Any tips for wen my daughter's teenage years hit??

Tammy - posted on 03/26/2009

Well my oldest is almost 16 and I had her when I was 16 she is a wonderful girl and on the plus side she has seen how hard it has been for me noy only staring out young but being a single mom and I also had her help with her brother and sister which are 13 and almost 8 and because of that she don't want kids yet in her life or at all she wants an education and a career. She is great shes involved in a program to get ready for collage and she also has a part time job. Her and I are very close. So stay open minded with her and don't be afraid of telling her the trueth of you experences in life the more you know the better off your kids will be. Be open and never judge.they make mistakes and thats how they learn.

Joyce - posted on 03/26/2009

I was 15 when I had my daughter and she is 12 and 1/2 now. We've already started the teenage years tho. We have found that as long as talk to her and make sure you listen its always a good start, also answer questions they have as honestly as possible. Don't be afraid to give her some freedom to go out with her mates just make sure she understands when to be home. Its trial and error in our house at the moment just trying to find the right balance.

Cheree - posted on 03/24/2009

Quoting Julie:

Any tips for wen my daughter's teenage years hit??

I had my daughter at 17, she's 8 and 1/2 now. I often wonder wot its goin to be like wen she hits her teens. How will i cope? I have 3 daughters now, but she is my first and i know everything i do as a parent now will affect the person she is wen she's a teenager and older. So if u have any little tips or mistakes that i could learn from now, then pls share. Thank u.

I have a daughter who has just hit the teenage years, the best advice I got was just to be there for her, try to understand where she is coming from (remember we were teenagers once). Some of us can relate, some find it hard... Try to answer any questions she asks, be loving and understanding, plus be firm with your answers. Most of all be a friend to your daughter andlet her know she can come to you at anytime. We all learn from our own Mistakes.

Doreen - posted on 03/23/2009

From previous experience with my own teenage daughters I have taught them right from wrong, I have formed a trusting relationship where they can tell me anything. If they have a situation we will work thru it together. I always welcome there friends in with open arms and have respect for them and any choice they make. They have learnt from a young age about periods and body changing so when it came time for them they wernt scarred or afraid of what was happening to them. Im sure you will do a great job.

Jessamy - posted on 02/13/2009

My biggest advice would be to be available. Make a pact with her that she can call you anywhere, anytime day or night and you will go and get her, no questions asked. My dad had a "code word" with me, if i ever called him "father" he knew that i needed him to come get me. It meant i could get away if i was overwhelmed, without worry that my folks would lecture me. Be avaliable also that if they need to talk to you, be open about your experiences, the more they feel they can come to you for little things, the more likely they will be to come to you with the big ones (like drug safety or that they are 17 and pregnant) try not to let them see you freak out, freak out later, with your man/hubby. Lets face it, it dont matter what we do, teenagers are difficult and rebel just cos thats what teenagers do. Try and prepare her the best you can and trust them as much as you can. And try and remember what you were like and how you thought bak then (at least its not that long ago for us hehe)

Maude - posted on 02/13/2009

I would just make sure at frist have the sex talk, which my mom didn't have with me and always trust her , which my mom never did. i f she would have talked to me i would have felt the need to sneak out and trust me go out and not make bad desions . she though i would be just like she was and in the end i was because she never had falth i me

Kelly - posted on 02/11/2009

I would try to stay in a close relationship with her, girls who have strong relationships with their dads are better with dealing with sex and feeling like they need attention from guys. I would talk with her about your concerns and tell her how much she means to you and all of that! :)