Anybody have Children when they were younger then 18 and single???

Sarah - posted on 07/13/2009 ( 38 moms have responded )

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Hi my names Sarah and i was 16 when i had my son..... His father left when he found out i was pregnant and was just wondering if i really were alone or is their other mums out there in similiar situation???????????????

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Lisa - posted on 07/14/2009

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I was 15 when I got pregnant, 16 when I had my son.
Now I am 31 and he is 14(almost 15 in Oct).

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Ashly - posted on 08/31/2009

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Yes, your not alone at all sweetie! I wasn't together with my baby daddy - but we were "together" for a year... about seven months after we have been seeing each other he got some chick pregnant so we kind of stopped seeing each other.. But started up again, so this chick was five months pregnant with his son when i got pregnant.. All my pregnancy, he would not want to talk about me being pregnant, He would get a hold of me and just want to hang out and i would ask him do you want to be part of the babies life or what ? he was dating Paige (baby momma) and she gets mad at me because he cheated on her and got me pregnant at the same time she was so.. So we didn't talk until march of 09.. I talked to Paige (his baby momma & girlfriend) in January & asked about the baby and said she knows it his.. In march a month before i was due, he got a hold of me and still nothing about the baby so i had no desire of talking to him or anything to do with him. I had a beautiful baby the 13 of April & in may he seen her once, when she was a month and a week old, only because he wasn't with Paige at that time, Than you know what he does ? They get back together a week after that.. He messages me saying that she is not his and blah blah blah.. He doesn't look like her at all besides the eyes, she's a splitting image of me. In July they both (him and Paige) get a hold of me telling me they want to see her and stuff now they are admitting that its his baby..& it is nearly September... They keep bugging me to let him see her and shit.. One i don't trust him or her i don't know, it's just too complicated situation between all three of us, He doesn't even have a job to support his son while wants something to do with my baby ? I try my best to be the best Mommy for her & i think i am doing very well for a young mom .

I hope you and your son are doing ok, & i'm sorry about his leavening, If he is ready to have sex than be mature enough to handle the consequences

Shanice - posted on 08/21/2009

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Hi, I was 19 when I found out I was pregnant with Devin, I tied to make it work with his father but he was a cheater and ended up getting another girl pregnant 7weeks behind me! I was a single mom since my son was born, he would come around but provided no help. I finally had enough when Devin was 6month and dumped the looser! I was content on doing it on my own! When Devini was 8mths i met a man and we hit it off, he had a child and so did I so it was easy fro him to understand where I was coming from to an extent. That man stepped up and is helping me raise my son to this day. My point being is that, just because you have a child does not mean you cannot find you "Mr. Right", not that you NEED one, but Im sure it is nice to have one!

Brooke - posted on 08/14/2009

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im 19 now but had my bayb wen i was 18... her father and i broke up b4 i new i was pregnant by about a week for the first 2 weeks he sed he was gonna b there 4 my daughtr then he got bak with his ex and his first child. he has nothing 2 do with my daughter but is being a great father 2 his son. i dnt no how sum1 could do that wen they no how much love u get from that tiny little child and he could of had that with my daughter. my daughter is now 7months and i love her 2 death in a way im glad he is not around 2 break her heart

Dustie - posted on 08/14/2009

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I was 16 when I got pregnant 17 when I had my son his father and I broke up before I even nknew i was pregnant he was in and out till my son was 2 then I told him stay in or out he chose out but I met a wonderful man around the same time who stepped in and raised my son we later married and my son considers him his father his biodad died about 6 years ago but ny son feels no loss or want to meet any part of that family

Amanda - posted on 08/14/2009

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I was 16 when i had my first daughter. I was a single mom working 2 jobs still to go to school and she had some difficulties and had to have 3 surgeries. Dad wasnt around at all at first. The he got the paternity test and now that she's 20 months he wants to be a father. I am now 18 and i have another beautiful daughter. Its an amazing feeling being a single mother. It gets lonely sometimes, and guys arent there for you. Doing it alone i found hasnt been the easiest thing in my life

Ashley - posted on 08/14/2009

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Hi my name is Ashley and I got pregnant when I was 14 and his father said that he was not his tell when he was born but he now sees him rarly and does not buy my son any thing just if you want to talk email me at donovansmommy06@hotmail.com

Alexandra - posted on 08/14/2009

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hiiya, yes i was 15 when i fell pregnant and had my daughter 3weeks after my 16th :)

Sue - posted on 08/13/2009

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You are not alone!!! I was 17 when I had my daughter. Her father never really stayed a part of the picture. She knew who her father was, but he wasn't in our lives. Hang in there, we have all been through this.

