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Kelsey - posted on 04/12/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I am almost 5 months pregnant with my first child. My boyfriend and I have been together a while and have a really great relationship. The only part of it is how much work we each do. All he does is work and doesn't have a license or anything at the moment and has to much pride to ask for help. I have to push and nag to have him get anything done. It is like I am being his mother. I can only take so much being pregnant and having to care for myself. I really don't know what to do. I try talking to him but he just gets angry. I can't deal with it. I am the one who he takes it out on when I just try and help. Anyways, I know he loves both me and this baby very much. He is a very sweet guy just like every other guy has some flaws. My only issue is coming up with what last name to give this baby. He wants to get married but I don't know since we are having such issues now. I have a feeling I will end up being a single mom because we will break up. He is pushing for his name really hard but I don't know what to do...

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Samantha - posted on 08/20/2010

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That was a problem my boyfriend and I had when I was pregnant. We are not married now and I'm still trying to figure out if we ever will, I'm in no rush to and he has issues with staying faithful for long periods of time. But that has nothing to do with your dilemma. ANYWAYS, what I ended up doing is giving our daughter both last names. Granted he gripes about it still. But perhaps one day he'll grow up and get over it. I like my last name but I wanted her to have both. Because later on down the road, if perhaps you two didn't get married, schools may not recognize you as the mother. My mom dealt with that my whole life cause i have my dad's last name. So why not keep it simple and use both last names.

Dominique - posted on 08/19/2010

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I gave my daughter her dads last name. If he is going to be there even if you two break up then why not. Most kids do end up getting their fathers last name.

Amy - posted on 04/12/2010

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i would use your lastname. yo ucan always change it afterwards. it will be easier to explain to the baby when he is older why his last name got changed then why his name and mommies name dont match. i know a few people who felt distant from their mother in a way because they had their fathers last name who spilt right after birth. and if for some reason you do split and demand child support in most states peturnity test is free if the state orders it. my brother just had to pay 400 dollars to get a test done on his son for custody. good luck to you

Samantha - posted on 04/12/2010

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i had the same prob as you but i decided to leave the father after he cheated on me that was the last straw but you have to think is this the kind of environment you want to bring a baby up in will it be loving and carin all the time? as for me i chose to give my son my last name but that was purley coz his dad didnt want anything to do with him ( i even had to go to court to get a paternity test so he would pay child support). if your partner is hapy to stick around and be a father to your baby then i dont see why you cant compramise and give your child both last names. i hope this helps.

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