mindy - posted on 04/07/2010

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I do know that the 1st trimester is the most important, that's why you stop all the bad things you're doing to your body cause now you have a little one in you now. So it's not about you anymore, it's about your unborn child. Yes everyone is different, i know that. That's why its called advice, you either take it or leave it. Im just saying i have done drugs and i know what she is asking

Courtnee - posted on 09/04/2012

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I don't know your situation, but I do know stopping ANYTHING cold turkey will also put the baby through the withdrawls you go through. I smoked 2 packs a day when i found out I was pregnant, and slowly started quitting. At the end of the pregnancy, I'd have a cigarette every other day. I drank 1 - 2 glasses of wine a day. And my son came out PERFECT!!! But hard drugs are another story.. Just think of the baby, with whatever you do. :))

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Kimone - posted on 10/08/2012

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yes i last drink when i was 3weeks pregnant what may happen to the baby am worried???

Tabitha - posted on 08/22/2012

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Yes very very late on this but.....doesn't everyone understand if you decide to have sex you are deciding that you can have a baby to? pfffft if you do not want a baby or are not ready for a baby DONT HAVE SEX! It wasn't an accident if you could have prevented it! The sob story needs to stop, teens are much smarter than we give them credit for!

Rebecca - posted on 08/22/2012

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I totally disagree with putting any sort of chemical into your body during pregnancy. I used to smoke and when I found out I was pregnant, I quit immediatly. The thought of hurting my unborn child made me feel ill, and I couldn't face any guilt if she had been hurt from my habit. I can't help that feel that anyone who does this sort of thing during pregnancy is being totally selfish. Especially if they are smoking, drinking large amounts. I say this as I have a close family member who has smoked pot throughout both her pregnancies. She claims that her first son has no i'll effects from her daily habit, but now at age nine he has been diagnosed with a mild form of dislexia and has trouble comcentrating at school. She has now just had her second child and hopefully he is ok. The other issue, I struggle with is the fact that she and her partner smoke around their children. The thought disgusts me. I hope that the children will be ok, but the long term exposure i'm probably doing them harm. For me becoming a parent meant I put the safety of my children first. I only wish others could see how poor choices can affect the lives of innocent children.

Stephanie - posted on 07/12/2012

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why would you even consider taking meth and drinking in the 1st place knowing that you are pregnent??? i think its just being selfish to be honest!!

