Angie - posted on 08/10/2010 ( 13 moms have responded )
my daughters father is not in her life...my fiance josh treats her just like she is his and tells everybody she is his...he is her daddy and shes a daddys girl...her father does not try to see her, has not seen her since christmas. he doesnt come to my apartment and call to see her. ( i have changed my number and he does not have the new one but he did have the old one and never tried) . he does drugs and will not get a job . he does pay some child support because he gets help from the state and they take it directly from him. he doesnt act like he wants to be a father or in her life.it seems to me like he uses my daughter to get to me. he wants to be with me and i cannot be with someone who wont man up and take care of his responsibilities, plus im with someone who loves me and my daughter. i did see him the other day and he tried to talk to me and look in my car at my daughter. i ignored him and drove off. i feel like i am right in not letting him see her when he sees us in public. he has not made any kind of effort for her at all..he is friends with my cousin and my cousin has offered to drive him to my apartment ( i live an hour away) to see my daughter and has offered to help him buy things for my daughter. he refuses everything. he'd rather do drugs and sit at home them get a job and help with my daughter. we are not struggling whatsoever but if the situation was reversed, i'd being doing everything in my power to see my daughter. i guess i cant fathom why a father would not try to see their child. i want to know if im wrong for not letting him see her when we are in public. ( i do not feel like he should be able to show off in public and trying to act like a dad just because there are other people around.) if he were to make an effort to see her by coming to my apartment and helping support her, then i would have no problem with him seeing her when i go to his town to visit my grandma. am i wrong?