Anyone's "mother in law" or b/f's mother driving them nuts???

Samantha - posted on 09/27/2009 ( 20 moms have responded )

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I get soooo frustrated ALL THE TIME!!! It seems like everything i have to say gets a mean or rude comment back!! Just found out i'm having a lil baby girl (which is what she wanted) and all i got was "Don't get your hopes up, it could still be a boy"... This is the last thing i wanted to hear. Not only that but all she had to talk about was her other son's girlfriend who is apparently pregnant and all that drama!! It's to the point where i don't even want her in my childs life!!! She is such a pessimist and wanted to give up her son (my boyfriend) for adoption in the first place. I feel like the family has something against me!!! My mom told me that my b/f's step-dad was told BY MY BOYFRIEND that he never wanted to be with me or have my kid!!! That was NEVER SAID!!! Why sabatoge my relationship. My b/f's brother steals and lies and cant take care of HIS kid (2 yrs and can barely talk!!!) and leaves his kid random places but you want to critique ME?!?! Tell me someone has advise??? :'(

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BOOBOO - posted on 11/19/2012

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I hate my mother in law she is a cunt thats right a CUNT, I have seen her pull her family apart over christmas with no remorse. She tore her family up to be with a no hoper who has no recognition to be an adult? drinks all the money away, chases skirt all the time. When I bought my first house she was trying to move her son in with us, I want a family don't get me wrong but not a ready made one? I want the honey moon period if there ever is one? She has caused me nothing but trouble I have had the police at my home solicitors as well because of her? she turned my life up side down I had to tell my wife she goes or I go, Evently when the free loader and her spoon of a son fucked off I had my castle back THANK GOD, After turning my life upside down she said he is better then nothing WHAT THE FUCK? She ripps her kids and denise her only grand child a chance by stiching her kids out there inheritance money NICE BIT WORK BITCH? BUT THE CREAM OF THE CROP SHE KNOW WANTS TO MOVE THREE STREETS UP THE ROAD FROM ME? I will move house or move back home? I have one recordsile that I will out live that wanker and piss on your grave???

Kimie - posted on 10/21/2009

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It's not his mom that gets to me, but his grandmother. She literally hates me. I haven't done one thing wrong to her and yet she still finds reasons to hate me. She's even indirectly called me a whore because this baby is on its way and shouldn't be. Like the whole thing was my fault. I personally am learning to just ignore it because there's not much else that can really be done to fix the situation.