Carin - posted on 07/11/2012

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I'm a little old to be in this conversation. However, I hope my experience helps you all decide what is best for you. Obviously Drugs is the worst thing you can do, whether pregnant or not. However, When it comes to smoking cigarettes... Each person and DOCTOR has their own opinions. We should respect each others decisions and not be cruel, often times we do not understand the circumstances in someone else's situation. So PLEASE be respectful of each other.
I have an almost 2 yr old son. He's perfect. Perfect weight, Proportionate, Smart... Everything you can imagine as a beautiful healthy little baby boy. I am currently pregnant with my daughter. She is due in August.
I have had 5 miscarriages in my lifetime. They were linked to me QUITTING smoking. It's documented in the hospital records.
The simple truth which people do not want to hear about smoking while pregnant, is that not only are you addicted to the nicotine, so is your unborn child. You can quit 3 months before getting pregnant and still be going through withdraw. It's really a huge debate between doctors too.
With my son, I got not just one separate opinion, but 3. Even though, I knew smoking was harmful to the infant and undoubtably to myself, I made a choice. That choice was to give my child a chance. No matter if he came out with some kind of defect, he deserved a chance to live. If I quit, He would have been going threw withdraw himself. And any amount of undue stress upon the fetus can cause a miscarriage. It was a very hard decision. But going over my own hospital records with the doctors, I too saw a pattern.
So the decision I made... Was to give him a fighting chance. I continued smoking, but cut back drastically. They couldn't save him while he was inside of me, if something went wrong and I had yet again, another miscarriage. But if he was born, and had a heart murmur or something do to my smoking, they had a chance at saving his life. I knew the risks. For me, Quitting smoking could have killed him.
He's alive, taking a nap in the next room. Some would say it was the smoking that makes him on the bottom tier of the charts for his size and age... However, Genetics is the key factor. On both my husbands side and my side of the family, We have VERY short people. He's not dwarfed or anything. His dad is 5'5 and I'm 5'2. We're both the tallest in our families. Matthias is just like us by Genetics, not by me smoking.
I was prepared for the consequences. HE turned out just fine.
Now also, Smoking affects people differently. Some people, like my grandma, can smoke their entire lives and never get a hint of cancer. Some people can smoke for month and get cancer. Breathing the air outside, with all the smog and pollution is just as harmful as smoking. It's really a hit or miss.
Yes, Smoking INCREASES RISK... I say the word again... RISK... It is NOT the cause! People whom never smoked in their lives have children born with defects. What is that excuse? Nothing. We just need something to blame and smoking is a good blame. Just like we blame god or the devil for things in our lives.
Well, Like I said earlier... We all have our own opinions and we all also have our own choices to make and no one can make them for us. People may say bad things about me for smoking, but in my mind... I am at peace with my decision. I chose to give him a fighting chance and he lived. After 5 miscarriages due to nicotine withdraw... I didn't quit, I cut back and I had my first child, finally...
Just remember the key factor here is our children, inside of us, eat and drink everything we do. If you smoke, their addicted too. And believe me, the crying from withdraw is so disheartening and sad, you cry too. But they have a battle to get over withdraw just like you. If the damage has already been done, there's nothing you can do. From the moment of conception, that babies soul life provider is you and what you provided (no matter how far along from 0 weeks to 8 weeks) the baby got too.
So I do encourage not smoking at all... But in my situation, I couldn't put the fetus under stress and cause yet another miscarriage. I chose to smoke. It may be different for each one of you. By your posts, I can clearly see that.
No two bodies or babies are the same. So always do what YOU feel is best. And don't let peer pressure dictate your life choices. And I know from personal experience, The people who pressure you the most are the people who do not understand. I divorced my ex because he was pressuring me to quit smoking so bad that he became my biggest enemy and worst fear... Being a Tyrant, even with a good cause, is still being a Tyrant... Make the decision for yourself, not because of someone else.

Megan - posted on 06/18/2012

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Im only posting on this thread because I seen someone say that smoking is not that dangerous during pregnancy. I myself have never been a smoker but my sister smoked through her whole pregnancy ended up delivering her baby almost 2 months early because her water was leaking from all her hacking and coughing from the smoking he spent 2 weeks in nicu and almost died. so yes its very dangerous! As far as drugs and alcohol and drugs I dont know my sister in law smoked pot with both of her pregnancies and one of her boys turned out great but the other has a very hard time focusing on tasks. If you do it you have to be prepared for the consequences.

Tia - posted on 06/10/2012

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honestly if anyone is thinking of doing drugs during pregnancy, they shouldnt have the baby....

Lauren - posted on 06/10/2012

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hello i am new on here i went to thehospitial lastnight my contractions where 2 to 3 mins apart they sent me home cause i wasnt in labor they said have to o into labor and these contraction really hurt what can i do besides just sex can make me go in to labor i am 36 weeks and 2 days i am having a girl they said they wasnt going to stop the contractions. can you give me sum avice..and yes its my first child..

Shakira - posted on 03/05/2012

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Drugs and alcohol is not good for your body! Common sense should tell you that its not healthy for your unborn child. rather it harms the baby or not, shouldn't be the questions.If you want a healthy baby,in my opinion you should stop both drugs and alcohol.i found out i was pregnant at 6(wks).I was smoking marijuana, cigarettes and i was drinking..the moment i found out i was pregnant i stopped, no if, and or buts(it wasn't easy).. people was telling me i can still drink to im 3months..but once again common sense told me if i want a healthy baby..make healthy choices!

Shae - posted on 04/17/2010

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It increases the risk of birth defects. And it will make bubby very small. I can understand that for people with addictions that it can be hard to stop, but even if you cant stop completely,you need to cut down. I was smoking and taking drugs but when I found out I was pregnant, I stopped straight away because I couldnt stand the thought of hurting my baby.

