Do any of your baby daddys watch porn? need support!!!!!!!!

Sandra - posted on 10/05/2012

i dont understand why guys do that at all. my boyfriend has been doing it ever since i knew him and he always tries to hide it. i always look in his history but he deletes everything and im like if you have nothing to hide why are you erasing stuff. it just makes you feel like they dont want you but they say that they do i think that it is disgusting. but if he is going to watch it i guess let him watch it. when i caught him watching it in his room he tried closing it off the tv and i said no put it back on and i sat down let him put it back on and when it came on i was doing my own stuff to him and he didnt even pay no attention to the tv. he said its not the girls he watches he watches it to learn new stuff for us to do together.

Patricia - posted on 09/25/2012

as for being insecure no just pissed off that i mean nothing to him and that means everything he is addicted

Patricia - posted on 09/25/2012

no i don't think i am the most beautiful person in the world but i don't think he should reject me for that garbage porn

Patricia - posted on 09/25/2012

Actually hope i am not a prude and always want to try new things and different positions and change positions during and different places he is more of a prude than me and no offence taken i love trying different things with him

Mimi - posted on 09/25/2012

My baby daddy watches porn. I don't mind though, because it's just a source of entertainment you know. Just trust your boyfriend and be open minded towards it. I used to be the same way and even broke some of his CD's...lol... but now I know how irrational it was to do so. :-) It made me feel unattractive to him like I wasnt enough for him, but he always makes it clear to me that I am. It doesn't mean he doesn't find you attractive, in fact, it doesnt quite mean anything at all. Like I said, its a popular source of entertainment. Don't worry too much about it... boys will be boys. :-)

Hope - posted on 09/25/2012

patricia.....I have no idea why your lover would reject you for porn. I allow (well dont' allow....just don't get upset) when my husband watches porn. He always ALWAYS prefer's sex to watching porn. Perhaps ....no offense....but maybe it's your skill in the bedroom.....maybe he just feels it's the same old same old. Try something different. I don't know to the extent your issue is...but I have never met a man who would reject the real thing to a porno. Except for maybe he's just a porn addict.......

Doting - posted on 09/25/2012

well, aren't you the insecure one. First honey, why should a human being only be attracted to you and no other woman? You may be pretty, beautiful even and sexy, but men (and women) are ALWAYS attracted to the opposite sex, the question is, do you trust him. From your post I would trust is the problem in your relationship, not his porn activity. Yes all men watch porn, and lots of women too, but they don't all cheat.

You (and this is gonna sound blunt but I dont mean offence) think you should be the most beautiful woman in the world to him, and maybe you think you are so stunning he should not look at other women, but life is not like that. You need to address your insecurity and find ut whats causing that, then maybe you can watch porn together and actually enjoy it.

Patricia - posted on 09/23/2012

so what do you do when for years of trying you are constantly rejected for porn

Patricia - posted on 09/20/2012

i think if you are in a relationship your partner should be enough

Patricia - posted on 09/20/2012

i think it is cheating me hubby rejects me for it talk to him and tell him how you feel

Hope - posted on 09/19/2012

Just curious.....why do you think he just now started watching porn? Honestly, he's probably been doing so for years before you even met him. You have very contradicting statements here.....you consider him watching porn as cheating, yet at the same time you don't think he's a horrible person because mostly all guys do it. So, which one is it? You can't be on both sides of the fence, hon. I really think a lot of women are overreacting to this....how can you consider it cheating when it's a video? He's not technically with another woman....You have to understand the difference between men and women. Men have a higher (much higher) sex drive than women do, not only that but they think about sex A LOT more too. The best thing you can do? Have sex with him! There's really nothing you can say or do to stop him from doing what he wants to do(aka watching porn.) In fact, that is probably the hardest thing to stop a man from doing. Denying him that will basically make him want it more- it's basic psychology. Oh and Amber L.- gay guys watch porn too. Women watch porn (like me!) and I personally think it's childish to assume the worst about porn like it's a bad thing. I look at it as a way to release tension.