Lindsey - posted on 10/16/2009

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I had my baby in February 2009 and my bfs mom was so helpful and great before she was born but now that she has been born she thinks that she has to be around her every fucking day it drives me nuts. I work monday thru thursday and saturdays from 1130am to 8pm and I am hardly ever with my daughter because of it. When its my day off she makes posts that are like missing my grandbaby dont get to be with her today. It makes me feel like shit because it seems like i shouldnt be able to have anytime with my daughter because she wants her all the time. My boyfriend is all like my mom this and my mom that and when i tell him that i think that we should start taking her to a day care he was like you know my mom is depressed and the only thing that makes her happy is julia and im not going to take that away from her. That makes it seem like she is using my daughter to be happy. When we lived with her after my daughter was born she thought that she had to be in control of everything. She even took a baby monitor into her room so that she could hear my daughter when she wakes up. I WAS SLEEPING RIGHT NEXT TO MY DAUGHTER I THINK I CAN HEAR HER. I think its a bunch of shit that his mom sees my daughter almost 7 days a week and tries to come over when she hasnt seen or been with her all day. WTF Also my mom hardly ever gets to see my daughter because i work all of the time and never have time to take her to see my mom. My mom hates it and so do I. I wish things were different. Once we moved out it was heaven because I could actually raise my daughter the way i want to without haveing to worry about her saying do you want me to take her for a while so you can do this or that, do you want me to take her with me here, do you want me to do this and that...It was fucking annoying and irratated the shit out of me. Its like no she is MY daughter and why would I want YOU to take her from me when you go to the god damn store or go to a friends house. SERIOUSLY she is my daughter and I want to be with her. She would do things that i would ask her not to do with my daughter and shed give her baths and call the dr about shit that wasnt even neccessary to call about just because she thought that she should. She wouldnt even talk to me about it shed just call. It would piss me off so much. Then everytime my daughter had an appointment She HAD to go along its like she is my god damn daughter and I think that I am the MOM so NO you can NOT go with me to her appointment im not a fucking child. ITs the little things that would piss me off. I got very depressed because it was like am i the mom or what cause i was never able to do shit unless she was in bed that would be the time that i got to be with my daughter. We had gotten into a really big fight one morning about how she is always trying to control shit and how she needs to back the fuck off and leave me alone when im with my daughter and NO i dont need you to come down here and take her from me. It seemed like if she was near i had to Litterally have my daughter in my hands to not have her take her from me. I got to the point where i told my boyfriend that there is really no point in me being around because it seems like your mom has everything under control and seems to be the MOM and controlling everything. My boyfriend and I would leave with OUR daughter and go somewhere and she would text us and say its late you neeed to get her home. Or its too cold out you need to get her home. ITS LIKE ARE U FUCKING SERIOUS? Whose the parents you or us. Dont worry about wtf we are doing and where we are taking OUR damn child. My boyfriend wont stand up to his mother to save his life and it pisses me off because any time he has a problem with something my mom does i tell her to stop it and knock the shit off but when it comes to his mom i cant say shit about her or else HE THINKS THAT I DONT LIKE HIS MOM and so on and so forth. She will text him when she doesnt have her and ask what are you doing and hows my little angel. Or she will be like to me do you neeed me to come and watch her while you go to your appointment. HELL FUCK NO TODAY IS MY DAMN DAY WITH MY GOD DAMN CHILD YOU DONT HAVE TO FUCKING BE WITH HER EVERY FUCKING DAY. Also when we first brought her home my boyfriend wasnt really sure how to do things with her so his mother took advantage of it and would take her from him and do everything for him. THAT PISSED ME OFF BECAUSE FIRST OFF HE IS THE FATHER AND YOUR THE DAMN GRANDMA SECOND HE IS NEVER GOING TO FUCKING LEARN HOW TO DO ANYTHING IF YOU KEEP TAKING HER FROM HIM. It became dumb. I got to the point where i was like going to quit my job so i know she wouldnt be around my daughter. She became overly obessed with her and it was driveing me mad. She is way more than TOO helpful. My boyfriend and i have gotten in to it quite a few times now about how his mom is always up our asses and how she really needs to back off because if she doesnt my and MY fucking daughter will leave that way i know that she wont be around to fuck with me. Another thing is that she will go to goodwill (have no problem with goodwill as a matter of fact i love it) and buy my daughter all types of clothes were not talking once every two or three months it was at least two or three times aweek. She was being overly obessed with my daughter and pretty much acting like she was her daughter. I dont fucking care if she is depressed she isnt going to use my daughter to heal her damn problems. Her kids dont even respect her and the youngest boy is like 12 and has the worst mouth i have ever heard. He is very disrespectful and cusses and treats his mom like shit because she is always giving in to what ever he wants and if he says jump she is sure to jump. I dont want someone like that raiseing my kid let alone around them twentyfour fucking seven. my daughter is not going to disrespect me and she will not cuss around me or anyone else til she is old enough. Ive already told my boyfriend that the day she comes home from her house and is disrespectful or cusses thats it i will fucking quit my job and stay home with her myself that way i know i wont have a mouthy bratty disrespectful child. I never disrespected my parents and so she will not disrespect me. I will be sure that she wont be around my child every fucking day of her life because this is not going to happen. If i tell my daughter not to do something she is not to do itl. She isnt going to talk back and tell me no or throw a damn fit she will be respectful and take what i say seriously. I have babysat enough kids in my life that i know how i want my damn daughter to grow up like. All the kids i babysat were kids of wealthy people so they were all spoiled in a way. But they were all respectful to their parents. Spoiled or not wealthy or not your child is to respect you always. I will stand for nothing less.

