Can you help me? I may be pregnant and need help.

Carlisle - posted on 08/12/2012 ( 10 moms have responded )

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I am not sure if i am pregnant. I am 14 and was raped unprotectedly about 5 weeks ago. I feel like utter shit, pardon my french, my stomach is always cramping. I am thin, size 1 waist in jeansshould i be looking for some change? Can i feel the baby grow soon? I havnt veen sleeping much, i got my period once the day adter the rape for 2 days real light ( nit regular at all) and today started bleeding clots, like clumps of red blood. Could i be pregnant? Is there any chance these are early sines of a miscarrage?
Ive also been feeling really pukey, im scared to take a test incase i am prenant. Im not ready for this, and i know if i hadnt been raped i prolly wouldnt have had sex for a while, a few years.

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I'm really sorry sweetie. I'm 22 and I was raped earlier this year I know exactly the things you are going through. I've also experienced similar signs of miscarriage in years past I can't imagine how u must feel with both experiences thrown in together. :( my advice is definitly see a doctor and talk with ur parents. For purly medical reasons further complications with wanting to get pregnant diseases possible cervical cancer that comes with different stds ( am also dealing with a pre cancerous legion due to stds) and councelling and therapy. Your doctor will be able to point you towards the right groups who will help with the trauma. And if u need someone to talk to you can contact me as well I would be more then happy to give you any advice or just listen. I know that just having people listen when I was ready to talk helped the most.

Michelle - posted on 08/12/2012

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first of all did you report the rape, I truly hope you did especially if you know who did it. As for how you are feeling go to a dr. this is very important so that you can make sure that your rapist did not pass on any diseases or other nasty stuff to you. I know it is hard but go do it and do it right away.

Samantha - posted on 08/12/2012

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Hey, I'm sorry for your hard time.
But it sounds like you might of had a miscarriage in my opinion. So I suppose that is good news to you?
I would still suggest taking a test or going to a doctor to get more information about it all.
I know that this time can be hard, I am 16 weeks along and wanted this baby and it's rough for me emotionaly, so I can only imagine what you are going through, if you need someone to talk to we are here.

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Savannah - posted on 09/06/2012

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i bleed like a misscaridge and im a size zero and was pregnant at 14 too so i mean it sounds like you could be and id get a pregnancy test and im not saying abortion is right but if you were truly raped its prolly a good idea to consider it and talk to an adult preferebly your mom dont be scared i was but my mom helped me through alot ...

Laura - posted on 08/27/2012

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I was raped at 14 so I know what you are going through. You should really talk to someone about what you are going through. I know it is hard to talk to your parents but they should know what is going on. Since you are not a virgin anymore, you need to go to the doctor to get checked out. Once you start having sex (and I know it wasnt by choice) you need to start getting pap-smears to make sure you are healthy. If it is a miscarriage, youll want to get an appoinment to make sure that you do not have an infection in your uterus (I had a friend go through this after a miscarriage). You'll also want to get an STD test done to make sure there arent any other issues you have to deal with. Dont hesitate to reach out to any of us to talk it over. I never told anyone about me being raped and it tore me up for years. I really hope you can get to a healing point with all this.

Tina - posted on 08/16/2012

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I'm sorry for all that you have gone through. I know you're having a whole lot of mixed feelings and fears right now but first thing you need to do is talk to someone and find out for sure if you're pregnant or miss carried. My number one suggestion would be to see a doctor. It's someone you can talk to tell them what has happened they may even be able to refer you to someone who can counsel you. There could be a number of reasons for the bleeding. Sickness and nausia. It could be pregnancy or miscarriage. Stress and lack of sleep. It could be the assault as well that's made you just sore especially as you probably haven't had sex or would be very traumatising on your body. You really need to go to the doctor. I know it's all scary but it's in your best interest also to rule out any STD's. If you're uncomfortable getting couselling their are online cousellors you can also talk to. There is a mob called headspace that I have used which might be good if you are just feeling upset or scared to talk to.

Number one thing are you safe. If not you need to talk to a school counsellor or anyone to get away from your situation and be safe.

Ana - posted on 08/15/2012

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I am very sorry that this horrific event happened to you. And I am glad that you are seeking help by coming here talking to other women.

First of all, are you safe? Is this person living with or near you?

Did you report the rape to the police, or even to a family member or a school counselor?

If you haven't reported it then you should...no one had the right to rape you, no matter who they are.

As far as the pregnancy: You have to find out if you are pregnant or not. You cannot ignore it adn hope it goes away.

You need a pregnancy test. And you need to be seen by a Dr.

Talk with someone you feel comfortable with, friend, school counselor, aunt, mom, neighbor, someone who can physically be there for you.

Let us know how it went.

I know you might be scared or embarassed, but don't be, just get out there and get someone to help you through this...Getting help is not a sign of weakness, it's a sign of strength.. you have already demonstrated this by coming here to the website to talk, keep it going.. get the real help you need.

And I can see this guy is trying to keep tabs on you following you wedsites, you really need to get adults involved like NOW..

Samantha - posted on 08/13/2012

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I am really sorry that you feel that way, I really think you need to find someone to talk to about all of this, someone who is an adult that knows what your going through and you can trust.

Carlisle - posted on 08/12/2012

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I have not told my parents because the past month ive been hoping im not, i feel alot better now tho. The bleeding is really light, i think all the painful cramps and nausia has subsided. I have a minor headache and my eyes ache but i think thats from nit sleeping the past month. I think i did have a miscarage, i have this sence of.... Loss? Like i never wanted this baby, but i feel like i lost him :( my name On this accont is not my real name. long story short i was on a different site theexperianceproject.com and the guy who raped me found it, shit hit the fan. To be on the safe side i used the names i would have wanted for him\her. Carlisle for girl. Tobias for boy. I know i never wanted him, but i can feel that hes gone and it tears my heart apart

Grace - posted on 08/12/2012

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It sounds to me like you are having a miscarriage . (speaking from experience) I really think that you should take a pregnancy test. If it comes out positive, buy another one & check again. If it comes out positive too, you should head straight to the doctor. Have you told your parents thou ? BTW, i'm sorry about what you have to go through .

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