And unlucky for me, my bub ended up with a birth defect anyway (even though it is fixable after birth).

It hurts me so much to see so many people take drugs and smoke etc when theyre pregnant and end up with a perfectly normal bub when I know that I stopped and have tried to do everything thats best for my baby and she still has to go through a struggle. :(



BUT somebody is always worse off then you I guess. :)

Shelby - posted on 04/15/2010

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my opinion about using either of those is not doing it because you have a chance of killing your baby or making them have health issues so why do it? i would not do it, its not worth it, your kids life is more important then drugs or alcohol.

Carly - posted on 04/14/2010

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Kayle the fact that you think I am starting crap really shows your maturity level... I am just stating facts and I don't understand why people like you even bother adding anything. Have you ever heard the saying " if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all" ? And it doesn't even necessarily have to be nice but at least constructive not destructive... do you really think that MX T needs anyone else to beat her up over choices she made before she knew she was prengant? Being a mother you already know that instinctivly we all worry about EVERYTHING to begin with and you adding to her stress and worries isn't doing anyone any good including yourself. Don't you think that she is already worried enough without you or anyone else adding to it? She wasn't assking for judgement she wanted advice... and you may have gave some advice but your convictions aren't what she was looking for and I don't think needed. It was just rude and mean.

Alishia - posted on 04/14/2010

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i agree with september. Not to be mean or anything but if your on drugs and drinking all the time and cant quit then your obviously not mature enough to have a baby....BUT like you said MINDY its advice so take it or leave it. and yes the first trimester are the most important

Nicole - posted on 04/14/2010

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i didn't find out i was pregnant until i was 3 months along. and i got drunk a couple times when i didn't know i was pregnant. when i found out i was like omg my poor baby and i felt horrible, but she had no defects. but i wouldn't advise people to drink or do drugs when they are pregnant, thats dumb. i was a smoker also and i quit after i found out.

Nicole - posted on 04/14/2010

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Kayle wtf are you doing in the teen mom chat if you family was sooo planned. People like you judge women like us just to justify your decisions and try to make yourself feel better about your life. I don't care if your children were planned or if you are married, with a house, and had your job for ten damn years, I could care less!!!! Don't respond to post you can't relate to. My daughter was unplanned, I am a stay at home mom, and I live with my parents....but my daughter has more love, attention, support and care than you could imagine. Some people like to raise tight nit families and live together. It takes a village to raise a child not a couple!!!! So go live your "perfect" life which you are obviously not so happy with otherwise you wouldn't be BASHING TEEN MOTHER'S!!!!

Ashley - posted on 04/14/2010

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And another thing, ALWAYS be 100% honest with your doctor. They're not going to arrest you or send you to rehab, they're not going to lecture you or put you down, they're only going to do the best they can to help you. And hopefully you made your doctor aware that you did do drugs in the begining jsut so they can do the neccesary tests and watch out for things they need to depending on what you've done. Good luck!

Ashley - posted on 04/14/2010

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Wow.. So congradulations! You are a strong woman for leaving! I think it's bull crap that people who planned their pregnancies are saying anything about that.. Accidents happen.. I'm sure you were one, too. And so what if someone accidentally got pregnant, at least ths girl is being responsible. I didn't even finish reading all the posts and still after she said she quit a few times people continued to put her down. A woman has got to do what a womans got to do. And frankly, I think she did. If yu've ever tried anything addictng [drugs, food, video games, hypocracy] then you know how hard it is to stop. You are not a bad person if you try drugs. Its your body and life, do with it what you will. Yes, when you know you're pregnant or even think you are you should stop. NOW, she was not saying I'm a meth head and I OD on sleeping pills everyday and I'm an alcoholic, SHE SAID, I heard there will birth defects from meth, benzos and alcohol during pregnancy, is that true? She was asking for an opinion on those drugs because she tried them and then found out she was pregnant. I can't believe you MOTHERS can yell at this girl that's seaking your help and advice.. Some mothers you are. I know I don't want to be your kid going to you with a problem. You'll just bitch and lecture and probably make the situation worse.. Man.. Grow up you older less mature mothers. Grow up.

