Are you a pregnant teen or a teen mom?

Mom To - posted on 04/07/2009 ( 18 moms have responded )

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I just wanted to share a little bit of my story with those of you that are scared to death, lost or whatever you may be feeling.

I had my daughter when I was 16. She will be 16 in 16 days (April 23rd). I am 32 now. I was doubted by everyone and anyone especially my own mother. My parents tried to 'take' my daughter from me, not legally just 'take' her so I could go and have fun and be a teenager like I was supposed to be. I refused. I was told I would never be able to make it or raise my daughter on my own. I moved out of my parent's house when I was 17, my daughter was 1. There are many stories inbetween that I would love to share if anyone wants to hear but as of today 16 long, hard years later my daughter is my best friend and I am so proud of the beautiful person she has become. She is in honor's classes and makes straight A's, she is a cheerleader, she's plays softball and volleyball. She will be driving in 16 days and I have looked forward to this day ever since I found out I was pregnant with her. We made it! She is going to be a Pediatrician and has already started taking college credit classes in high school. She is my world and made me who I am today. I also have 4 other children besides her. I had another kid when I was 19. I raised the two oldest ones by myself until my daughter was 9 and my oldest son was 6. It was very hard but we lived and we learned. It is great to be young enough to enjoy my kids and actually understand what they are going through. Although I was doubted I prevailed and proved everyone wrong. I raised a wonderful, respectful, beautiful and responsible young lady who is now the same age I was when I got pregnant with her. Being a teen mom has as many advantages to it as it does disadvantages! Don't let anyone make you feel bad or less of a person for getting pregnant, almost everyone else is having sex too - they just aren't ready to be responsible for a human life so they weren't blessed with getting pregnant. It probably doesn't seem like a blessing now, but trust me if you keep your head on straight and keep that baby your #1 priority at all times and cherish every second being a teen mom will become the biggest blessing and the best thing that ever happens to you in your life! (My kids are 16, 13, 10, 8 and 5 btw) I hope this makes someone feel better. Please, any questions, comments or just wanna talk.....reply

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Dee - posted on 04/11/2009

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i first got pregant when i was 16 and had my first son by c section, all tho my pregancy i was in and out of hospital with problems my son was born 6 weeks early has he had stopped breathing (i will never forget that day as the doctors thought they were peforming a c section on a woman whos baby was dead or dying) and at 17days old he had majour heart surgey with a 1 in 5 chance of living luckley he survived but it was a very stressfull time for me as i was really young ( the worst 6 weeks of my life were spent in leed hospital yorkshire wondering if my son was going to pull tho after all the heart ache at birth), my first son is doing reall well now he still goes for check ups and he is a little slow putting weight on and was a little slow with his speach but he is coming on leaps and bounds and he is one amazing boy as the operation he has done has only been done on a hand full of babies so he is so lucky.... my secound so i 4 months old and was born dec 08, he is a little gem but totally different to his brother but i love them both the same, i had an easy pregancy with him but i was in labour for 3 weeks but when he decied to come he came in 5 mins and i didnt have chance to have any pain relief but you easily forget the pain when you look at ur lovely child....

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Toni - posted on 04/26/2013

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I am 22 years old and I have a 4 year old son.
I always believed that I never wanted children, but I never expected to meet Mr Right either.
When I found my now husband, we knew we would spend the rest of our lives together.
I had my son just before I turned 18, and same with most teenage mothers out there, everybody said I would never be able to look after my child, or my relationship wouldnt last.
Well, it has been a tough few years, but my relationship is just as strong as ever, and my son is now going to preschool. We are buying a house in a beautiful little town and I am doing schooling so I can start my own business.

Kimberly - posted on 04/25/2013

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I'm 17, I will be 18 in june! I'm pregnant with a baby boy, he is due in August ! Thanks for sharing your story! At First it was hard on me without having any support , but now I have all the support I need and I'm truly blessed !

Call.me.bebe - posted on 04/23/2012

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i am now 17 with two kids.i will be 18 in June,my son is three,and my daughter is one.i am doubted by many people too but they don't matter because i still have people who love and support me.

Casey - posted on 04/19/2012

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Thank you for sharing. Its very encouraging! I would now like to share my story.
I was 17 when I had my son. I turned 18 9 days later. I lived with my mom and step dad who could not of been more supportive. Shortly after I had my son I moved about 20 mins west of my mom and in with my dad and step mom who also couldnt of been more supportive. I lived there and worked full time until 2nd semester of my Sr. year of highschool. I then moved back in with my mom to finish highschool and worked as much as I could. In June of 2008 I moved out. My son was 10 months old. I bought my own trailer and lived there until June of 2011.I then moved in with my boyfriend and his 2 kids. We are now one big happy cramped family of 5. It is possible to have a baby, finish highschool, and make it all work. You just have to keep you eye on the prize that wonderful baby. You can do what ever you set your mind too. Work hard and you will end up where ever you want too

Nikki - posted on 04/17/2012

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Thanks for sharing your story I enjoyed reading it .... I got pregnant at 17 and got married/ moved out of my parents house. I have been with my husband for four year .... there has defintaly been hard times for us but we are making it and happy to be a family.