Gianna - posted on 08/13/2009

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eyyy chik, i was 15 wen i fell pregnant, 16 wen i had my beautiful princess,

and raising my daughte alone, dont worries if u need 2 chat g-parody@hotmail.co.uk

look me up in f.book .

Heather - posted on 08/12/2009

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That in life that does not kill us will only make us stronger. I was a teen mother. I had my daughter 3 months before my 17 th birthday almost 16 years ago. Her father and I are still together and that is rare. It wasnt always easy either. We did not get along all that well while I was pregnant because neither one of us knew what to expect. I was severly sick the whole time and did end up giving birth early and nearly lost my own life as well as my daughters. We were on again and off agian for a few more years and got married when she was 2. We know have her and our son who is almost 11 and we still have our problems and issues. It is never easy having children when you are older and more responsible less alone a teenager. I thank god for my daughter everyday without her I have no idea where either of us would be. It will be ok.

Kristy - posted on 08/11/2009

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You are not alone. I was 16 when I had my son. His father and I were never really a a couple and of course we had to do the DNA thing in order for him to accept him. He has had very little to do with him, hardly any contact at all until he was about 5. Its not easy to do it on your own, but it is so rewarding. I know it may not seem like it now. My son will be 20 yrs old in a few short weeks. He let me know every chance he gets he loves his mama. Keep going. Love your child unconditionally, and remember, that baby is NOT their father. NEVER let your hard feelings towards him affect how you treat your child. Love works wonders and will get you through. The right man will come along and will love you both.

Ariel - posted on 08/11/2009

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i got prego at 16 and had mi son a 16 his father was in jail the first 4mtnhs mean will wen he got out he denyd it at first because he was cheating on his gurl with me no i didnt knoe .. then wen i was 8mnths prego he got his gurlfriend prego .. and after mi lil boi got born a mnth later he end up in jail and that where he currentli is and mi son is 6mnths and only cen his son 4 times n his daughter has been born from his gurlfriend and obviousli has never cen his daughter...ive been duen on mi own since conception and all his bullshyt

Diane - posted on 08/09/2009

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Hi Sarah, I was 16 when I had my first child. I was married in the January ( just after my 16th birthday) and my daughter was born in the March that same year. I had my second child 3 years later, the marriage ended shortly after that. I have since been in another relationship and have a 13 year old son and a 5 year old son. Their dad and me didn't get married or have never lived together. I am no longer in that relationship and am a single mum bringing the children up on my own with very little support from the children's dad. He didn't used to pay maintenance for the children (my eldest children's dad didn't pay maintenance either), until he was ordered by the courts and the CSA (Child Support Agency) to make a payment of £40 per month for both children of which he pays directly to the CSA. I'm 42 years old now and have been a single parent for most of that time. Since my youngest has started school I have started to do voluntary work in our local British Heart Foundation shop which I realy enjoy as it gets me out of the house. I can only work term time whilst the children are at school as I don't have any child care. My eldest children have left home, my daughter is 26 (and has her own daughter), my eldest son is 22 years old. How old are you now Sarah, does your son have contact with his dad or did his dad disappear of the scene completely? Diane.x

Rebecca - posted on 08/09/2009

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hey i was 16 wen i was preg had my son 2weeks after my 17th birthday. hes 2 n half now never seen his dad once!

Debra - posted on 08/08/2009

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I had my first child when I was 16, I learned the day I found out I was pregnant that my baby's father was imprisoned for 3 years. I realized at that point I was "on my own" My son is 28 years old and a wonderful person, he graduated from college, and was commissioned as an officer in the military. My advice is to be strong and know that you are not alone. My faith in God is what gave me the strength to get me through!