Good luck with your little one! I wish you the best of luck. Don't ever let anyone get you down, because you are a strong, smart, loving woman and mother. You will be okay, so will your little girl.

Yes, if you know you're pregnant and you do drugs you're stupid! But if you ask advice, you're being smart. Just grow up ladies!

Kat - posted on 04/13/2010

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no i didnt use any of them but yes its tru and anything in your body goes into the baby drug and alcohol use could also cause the baby to be mentally retarted

Anna - posted on 04/13/2010

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i think you should close your post hun this is getting ugly. There can be birth defects but the best thing for you to do is to discuss all of this with your doctor. congrats on your lil one :)

Dana - posted on 04/13/2010

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MX T: like i said, i have been in ur shoes, u aren't doing anything anymore so focus on that. Don't woder or worry if ur child has been affected by thingd u cannot take back. Just focus on the future and wht u can do now from this point on. That is the important thing now. I am here for u if u need avice or want to talk to someone that RELLY no's wht ur going through. chat me up any time! Good luck and God bless!

Tara - posted on 04/13/2010

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People and dr's say yes but they also say no. Remember we always hear about the bad never the good. I didnt know that I was preg til I was almost 5 months preg because i wass on the depo shot for birth control and well let's just say it didnt work.. And of course on the depo shot not everyone has a period so when i wasnt having my period i didnt think anything bc i normally didnt have it anyways, So i thought all was fine. I am for sure not proud of what I am about to say but at the same time please try to remember that i really didnt know that i was preg because I am so not tht type of person..So like a year before I got preg I got put one Perk's (for my back pain) It was very bad and I really did need something well when those would run out early I would find something else (of course), and Then my problem just got worse and worse I knew that my back hurt but it didnt hurt as bad as i was maken it out to be (of course)...

So Of course I didnt get into everything on here, But I will say it was alot worse then just perk's.. I was using every single day.. When I found out I was preg, I was at the dr's office the very next day ((even thou it was a saturday)) I was more honest with that dr then I ever was with anyone in my life before, I felt so bad, I didnt even know what to do with myself. I told the dr that i didnt want to get into the clinic because I didnt want my kid to be on methadone (I'm now on methadone but would never have a child on it.) so she told me to still use but do not use to get HIGH use to make it so that my child and myself are not sick, so that is just what i did and I was only doing vike's at this point and maybe some perk's at first which isnt that bad might sound it but if you know the drug world it really isn't. So I was using so just make sure we wasnt sick for a week, then once day 8 came along I was doing half of what i did the week before like day 1 - 7, and then day 12 I was off it all and done wit it, and wanted NOTHING to do wit it. He (aka my son, Dakota) was home not even 2 days after I hadd him and if i would have went to the clinic he would have been in the hospital for atleast 2 weeks maybe even 2 months so yah I am proud that i did what i had to do. And if anyone is using drugs while there preg please please dont be selfish and think about your child, they didnt ask to be brought into this world all messed up.

Oh one last thing, my son was 100% healthy right when I had him, and now he is 5 days old and he is still very very A++ healthy and as happy as could be. I just hope no one is using as they know that they are preg. I am agenst that. Good Lcuk!

Kayle - posted on 04/13/2010

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Carly---Maybe you should have read all of my posts before starting crap with me. I did give her some advice. Yes, My pregnancy was planned. I also have worked at my job for over a year, have my own house, have been with my hubby for 2 years. It doesn't matter your age if you are in a steady and stable place in your life.

Carly - posted on 04/13/2010

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Kayle you are a piece of work... you are a teen mom and are still ranting about planned pregnancy... you may have "planned" your pregnancy but honestly as a teen planning a pregnancy is no smarter than it just happening. And for your information the IUD birthcontrol that "you don't even have to worry about" is what I got pregnant on. If you are going to judge people and not give any advice then don't repost. MX T didn't ask for your opinion on planned pregnancy she was asking for advice on somthing that concerned her with choices she had made. You are not in any position to judge anyone....

