Baby daddy

Justine - posted on 06/04/2010 ( 124 moms have responded )

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SO how many of you mom's are still with the father of your baby? I'm having trouble with mine.. Just communications issues. We have been doing better lately, my baby girl is 3 months old and i really hope that we stay a family forever. I want my daughter to have a mommy and a daddy that are together.

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Tamzin~Rose - posted on 09/26/2011

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I'm not with my sons biological father because after Elyjah was born he turned into a control freak and told me a whole bunch of shit and pretty much tried to ruin my selfesteem so i dodged that bullet.
the problem i had was because he refused to better himself and work on our relationship.
if you want a relationship to last you really need to work hard on it and be able to talk, its alot of work but its also a two way street so you both need to work on it.
i am now in a great relationship that i really do think will last because we have great communication skills and help each other out.

Ashly - posted on 06/10/2010

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I separated from my Boyfriend when my daughter was 7 months. He wasnt ready, he reminded me that he wanted an abortion to begin with when we werent getting along... we had major communication issues. It was the best decision i ever made for myself and also for my daughter. I have found someone else who loves my daughter more than life itself, he is the best daddy I could ever imagine for my daughter and a much better lover in general for myself. Only you can say when things need a change.. i hope everything works out for u!!

Rachel - posted on 06/05/2010

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Im still with my babys daddy, hes actually my husband now. In July we will have been together for four years and trust me it has not been easy. Relationships are hard especially since boys like to stay immature forever. It just depends on you and if you really want to make this work. Just remember boys dont like to be grown up no matter what the situation is. good luck!

Gina - posted on 06/05/2010

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me and my boyfriend are doing well, im surpised tho cause before we had our daughter he wasnt faithful or anything but hes really chnged, my advice is to just keep on trying dont give up !!

Desiree - posted on 06/04/2010

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I'm still with the father. Our daughter is just over a year old now. While I was pregnant we had major issues b/c he was very unfaithful. But I loved him too much to just let him go & eventually he came around. I still have trust issues with him but things are A LOT better now that he has his head on straight. He's been working hard to prove himself & we're saving for our own place together & want more than anything to get married. And believe it or not we're closer than we've ever been & the only way things could be better is if we had our own place already & a ring on my finger ^.^

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Stacey - posted on 08/02/2012

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real talk i think its BAD to try to force your relationship to work for the sake of ur bby.because to me those feeliings are fake..i mean its a good thing but 9 times out of 10 you guys are gonna end up arguing .me nd bd been together for almost two years n we fight.BAD to the point where ppolice get involve ..he bust my lip smack me choke me.i gave him a concusion nd to top it all off he fought me when i was 9MONTHS PREGNANT...ND I WENT TO JAIL TF'.....most of our arguements be about why i dnt have any respect for me ...well i can never respect u as man i always tell him that.im young with one child i shouldnt have to go thru this shit .i can never do anything.soo overprotective .we stay together .but yuhh know whats crazy when i had an$11 an hour job none of this was going on.na im out of work nd he has an $7.50 job nd he thinks he do so much for me..HELP im stressin moms im torn between the two ion wanna be with him but i do for the sake of my son nd its been hell ugh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!wWHAT TO DO..WHAT TO DO..???????????????????

Kelsey - posted on 10/26/2011

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I am still with my baby's father. We argue but we avoid arguing around our son as much as possible. he blames me for everytime we fight. he just doesn't understand how stressful it is taking care of our son 24/7 and hardly getting out. we're working on it though. good luck to you [:

Claire - posted on 10/20/2011

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I thought I was happy with my baby's daddy... but things are getting to be really hard. our daughter is 20 months old and we got married 3 months ago. now it just seems like we are never on the same page. i thought we could be a happy family, but now i'm starting to wonder... :(

Renee - posted on 10/03/2011

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My daughter will be 2 years old on the 9th & her biological father has notheing 2 do w/her. She has a daddy who loves her & sees her everyday.

