Did your friends ignore you?

Kassandra - posted on 04/13/2012 ( 13 moms have responded )

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My friends never invite me to go places with them anymore and try to hide it from me by talking in code and using their eyes (for example:bowling is some thing you do with three holes and fancy shoes). And they completely ignore me when I'm in the same room only managing a 'shut your baby up.' when he cries and they have a headache. It really pisses me off because all I do is stay at home and go to walmart with him. I see other teen moms in my town having buttloads of fun with their baby and friends. Why are my friends so rude?

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Gabrielle - posted on 04/13/2012

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wow. your friends piss me off. Well i wouldn't really say they are your friends if they are treating you like that.

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Stephanie - posted on 06/19/2012

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ya i know that feeling cuz when my friend ask to go with her somewhere and when i told her i have to take my son to and then she was nvm i had other plan that sorry

Jena - posted on 06/12/2012

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your "friends" seem like immature bitches! I feel sorry for you! If they were your real friends they wouldn't make you feel isolated. Try joining a mama group where you can socialize with other mamas & teen mamas ♥

Tiffany - posted on 06/12/2012

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some of my friends were the same way...most of them disappeared when i got pregnant.they didnt make a big deal, they just stopped talking to me.i already knew why and didnt really want to hear it from them....
now my daughter is almost 2 and im starting to gain friends again (i meet most of them through my bf, which sucks but at least they are trying too)


cant tell you why they act that way.ask some of them or just try to make new friends..yeah i kno its hard but do whatever makes YOU happy NOT them

Giovanna - posted on 06/12/2012

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They don't understand. Obviously they're not that great of friends if they're disrespecting you and saying rude things about you and your son. I've figured out who my real friends are since having Oli, because they're just too immature for me.. I mean, they smoke, party, and are overall just not the kind of people I want to hang out with. I don't feel like I should have to choose between my son and a social life, but they act like it's a huge burden for me to ask them to light up when they're not hanging around us, so I just stopped.
Tumblr saved me from being lonely though :3

Janeta - posted on 04/14/2012

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Girl my friends don't want anything to do with me either! They act like me having a baby is a disease or something! I wish that they could just understand that the baby is a blessing! Not something that makes it where we aren't fun anymore! The only difference is is we have to take a few minutes for feeding and diaper changes! I just assume not have friends anymore because of the way they treat me! I see people out in town at walmart ect with their best friends and baby and I dont have that! I guess that our "friends" werent real friends if they are going to treat us like this at a time when really we need them the most! I am sorry your going through this but I know exactly what your going through! Just remember that your baby is worth every minute of your friends being butt heads!

Helen - posted on 04/14/2012

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hay you no what that happened to me... my so called friends started ignoring my calls and texts and ignored me in the street deleted me off facebook lol. i just plucked up the corage to go to mum n baby groups admitedly 99% of them groups i went to they all had there clicky groups and after a few times i stopped going but there was a few lovely groups and have met some amazing friends (of all ages) i also went to a youth cafe and they set up a teen mum project it was just a drop in meet n play but me and another mum really hit it off and we have been really good friends for nearly 5 years, the best thing about having other mums as your friends is they get you and although you may not do things like you used to you can have a great time with your friend and you get to spend quality time with your little one too, and if they scream the place down the other mum is not going to tell you to shut your baby up she is more likley to take him while you finish your latte lol. i would not bother yourself with them people go find some friends that except you for you and your lovely lil one :)

Olivia - posted on 04/14/2012

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First off, I'm so sorry to hear this. It breaks my heart that they would be that rude to you. When you have a baby everything really does change. Including everyone around you. I'm sad that they are so negative about you having a baby. (it seems) The only thing I can say is are they really your "Friends" if they are that rude to you..
I would encourage you to find new friends if possible. After all I think no friends are better than negative friends. Maybe you can find more mommy friends in your area. You will find that when you hang out with them they will not only be supportive but fun!
I hope you find some better friends and I'm sorry they are like that.
Good Luck, and enjoy your baby!

-Olivia

Toni - posted on 04/14/2012

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Your 'friends' are buttheads, sorry to say.

Try making older friends. I know it is difficult, trust me. Everyone on this page has been in a similar circumstance.

What I did to make make older mummy friends was when I was doing the shopping, I would stop in the baby isle and ask another mothers advice on a product. Dont make it sound like you have no idea about anything, but say something like "Have you tried this product? How did your baby react/like it?" and then start a small conversation.

You'll start seeing these mums around alot and hopefully you will make friends, at the very least you will have someone to chat to when you go shopping.

I was one of the few lucky ones that had a true friend. She was 15 when I had my son at 17, but she still helped me out so much. She would come around and help me out with the housework,or just watch a movie with me when I just needed company.

She now has a baby of her own and lives 800km from me, but we still talk all the time and she is going to be my maid of honour at my wedding.

Good luck with everything.

Kassandra - posted on 04/14/2012

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Unfortunately, I live in a little town that doesn't offer those programs yet. They just barely started offering free pregnancy testing.

Christie - posted on 04/13/2012

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There not your friends! Friends don't treat you that week! Check in with your local health unit or city/town activity guilde and join some of the mommy and me groups, this way you will meet new people who are mommies and in same situation as you and you get out of the house to!
These groups helped me, give it a try

Laura - posted on 04/13/2012

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Oh Kassandra, isn't is insane how they change?!?! One minute you consider them your "sister", I was 17 when I had my son Dylan and 23 when I had my daughter Isabella. Now that my kids are older, I've reconnected with those "friends" and now they're just starting to have children and who do they ask for help or advice...me! :/

Kassandra - posted on 04/13/2012

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Even the other day, my friend and her boyfriend told me 'I would invite you but you have Danny'. I just want to scream at them all that just because I have a baby doesn't mean I can't to anything. I'm not any different than I used to be- I'm just a mom. I'm not some disease you avoid like the plague. They even invite the friend I live with right in front of me but don't invite me. I haven't been out of the house in six weeks except to go to walmart. All I do all day is listen to my baby cry, take care of him and sleep. They never want to help me out either. For example if they come over and Daniel has been crying for a while and I ask them to please make me a bottle because I have my hands full all they say is 'Why can't you do it yourself? You're his mom.'

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