Jess - posted on 04/17/2012

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thanks for that its very helpful im 16 and due to have my first baby in august and am doubted by alot of people but i dont care i already love my baby girl so much and she havent been born and finding out i was pregnant was one the best things to ever happen to me :)

Rebecca - posted on 03/04/2012

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I'm a teen mom. i had my daughter at 16, 4 years ago. and she is the best thing that ever happen to me

Samantha - posted on 02/19/2012

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thanks for this i turned 17 in august and my daughter is two months old and everyone doubts me but i an dead set on proving them wrong

Heidi - posted on 04/24/2009

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its great reading all your stories. im new to circle of moms because im not mum yet. my baby is due the begining of september. i have just turned 19, and i feel the stigma attatched to teenage mums. luckily i know quite a few people who lvie near me who are teen mums too,and are coping very well. I wasnt planning on having a baby, i had just started my nursing training, but im happy im having a baby now. i know i can be a mum and do my training too. hope my teen mum story works out as well as all of yours! xxx

Monique - posted on 04/08/2009

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im 18 and having a baby.. its really scary and people do judge, especially since my mom had me at 15. but i am just going to try my best and raise this child, i know its going to be difficult, since im going to be a single mom bt i am determined to prove people wrong and give my child the life it deserves.. thanks for your story. it is very motivating

Amanda - posted on 04/07/2009

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I am now 30. I had my "little girl" when I was 16. She is 13 now and though she can be a challange. I think she is doing good. She helps when asked, makes all A's, loves to read and helps out with her younger siblings. I would like to reach out to mothers who are where I was 13 years ago. I could have used someone to tell me that I could be a good mother and that things could be OK if I wanted it to work out. I would love to be of some support to somebody who needs it. I wish I could have had someone to talk to when I was there. BTW I have gone on to become an RN and work in a neonatal ICU unit. You can make something of yourself and be a teenage mother!

Kat - posted on 04/07/2009

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I appriciate what you have written.  I am sixteen and am about to have my first child in another month or so. I got married to the man of my dreams despite what others (my mother) kept saying to me. I've been put down and told that my marriage would never last, but I have stuck to my guns and proved them wrong thus far. I know i will continue to do so in the future also. I am so excited about this baby and am looking forward to having this litle blessing with me. My husband will be leaving about 3 weeks after he is born for the military and willbe gone for 9-10 months. I think that God sent me a little angel to keep me company while he is away; i hate being alone. Thanks for your story!!

Laura - posted on 04/07/2009

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It feels good to prove them wrong. I know how had divorce is from experience. My parents got divorced a year and a half before I got pregnant. My husband and I always make sure to make time for each other without the kids. We talk about everything. I took my parents divorce hard. My husband also knows divorce from experience as well his parents got divorced when he was a kid. I love my kids and my husband more than anything. I couldn't imagine what my life would be like without them. And addressing a problem in a marriage amd fixing it is definitely the most important things you could ever do for your children. I will tell my story to anyone who wants to know.

Mom To - posted on 04/07/2009

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Laura, It sounds like you got it together very early in the game, unfortunatelly I wasn't that lucky.  My only other advise to you with being married is to do everything in your power to stay happily married. Make time for yourselves seperately from time with the kids and never lose sight of why you fell in love. If even for a moment you see your marriage slipping away immediately address it and fix it. That in my opinion, is one of the most important things you will ever do for your children.  That is a whole other chapter in my life and my kids life. Divorce is the hardest thing in the world on kids, regardless of how old they are. I love my husband now more than anything but if I would have known that my divorce would have effected my two oldest kids the way it did I can't say that I would have ever gotten divorced.



On a better note......Isn't it an amazing feeling to prove people wrong and look at the beautiful family you created?

Mom To - posted on 04/07/2009

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Good for you! Going to school and raising your daughter is only going to get more difficult as time progresses but I promise if you hang in there it will pay off.

Laura - posted on 04/07/2009

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That actually makes me feel a lot better. I got pregnant with my first when I was 17. I married his father and I love him more than anything in the world. I had my first when I was 18. I was told by people I wouldn't be able to make it and that I was making a big mistake by keeping my baby and marrying the father. I wouldn't give up my baby for the world. The really crappy part was that my mom wanted me to have an abortion and I never thought of abortion as an option. My husband was a high school drop out. Three days after my dad asked what we were planning to do my husband had completed all 5 GED tests and was accepted at a college in Madison, WI. And in Sept. 07 when I was 6 months pregnant with our daughter he graduated and is now a Mechanical Designer. Our daughter was born the day after Christmas in 07 and our son is now 5 and our daughter is now 1. I keep a very clean house. My kids are very well taken care of and now I'm looking at colleges to go to myself. I'm glad I finally found someone who went through it and prevailed no matter what people said.

Samantha - posted on 04/07/2009

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I really enjoyed reading your story!  I am 19 years old and have a 7 month old girl.  I am taking classes that are pre-req for nursing, and will be starting clinicals hopefully next spring.  My daughter is my life, my existance...but it is difficult and wearing sometimes.  It is nice to hear someone who understands, who has been through it and come out on the other side.  Thank you for sharing, and God Bless!

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