Samantha - posted on 10/01/2009

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Aww these are all horrible things!! Stalked and treated like shit is not how a pregnant chick or someone with a baby wants to feel AT ALL!!! Not only is my MIL baby but my MOM is horrible too. She drinks every night (enough to get trashed) and goes to the club we go to and tells EVERYONE she will be taking care of the baby... I wanted to cry the other night cuz she made me look bad in front of a few good family friends and a few of my friends and boyfriend i had brought to the club to shot pool. I told her to stop and she said well its true!!! Just cuz i havent found an apartment cuz im not working and my boyfriend doesnt make enough she thinks she supports me or something!!! Im 18 and didnt live with her until about a yr ago... She booted me out at 12 and i went to live with a friend who soon took me into her family and home and that is where i stayed till i moved to an apartment with a friend (i wanted my own place soon enough though) I only moved out cuz it was cheaper to live at my moms. We (my b/f and i) pay 75 a week plus 45 for my laptop a week, 60 a week or so in groceries, 20-30 for gas, 118 a month for our phones, and 115 for car insurance. Plus we have bought numerous things for our baby and all our own things!!! Thats what, 1000 or so a month!!!! Just on his paycheck!! She doesnt buy ANYTHING for the house and i would never ask his mom for anything. She is like, a snob to me, and apparently is his brothers "cash cow"... Why is it that these women are crazy???

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My mother in law stalked me when my husband and I first found out I was preg. I'm serious she would go by my work, leave messages, call at 6 am on a saturday (my husband works nights so the early morning calls were VERY annoying), demand we drive 40 min just to see her so she could see "How fat I'm getting" She even demanded that she be our lamaze coach. Telling my husband to pinch me for a min and getting harder by the second so I could "breathe through the pain" All I could tell him was if he pinched me I'd can him and let him breathe through that!

It got so bad I made my hubby tell her to never phone me again! She has a record with beating her kids (my husband told me all sorts of horror stories from his childhood) and I immediatly told him she was not to ever babysit under any circumstance. Ironically after being stalked all throughout the pregnancy and visited once in the hospital we havn't seen or heard from her. On her grandsons babyshower she ironically forgot to come because she had moving to do but did manage to send two very worn and filthy (they were covered in dust) teddy bears that looked mauled by dogs and her old kama sutra book. (I wanted to wash myself with bleach!)

All I can say is I'm hoping she stays away for a loooong time!!! I'm done being tormented by her!

Amber - posted on 10/01/2009

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my mother-in-law has done nothing but try to interfere in our lives. she recently attempted to blackmail my husband! i feel ur pain girlie!

if it makes you feel any better, the ultrasound technician wont usually tell you its a girl if they cant tell for sure. obviously, anything is possible, but if you saw it and they told you its a girl, your chances are pretty good...ur MIL is just a bitter old hag :) she probably sees you as a threat...if she didnt, there wouldnt be a problem. my husband said my MIL thinks shes the queen bee and im moving in on her territory. kinda made me smile to think that she feels so threatened by me after the way shes been treating us!

Aleshia - posted on 09/30/2009

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My BD (babys daddy) mother just thinks she can talk to me any kind of way . She wants to bug me about petty things like photos and when im gonna go out my way to bring the baby to see her .Being that i go tot college and work and take care of my baby alone with no help from her son she should fall back and shut her damn mouth . i try to accomadate her sometimes and be nice but she just constantly makes it really hard