Heather - posted on 10/03/2011

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My son will be 2 in January and I'm not with his father. I tried my best to make things work, but it was always a one sided conversation. He brought a lot of unnecessary drama into our lives and I believe my son doesn't deserve to be in that situation. So, I broke up with my son's father and have moved to try and start a brighter future for my son. No, I didn't move to take my son from his father... It's just the only way that I could find to get ahead. My son's father would never help either physically or financially with my son. He would only come to see him maybe once a week for about an hour. It got to be where he wouldn't even take him to stay the night because he was scared to death I was going to be able to go do something for one night. (which i never did when he had him, because the whole time i was missing my baby!) It was just too much and neither my son or I deserved to be treated like he didn't care. And even since we've been here I've tried to keep him informed and give him the opportunity to see him, but it's still the same drama... But I think it was a better idea for us to not be together because I wasn't happy with him because the way he treated me and my son and if I'm going to be with someone I want to be happy, if not then I'd much rather be alone.

Heather - posted on 10/03/2011

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My son will be 2 in January and I'm not with his father. I tried my best to make things work, but it was always a one sided conversation. He brought a lot of unnecessary drama into our lives and I believe my son doesn't deserve to be in that situation. So, I broke up with my son's father and have moved to try and start a brighter future for my son. No, I didn't move to take my son from his father... It's just the only way that I could find to get ahead. My son's father would never help either physically or financially with my son. He would only come to see him maybe once a week for about an hour. It got to be where he wouldn't even take him to stay the night because he was scared to death I was going to be able to go do something for one night. (which i never did when he had him, because the whole time i was missing my baby!) It was just too much and neither my son or I deserved to be treated like he didn't care. And even since we've been here I've tried to keep him informed and give him the opportunity to see him, but it's still the same drama... But I think it was a better idea for us to not be together because I wasn't happy with him because the way he treated me and my son and if I'm going to be with someone I want to be happy, if not then I'd much rather be alone.

Janeta - posted on 09/28/2011

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Me and my babys daddy are still together we have been together for four years and married for seven months its possible to do! Communication is VERY important though! (: Make sure that you make time to sit and talk with him in the craziness of your day of being a mommy! It makes all the difference in the world

Tawnya - posted on 09/25/2011

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I was a single mom from the time I was 2 weeks pregnant until my daughter was 4 1/2 years old when I met my husband.

Tiffany - posted on 09/24/2011

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I married my baby daddy. Our marriage isnt doing too well atm. but were determined to make it work for Haylies sake.

Tiffany - posted on 09/24/2011

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I married my baby daddy. Our marriage isnt doing too well atm. but were determined to make it work for Haylies sake.

Kayla - posted on 09/21/2011

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I'm not with my daughters father. He was there at first but eventually bailed and now barley sees her. I do everything for her by my self

Jennifer - posted on 09/20/2011

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We had been dating for about 8 months before we found out we were pregnant. i had broken up with him a week before i found out, but after talking things out decided to stay together and support each other. he lives an hour away in another state already, finishing school and working once a week. he is a veteran so school is paid for and he is paid monthly just to be going. his rent is also cheap (rents from his grandmother). i am staying home with my parents until i finish school. i'm taking a semester off to give birth and be home, but still working part time. hopefully i will be done with my degree next fall. (7 more classes). i live with my parents so the baby and i will be living rent free thankfully. the father will be coming to help every weekend and whenever he can dring the week. the distance has been rough on our relationship, but keeping communication strong has been key so far. i hope he will step up when our son is born and be a good father despite the demanding schedule. i'm remaining positive that we will both get our college degrees and be a true family after the first year of baby's life.

Micheal - posted on 09/16/2011

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I don't have that luxury. His dad is still trying to figure things out and I don't like his company so I guess I'm happy he's gone.

Jennaya - posted on 09/14/2011

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Every couple has communication issues. If you love your partner and you are willing to fix things, there is always a way. If he is willing, See a counselor. Don't make the common mistake in assuming that things can't be fixed. If the love is there, with work, so too will be communication skills.

