c-section vs natural way ?

Bryce - posted on 07/28/2010 ( 72 moms have responded )

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Okay everyone , I am a very tiny girl and am worried about having her the natural way. I think it would cause way to many problems. My doctor doubts that she will be able to deliver her the natural way because of my size. Please give me some advice.. Was a c-section that bad for any of you ?

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Carlee - posted on 07/28/2010

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i would try to deliver natural, i know a few people who were really tiny and delivered natural it's honestly not as bad or scary as you would think. everyone is different though. my only advice is the epidural ! its a godsent

Rachel - posted on 07/30/2010

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I know people who were super tiny and gave birth the natural way. If I were you, I would try my hardest NOT to have a c-section. It takes a whole lot longer to heal from a c-section and with a natural birth, no surgery or any kind of cutting. But, every person and situation is different and you do what you think is best. So, I would first try vaginally and then if that doesnt work, then you can always have a c-section. Good luck! Hope everything works out well for you and the baby! :)

Olivia - posted on 07/29/2010

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Wow, i am seeing all these girls saying how terrible a c-section was. But everyone is different. I am tiny (a size one).. and i was planning to have a regular birth but they had me in labor too long and I stopped dilating at 6 cm, so they had to do an emergency c-section. I was so scared and crying, but it was not near as bad as I thought. Yes the healing takes a little longer, but it all depends on the person. My sister had a c-section and she took longer to heal because she didn't get up and move as much as she should of afterwards. I did pretty good after mine, and walked around like i was supposed to and I healed quicker and did good with it. I will definitely be getting another when I decided to have my second child.

Jessica - posted on 07/29/2010

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I would recommend you try to have your child natural. I had an emergency c-section and it was not the birthing experience I imagined. I was all alone. It took weeks to heal (3+). Because it is surgery, they are a lot of cons to the whole thing. Get and epidural, do it vaginally, and you should probably be just fine.

Melanie - posted on 07/28/2010

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I am not a very big girl, either. I did manage to deliver my daughter vaginally. I had the assistance of an episiotomy, but it did not cause me very much pain. I had very little problems with the incision. They give you a kind of squirt bottle to rinse with, and it was very soothing to have. I had some minor narcotics to help with the pain. It wore off before she was born, though. It was amazing knowing that I did it all on my own.

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Ashley - posted on 08/24/2010

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Hey don't worry. They perform those things daily. It just depends on you. I lost a lot of blood because my little guy was stuck. But Other than that my c-section went great. You'll be find don't worry. :)

Carlie - posted on 08/24/2010

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if you are wanting a natural birth tell your doctor they will do their best to make that happen, if you have something happen medically then the doctors will talk to you about it. Your birth canal stretches to accomadate the baby.

Corissa - posted on 08/24/2010

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I had my daughter through c section because just like you my baby was much to big for my frame I tried to have her naturally but I did not dialate past 4cm in over 24hours while on pitocin and her head would not drop down any farther the c section went well the epidural did not hurt I didn't feel anything but pressure when they were taking her out. I was a little groggy but could still tell what was going on her father and a friend of mine were allowed to sit by my head an talk to me and so did the anesteisiologist making sure I was doing ok and telling me what was going to happen and things I might feel. The only thing I did not like was being on pain meds after they made me very tired an I was not allowed to hold my daughter unless someone else was in the room with me. Now I have a verrrry faint scar and have had no problems at all

Cheyenne - posted on 08/24/2010

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i was planing a vaganil birth but my temp went up to 108 and my sons heart rate went up to 245,so they did an emergency c section. i missed out on seeing him, i was asleep the whole time. later they told my boyfriend that my son was so big that he wouldnt have been able to fit through the birth canal so i wouldve had to have a c-section anyways. but i was scared the whole time i was in labor. i was afraid to push and it would hurt. it hurt just them breaking my water. my son is fine now, hes a very healthy almost 7 month old. he was on antibiotics for 2 days because he was at risk for infection because of my temp being so high, but hes fine. and just because someone has a traumatic birth doesnt mean you will. it depends on you. if u feel more comfortable with a c-section then do it. it will hurt for a few months after but its worth it right?