Mackenzie - posted on 09/30/2009

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hey guys i had the same problem with my mother in law... i moved in with my boyfriend and her before we got pregnant and when we did it wasnt my baby it was "our" baby ... 8 weeks into my pregnancy she came out with "so is your mum coming in the delivery suite with us" i was like WTF with us??? i was like me and pete (my boyf) just want it to be us but no she wouldnt hear of it ... and when we found out it was a girl it was all oh we are having a girl telling everyone that our baby was a girl and when we told her the name (oliera) she was telling everyone it was olivia and i was like no i dnt like that name... and she was like well i dont like oliera... and when it came to making the babies room she wanted all white furniture i was like WTF we dont have a piece of white furniture in our whole house and everything i did was wrong i was eating all the wrong things buying all the wrong stuff.. i wanted a winnie the pooh theme in her room but no she wanted pink butterflies and all that... she bought me a new cot set on my Ebay and then was like oh i dnt have any money ull have to pay for it!!! i havent even used it!!! i hate it its so ugly... and then when we moved out the house she had to come with us because she had to be close to the baby ... she might pop in one night every couple of weeks to see her my daughter cries when she holds her because she doesnt no who she is .. and then when my daughter tries to come back to me she is like why the eff r u trying to go back to her u see her all the time! and i feed my daughter a brand called raffertys garden because its the only way i can get her t eat her veggies and she keeps telling me its shit food with no taste and that she made all her boys food when they were young... the food i feed my daughter is organic and there is nothing in the food but the veggies.. no preservatives (sorry if its spelt wrong) when my mther in law comes home for the one night she takes my daughter completely out of routine doesnt let her have quiet time or anything.. stupid women... i feel for u both!!!

Amber - posted on 09/28/2009

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im sorry to hear that! it seems pretty stressful! but u need to not stress urself out over it because even though your not at high risk miscarriage there is still a possibility u can with too much stress. I think u need to talk to your boyfriend and be nice but really talk about if u want his mom in ur babys life? and this drama is unneeded. Im going threw something similar to a point. We just decided as a couple that his family is good for us..they don't like me and i don't like them i think there white trash.. u just need to weave threw the bad. and put ur foot down your a mom now all the rules change ur in charge..but don't work yourself up to bad to were u make yourself sick or your baby!
be strong...and talk it out that's the best thing u can do and if u get only negative responses i think u know what u need to do,and if ur boyfriend doesn't stand behind u after u get treated this way i think u need to figure something out with him as well!

Tabatha - posted on 09/28/2009

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yeah it is.I watch my sisters stomach do that during the day.His little hand pops out and I"m like crap did you see that.and good night hun.

Samantha - posted on 09/28/2009

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yeah, me too. I saw you were really into art and tattoos and all. My facebook has all my art on it and i have 7 tattoos. 2 on my wrists saying carpe diem (seize the day in latin) stars on my chest, amor on my back ( love in spanish) and a huge flower on my left shoulder my friend did, oh and a heart on my hip. The flower needs to be fixed up and im gonna put veronica faye and her bday on the leaves before its done. that one takes up my whole upper arm and took 6 hrs to do!!! lol. but im about to go to bed (atleast try) my baby wont stop moving!!! She's like doing flips and i can feel her thru my stomach with my hand... thats normal right??? lol

Tabatha - posted on 09/28/2009

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Yep.But I didn't have as bad problems with my pregnancy til the end.But yes she is my world and my everything.She makes me be 100 times better of a person.I hope everything ends up going good for you in the end.

Samantha - posted on 09/28/2009

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i guess thats all you got to keep doing. you only get one shot to see all your baby's firsts and she is the world to you, i'm sure. who cares that everyone feels like they need to compete and have baby's...it's like an epidemic of some sort. one person sees you prego and they're like, hey, if she can do that then so can i!!! i found out the hard way that pregnancy is not all sunshine and bubbles. I mean really, where the hell this clear shit from my boobs coming from?? Some times i'm like OMG!!! Make it stop and other times im like wow, i'll never forget the first sharp kick or the bouncing in my tummy for an hr when im trying to fall asleep. Its your life, your memories, and thats all that matters

Tabatha - posted on 09/27/2009

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thank you.and yes it does seem like everyone one is competing for the spotlight.This is how it went.I was 7months pregnant and my sister calls me and say hey guess what I'm having a baby too.Than a week after I give birth I get a call from my brother saying that him and his girl are having a baby too.I was like ummmm WHAT?!?! really now I was pissed but they both are having little boys so what ever.I don't even try no more.I just keep to myself and go along my marry way.