MX T when my boyfriend and I were trying to get pregnant this last time I had a blood test done that came back negative for pregnancy so I went out and had a few drinks because the blood tests are supposed to be 100% possitive and I wasn't worried about hurting my baby. Came to find out I was already 8 weeks along and the blood test had been wrong. When I went to the doctor he said that the drinking and smoking I had done up until then probably would not effect the baby becuase at that early in the pregnancy the baby is so well protected by your body that it would take more than a few drinks to hurt her. So I know the fear you are talking about. I still wonder. All my tests came back normal but you really wont know anything for sure until the baby is born. Good luck in your future and honestly... don't let what others say bother you becuase they are not in your shoes and don't know anymore about you than this one question.... people who judge are those who think they are better than you and No One is better than you are! :-)

Brittnii - posted on 04/13/2010

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MX T-they arent going to take your baby away from you...that is a load of crap...the only way they can is if you are still doing the drugs and as u said your not...some states yes weather u quit or not they will take your baby...other states they will send your baby with family and put u in rehab to recover completely weather your doing the drugs or not...
just keep doing what you are doing. your doing fine :) ignore all the negative and take in the good :) good luck :D

Sicily - posted on 04/12/2010

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um... i used pain pills while i was pregnant... not because i wanted to but because i had to... and because of it... my son was born underdeveloped even though he was over due.. he was small... he had half his skull unformed... and he has quite a few muscle deficiencies... it is a very bad idea to use any drugs or drink while u are pregnant... i didnt have much of a choice... and it still damaged my son...

Katie - posted on 04/12/2010

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i can honestly say i understand how you feel, im 18 years old and have done my share of partying.....one particular one stands out in my mind because i did alot of messed up things...two days later i found out i was pregnant my biggest worry is whether or not any of that has effected my baby, i talked to my dr and she told me that as long as i stopped since then i should be fine, but with the drinking they can never tell with how much it effected the fetus or if it actually did....i think that as long as you stopped and your doing what you can to keep you and your baby healthy things will be ok. :)

Katie - posted on 04/12/2010

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ok, its ur life do what u will but that is crap.....the baby deserves better, when ur not pg go for it. i can tell u this if the baby is born addicted, it happens, they can and will take it from u.

Andrea - posted on 04/12/2010

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WOW. This feed is stupid. Why bash a young mother on her journey to change. She Quit, GREAT. Making someone feel guilty, after this enormous change is rude. She changed her ways for someone other than herself, how is she selfish? She did her job to become clean for this baby. Better for her to get the truth out than to keep in all inside. She could of been like other addicts and just said 'sqrew it'. She needed this feed and YOU people to give her support to STAY clean and to have a SOMEONE to support her. For all you mothers that had no positive or educational feedback you really aren't good role models. As women we need to support and nurture one another. What if this was your daughter?? Dont give shitty or crude comments, and If you just dont care then maybe you shouldnt be on Circle of Moms. Go crawl over to the circle of bitch and have fun in your 'perfect', 'planned', and/or 'snobby' little lives.

MX - posted on 04/12/2010

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April 10, 11:56 pm .I know someone who used speen thru her pregnancy, the baby had a deformed face and was missing an eye.. Drugs are bad fullstop. Its good that you have stopped, bu please dont star up again like many people do. I went thru the worst shit when i was pregnant, and didnt ever feel the need for drugs or grog when before i was preg i was a fairly heavy drinker. my son breathes too fast and i stopped drinking at 4weeks preg when i found out.. my other friend smoked and drank thru her whole pregnancy and only turned out with a very old looking baby


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8:22 am .A friend of mine drank a couple of beers while she was pregnant. One night at the bar I looked at her and said, "You are really going to hate yourself when your kid comes out retarded" (she was about 6 or 7 months along). She had her baby a couple of months later and he got meningitis when he was 2 weeks old so he was admitted to the hospital. They did ultrasounds on his brain and they found out that he was missing huge chunks of his brain matter, like literally there were pockets of air inside his brain.

***lindsay: i think u're just here to make people uncomfortable and uneasy by making up all these stories.. first u got a friend who has a kid miss one eye, now u got a friend who has a kid miss a chunk of the brain. are u psyco or what why are u here trying to make people feel disturded. YUCK.

