baby daddy drama.

Alisha - posted on 04/07/2011

Oh my, that is terrible! After crap went down with my daughter's dad, I decided to wait to have sex until marriage for this very reason, I want my man to be 100% dedicated and that is one test that will tell for sure if they really love YOU! I think that you need to accept the grieving process and start grieving over the loss of your family and your son's mom and dad not being together. I think that is the hardest part because it is almost like someone died getting over that. Obvioulsy this guy would never make an honorable husband to you looking at one incident of his ridiculous behavior that shows he doesn't love you or respect you (or his other girlfriend). Dear, you are wayy better off and I know how you feel because my daughter's dad & I were together for 4 years and I decided I needed to get over him because of his drinking and drug problems. If this is not something you want to deal with forever, than move on and you will find a worthy man!! I would talk a lot to your son about honorable behavior and how people should act, you will need to be an excellent example for him and keep communication open with your son because he will act strange when he comes back from his dad if that is the kind of example he has! Your son needs to you be strong!!

Megan - posted on 03/09/2011

If you think you guys could work out, and hes a good guy and treats you good, you both should try to work it out, So many young couples dont give the realship a good enough chance.

Taygan - posted on 03/08/2011

Leave him.. The same thing happened with me. I was only with him for 3 weeks when i got pregnant though, and i stayed with him until i was 6.5 months. I left him because he treated me horribly. He lives about 6 hours away and when he did come up and visit, he would tell me he would come pick me up on the way to visit his uncle, and i would call him a few hours later only for him to tell me he "forgot" to get me, and that he was not going to leave his uncle and friends to come get me. And he would say he would spend other times with me, but would get me and leave me at his friends house or uncles house to go out and drink with his friends. Once i broke up with him, his ex, who he has a 2 year old with, started talking to me. She lives where he does so she knows everything he was doing. She told me that before she knew he was with me, they were still sleeping together, and he would would leave the club every weekend with different girls.I also heard this from some of his good female friends who i had also become friends with. He tried calling me a few times and making up excuses, but i wouldnt have it. He then told me he wanted nothing to do with me or my daughter because i left him and i was giving her my last name. Then he would call and say he wanted to come see us. But at the same time he was trying to deny her to many people. He is very 2faced. (also because i gave her my last name, he refussed to sign the birth certificate), so he has no rights. I told him he is not aloud to visit her. After what he did to me, and how he was acting towards me with my daughter, i will not even let him be apart of her life. I really wanted her to have her father, so it was a hard decision i made, but i would rather her not know him, than have him there and just not show up to see her when he says he will, and break her heart. I dont need my daughter around someone who will have such a negative influence on her. And the same thing happened with his other daughtr, but she kept him in their live, and he treats them horribly. He will have his daughter for a week, and he leaves her with his mom, so he can go out to the clubs and get with other girls EEEWWWWW!

Nikkole - posted on 03/02/2011

i know what you must be going through is hard but you just need to leave him for GOOD, you know in your heart you don't want to be with someone who doesn't respect you and your relationship together, you deserve better and so does your son! I would def get supervised visits if you don't feel comfortable with this girl around your son, i would also talk to your ex and tell him you all need to be civil to each other for your son's sake, and cut ALL emotional ties with your ex by breaking up and then letting him back in (emotionally and any other way) and then telling his new girlfriend was not the best idea but im sure you know that it just starts more problems you do not need!!! Good luck :)

Kate - posted on 03/02/2011

you can most certainly keep your son's father's girlfriend away from your son. get a lawyer go to court and set supervised visits. tell them why you want supervised visits and you are more than likely going to get it. and tell them that he can not have your son around his girlfriend. if he breaks that after going to court he is in contempt of court and then he will lose some visitation time.

Candice - posted on 03/01/2011

well tell him about your sons changes and tell him that it didn't start til she came into the picture(VISUALLY) and tell him you think it would be a lot safer for your son if she not be around him as daddys girlfriend but as daddys FRIEND and only that and not to display affection toward her in front of your son. Hes very confused right now and them kissing or holding hands on huggin in front of him could just make him more confused. If baby daddy still doesn't understand then I'd take it all to court and let them know the changes started when she came around.

Aliesha - posted on 02/27/2011

hey also just wanna make this clear, I didn't sleep with him. and yeah i've talked to a few people who have noticed him change for the worse since meeting her.

Crystal - posted on 02/27/2011

Talk to him bout it, If u have to take him 2 court an try to get it to were he has to have visualized vitiation, Bcuz u can tell court that he wasnt actin like this till she got in the picture, An tell them how your kid is acting now,

Christina - posted on 02/27/2011

You move on with your life. You can't keep this woman out of your son's life because your son has the right to see his father. Set up a visitation schedule that you both can live with, and let it sit at that. If your ex tries to bring up anything, then you tell him that unless it has something to do with your son, you aren't interested. Also, be woman enough to turn him down! Do you really want to get back with a man who is willing to sleep with two women at once just to fulfill his own selfish desires? Do you really want your SON to think that this is ok, and that's how women can be treated?