Whitney - posted on 08/08/2009

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I was 16 when I got pregnant and two months after I turns 17 I had my daughter. I broke up with my boyfriend that I was with for 3.5 yrs for various reasons. But It was in the best interest of my daughter. It can be very hard. I don't think you need a man in your life. Your family I hope is close to you. Mine helps me out SOOOO much! And friends I really only have one good friend and she helps me out in so many ways! So just keep your friends and family close!

Jessica - posted on 08/07/2009

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Hi Im Jessica

I have a 7 month old now and im 17. I had him when I was 16 and his dad left when I was 3 months pregnant and switched school but is now going to come back to my school for my Senior year when he hasnt seen asked or talk about my son or me except bad things. So just think its better to have him completely out then just messing with your life. Think of the good in every situation because it will alwyas be hard but it makes it easier for you if you think of any good thing.. Just think of the beautiful baby you got out of it and if he doesnt want to be there then he's the one missingout not you.

Angela - posted on 08/07/2009

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I got pregnant when I was 16 and had my daughter when I was 17, the father also left when I told him I was pregnant her father was 24 when he got me pregnant(how mature huh?). I'm 22 now and he still hasn't seen her, talked to her, nothing, I didn't get any support and am still not getting anything from him!

Genava - posted on 08/07/2009

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im 15 and due to have my baby girl in september (ONE MONTH :D)

the father and I had sex the second day i knew him.. and he hardly keeps in contact i usually have to stay in contact with him. and he is really irresponsible and stuff.

all i know is that i have learned that the father is going to be or isnt going to be apart of the babies life if he wants, and you just have to be able to be strong and not let it get to you, because your not going to be able to change it.

Katrina - posted on 08/07/2009

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hi sarah x im 16 i had my little boy when i was 15 there wasa possibility of 2 different dads my boyfriend and my ex (it wasn't through cheating tht there was a complication) my boyfriend stayed by me but he was treating me like crap cheating lyin the lot he did help when he was around but then we found out my son was my ex's he didn't want to know n after a month neither did my boyfriend i then found out i was pregnant again i was so scared until recently ive found a new boyfriend who supports me even though ive got a 1 yr old son and a baby on the way x you just need to find that special someone to pick u up he is probably under your nose mine was :) xx

Christina - posted on 08/07/2009

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My name is Christina and I was a couple months past my 17th birthday when I had my son. My parents kicked me out when they found out I was pregnant and the father left shortly there after. My son is now 7 I also have two daughters and I have been a single mom through it all. It's hard but I've been able to do it. The best advice I can give is keep contact with close friends or family. Sometimes just hearing them say you can do it will pull you through that hard day. I have faith that you will be able to do it.

Jasmin - posted on 08/07/2009

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my name is jasmin.. i had hollie when i was 14, fell pregnant when i was 13.. the exact same thing happend with hollies dad.. as soon as i told him.. he left.. he now says he isnt the dad.. but tbh we are better off with out him.. i will always let hollie know who here dad is but i dont think she will want to know him, when she is old enough to understand. i am now in a relationship.. so you will defo find someone else.. who will love and support you and your son xxx

Ciara - posted on 08/06/2009

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Hi Sarah! I was 13 when I got pregnant and 14 when I had my first son, he's now 8 yrs old.. his father left before I even found out I was pregnant and he's never been there since..

Christina - posted on 08/03/2009

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hi sarah. i found out 3 days before my 17th birthday that i was pregnant. i was with my daughters father for 2 1/2 yrs after she was born and we were engaged for 2 yrs and the whole time he treated me horribly. didnt do anything at all for her even though he was there, i had no help from him at all. we arent together anymore and i wish i never stayed with him back then. he cheated on me left and right and i still stayed i didnt think i would be able to walk away and do it on my own. but now that i have been and realized i did the whole time i was with him too, im ok and so is she. im really happy now and im glad that hes not with me or her. he gets visitations but thats all.

Breanne - posted on 07/31/2009

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yes im in the same boat as you his father was there for a few but as it got closer to our son being born he left us. he tries to tell me that our son isnt his.

Lauren - posted on 07/31/2009

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i was 15 when i got pregnant and 16 when i had my little man , his dad was around but not much then about a month before i poped found out he had another girlfriend aswell as me! he come and seen leo for like the 1st 2 weeks of his life and then stopped bothering! leos now 16 weeks and hes still not bothered with him but hes taking me too court! ive done it all by myself hes not bought him one thing or gave me a single penny for him and im doing fine ! us girls dont need lads!