Brittany - posted on 04/12/2010

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ok so i feel these conversations are supposed to help one another not start arguments, this site is here to help one another not act as though you know everything and I feel that some of these responses are ridiculous. YES doing those drugs is definately negative towards a pregnancy and i honestly dont know what kind of question that is BUT I DO NOT agree with the way that some of these "adult" mothers are going about their responses.

Hannah , i agree with you! September, you need to come out of your shell, its not just "teenage" moms who get bad reps. ALOT of moms period get bad reps and its what they chose to do and the decisions they make that give them personally a bad rep. I am 20 years old and pregnant with my first child. and i am disguisted with how some of you are treating this girl , she asked for advice not put downs. Its people like YOU (ex September) that make the world a NEGATIVE place, with racism and the "im better than you " attitude. GROW UP AND GET YOUR HEAD OUT OF YOUR ASS! yes there are alot of people period who lack knowledge when it comes to pregnancy and thats normal. its not just teenagers who lack the knowledge in fact most teenagers are made aware of alot of things to do with sex and pregnancy when they reach high school so really they could know more than an "adult" .

I just feel there are much better ways to go about telling someone something then being so negative and putting them down. you are not better than anyone and we are given the journey of LIFE for a reason, it has many roads to chose from and even if you make the wrong turn you can learn from that turn and get back on track.

every person is different.every female is different. some have allergies some dont. some gain alot of weight some dont. some women show tremendously and some dont show at all!!! we are different for a reason! try to remember that when you tell someone your FACTS!

Logan - posted on 04/12/2010

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U should not smoke drink or do any drugs all of these things can be devastatingly harmful for ur baby and if u care at all u will stop and cristina galluzzi thats the most ignorant thing ive ever heard everythingu do from the time of conception directly affects ur baby dont give advice if u dont know ur facts wow!

Brittnii - posted on 04/12/2010

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MX T-ust ignore everything...as long as u stopped and your going to be the best mommy u can be then forget what everyone says...your doing a good job and owning up to what u did wrong. just keep your head up and your body and baby healthy and you and your baby will be fine :)
your other question- every pregnancy is different. a lot of women dont show until the last few months. and some dont show at all...my friend was 145lbs and 9 months pregnant she didnt even have a bump...but her baby came out 8lbs 2 oz. lol so who knows u might not show at all :) good luck ♥

Kayle - posted on 04/11/2010

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Lauren maybe you should have read my comments completely before you made one towards me. I never said that people who have unplanned pregnancies should have disabled children. I said I don't get how people who do not do anything stupid (do drugs, smoke, drink, etc.) have kids with disabilities while people who do do stupid things have perfectly well children. To me this is not fair at all. Why should the smart parents have to suffer?

Heather - posted on 04/11/2010

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of course there are defects. they dont say they do fortheir health. not only do you have a chance of birth defects but death. an addicted baby goes through so much pain from withdrawl. it is sad that people would harm theyr childern who cant defend them selves and possibly kill them. shows how much they really care about the child they are caryring

Kirsty - posted on 04/11/2010

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ok the things people are saying is giving me full visions of tiny babies being ill and deformed n im not pregnat so please ease up on this girl with all these thing u guys are saying if anything is guna make her miscarry due to stress n stuff leave her alone shes done the right thing by giving up atleast congratulate her at least shes honest enough to admit it would you have balls to or is the whole "a friend of mine" "my sister in law" etc actually you and u dont want anyone to think any lower of you i thought this was a support network not a bitching session of see who can say the harshest thing in my eyes ur the selfish ones

Lyndsay - posted on 04/11/2010

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A friend of mine drank a couple of beers while she was pregnant. One night at the bar I looked at her and said, "You are really going to hate yourself when your kid comes out retarded" (she was about 6 or 7 months along). She had her baby a couple of months later and he got meningitis when he was 2 weeks old so he was admitted to the hospital. They did ultrasounds on his brain and they found out that he was missing huge chunks of his brain matter, like literally there were pockets of air inside his brain.

