Laura Zoey - posted on 12/05/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )
everyone keeps saying we spoil my son by giving him alot of attention, holding him when hea asks, i breastfeed him to sleep at night, etc.
but seriously, spoiling a baby would have to be with material objects, buying too many toys, giving in to every whim they have with stuff.
you can never have a child that loves you too much, they cant trust you too much, they cant count on you too much.
theres no age where a mom should try to force her child to stop depending on her I mean how many parents are frustrated at their teenager because their ten thinks they dont need mom and dad anymore! that they are an adult already, maybe tis because we keep trying to make our babies and toddlers grow up and not depend on mom anymore.
we try to make them seep alone, feed them selves, comfort themselves, play alone, etc
we seem to only want our kids to be independent and then when they grow up a bit and decide they ARE independent we try to yell at them that they are just a tenager and still need us!
I mean come on!
babies, toddlers, children, teens, they need their mom and dad to guide them to help them grow and develop.
they arent supposed to be independent until afulthood so why are we trying to make our 3 month olds sleep alone, with a pacifier as a fake nipple, holding their own bottles, self soothing, and having alone time to play? not holding them when they want up, not cuddling them, weaning them at a year, etc etc.
We brag about how independent our 15 month old is like its a good thing, and thn complain how our 15 year old thinks he is an adult.
doesnt this sound messed up?
YOU CANT SPOIL A BABY WITH LOVE!
babies need mom, they need comfort, they need safety.
dont make your baby grow up so fast.