Taygan - posted on 08/22/2010

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I am planning on have mine naturally, but my sister had her son by c section and she loved it. She says she will never have natural. She was up and about driving around and doing things 3 days after.

Noreen - posted on 08/17/2010

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My sister in law is maybe 100lbs soaking wet and wears a size 0 in jeans. She is TINY! She just delivered a 9lb 9oz baby boy. Like I said, she is TINY!! She can wear my son's 5T jean jacket and get it button. (even though the arms in the jacket were supper short. LOL)

Elaina - posted on 08/17/2010

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i admit after a long labor you dont care how the baby comes out. I was induced and was in labor for 40 hours. I was a little scared to push her out giving how big she was but its incredible. and i loved the feeling i got when i got to hold right after she was born

Elaina - posted on 08/17/2010

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I say try it naturally. im a little smaller than average size and my daughter was almost 9 pounds at birth. It was an incredible and unforgettable experience. also though I heard when you have a c section the dr requests that you dont pick the baby up for a few weeks so the staples dont rip out.

Noreen - posted on 08/17/2010

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I think that you should still try to have the baby the natural way. If you can't, then you can just have c-section. What is there to loose?

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I am also very tiny and I had a big baby as well so i had to get a csection. It is not that bad and there is no pain during the surgery. Since you are so small it is just safer for you and your baby to have a csection. The only down side to it is that you are on bedrest afterwards for a while, but its really not that bad.

Tracy - posted on 08/16/2010

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i have never had a c section but my sister did and the doctor didnt do it right and she and the baby got a staff infection i delivered my son natural and i rather do it natural than c section a doctor told my best friend when she was pregnant because of how small she was to go have sex as much as possible to open up her hips when the time came and it worked my best friend who weighed 90 pounds before she was pregnant gave birth naturally to her first kid c sections can have way more complications than naturally

Kayla - posted on 08/16/2010

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i personally did have one, but i know quit a few people who have and said it was awesome!

Alex - posted on 08/16/2010

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try naturally then if it doesnt work out, you can have a c-section. Just because your small may not interfere with anything

Marissa - posted on 08/16/2010

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I am a small girl too and i had to have my little boy by c-section but not because of my size. mine was not as bad as some peoples. The healing part is not fun though...when i wld bend over or lift too much weight while going up stairs my staples would rip open. Even now 14 months later i have issues with where i was cut open. They say if you do it naturally your baby and you will have an instant bond though

Briana - posted on 08/16/2010

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I think natural is the best way to go because i had my son natural. It didnt seem that much pain

Kayla - posted on 08/16/2010

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Youre 5'6" and were 100lbs now 130??? You can definately have that baby vaginally. I was 5'4" and 105 before I had my first little girl and had NO complications. I would reccomend getting a new dr who doesnt want to do a c-section. Some dr's push for them because its easier for the dr and they get paid more. You can do it and I say at least give it a shot. Its not easy, but anything worth having isnt easy! :) Good luck!

Michelle - posted on 08/16/2010

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i had an elective c-section and i LOVED it!!! i was able to get out of bed a it by the next day and five days after i was up and about doing pretty much everything. i recoverd fast!! and am sooo glad because i was pretty terified at the "natural way." everyone kept telling me i was crazy and not to do but i stuck to it and it worked wonders for me!!