Annabeth - posted on 09/14/2011

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I very recently broke up with my 1yr old son's father and it is the 2nd time we have split but this time is for good. He is very controlling and likes everything his way, i just can't live with that. We had a lot of issues in our relationship and it is easier for me in the long run to just call it quits. I hope he will continue to be a part of Alex's life becuase my son deserves his dad to stick around

Ashley - posted on 09/07/2011

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im not with my son dad he left me when i was 3 months pregnant cuz he loved clubs more then me and his son. my son is now 3 months old and his dad has only seen his for 5 times for 1 hour each time he dosent pay for anything and told me that he shouldnt have to be a dad cuz he didnt wanna be. We never talk the last time we did he called me the c word

User - posted on 09/07/2011

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I also want the same thing. My baby's father and I aren't in good terms since I got pregnant. He actually got a girlfriend and they just broke up recently. But that doesnt matter to me anymore. All I can say is try to patch up things with him as long as you can. But never let him take you for granted. You should not set your mind on the thought of "MOMMY DADDY BABY" because the more you think of it, the more you expect and the more you expect , the more it'll hurt. Whatever the reason of your misunderstanding, you just try work things out. But be sure that he's doing his part also. A relationship requires a lot of grown ups of TWO persons.

Kali - posted on 06/14/2010

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Alex, Evan's dad, isn't around. He lives too far away for us to have stayed in a relationship. And by far away, I mean FAR away. He lives in America, I live in Wales (UK)..

He's still in Evan's life and we keep in touch online. He's got a well-paid job so he was gonna pay for Evan and I to go on holiday up to America to visit him, but since I found out I'm pregnant he has to come down here. Which probably won't be for a while considering he has another two kids, plus one more on the way. He's 20 btw.

The dad to the baby I'm currently carrying is still with me! We're engaged and are planning on spending the rest of our lives together. I realise that's a hell of a long time, but I really do love this guy. And I honestly believe he's the one, and whatnot. So yeah, we're pretty serious;).

Diana - posted on 06/14/2010

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me and the father are still together n my daughter is 8 months now, but we too have the communication issues as well. it has caused us some problems, especially since it was an unplanned pregnancy n we werent officially dating at the time, we were kinda thrown into it, but neither one of us have regrets. were trying to make it work, n were gonna try counseling to help us communicate better. best of luck

Hannah - posted on 06/14/2010

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i'm still with my babies dad, to start with we didn't really get on properly but now she's here we're closer than ever, and i hope we never split up are baby girl is nearly 5months and it's bought us closer! x

Stephanie - posted on 06/14/2010

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I am still with my baby's father. We've been together for 3 years now and we're still doing really good. After the birth of our daughter things between us just seen to get only better. We are a lot closer than what we was and everything. Granted we fight about stupid things a lot that hasn't changed anything.

Charli - posted on 06/13/2010

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My relationship with my daughter has been on and off for the whole 2 years, mainly because he has children with an ex and because I fell pregnant like the first time we had sex. Aimee is 15 months old now and her father has only just moved back in with us after losing his job. We argue constantly but are trying to be civil for our daughter's sake. Some times at the beginning things are a lot harder and some times you can work though them. Trying to sit down and talk about things and if that doesn't work just give it time and try again. Hope this helps :)

Courtney - posted on 06/12/2010

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Im not with mine . .we were together for 4 yrs only the firt 2 were good the last 2 were troubled . .i kept waiting n parying he would change for our daughter n i finally gave up on him n it was the best thing i felt so relieved . .but thats our story . .we are friends now however hes in our lives off n on.

Jennifer - posted on 06/12/2010

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I am still with my daughter's father.
A child should bring you closer and help you to mature.
If you fight, swear, yell, etc. in front of your child when with your 'baby daddy' then he's definitely not goods news for yoour OR baby.

Tiffany - posted on 06/12/2010

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Yep were still together. August the 12th wil;l be our 3rd wedding anniversary.

Stephanie - posted on 06/11/2010

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We arent together. Some people just arent ment to be together and we werent.

