crazy future mil

Tina - posted on 07/31/2012

what a psycho. Your partner needs to be more supportive you and your baby's needs come first. There's no way in hell my MIL would be taking my new born away from me. She asked once is she could take my daughter it was no. The way your MIL is I wouldn't even trust her alone with him. She needs to be reminded is the grandmother not the mother. Like it or lump it. Honestly if my partner walked out on me like that i'd be telling him not to come back. If he's going to piss off every times the going gets tough. Then bugger him. We organised photo shoot for my first 2. My partner arranged for his mum to come along with me to look at pics. We really couldn't afford it at the time. She ended paying for them. I said I'd pay her back. Her words well see. Later that day she was selling prints to relatives. I really would have like to be the one making the decisions. I've learnt with the second one. She wasn't even told about them. Only my dad and FIL. Which neither one of them got any prints either. This time they asked to help us out and they're letting us make the decisions.

Emily - posted on 07/30/2012

In that case, do what you need to do and what is best for you, your baby and your bf. You three are what matter most at this point and stabilizing your family. If she can't understand that then she is the one with issues, kill the rudeness with kindness (for some reason it baffles mean people). At this point ignoring her is probably the best thing you can do, if things get worse, you need to put your foot down with the bf. Good luck with everything

Victoria - posted on 07/24/2012

Thanks so much for taking the time to reply but I wish I could talk to her but I can't because shes done things in the past and when I tried to talk to her it only made it worse. When we were looking for a place to live she wanted us near her so she signed my name to applications for apartments and tried to sign the final lease behind my back. She probably does love him but she truly only cares about what she wants at the moment and getting it any way she can. As of now I'm trying to avoid her when she comes around and pretending I don't know about the pics. I know I can't live my life like this but shes unlike anyone I've ever met and I don't know how to deal with her.

Emily - posted on 07/23/2012

You need to (if you can) talk to her and explain your boundaries and why you have them. Some people can be selfish and ignore the bigger picture. Reassure her that she will get to be a grandmother but that she needs to respect your wishes. I'm not sure of your whole situation but in mine (I have two children) grandmothers are full of love and they can get overexcited, perticularly when they are first time grandmothers. Sometimes they have the best intrest at heart but don't know when to start or stop doing something. This is why I suggest to explain your boundaries to her. If she isn't understanding then that is when you get to take complete control and handle things they way you see fit. Your baby is only 3 weeks old and needs to be with you, maybe suggest she come to your home to visit, that way you are still there, like I said, if she isn't ok with that then it's her loss. Good luck :)