Kayti - posted on 07/31/2009

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I had my daughter at 17 and her dad has only seen pictures of her, no help what-so-ever and i've been doing it alone for 8 1/2 months now!!
I'm doing fine though and so will you.. :)

Sarah - posted on 07/31/2009

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Hey mallory your very right an good luck men are like t-shirts they fit one day aand next their dirty??????

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I was 18 when I got pregnant + had my daughter. She was born the 26th of June + my insurance from my father ended the day I turned 19, which was July 16th. I'm working at Taco Bell + living with my parents. My mom + dad are gracious enough to help me out with Drae. I am dating someone but he's not the father. He always says he'll help + what ever else but I'm beginning to think this is just all talk. Her father comes around sometimes + he holds, feeds, + changes her but he doesn't come around too much. I'm waiting on the paternity test to come around so I can get some child support.
All I can say is if it wasn't for my parents, I don't know where I'd be in life right now. Worry more about the people around you, such as family + friends, rather then guys. They'll be there for you no matter what happens whereas guys come + go like the tide.

Iva - posted on 07/30/2009

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Sarah,
My name is Iva and I was slightly older than you when I had my first, I was just 17 1/2. My now husband is the father and his parents refused to let us be together when we found out that I was expecting. His parents denied the baby up until the paternity test and then they wanted to take my son from me. My husband was not there during the delivery, if fact he didn't even see our son until he was about 24 hours old. It was really hard on me and I kept on wondering what I had done to deserve this treatment. If you would like to talk more you can email me at junefour2007@yahoo.com.

Jamillah - posted on 07/19/2009

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Hi yes I can definately relate to you, my childrens father left as well , it is very hard

Lyndsay - posted on 07/18/2009

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I was 18 when I got pregnant and had my son. My boyfriend went to jail for robbery the day after I found out and didn't get out until our son was 6 months old. (Life was a lot different back then!)

Amanda - posted on 07/14/2009

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well i had my son at 17 (concieved 10 days after my 17th birthday).. technially i wasn't single... but i may as well have been. my sons father was barely around and when he was he was lying, yelling at me (which he knew endangered mine and our sons lifes when i got preeclampsia), or trying to get into my pants. he was sleeping around with so many girls and acting like he was single.. im now turning 19 and having my second. i kicked my ex out 2 weeks before i found out( he had just move dinto my moms house had lost 4 jobs and i had enough of the way he treated me.) i was 6 weeks pregnant. it sucked being pregnant and having a new baby to take care of on my own. he still is not helping, not paying a dime, and still lying to everyone around him. so i wasn't exactly in your situation but i did do everything on my own. i was even dealing with being alone with my son in the hospital the day after my c-section and for the next 3 days until i was released and my mom came to pick us up and take us home. im happier now being with out him completely. being with him was like being alone.. with a horrible boss.

Brittany - posted on 07/14/2009

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i was 16 when i got pregnant and 17 when i had my daughter.

i left her father for various reasons.

im honestly glad that i am doing it bymyself.

sumtimes it gets really hard, but whether she has a dad or not doesnt change how much you love your child.

Sarah - posted on 07/14/2009

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Hey like i say to everyone we dont need a man we need friends mates lifes and family!!!!!! I only really have family....but they live like 3 hours away so yeah im doing it all by myself ...it seems the only man i can get turn out to be selfish pricks so im happy nott having one...ive decided ill start dating again when my son is over 13 or so.... Your doing a great job by the sounds of it so just be stropng like we have to be... the only down fall and sorry to say this but people say it gets easier i think it just gets harder in some aspects but somethings do the way we feel and think but as we grow older our life experiences make us stronger..really hope to talkto again soon

Sarah - posted on 07/14/2009

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hi sarah yes i fell pregnant at 16 and had natalie just after my 17th birthday

natalies father was around but not much. i then felt alone because he was cheating on me and our relationship got violent i then told him i was pregnant then he told me to have an abortion which i couldnt do

i am alone now hun

i ffeel terrible i am struggling to be a mum on my own wish there was a man to help me out



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