Anyone want another one?

Kaitlin - posted on 12/29/2009 ( 59 moms have responded )

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Since the time my daughter was born I have had baby fever on and off, once at 3 months really bad and now my daughter is 8months. I want another baby so bad. I love my daughter more then anything and she is so spoiled, she gets all of my attention and most of everyone elses. She has clothes and toys that she hasn't even touched and she still sleeps in bed with mommy (me) it comforts the both of us and there is absolutly nothing wrong with it. I got pregnant at 15 had her at 16 and now I am 17 and will be 18 in August. I know that I shouldn't have another baby for a couple years, I know about all the hard work and yes I have recieved the dirty looks and nasty coments. I am working to better my daughter and my future, I'm starting college and I have a job, so I take care of my baby. Does anyone else want another one?

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Annie - posted on 12/31/2009

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I would love a little girl! my little boy is nearly 4 months! but because im going to college next year and i havnt got a job to support another baby im leaving it a few years. I'm also finding the right guy to have a baby with. I dont want another with no dad.

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My son just turned a year old on the 20th of Dec. and I am already 30 weeks pregnant. I am 21 years old. My husband and I are both very excited to have our daughter but we are both very nervous too. I am a stay at home mom while he works. I think he is more nervous than I am and I am the one who spends all the time with the babies. My Husband is going to be 29 years old and he is still nervous about having two babies.

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Ellen - posted on 01/05/2010

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I'm the same as you, preg at 15 had her at 16. I am now 19, I had my second girl in October 2009. She passed away of SIDS on November 20th. Now, I'm getting the baby fever again. But looking back, even though I loved her so much, I wish I would have waited a while longer, just until my now 3 year old was done potty training. For those 3 weeks it was awfull trying to deal with a crabby, attention wanting 3 year old and a screaming baby. But, my husbands youngest sister is 4 and always wanted to help take care of the baby when she was here. So my suggestion, have kids 4-5 years apart at least until your stable.

Justina - posted on 01/05/2010

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im 19 and just had my first child. a healthy babyboy. it was a great and amazing thing for me cuz i was never supposed to be able to have children. so wen i had him i was amazed. i actually was pregnant and had a miscarraige a lil over a month before i actually got pg with my son. i didnt even know i was pg cuz i didnt get a period cuz i was on the shot. but then i freaked wen i started bleeding n found out i was actually 6wks pg. then i got pg with my son and i had him in sept. i wound up not waiting the 6wks and got pg again which i again sadly miscarried. but i do find myself wanting another child everyday. i think to me its more of a kinda i want to prove i can do it again kinda thing cuz i wasnt supposed to do it to begin with and i did n now i wanta do it again. i hope to someday have a big bustling happy family but id be happy with at least 2 children. i am hopin for 3 tho.

Atira - posted on 01/05/2010

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im 21 i work part-time n school full time. at this point in your life i think you should try to better yourself more in life not only for your self but for your child. when you have two children it becomes harder to manage at a young age. im not telling you not to have more children because i myself want more. but t the same time just try to enjoy what little freedom you may have!! Good luck and God bless

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I have two beautiful baby girls and one baby that miscarried. I do want another baby but not right now. My kids are almost 1 and 3, plus I am probably going to get jaw surgery for my under-bite, so definitely not now.

Elise - posted on 01/05/2010

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my son just turned one and i am trying to convince my husband it is time for a sibling! i dont want him to grow up as an only child, i hear christmas and birthdays just arent the same!! i had two siblings and my brother had one, i couldnt imagine raising an only child or being one myself. so yes, i want another!

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Im 19 and I have a 4 month old. My fiance has been there since week 1 even though he isnt my sons biological father. We are getting married in 3 months and we are already wanting another. I have to make myself say no even though I want a little girl SOOO bad. :-(

Rose - posted on 01/04/2010

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I got pregnant at 15 and had my first at 16 also then I got pregnant again at 3 months and had my 2nd at 17. They are the world and they are very close also but like u said we get many dirty looks being young mothers but u get a lot more when u have 2. I am also going to college and have a job and it is hard right now because i am on my own adn if u dont have a steady relationship i would say no because ppl change so much just between 17-21 it really very hard. I do think of having more now i want 5 ike u but more right now wouldnt happen but when i do have more i want them next to each other so they can be close.

Crysany - posted on 01/04/2010

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I have been feeling the same way, my daughter is almost 3 months old, I constantly think about having another, and even having dreams about it.

