College

Kelsey - posted on 01/08/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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I'm 18 with a beautiful 6 month old girl, and tonight I go to my first workshop for college, and classes start soon after that. I haven't slept in weeks, I'm up worried sick. I've never had to leave my daughter before. I know I need to go to school and get an education so I can try to make things as good as possible for her, but I am having such a hard time dealing with the fact that I will have to be away from her for 4 hours. Nobody that I talk to seems to understand why I'm having such a problem with it, and I don't know where to turn

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Kyndra - posted on 03/14/2009

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I totally understand. I was home with my daughter 24/7 until she was 6 months old and i started college. I went 3 hours a day. She was home with her dad, but it still sucked. I cried the first couple days, cuz i felt like i wasn't there for her.

Arra - posted on 03/12/2009

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I definately understand. I started school maybe a month after my son was born and was taking the tests to get in a few days after. I now work mon, wed, fri 530-1130 and have school tues 9-3 and thurs 9-9 it sucks.

Tracy - posted on 03/11/2009

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Amy posted how she was always gone when her daughter was young but that school was for the benefit of both of them in the long run.  In *no way* will I disagree with her.  That kind of time investment in college is why I put my college education off until my son was in school.  We've been broke consistently while I am trying to accomplish this goal (I graduate in May with my Bachelors.)  In my case, I think it was worth putting it off because I was able to be home with my son when he was younger and later planned classes while he was in school so I could be home with him.  However, this is a pure judgment call as to what works best for you.

Ally - posted on 03/10/2009

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i totally understand where your coming from its very hard. im 19 with a 6month old girl, when i fell pregnant i was at college in my first year of my course. i took a month out when i found out and then decided i wanted to stick with it so i could provide for chloe, any way i had her on the 12sep and i was meant to start back 1 day a week on the 3rd of sep so they gave me another month off and i went back. leaving her for my first day back was the hardest thing i have ever had to do! i rang the nursery 5 times that day! it was horrible but slowly it got better and as you see them having fun you become more relaxed about it! ive also met loads of other mums through the nursery which is great for us! give it  a try but be patient and see how it goes! xx good luck

Denise - posted on 03/09/2009

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i was a senior in high school when i had my son. i was 17 about to be 18 so i couldnt get any governmental help. the father left long before he was born and decided that his other soon to be son was better. i was 6 months pregnant when he got my sister pregnant. shes in the navy and more financially stable. but i graduated with special honors and go to college for pre-law. its hard every time cause i feel like i have failed him with his father but when i focus all that towards school its okay.  my son is the only reason that im working this hard. i have to make our lives better. and thats how u have to think of it. one day ur child will thank u for it just like mine will. and it doesnt get any easier. my son is 16 months old now and he comes home from daycare everyday with bite marks or cuts so i feel really bad but i dont have a choice yet.  but nothing will replace that look they give u when they see u coming to get her. its sooo priceless.

Amy - posted on 02/26/2009

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Kelsey, I know exactly how you feel. I had my daughter when I was 17. It was the summer between my junior and senior year of high school. I just graduated with my Master's degree last May. For the first 6 years of my daughter's life I was away from her. I would get up and go to school all day and then work all night. I would leave the house at 7 in the morning and not be home until 10 at night. Once I entered graduate school, I was home a lot more. It was extremely hard to be away from her, but I knew I was doing what was the best for both of us. Because of having my daughter so young and having to go to school, I feel like I cheated both of us out of having each other.

While I am not able to get that time back, I am now financially able to support her and do a ton of things with her that I wouldn't have otherwise been able to do AND she is at the age that she will remember if I was there or not-when she was a baby, I was the only one who knew. Stay in school, ride it out, and it will pay off in the end.

Samantha - posted on 02/21/2009

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i know how you feel im going throw like the same thing im going abck to high school and im kinda worried about leaveing my doughter shes 11 mounths almost 12 but im still worried but ive realized i need time away from her really bad i love her to death but make sure you leave her with some one you know you could trust and if you can have some one call you to keep you updated on how the day is going or if you have a brake call and check in on her but i really understand how you feel

Cara - posted on 02/21/2009

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your a mother all mothers do it and it is hard you will always worry about them evan at there first day of school,but im sure every thing is going to be fine its good for them to interact around other people once you see there ok and happy with the person you are leaving them with youll get use to it,im sure every thing will be fine.

Samantha - posted on 02/21/2009

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I understand how you feel...I was with my daughter all day every day until she was about 4 months old, which is when i started college.  the first couple days were hard and broke my heart, but i was leaving her with my mom so i knew she'd be well cared for.  it's gotten a lot easier for me, but i still feel anxious anytime i leave her with someone new.  I hope you are feeling more at ease and i hope you and your daughter are doing great!

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i know how you feel i was 17 when i got pregnant and 18 when i had her she is 2 now!, when i started work i had to leave my daughter for 3 hours...you are leaving your daughter with someone you trust so if you trust them then she will be fine if there is a problem they will call you (put ur fone on vibrate if u dont want it to ring) the first time is hard and you constantly think about her but it does get easier and although you might not think so now its quite nice to have a break and when you get back to see her you will apppreciate her more and you will see the look on her face when she see's you to!

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