Dealing with the opinions and comments of others.

Anjelyca - posted on 03/06/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )

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I'm a first time mommy, and I constantly find myself on the receiving line of unwanted opinions and comments. Some are very hurtful and others are just annoying. I don't want to be mean but I really need a way that I can tell these people what they are doing and how it's making me feel. Can anyone help me with this?

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Amy - posted on 03/07/2010

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There's no way to tell them to stop. So just flip out. Yuu need to defend yerrself and yerr child. I know how it is. I'm a teen mother and all the time I get rude and messed up comments all yuu can do is defend. I'm only attacked like this online soo I think basically all these people who do it are cowards. They are scared bec they know we can do it better then them. Yerr a good mother and never let anyone tell yuu yerr not. People want to bring others down bec they are [[excuse my choice of words]] fucking pussies and they know that if they bring yuu down that ferr once in their little pathetic lives that they might have accomplished one thing. Or the other reasons in why these comments would be tossed around is bec they were taught to think a different way. Like I'm a teen mom and I get the bullshit beef about stating I'm immature and I'm not a good parent. Funny thing is unlike a lot of people I grew up before others I know. I am always taking care of my son. Before I do anything different with him I ask questions. My mom will tell me or my fiancees mom will let me know. And I mean if yerr kid is healthy, then that prooves yuu are a good mother. Never let anyone say otherwise. I tell them where to go and if they don't like it then they are just a waste of time and space. Like I said yerr a damn good mom. :)

Jalmec - posted on 03/07/2010

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just let them know that children are a gift from god and god doesn't make mistakes. your child, just like everyone else, deserves to be loved and respected and you're going to do that regardless of what anyone of them feel. the best revenge is to prove them wrong.

Charnai - posted on 03/07/2010

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I totally understand. jus remember that u r blessed no matter what. All you can do is continue to take care of ur child and b a great mother because at the end the baby is the only one that matters

Steph - posted on 03/07/2010

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I know exactly what you mean but unfortunatly there will ALWAYS be people around who look down on us for being young mothers. I used to get very upset about some of the things people said, or even the looks i got in the street off strangers and people whispering about me... but now i just think, i dont care what they think, i know im a good mum, i ould do anything for my daughter and to make her happy and i look after her and love her so much so i dont care if i gave birth at 17, it is hard enough coping with being a first time mum without people trying to put you down so i know its very very very hard and it does take time, but just try to block out these people and the comments they say and concentrate on your child. Strangers will always be looking down, and people who know you will soon see that it doesnt matter how old you are, if you look after and love your child enough you can be just as good (or alot better) than mums who have their children at like 30! Chin up hun :) x

Amber - posted on 03/06/2010

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ugh I know what u mean, i wish i could tell u it will stop, but nope. never will! those ppl r just rude and judgemental. i dont say anything to them but if i did, i would say sumthin like "so im a young mom, so what? im a GOOD mom. and theres nothing you or anyone else can do about it! at least im not sum old mom that cant even get out of bed to help my baby!! at least i have energy!!!!" ugh. bitches lol. i just try and dress older so ppl think im like 25 u know?

Carlinna - posted on 03/06/2010

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i think if they are being hurfull and they know it, its ok to tell them off.

Amanda - posted on 03/06/2010

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when people make hurtful comments and give their unwanted opinions..just remember that you are the bigger person in the situation. you have to tell them honestly how they are making you feel. you are doing your best to care for and provide for your baby and you just have to tell them you don't appreciate the things they are saying. try to keep your patience when people are so narrow minded!

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