Amanda - posted on 01/04/2010

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If you believe your ready to handle two,then you should do what you want. I got preg when i was 17 and had my first daughter a month after i turned 18.and every since she was about 9 months i wanted another one. so now i have a one month old baby girl. i thought it would be crazy hard but aleiah is a great baby half the time you wouldnt even know shes here.! and already i want another one but i think the next ones gonna wait a little while.

Stacy-Monique - posted on 01/03/2010

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My daughter is 14 months old and growing up faster then i can catch on :( definetly want another one, especially with all my friends having more kids or falling pregnant it really makes me clucky :)

Esther - posted on 01/03/2010

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i get the feeling on n off all the time yeh. sometimes you just get such a rush of love for them n you think i could have heaps more! i just make myself think not yet wait a little bit lol.

Stephanie - posted on 01/03/2010

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my daughter is going on 6 months, i'll be 19 this month and my boyfriend and i have already decided that we want to shoot for another one in April so we can have a baby in January!! i know what you feel like wanting more kids!!

Demetria - posted on 01/02/2010

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I Would Love To Have Another Baby , I Want Another So Bad . But I Won't Allow Myself To Have Another Baby Until I Get Atleast My Bachelor's Degree , By That Time My Daughter Will Be 4 (2.5 Years From Now). Because It's So Hard With One Right Now ; And I Wanna Be Able To Spoil My Nxt , Just Like I've Been Spoiling My 1st .

I Would Encourage You To Wait . Not Because Of Ur Age , But Ur Financial Situation. You'll Have A Better Time With Both Of Your Children , If U Don't Have To Struggle N Worry About Things It Makes Ur Life Less Stressful And U Can Enjoy Ur Children .



However I Try To Cheat The System, By Taking Summer And Winter Brk Classes; To Get My Degree Faster , So I Get Closer To Being Financialy Stable, And Then I Can Have Another Baby !



Hope This Helped You Hun .

Heather - posted on 01/02/2010

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I am a young single mother of one, and I have a feeling alot of you are too. I honestly miss that baby smell. I'm pretty sure most of you know what I'm talking about...lol. But I have to remind myself, right now is not the right time to have another one, that I need to work on me right now, and love the child I already have. I'm not married, I don't a have college degree/career, I don't own a house or a yard for my son to safely play in, and I have to get help from the county/state, and my parents. I feel so embarassed by that...I'm an abled body adult, asking for taxpayer money...money that is supposed to be there to help the poor, the old, the sickly and the disabled, and I'm using it to help raise my child...that has never felt right to me. I'm supposed to be independent, self-reliant, able to stand on my own two feet, but I can't right now. And I'm smart enough to know that until I can get myself right, I have no business having another child, no matter how much I miss that "new baby smell". I just remind myself of all the bills that I currently have, and how deep I'm sinking. I don't want my kids to be wellfare cases, or have screwed up teeth b/c I couldn't afford braces, or have them miss out on great x-mas', b/c I couldn't afford presents. Having babies are expensive, b/c they grow up, fast, and then you have to pay for the expensive stuff. The school trips, the cool clothes, the dental work, band/sports stuff, school pictures, daycare, and the everyday stuff you take for granted. Not to mention, I want my kids to be proud of me and of themselves. I want my kids to see me standing on my own two feet, and know, that that is how they should live. You can't do that on welfare. You can't be a strong, proud, independant woman when you are living off of this failed system, and by no means, can you raise your kids to be what you are not. But I guess that's just my opinion, formed by education and experience. Look long and hard down that road before you leap, that's all I'm saying.

Jenny - posted on 01/02/2010

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yes, i was 17teen when i found out i was pg and had her when i was 18 on april 17 07, this was kind cool bc i just turn 18 on the fourth i went to the doc to talk about b-c with my doc and well i couldnt get it bc my 2nd baby was already on his way lol i had him in march 08 so yes they r vary close in age and i can tell u this i wouldnt have it any other way they r like best friend my oldest is such a good sis to her brother she makes sure if she get a drink or candy or anything she has to make sure her bubba has it to she always worried where her bubba is when he goes somewhere with out her always asking where bubba or bubba ok it so cute and i love seeing them so close and im omost 21 and so ready to have a another baby.