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i am not a smoker
i rarely drink nowadays (did all that in the past when i was 15-16) but i had a couple of boozy nights out before i found out i was expecting (just finished college .. had a college leavers do) and i completely regretted these nights as soon as i found out i was a mum to be.
my son is perfectly healthy 14month old.

however my younger sister's friend drank pretty much all the way through her pregnancy and her son was born with his bowels outside of his body.
she said it isn't to do with drink .. but me and my sis bet she didn't tell them she drank at the scan and although it could happen to anyone i bet drinking increases the likelihood of it happening. her logan son is about 9months now born a month early.. spent the first 4-5months of his life in SCBU at the hospital .. is slighty behind for his age and on the small side.
he also has a very weak immune system and suffered from quite a few bugs whilst recovering.

Dana - posted on 04/11/2010

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u are incorrect i hate to tell u! Ur baby is given drugs in the hospital if they seem to be born with an addiction. I agree that it isn't a wise decision to have a baby born with an addiction and yes, it is somewht selfish, but it is also difficult to stop using if you are addicted! ur body NEEDS wht ever drug u have been putting into ur body. There are non-narcotic drugs to get you off opiates/benzos which are the only to that give you a physical addiction. Ur baby is safly weined off this non-narcotic drug after he or she is born and given a controled amount for a duration of a month to make this baby drug free. they do not however have any pain whn it comes to withdrawal so get ur facts toots!!!

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i am so glad u said that!! if u are an addict, it isn't that easy just to "STOP" ! I find it extreamly uncompashinate to any1 that responded to thi who doesn't understnd! I myself am a RECOVERING addict who is happily been drug free for 10 months (1 month before i found out i was pregnant) and have never tried this hard to be clean for my unborn child. I would like to tell any expecting mother that has refrained from using any form of drugs while pregnant, that i no 1st hand how difficult it is, and you are to be commended!! best of luck and feel free to contact me any time any woman who may need that extra push through a particular day that may be harder then others!!

Mindy - posted on 04/11/2010

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i started to show when i was 6 months. Like i said though, everyone is different.

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MXT: I weighed 98 lbs when i found out i was pregnant and gain 26 pounds for my entire pregnancy. While i was pg, i was not big like other women who were pg at the time. I looked like a skinny girl with a basketball under my shirt. As soon as i had my son, my "basketball" went away. LOL. Everyone is different, don't compare your size to anyone. If you have any questions, ask your doc. :)

MX - posted on 04/11/2010

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im wondering if my baby bump isnt tt protruding yet is tt normal? its still kinda small if i compare it to my fellow pregnant friends.. and some of which is even few feeks earlier than my pregnancy.

Jenna - posted on 04/11/2010

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&& to everyone else in this post...it is a horrible thing to harm your unborn child by being selfish, but unplanned pregnancies happen & sometimes women need help to get off the drugs, & thats OKAY, in fact its wonderful that there are so many resources & people out there willing to help in such a situation. the continuance of drug use AFTER the child is born is whats sick to me, i feel that in order to be a good parent not only must you take care of your child, but you must take care of yourself as well...because without you (or a good parental figure) your baby is helpless.

Jenna - posted on 04/11/2010

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majority of the time YES and if no defects are found at birth the baby will be in much pain going through withdraws of the drugs and often times will develop learning disabilities later in life, with alcohol use there has not been established a "safe" amount a pregnant woman can consume while pregnant, so doctors tell you its best not to drink at all. the only drugs a woman should take while pregnant are those advised by their doctor. if a woman addicted to street drugs finds herself pregnant there are so many places that will offer to help them quit and pregnant woman are always put first on "waiting lists" at rehab centers. stay strong and consider the beauty of life growing inside of you.
source- im a criminal justice/psych major, working to be a rehab counselor =]

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my mom is a nurse and she has had to watch newborn babies go through withdrawals a couple hours after they are born and she said its the saddest thing in the world and that the baby is so miserable so please if you are doing these things stop once you find out...the sooner the better!

Hannah - posted on 04/11/2010

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thank u very much, my midwife said the same thing she said that theres more of chance sumthing would happend to the baby if i quit while i was pregnant, my son was on time but was a bit small. other then that he was 1 healthy baby from the day he was conceived

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