Jade - posted on 08/15/2010

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I had an emergancy csection after 23hrs of labour and i honestly wished i had had her naturally, after being in labour for so long and then them just slicing me open it seemed like what was all that effort for also i had to be put to sleep so i missed my daughter coming into the world i missed her first cry and my partner and parents all saw my daughter before i did i didnt get to hold her until 40minutes after she was born, i feel like by having a csection that i missed out on some of the most special moments of her life. Its also hard to move around afterwards so it makes it difficult once your partner leaves the hospital and you need to care for your new born alone

Misti - posted on 08/15/2010

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just a few more things i was able to get up and be myself just days after having my daughter i was not in pain for months my daughter is a little over 2months old now. i feel great and im back down to my pre pregnancy weight. it is a little painful afterward but within 2weeks you should be fine. it will still be tender. and around the incision will feel a little numd bacuse they are cutting thru all your nerves and it will take longer to get full feeling back. i still have some of that but its not bad it just feels weird im no longer tender. Dont be afraid of a csection. just keep your incision clean after the birth!

Misti - posted on 08/14/2010

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i had an induced labor i went in planning on having a natural birth but after being in labor for almost 23hrs my doctor decided it would be best to have a c section. i was scared at first but everything was fine. after they delivered her they told me i wouldnt have been able to have a natural birth anyways her head was to big. i am also very small. the only thing that happened during my c section that i didnt like is while they were pushing the placenta out it made me throw up but other then that it was great. i was up walking around hours after and everything healed perfect my doctors were very happy. You can barley see my scar. i do wish i could have experienced a natural birth but im happy with the way everything went.

Destanie - posted on 08/11/2010

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i didnt have a c-section i gave birth naturally bo times and i dont see why a doctor would say because of your size you should get a c-section! i weighed 103 before i got pregnant both times and my first was 6 pounds 1 ounce and my second was 7 pounds 1 ounce and im now pregnant with our third and im going to do natural again unless theres an emergency where they have to do a c-section *fingers crossed that that wont happen* good luck!

Carissa - posted on 08/11/2010

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It's not so much what size you are as to how wide is your pelvis. But if you're a petite girl you very well might have a small pelvis. I would listen to your doctor and take his advice because he knows more about your situation than we do. But if you do have to have a c-section, their definitely not as bad as people make them out to be. Yes it is surgery so you will be sore but just get up, move around, and you'll be fine. I loved my c-section =) lol

Alisha - posted on 08/11/2010

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If you are tiny and your doctor thinks a c-section will be best than I guess that's what you have to do. I wouldn't worry about it too much (even though it seems scary) because your doctor has probably done hundreds of c-sections. Ask your doctor more questions to put you at ease about it. My sister had a c-section, and she did just fine. It's painful afterward, but so is the natural way!

Ava - posted on 08/11/2010

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The c-section is much worse. It's way more painful (you're in pain for about two months or more afterward; some girls still feel it after months or years). I would have definitely opted for the vaginal birth if I had had a choice. What I can suggest is get a second opinion with a mid-wife about vaginal birth. Doctors enjoy jumping on the chance to give you a costly surgery; more money for them. Most girls who get c-sections don't need them. If a midwife tells you she would give you a c-section, THEN you probably need one because they tend to be against them and would only tell you honestly if you really needed one (like mine was an emergency c-section with the mid-wife). You're a lot less likely to have one if you go through a mid-wife instead of a doctor. That being said, don't be worried about having her the natural way. A lot of girls are scared of it because they're worried they'll stretch out and stuff, but honestly, your body bounces back WAY faster from a vaginal birth (and kegel exercises make that area 'tight' again) than a c-section which some girls never recover from. I had one a year ago and my body still looks *terrible* in that area. It's so utterly depressing. I would fight for a natural birth myself.

Elizabeth - posted on 08/11/2010

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yes. i planned on a natural birth of my son who is now 15 days old. But unfortunately i had to get a c section for his safety and my incision ended up getting infected and i had a blood clot form. i was admitted into the hospital when my son was only 6 days old and was there for 4 whole days on IV antibiotics. im still sore and im still bleeding from the blood clot dissolving but im home now....finally able to spend time with my lil man.