Cassandra - posted on 01/02/2010

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I would really like another one! My daughter is eight months this month and i get baby fever so bad i miss her being in my panza i miss feeling her kick and move i LOVED being pregnant the first time im wondering if it will be the same this time around. I dont think it would be a good idea right now tho i want her to have her own time maybe when she is like two I will actually try to have another one.

Jennifer - posted on 01/02/2010

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I love being a mother to my little month old... to all the new words they learn to every smile, i also had baby fever really bad once i had logan even though i had a little one in my arms i was already planning on when i was going to be having another... My fiance' and i are planning to wait tell logan turns 2 before we start trying that why i can work more on college and work then also spend as much alone time i can with him.....

Gen - posted on 01/02/2010

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Having another baby is a big decision for the both of you. It changes every one's world. The biggest factor that you need to keep in mind is whether you can give that baby what they need to survive & to have positive life. Bringing a baby into the world when you can't provide is not fair to you, your spouse or your other child. I was 19 when I had my first & because of the relationship I was in at the time with his "father" I would have waited only because I would have made sure that I finished college & could provide for my child. However, I don't regret having as many children as I do now because they are the greatest joy in my life. It's also a bonus to each child to have a playmate. My now husband & I LOVE being parents & couldn't expect to find a greater more satisfying experience. Before you make the final decision to have another baby, I would make sure that it's the right move for you & your family.

April - posted on 01/02/2010

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Quoting Ella:

My son is 9 months old and im 17. As much as i love him i cannot think of anything worse than having another now. Do other teenage mums not miss their old lives alot? I find myself constantly thinking about how i should have waited a few years to have my son.


 



Hiya, I feel the complete opposite to you lol! I had my son at 17, i'm 18 now and my son is 14months, i am so pleased that i had my son when i did, i can still do everything i used to before i had him, my friends and family were sooo supportive and i still go out clubbing every now and then, i work, i see my friends and also do loads with my son like taking him out and spending days in with him etc. I reaaalllyyyy want another one now though as i think it would be the perfect age gap by the time the new baby would be born, just a shame that my partner (also my boy's dad) isn't too keen!! Lol!!

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i was 15 when I found out I was pregnant. 16 when I had him. Now I'm 18.. I love my lil boy to death, but as for having another baby not anytime soon for me.. Maybe one day but right now my son is all I can handle.. As for you It's not wrong to want another child it's just can u handle the pressure with juggling school, work, and your daughter?

Lori - posted on 01/02/2010

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babies are wonderful I had five. but you need to keep in mind the you will be responsible for there mental, emotional and spirtitual health. Too many kids make that difficult. work on yourself like you are and then when you are in a better place to make such a decision you can. Trust me my kids have some big scars for my love of babies. Working and going to school is tough and a long road. 3 are grown with two of them resenting my choices. :(

Cheyenne - posted on 01/02/2010

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I am only 17 and my baby is 2 months old...but aidyn's dad hasn't been in the picture since the day i found out...but i met this great guy and we have been ttogether since i was just a couple months along...we are newly engaged as of christmas...and i would LOVE another baby...i would love to have baby by my fiance although he treats aidyn just like his own and was there for the delivry and everything i would LOVE to carry his biological baby and i know how bad he wants one but i am just starting college and even though he has a good paying job i am just working a dq to help support us...so i have to wait until i can get just a little bit better paying job and get farther in college...

Rozess - posted on 01/01/2010

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i have a 6 and a half month baby and i am 23 weeks pregnant with my 2nd baby, it happened to fast but i am happy he will be having a lil brother, they will be close in age and can grow up together, id rather have them close in age then years apart. :)

Eleisha - posted on 01/01/2010

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I would absolutely love another one. My daughter is 8 months old and I love her to bits. She is my world and wants for nothing. She too shares my bed and I wouldn't have it any other way. But alas, I have had baby fever for the past couple of moths. While I would adore another one, I know right now is NOT the right time. Besides the fact I am a single mum (baby daddy couldn't hack it), I am off to uni next year. I want to finish uni and better our lives before I bring another little one into this world. While my daughters needs are ALL met, I feel financially 2 would be a struggle. And besides, I want to find the PERFECT daddy and hubby for myself and my daughter... and the then it will be the right time! But it still doesn't mean I want one any less lol!

