Any teen mums with 2 children to give me advice?

Hana-Lily - posted on 01/21/2012 ( 8 moms have responded )

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Hiya i have a 2 and a half year old little boy, i am 18 now and still with my sons dad, were about to be moving into our first house together. we both drive, my partner has a good job and i am currently a stay at home mum after completing college.

Me and my partner are both really broody and love having an easy 2 year old! , we have supportive families and are deciding whether to try for another baby.

Im just wondering if there is anyone else around my age with 2 children who can give me advice on what its like to be a young mum with 2?

I would like to know good and bad points and a realistic opinion of what you feel its like.

Would be very grateful for any replies,

thank you :) xx

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Katie - posted on 01/27/2012

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I am now 21, I have a four and a half year old, (starts Kinder this year) and my daughter will be one in 3 days, currently I stay home with our children and I have since our daughter was roughly 4 months. Our daughter was colicy and had her nights and days mixed up so it was really hard the first few months, our son wasn't sleeping well, and in the middle of the night he'd wake up and yell " Shut up Annabelle!!" - even though he knows that's a dirty word. But then during the day he would sit with her and watch "Wubbzy" He loves her to death. I thought having two at such a young age was going to be really hard, considering this time around I wasn't living with my parents. I don't regret having two, I love them with all of my heart. All in all you shouldn't turn to the internet for help, you should talk with your partner, and if you are concerned as to how your family is going to react then maybe you should talk with your family. In my opinion if you want until you are totally financially stable you may not have your 2nd until you are in your 30's or 40's totally up to you. Good luck!

Shaz - posted on 01/26/2012

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i had my first at 23 my second at 24 they are now just turned 5 and nearly 4. granted my kids are 14 months apart. best advice i can give is wait until your first is 3 ish. I love that my kids are close together because they are a bit like twins. they dont do well without the other and jealosy is a rarity. however i found it really hard when they were younger because they were at different stages. and it was difficult to get around and do things. My son was positioned so that his back was on my back when i pas pregnant with him so he was constantly on my sciatic... not good. it got so painful just to pick my daughter up that i would be in tears. I can tell you this i would rather throw up everyday for nine months than have that again and you just never know how they are going to lay. at three they are just aboiut toilet trained or just starting, just out of a cot, nearly ready for 4 yr old kindy. once that happens you have more alone time with the new baby. more time to focus on that one without being sidetracked or interrupted and you can nap when you need to,. thats the only thing i feel guilty about with my boy. that i didnt get to give him the same alone time that his sister got. i was in and out of hospital after i had him by choice, came home because of my miss and then i was up and back to being SAHM, my ex went back to work a week after we had him but he just created more work than helped. so everytime i see this question i always say wait til they are 3.

Laura - posted on 01/25/2012

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I'm a young mum of two children too :) I had my first at 18, and my second at 19. There's just short of an 18 month age gap between them. It definately IS hard, trying to juggle between the needs of two kids is no easy fete!! You need to look at whether you are financially stable and mentally ready for the challenge! It takes a bit of time to actually get into the swing of things, and being heavily pregnant and looking after a toddler, is very difficult. BUT, the benefits of having children close in age, in my opinion, make it all worth while, for me. I love watching them play together, and although they do fight, it's clear they love having each other around. When we pick my daughter up from nursery after she's been there a couple of hours, she gives her brother a big hug. So yes, it's hard going, but worth it :)

Christina - posted on 01/24/2012

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I am a young mom of 2, I am 22 with a 3yr old boy &1 year old girl... bonus is kids are close in age they have each other to entertain one another, down side they get along but only half the time the other half the time its a lot of dont touch me, dont look at me, its mine, stop it, which can be frustrating and although its easier now that they can play at first it was really hard 2 different kids with 2 different schedules an not sleeping for a few months but I wouldnt change it for the world and would do it all over again

Julieanne - posted on 01/21/2012

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Well i am 21 now and have a almost 3 year old (2-01-09) and twin 5 month olds (08-02-11)....i can tell you it is very hard being a young mom with 3 kids. Also very rewarding, my kids will grow up together. I love all my kids, but its very demanding....while my son is independent there are still times he wants something right there and then and ill be changing diapers or feeding babies, and he doesn't understand that he needs to wait, so i'll have 3 screaming kids. Supportive families are awesome and a great help, but while they are willing to watch more than one grandchild while you and your partner have a date night, its a lot harder on them, in my case i feel guilty at times, because i have 3 and i know what its like for me to take care of them i don't like to put that on others. But again i love having my 3 babies at a young age, i feel like i have more energy than if i were older and i will be able to bond with my children because we are closer in age than if i would have had them at 26 or older. At least you are planning and thinking about it...i got pregnant with my twins while on the pill using it properly. :) a special blessing

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Monta - posted on 02/07/2012

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Hey there!! Im 18 and i have 2 sons! One is 27 monhs old and other just 3 months in few days!!

I tell ya its the same as you toul be 30 and 2 kids! Nothing changes really!

Yes you tould go out rearer than before because ow you have to find a baby sitter for 2 babys but thats not end of the world!



You know da way how you were sleeping the first months u had your baby (when he goes to sleep you do swel) now you wouldnt be able! But thats not the worlds end too!



Nothing changes. Your young your old whats the difference?



If you really want another baby- go for it!

Natasha - posted on 02/04/2012

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I am a young mom just turning 23 in may I have three kids all boys ages are oldest turned four in January the secound turned two in dec and my youngest turned 1 on January 27th

I love that my kids are so close but it wasn't easy at all the prego part for me was a peace of cake with the 1st two but my last one came three months too soon he is great know and would never know he was a premie

But you have to be in the right mind set to beable to deal with the crying at the same time and busy with one and the othere screaming at ur side pulling on you and not giving in bu not all days are like that for me with all three of them from oldest to youngest only havekng just about four yrs from 1st kid to last wouldn't change it only thing I say is when Plano g the next

Ake sure at least 2 yrs so that they understand or talk to them a lot about the up. Commit change to their life's cuz not just a huge change for you it is for your lil one as well they will have to share and they don't always like to dothat :) !! Good luck on your up and comming they are the best gifts any one could ask for !!! Ever need any support or Qst just message. Me on here love to chat

Rachel - posted on 02/01/2012

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Im 19 with a 4 year old and a 6 month old. So far I can tell you its harder than it seems. At least the baby part. My husband and I decided to have our second when I was 18 and I dont regret it at all however there are time when they both start crying at the same time and you end up crying too. I would decided based on how you do with one kid. My son really needed a sibling he was lonely and mom and dad dont always make the best play time buddies. He really wanted a brother and we decided we were ready. However if you still feel in that stage where life is a whirwind and you can't keep up with it than I would wait.

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