Jamia - posted on 06/11/2010

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Well im with my baby's father and we are happy. We had a few problems during pregnancy but since our daughter arrived we have been doing a lot better. & i feel the same i really want us to lasdt forever and i believe we can cuz we genuinely love each other & she needs us both

Tiffany - posted on 06/11/2010

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I am currently with the father of my baby, but we are not doing so well. I have had my baby yet, due in dec. and i would love for us to make it, but i am doubtfull. I don't know what to do and i don't want to have to do it on my own.

Angeline - posted on 06/11/2010

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i am still with my baby daddy.. when i was six months preggo he and i went and got married down town

Brandi - posted on 06/11/2010

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My daughter's dad and i are no longer together....he and i were together, then 2 weeks before i found out i was 6 weeks preg i broke up w/ him cuz he had the tendency to lie and i found out he was cheating on me w/ a lil' 22 year-old whore in his hometown...i am 26, was 25 when i had my baby girl in dec 2009, and her dad is 32, gonna be 33 this month....i loved him, yes, i've known him since i was 15 and we had a GREAT friendship...i am dating a great guy now, and he has been with me through out my pregnancy, where as her dad wasnt really cuz he liked to pick fights w/ me...my daughter, Brooklyn, loves my boyfriend now...and has only seen her father once, when she was 5 months old, cuz her dad was locked up since before she was born....i love my boyfriend with all my heart and i am so glad my daughter has him in her life...i want her dad in her life as well, but im not "pushing" it on him, it's all up to him on how much he sees her and that. good luck to u w/ ur baby daddy...i hope things work out. :):)

Samantha - posted on 06/11/2010

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i'm still with the father. we have ups and downs. we live together with his parents.

Antionette - posted on 06/11/2010

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ME ND MY BABY FATHER ARE STILL TOGETHER AT FIRST WE HAD PROBLEMS BUT WE ARE STICKING THEM OUT FOR THE BABY SAKE AND OURS

Shannon - posted on 06/11/2010

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i wanted the same for mine as well, but things just werent good between me and him. if you want whats best for your daughter, think of your happiness too because she will feed off of it. my daughter is almost 2 now and she and i both have a wonderful man in our life and he is a far better dad to her and boyfriend to me, so even if things dont work out, there is hope, there are good guys out there, dont go for the first one that comes along if things dont go well. i hope they do good luck

Aliesha - posted on 06/11/2010

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guys are silly, esp young ones you can't just hint to them you have 2 spell it out. my baby's dad didn't get the hint even though the doctor thought i had depression and i was calling him most nights in tears. i had 2 learn not 2 beat round the bush and put mine and my baby's needs first

Sherry - posted on 06/11/2010

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lol, here's my baby daddy story... when I got prego with my frist daughter, he left me *we were 17*, after she was born, we got back together and i got prego AGAIN. This time, half way through my pregnancy, i found out he was doing cocaine and he was cheating on me so I left him... and stayed away frm him for 2 1/2 years... i was single mom of 2 babies and i was happy because my kids were recieving what was best for them at that time. BUT as time went by, he cleaned up completely beacuse he wanted to be with us, and now that he has grown up, we have our family and we are engaged. So even if things dont work out now, you cant completely rule out the fact that it will never work out. I have always loved him but I love my kids more. I knew what was best for them and the saying, if you let something go and it comes back you know it was always yours to keep... it can be true. :)

Britney - posted on 06/10/2010

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My baby daddy left practically 2 weeks after our daughter was born. After that we were on and off for a year before we broke up for good. He didnt do well with responsibility. Our daughter is almost 2 now and he her usually 2-3 times a week but never give me money or buys anything for her. I also cant really trust him with her alone, so I still have to pay for daycare while I work and go to college. Im better off without him but now I have to schedule times for their visits around all of my other responsibities.

Megan - posted on 06/10/2010

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Yes, I'm still with Eryn's dad and we're married. It will two years July 26 and still very much in love!