Faith - posted on 01/01/2010

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My son will be 1 January 3rd. i am engaged to be married in april. I stopped birth control completely. I am going to be 21 and he will be 29. We want another. We are trying to have another and hopefully a beautiful baby girl. if we have another boy and things go well with 2, then we will think about trying again. but if we have a girl, then we are done for a while. we both want children close in age. if i get pregnant anytime soon they will be almost 2 years apart. if you think you can handle it...so be it. but if not then i would wait until you are out of school and on your own. with a committed relationship

Kelly - posted on 01/01/2010

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i had my first one at 18 (2 now) and then i had my 2nd when he was 21 months (will be one on the 222nd of this month) its hard but lve it..me and my husband decided on 4 kids all together but we arent going to have anymore for a little while until we get more financally stabal

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I am 20 and I have a 2.5 year old little girl, but I do not want another baby right now. I suppose I want one, but I think I would tear my hair out! I want to wait until my little girl is over 4 or 5 years old. That way I can see her grow up and not have to worry about taking care of another. I also recently babysat a 6 month old little boy, and I have to say.. having two only two years apart is really difficult, and that was just for one day.

Kayla - posted on 12/31/2009

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I have a 11 month old she'll be one on the 19th and at the rate she's going yes I do still want more children now or whenever I know i'm young but like I said age doesn't define how good of a parent you are!!! And I know I can take care of my children!!

Sarah - posted on 12/31/2009

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even though im 19 yes i wanted another baby right after i deliverd her...idk why i ust did but then i thought now i dont want anohter one till she at least can walk she is only 4 months now...i want another one really bad. i own my own house, and car...i graduated from highschool plus ot my cosmetology license on the side..but also i dont know if i want one right now bcus i dont want my daughter to be left out...she is also really spoiled and idk...i want 3 or 4 kids i know that..i think ill wait till im 21 and then decide if its a good time! i mean i do everything by myslef even though her father is here with us...so at least she will be 2 then so she will be able to walk and not be held so it should be good then! plus i love kids... i dont miss my teenage years at all sure they were fun and a blast but i love my lil girl to death she made me feel complete!

Karen - posted on 12/31/2009

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hey im Karen i have a 10 month old boy and i would Love to go through the experience of pregnancy and giving birth. I loved the birth pains because it told me the beginning of the life of my child was near. I took no medicine for the pains and believe it or not i want to go through that again because when i got to hold my child it made me 10X happier and like i said i would like to go through that again but my fiancée thinks its best to wait.

Stephanie - posted on 12/31/2009

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my daughter is going to be 4 months and i think about it once in awhile how i want another baby but i thinkit would be too hard and plus my bf doesnt so its not going to happen for awhile

Amanda - posted on 12/31/2009

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I do!!!!! I have wanted another since before my little man was born and he is 13 months now. I have been trying for another and it has not worked yet. I finally decided that I want to be more healthy and in better shape before it does happen because I did that to get pregnant last time. I have another 14lbs to lose until I am absolutely ready to be prego again.... Good luck with whatever you choose. By the way I am now 20, also going to school and working full time with both to raise my little man.

Sammie - posted on 12/31/2009

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I understand what you are going through. I've experienced those feelings also. My daughter just turned 1.The best thing to do is wait. Yes they are cute and cuddly, but also expensive. In may case me and my boyfriend both agreed to wait until we are financially stabled, and our daughter can help herself if either one of us can not cater to her. Just wait, and give your bundle of joy all the love and attention she needs..

Melissa - posted on 12/31/2009

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oh yeah baby fever has been hanging over me for a long time i continue to secretly look at baby stuff everywhere i go.... my daughter is almost 6 and i am so wanting another one soon, but living in a small mobile home with nowhere to put another child except a drawer (lol kidding) i have come to the conclusion that i will not get to have another child unless by some miracle my husband gets a raise, which wont happen or we win the lottery once again probably wont happen...

Brittany - posted on 12/31/2009

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I have a 10 1/2 month old son, and he's definitely a had full. He's walking around, getting into everything.. but I still want to have a baby girl. I just don't think I could handle having to wake up every 2 hours alone again. I got pregnant at 17, had Karson at 18 and i'm 19 now. I'm definitely going to wait until i'm done college to have another baby. and have a stable husband/fiance.

