am i wrong?

Alyssa - posted on 08/19/2010

you are doing what you is right not think anything bad of how everything is you cant go into his head and change the way he is.

Angie - posted on 08/13/2010

i'd like to know what you are talking about when you say i need professional help for me to be happy?!??!?! (maybe im taking it the wrong way..idk)

Larissa - posted on 08/13/2010

You are not wrong at all. I have the exact same situation going on in my life too. If he wants to be in your daughter's life then he needs to start acting like it. It would just hurt your daughter if she is ever exposed to drugs or drinking. You need to lay down the law, you know what is best for your daughter and if he is not what is best for your daughter then so be it.

Meriah - posted on 08/13/2010

your not wrong whatsoever hunny keep your head high and keep doing right for you and your child!

Marie - posted on 08/12/2010

... another point Xmas and maybe birthdays are times some give and take could take place for your child's sake, but then in the end of the day, welfare of any child is always top of the list, as you already know.

Marie - posted on 08/12/2010

.. in a hurry that is of corse whoever wants to see your daughter, and that is regardless of been blood related.
As the old saying goes can pick you friends, but not ya relies. _:) Or then simply move far away, then lead on with your own life.
If they want to see you, set a mutual place and time. If they don't like this to bad, as no child should be in the middle, then lest any relative has seen the child. Be strong you get there -:)

Marie - posted on 08/12/2010

Professional help needed for you to truly be Happy.

Also in cases with Children simply always be there when "whoever" wants to she your daughter, set boundaries.

Pamela - posted on 08/12/2010

I am in a similar situation with my 13 year old, his father left him when he was 6 months old and I am now married and my husband has been in his life since then. Just recently his father has returned from
Florida where he was living and has not tried to contact him at all. I have to agree with the fact that if he decides he wants to be part of your daughters life later on down the road you need to let that happen just because you do not want to be the bad one let her decide. You are doing the right thing by protecting your daughter and don't let anyone make you feel bad about it!

Sarh - posted on 08/10/2010

That sounds EXACTLY like my daughter's father!!! However, I haven't seen no more then $100 in child support with in the past 4.5yrs!! My daughter is such a daddy's girl (w/my fiancee). They love each other as if they were blood! i do not find you to be wrong, you are protecting your child in which it is the mother's responsibility!! Keep doing what you are doing!

Angie - posted on 08/10/2010

thank you guys for your comments...this is going to sound dorky but i started crying when i read them. i was expecting to get some rude comments to be honest. hearing what you have to say has been a great relief to me. thank you so much!

Stephanie - posted on 08/10/2010

You doing the right thing for your child. :)

K - posted on 08/10/2010

Wow, our situations sound exactly the same and I don't think you're wrong at all! Like you said they just want to show off the baby and that they're a dad but behind closed doors they have nothing to do with it. In my opinion, he needs to earn it and he clearly hasn't. When the opportunities are given to him and he turns them down, whether it's to do drugs or to go to church he still chooses something over her and that's not something a REAL father does. He doesn't deserve for people to think he looks like a great dad when he isn't. I think if he stepped up and actually showed some interest when it isn't just an act, then it would make sense but until then I think you're defintely doing the right thing. I totally agree, I can't even be away from my son for an hour so for someone to go months and months it just makes no sense to me. Keep reminding yourself he is the one missing out though and it sounds like you have a great guy so keep doing what you're doing! Message me if you need someone to talk to. Good luck!

Holly - posted on 08/10/2010

It must be very stresssful gonig through what your going through. I think your doing the right thing. If the dad don't want to see your daughter then don't stress about it!! Just make a new life without the dad in it! But if he does come back after a year of whatever and shows to really want ot see her then let him. But for now I think your doing the right thing. Good luck with everything!!