CHRISTIE - posted on 08/10/2010

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I don't know your size but I am 5' 3 and weighed 110 when I got pregnant with all 4 of my kids. I had all of mine vaginal. The last one was natural. You can't be much smaller than me...so personally...I would try vaginal birth!!

Christina - posted on 08/10/2010

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I have one son and I'm 19. I had him by emergency c-section. Yes i was very scared and didn't want a scar for the rest of my life and was afraid of being cut open. The scar is hardly noticable on me and you can't feel anything at all and as long as you take the pain meds when needed it should be ok....after a while of me not having my meds, I thought I would be fine, but it gets pretty painful if you don't.

Amanda - posted on 08/10/2010

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naturally...if they find it will be too hard or too dangerous throughout labour they can follow and do a c-section..give it a try hun its an amazing experience..it is completely up to you...it is your birth you do what you feel comforatble with.

Marissa - posted on 08/09/2010

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Im a very small person too, and when i delievered my son my dr thought i wld be too small, we tried natural birth but it just wasnt not working. I had a c-section and the c section itself was not that bad and the healing wasnt all that bad but you have to watch how much you're benging over and all that, but even now 14 months later i have issues with where i was cut open;my scar. i am completely numb one inch above and below my scar, i cant feel anything there but if i accidently bump into anything it hurts really bad and i have internal issues.

Elisha - posted on 08/09/2010

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I'm a very small build as well fitting a size 6, i would definately recommend delivering naturally or at least trying anyway. Only get a C-section if its necessary. As both you and the baby will have a lot more problems after birth then you would with a natural birth :)

Sarah - posted on 08/08/2010

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My csection was not horrible. Like any other surgery it was painful afterwards. But I am a tiny girl. Before I got pregnant with my daughter I weighed 75lbs. so the doctor said it would be safer for me and the baby to have a csection. Now I am having my second child and the doctor is having me do another csection and I'm okay with that.

Amy - posted on 08/07/2010

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What was your pre pregnancy weight bec I'm 5"3' and my pre pregnancy weight was 92lbs. I ended up weighing 145 before my son popped out.

Sarah - posted on 08/07/2010

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My c-section was an emergency c-section. I was in labor for 36 hrs. I had contractions every 2-5 mins but no dialation or efacing. So they had to do a c-section. I would have rather done it naturally because it's better for the baby, but it's what had to be done

My c-section went perfectly fine. I was out walking at walmart 4 days after it. lol And walking the mall about a week afterward. I lost all my weight from breastfeeding and walking the mall. :)

Sicily - posted on 08/07/2010

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size honestly doesnt matter when it comes to having a baby.... my sister was only 82 lbs and had her baby with no problem.... im on the heavier side at 124 and my cervix was too small. and i hade to have an emergency c-sec. neither is easy... with natural... you have the labor and contractions and the pushing.... but with a c-sec. you have the healing afterwards... i couldnt walk for 2 weeks after my c-sec.... and after u have natural... u can get up and walk around in a few hours. but its hard to take care of a newborn with a huge cut on the bottom of ur stomach

Nikky - posted on 08/07/2010

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I'm 5ft and was bout 7st when i gt pregnant with my first daughter i delivered her mostly natural but with the suction cap other than that it was fine my second daughter was completly natural and other than kicking the midwife in the face everything was perfectly fine.

Kaara - posted on 08/06/2010

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dont panic for a start it will send your blood pressure out of control and make it alot worse then it truely is. ive had 2 because my kids have really big heads. i had more problems the first time because i went into labour and had to have an emergency c-section, i had serious cramps and was in alot of pain for months. the 2nd time i planned it and i was back to doing normal things like mowing the yard 3 weeks later. they released me from hospital 24hrs after my c-section the 2nd time snd i went shopping 2 days later. its all in the way you look at it if you see it as a big huge thing you are going to take forever but if you look at as something that has to happen so your baby gets here safely then its no worse then the doctors using the forceps or the vaccuum to help you deliver.