Chrissy - posted on 12/31/2009

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I was older than most of you were when you had your children. I was 19 when my son was born, and I love him to death!!! He is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I have to say, even though of course I want more kids- and honestly I don't want to wait a long time between my kids, right now isn't the time for me. I really want to married when I have my next child. I went through hell when I was having my son- his father treated me like absolute $# !+, if you're picking up what I'm putting down here. And although we are trying to work things out for the sake of Brayden, I definitely don't want to repeat what I've been dealing with- I have no money and his father hasn't been helping me out- we don't have our own place, my son and I share a room at my nana's house- my son's father and I are just not sure we are right for each other and we fight all the time... I just want to enjoy my next pregnancy and I don't want to be worrying about another baby on top of the one I already have, if I'm not 100% stable. I would like the opportunity to go to school and have a job I like, or if I decide to be a stay-at-home mom, then I want my husband, not boyfriend, to be able to completely support us. I'm not saying I need to be wealthy. Just stable. Trust me, after being with your baby of COURSE you're going to want another one- cuz everything is just so great... Just consider your own situation.

Jade - posted on 12/30/2009

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i have a 16 month old son but i personally would rather my kids to a bit of an age gap but everyone is different.for instace my friend has 2 children and she had her son at 16 then 1 month after having her son she fell pregnant again with her daugther she is now 19 and i have never seen her happier so its all about how you feel and what you want it really odesnt matter if other people age want another one so close cause its your own but congrats i think you would do great with 2 kids and would make your life so much happier and the kids to be happy aswell

Sasha - posted on 12/30/2009

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i had my son at 17 and hes now 2 1/2 and ive had that feeling many times but ive always told myself if im stressing with one kid i cant imagine chasing after one kid with a crying baby on the side.,, besides having to do it on my own,.. i know if i had help it would be hard no matter what,.. harder to go places and travel and do anything so im waiting :)

Autumn - posted on 12/30/2009

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I would love to have another baby! lol. I got pregnant with my daughter at 16 and had her at seventeen and i'm nineteen now and i still have those baby cravings! but its not in the cards for me right now i work and go to college but thats my choice. I say if that child can be loved and cared for just enough has your daughter now then go right ahead! I think it sounds like your a great mom and should bring another child into the world to share the wealth with :) i hope my advice helped you! Good Luck

Racheal - posted on 12/30/2009

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my daughter is 8 months old and i want another one so bad but i know its not the ttime to . i dont plan on haveing another one until my daughter is 5 years old but with the way im feeling i could go when shes 3. i loved being pregnant and i love being a mom.

SHalene - posted on 12/30/2009

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the thought has crossed my mind..like i would want another one now so that my children will be close in age..my son is now 9 months..but when i think realistically its way too much work..if things were better with my babys father then maybe but as of right now i love my son to death and i wouldnt want him to not have all my attention..

Jessica - posted on 12/30/2009

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i've wanted another one for a while. i had my daughter at 17, im now 18. but i think the best decision is to wait, i think you should too.

Ashley - posted on 12/30/2009

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I had my son at 17. i am now 18. I have another on the way.. and im really starting to stress about it. i am constantly thinking about my life and where its gone.. i have NO time for ANYTHING.. Dont get me wrong, i LOVE my son to death and more. it just makes it really hard when his father isnt apart of his life and i have him twenty four seven.. it just makes me nervous. its a big step to take, im sure ill be fine... However, i wouldn't recommend planning it.

Marina - posted on 12/30/2009

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my daughter is only 4 weeks old today and i would love to have a nother soon. but i know my husband doesnt agree and hes also told me that if we have too many kids too soon he could be discharged :( so he thinks the soonest and safeest would be to start trying again in 4 years

Christina - posted on 12/30/2009

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well I don't want no more right now. I have a 2 year old daughter and a 4 month old son. My fiancee saids he wants a little girl. But me and him bot agreed that it would be way down the line. Especially for me because i went through so much pain wit my son. All through the pregnancy and all. so you can only do what you want. if you think that you are financially stable enough and think that you have the time to involve another child then you go ahead and have another if you want. But think about all those things before deciding. just keep it real with ya. LOL!!! hope this helps.

Ella - posted on 12/30/2009

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My son is 9 months old and im 17. As much as i love him i cannot think of anything worse than having another now. Do other teenage mums not miss their old lives alot? I find myself constantly thinking about how i should have waited a few years to have my son.

Brooke - posted on 12/30/2009

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Yes the thought has crept into my mind but I love my life the way it is. I dont want to put that kind of pressure on myself right now. I know if it happened I would cope but if it doesn't have to happen for the next year than I am happy with that.

My partner and I have decided to try around aug/sept next year. My daughter will be around 18 months which I think is a good age gap.

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