any advice for living with your inlaws and they always have to have an opinion over everything

Tristianna - posted on 08/17/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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i live with my husbands parents and his mother always has input to everything that is going on wether its my oldest going to play with a friend or if ive told her not to do something than granny tells her that she can and i cant stand it anymore any advice

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Laura - posted on 08/20/2009

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me and my partner lived wif his mum for 3 years it was ok sumtimes but after i had bub she started telling as wat to do and how to do it drove me crazzzzzzy but the best thing is you stand up for urself if she says anythink you do lyk DONT do it.... or move out..xx

Laura - posted on 08/20/2009

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me and my partner lived wif his mum for 3 years it was ok sumtimes but after i had bub she started telling as wat to do and how to do it drove me crazzzzzzy but the best thing is you stand up for urself if she says anythink you do lyk DONT do it.... or move out..xx

Charlotte - posted on 08/20/2009

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Both me and my partner live in the family home, so i can completely understand this. However, my parents have always left me and my other half to make any decisions. You simply need to explain to your mother-in-law that you are the parent, and any decisions involving your daughters well being, including any outing to friends houses are to be left up to you. Although you may feel this is a bit to the point, she may appreciate your honesty, and in turn realize you are the parent.

Brittany - posted on 08/19/2009

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i lived with my fiance's family for the last 6 weeks of my pregnancy and until my sun was 5 1/2 months old. it didnt go well she kicked us out while my fiance was 60 miles away at school. you need to learn that you are a good enough mom and get to a point where what she says and does has nothing to do with you. i know it seems odd but it is the only way to keep yourself sane. i have always had that problem with my fiances family... all of them. you have to realize as lonely as it is you are your children's only mother and as they grow up they will learn that you and grandma are different and the rules are different and thats just going to be how it is... short version just realize shes your mother in law and there really is nothing you can do... accept it and get yourself in a place where thats okay

Amelia - posted on 08/19/2009

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My husband and I live with my mother and step-dad right now. It gets very frustrating because my son was very well-behaved before we moved back home and now he is starting to act like a spoiled brat because grandma lets him get away with anything. She won't tell him no unless it's something dangerous he is doing. I also have tons of problems with my grandparents, and great-auntie and uncles. They figure they know whats best and try to push your decisions aside.



Just stay strong and maybe sit down and talk to her. Explain that your children are exactly that, YOUR children and even though you are living in her house, your kids have to learn to respect you as a parent, not expect Granny to let them do something that you don't approve of. It would probably be best if all 3 of you, (your husband, your mother-in-law and yourself) sat down and talked about the expectations you have of your mother in law with enforcing the rules and limits you have set for your children. Best of luck to you

Rene' - posted on 08/19/2009

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When I had issues with my in-laws I always put it in my husbands lap. Tell him to talk to her and if he won't tell him again. My husband always hated doing it but I would say either you talk to her or I will and I promise you you don't want me to do it. Then he would go do it

Melissa - posted on 08/18/2009

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Its important that you tell her what you feel. Your child will loose a lot of respect for you if she can see that even though you say she is not aloud to , then her grandma says yes. that is really disrespecting of you mother inlaw. maybe talk yo your boyfriend/husband about it and tell how you feel. and afterwards talk to your mother in law about it, but remember to be sweet ;) its important to show your children who the parent is.

Sarah - posted on 08/17/2009

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i moved back in with my parents a year ago...its is hard because it does feel like you lose freedom, and it feels better being able to take care of your ownself...and my mom is a little controlling but it really doesnt bother me anymore. I dont know how annoying your MIL is but try to make the best of the situation can work on moving up and moving out...take everything one day at a time and try to enjoy it. and this is what i tell my mom as far as rules for my kids go...im the federal government and she is the state government.

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