Danica - posted on 06/10/2010

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i know what that feels like, i got no help with my daughter at first. he just kept his distance. some guys just dont like hearing what you have to say. i finally worked up the nerve and forced him to listen and he did. my daughter is 17 months now and im getting married to my babys dad next month. hopefully he will take the time to hear you out. confront him.

Sydney - posted on 06/10/2010

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its really hard me and my baby daddy got married in november but are lil girl is 9 months now its dfinetly hard but im not willing to give up trying. i want my baby to have her mommy and daddy together forever

Alyson - posted on 06/10/2010

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i know exactly what you are talking about like you i am also having communication issues with my son's father it seems to have been like this since lucas was born in february. things seem to get better for a little while then we find ourselves fighting again but i want my son to have a mom and a dad in the same household.

Amanda - posted on 06/10/2010

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My husband and I have been married now for 2 years and 2 months. We have problems with communication sometimes but we have a therapist and we go to him when we really need to. His is a great daddy and he is taking care of us both!

Sara - posted on 06/10/2010

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I am not, i am 17 and the dad is 26 i was 16 when i got preggers and he was 25 but when my dad found out he called the police. I never told my dad I was going out with him, but my mom knew. She just didnt know how old he was cause i loved him and told a lie so i could stay with him. Anyways, it turns out that my dad already knew because he had a friend that worked with my babys daddy. So he knew more about him then I did. The fact is that now he is in the states without papers and now going to be called a sex affender. So trying to avoid all that, me and my mom bought him a ticket to go back to Mexico. After he was gone, I cried and cried for him because i missed him and didnt want to be a single mother, no one does. But then my mom told me somthing that would make everything worse. "Hes married and has 2 kids" and BOOM!! just like that I fell to the floor crying. At first I didnt want to believe it but then I went to see his uncle who I barely ever talked to and asked him if it was true and he told me it was. I was so sad. He gave me his number but I was always too scared to call. Finally, I decited to text him, he asked me to call him so i did. we talked for 2 hours that night. He said he loves me and wants to come back, but even tho i still love him, i dont ever want to see him again!

Kamie - posted on 06/10/2010

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trenton will be 5 months on the 24th and from the first day i found out i was pregnant i knew i wanted me and his dad to be together im still with him but we have had some problems and im not completly sure what the future will hold for us i want us too be together but i cant just be with him i think it is better for parents too be seperated and be civil than to be together just for the child and fighting all the time

Morgan - posted on 06/10/2010

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Me and my daughters daddy are still together and the relationship is strong!!! We are getting married June 11th 2011!!!

Bethany - posted on 06/10/2010

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Im still with my baby daddy, we were dating for a year and 3e months when i found out i was pregnant, You do tend to loose communication after you have the baby but like after the baby go to sleep try and spent some alone time together that really seemed to work for us. I wish you the best of luck!!!

Racheal - posted on 06/10/2010

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my daughter is 13months. i have been with her father for 4 years we have a very complicated relationship but are doing well

Amy - posted on 06/10/2010

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I wouldnt make yourself unhappy. to keep the family together. I would have been with my son's father for 3 years when my son was born. Unfortunatly we broke up a couple times during the pregnancy the first time a week before I found out I was pregnant, but we kept trying to get back together to keep the family together. About 2 months before my son was born his father decided to move to Oklahoma from Ohio.I was devistated but I knew I had to do what was best for not only the baby but myself. He assumed that when he left I would still be back here waiting on him. I moved on and I have a wonderful finance and a brilliant, happy 9 month old. Good luck with your situation.

Amanda - posted on 06/10/2010

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most young girls dont stay with their babydaddy that iv seen but i have to say other wise i have been with my sons dad for 4yrs aug 9th and we are now on our 2nd and i turn 18 on july8th.. when me and my babydaddy have problems i dont keep quiet on how i feel and i dont get mad and trip on him i just sit down and talk to him on how i am feeling.. if your babydaddy wants to be around u and ur baby then thats a good sign some guys dont they just cause fights so they can leave. I would like to b with mine forever to but if he wants to leave im not goin to stop him he will learn that he fucked up by leaving.

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