Samantha - posted on 09/27/2009

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Ugh.. My sister is 19 and i feel like she's in a race with me. She was supposed to be the god mother but she hasn't even seen my first ultasound that was done at 6 weeks. I'm over 20 weeks now. I didnt even bother telling her it was a little baby girl. So is your sister having a baby too? Doesn't it feel like everyone is always competing for this imaginary spotlight??? Right when i got pregnant it was like every girlfriend i had was either like "c-ya" or "OMG i think i'm pregnant too!!!" yeah, none of them were... One of my close friends has been "trying" soo hard she actually told me she didnt think it would be best if i came over much anymore...she feels like i rub it in her face... uh, rub what? I wont say 1 word at all about my baby...i dont even say the word BABY and she bugs... I cant hide my tummy so i stopped going over there. It's horrible. CT sucks and my town is even worse. I live in like drug central and i dont want my baby to be here. I'm scared,nervous, etc... Idk what to do??? Afraid i wont make it through everything.. Oh and not doing laundry for 3 weeks sucks, i know, but its nothing... Lol, ive washed undies in the shower plenty of times to make some type of clean clothes. My room rarely gets cleaned cuz i have sooo many appts and need to pick up my drunken family's mess. I just want ME time!!! Good luck finding it with your lil one already here!!!

Tabatha - posted on 09/27/2009

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Hun I know how you feel.I'm going through so much of the same things.It's hard to find work in toledo.I've look and applied almost everywhere.He has too.Were both in school.And all my friends ditched me cause I wasn't in school graduating with them and partying with them.My due date was prom.I had my baby on the 14th.No one came it was senior skip day.I felt so alone and abandoned.And as far as family.My sister who is 17 tells me how to raise my little girl lacey and she hasn't even had her baby yet.My brother mikey is having his own here soon and is like so scare he's begging me for advice on how to control his girlfriend.It's just been so crazy with my mans mom on me not doing her laundry and house work I just now got to clean my room today and do my laundry,that hasn't been done in like 3 weeks.I didn't even get to get in the shower because I had to go pick up my daughter from my moms.Her dad is great and all but he rather be free.So I take care of her mainly and do all of this.I've been so stressed I thought I was gonna snap when she made me help fix the pool!And yes it's nice to talk to you to.It's very nice to vent to someone who gets me.

Samantha - posted on 09/27/2009

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Yeah its just soo rude and obnoxious. It's probably suz i'm only 18 but her son is 23 and the, although the middle child, the one to wait the longest to have a baby. We don't even live with her. We live with my mom (who is a drunk :(...) but have been trying to find an apartment. Its hard cuz i had to quit my job due to bad hypermesis (morning sickness to the point of dehydration and bed rest) for 2 months and now look too big for a job. I've had a few interviews but it's always the dreaded "we'll call you". He works 2 jobs and we pay rent, bills, food, and buy ALL OUR BABY ITEMS. Her other son cant keep a job, uses his money to buy booze instead of diapers, and leaves his baby with her all the time. Not only that but the poor kid is like, challenged. Neither of his parents teach him anything. And his new girlfriend has a yr old baby she pays NO attention to and is now "claiming" shes pregnant. I dont need the spotlight but cant i have a little attention?!?! I cant wait for my lil baby Veronica to come out. She is already my world and although most of my friend's ditched me cuz i cant party anymore and i feel like the worlds against me she will look at me like i'm perfect and i'll make my own family. Sorry i'm rambling its just soo nice to talk to someone who understands!!! I stay up till 2 am most nights anyways (she moves EVERYTIME i get comfortable..but i cherish her lil flutters :))

Tabatha - posted on 09/27/2009

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I Know how your feeling.I've been so stressed with her I haven't had my period yet.And I haven't had sex in over 3months so I know I'm not pregnant.My soon to be mother-in-law just criticizes me&her son all the time.And when I tell her she needs to back off and give him a break cause he's a full time student and does all their house work for them since their to lazy to do it themselves.We have to put off or just drop everything were doing just to do what she wants.Can't do anything cause we live with her.She told me to get an abortion even after I told her I was against it.She like I don't care what your against I don't want YOU FUCKING MY SONS EDUCATION UP!All because you couldn't keep your legs closed.I wanted to punch her so badly.But she didn't like it when her son was like hey I helped in the matter do you know mom.She didn't care it was all my fault.And the list of things could go on.All I can said is ignore it and talk to your man about how you feel.I do and he normal goes and tells them to back the fuck off.But I don't know cause its hard to deal with them.

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