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I was a small girl when I got pregnant, and I had a big baby (just about 9 lbs). But they kept telling me I was gonna have a SMALL baby, about 6lbs. They aren't always right. It's much easier to recovery from a natural delivery with no complications and much less expensive.

Amy - posted on 08/04/2010

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Exactly how small are you and how big is the baby? I'm a little girl and my son came out to be huge and we did it natural with no pain relief.

Jessica - posted on 08/04/2010

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im a small girl too. but heres the good news Small mom generally have smaller babies. the babies are built to fit through our pelvises. and really why would you have surgery if you dont have to. you can always have one if the baby does not come out on her own while youve been in active labor. but honestly you heal much quicker and bounce back much faster from a vaginal delivery

Amanda - posted on 08/04/2010

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My mom had four kids, one with drugs the other three without (no c-section) but she still said the one with drugs was the worst. All of her babies were between 8 1/2 to 10 pounds. Do not let the doctors tell you that you are too small. We are made to have babies, it is natural for our bodies.

Bryce - posted on 08/02/2010

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Thanks , and i think naturally sounds way better. I really hope i don't end up getting a c-section now. :/

Sarah - posted on 08/02/2010

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i would try naturally i heard it takes longer to recover from a c section n when u do it naturally u get to hold ur baby right away :)

Sandy - posted on 08/02/2010

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i had a c section 3 months ago, i'm 20 and he was our first baby, i had to have a c section cuz baby was n breech position, i was so scared too! but once i got in to the OR it honestly felt like it wasn't more then 5 minutes and i was holding our baby:) it really wasn't nearly as bad as i expected, the worst part is the recovery, but just start walkin as soon as possible and you'll heal so fast! i did anyway, was at the hospital for two days and just didn't wanna b there any longer cuz i didn't c the point i was feelin gr8, besides the pain of course but i say, having a c section is very scary but not that bad! totally worth it, good luck and congrats!

Donna - posted on 08/02/2010

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Hi :)
Natural is the way to go, unless there are complication such as baby becomes stressed etc..after 3 natural births I wanted our 4th child to be natural as well but unfortunately we did have some minor problems, I got to tired to push and our son was getting distressed so we had no option but to have the c-section. NOT A GREAT experience for me AT ALL. I think that you will know when the time comes but over all I have to go with NATURAL. Good luck to you either way, :)

Alysha - posted on 07/31/2010

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My c-section was not that bad either. They made me walk the nexxt day, and while that was challenging and scary at first it actually did not hurt as much as I thought it was going too.

Karisa - posted on 07/31/2010

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i had 2 c sections and it wasnt bad but if your allergic to morphine which i found out after my first then it will hurt a little more then if you were to get the morphine. its not bad and the scare will get smaller throughout the years and it is bikini cut so no one will be able to see it. i was up walking the next day after i got both of my c sections it was hard for me a little bit but only due to my age because i am so young i didnt want a c section but it was an emergency.

Heather - posted on 07/31/2010

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There's a very few amount of people who truely can not deliver vaginally. Even if your small. I would try vaginal and go from there. C sections suck. I had to have one with my daughter and it was bad enough to make me want a home birth next time around.

Brittany - posted on 07/31/2010

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I had my son naturally. I'm 4'11 and only 100 lbs. He was also only 6 lbs, 8oz. The only thing with a c-section is if you continue to have children after that (and you don't do a VBAC) they only recommend you have three because as you get them done the uterine wall continues to be weakened by being cut open. You'll probably be fine though hun, don't worry!

Puja - posted on 07/31/2010

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Im 5'2 and used to weight about 110 b4 pregnancy im 37 weeks now. and the docter thinks my sons going to b about 8 pounds. On the big side as he says. i never thought my body could even get so big but it has! and im not scard anymore.. i think i can give birth to him normaly because your body is ment for it. Hormons will open you up.

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