Tanisha - posted on 01/30/2012

As a social work& laughing at someone NEVER works to create change or open dialogue. In fact it stops it dead in it's tracks. The problem with calling someone "laughable" or making them feel pathetic, is the implication that you are somehow superior. I don't know about you but being made to feel I'm 'beneath' or less valuable is not sexy. Besides, we can not "change" people. They can only change when they see the value & benefits for themselves and the life they share with other people. What is more helpful is examining your own needs and expectations. Are you expecting him to never find another person attractive or sexy? If, so why? Are your expectations realistic? Did you lay down what you expect without leaving room for him? Are you honestly holding yourself to the same requirements you have for him? Or do you secretly lust after Johnny Depp and other "hot guys"? It's not much different despite what other women say. As women we are masters at excusing what we do as harmless while vilifying men. Have you bothered to ask your bf what benefits he gets from watching pornography? (Don't immediately disregard or belittle his answer) His perceived benefits are valid for him and just like you don't want or deserve for your feelings, desires, & opinions belittled neither does he. Has he made suggestions you have rejected? I'm not telling you to start agreeing to anything, but maybe HONESTLY revisiting your reasons can help put you on the same page. Sometimes we close our minds to things based on outside factors (ie worrying what others will think, say, do). But in your heart what are YOU comfortable with doing or not doing? Your bedroom belongs to you and your mate decide what works for both of you and leave the stereotypes, belittling and harsh criticism outside. ijs

Angela - posted on 01/30/2012

OK, I don't like porn. I don't think it's about a man being unfaithful to his regular partner though. He's not getting off on other women (porn actresses) he's actually getting off on the situation - the scene he's watching, the things that are getting done, the fantasies that are being lived - these are what are exciting him and NOT the women acting out these scenes.



The people (both male and female) who act in porn movies are NOT doing a job which is a "vocation" to them. They're doing a job that earns very good money - that's why they do it. I feel quite sorry for them because what do they do for recreation and to show their love and devotion to their partner on their days off work? Sex can't really be all that interesting because sex in all its variations is just what they do in their regular job. That can't be much fun for them in their free time - or for their partner!



I take the view that porn addicts are generally rather sad people. And once you've seen a small number of porn scenes, you've really seen them all. People who "need" to use porn are, in my opinion, rather laughable. I'm not the only one who feels this way. Lots of women AND MEN feel the same.



So try this angle with your partner, don't tell him he's disgusting for looking at porn, tell him he's laughable. Ridicule him - it'll get him away from porn a lot faster than saying he's dirty, depraved or disgusting!



Good luck!

Brittany - posted on 01/30/2012

i understand how you feel my boyfriend watches it all the time but says he doesn't, he knows my feelings on it.. its like this I dont care if he watches it but I dont wanna know or see it. but how ever porn and talking to his ex's is to diff things... I've found my b/f talking to his ex's nasty for the past year and this pisses me off b/c this girl lives not far... I found his facebook open not to long ago but back a few months ago him and this ex was trying to meet up I asked him about it and he told me no he never went to see her ... but this was the last time.. I told him next time I find anything like that I will not ask him but I will talk to her next and trust me she wont like me... sooo my b/f watching porn is better than him talking to ex's

Brittany - posted on 01/30/2012

i understand how you feel my boyfriend watches it all the time but says he doesn't, he knows my feelings on it.. its like this I dont care if he watches it but I dont wanna know or see it. but how ever porn and talking to his ex's is to diff things... I've found my b/f talking to his ex's nasty for the past year and this pisses me off b/c this girl lives not far... I found his facebook open not to long ago but back a few months ago him and this ex was trying to meet up I asked him about it and he told me no he never went to see her ... but this was the last time.. I told him next time I find anything like that I will not ask him but I will talk to her next and trust me she wont like me... sooo my b/f watching porn is better than him talking to ex's

Lynn - posted on 01/25/2012

I have dealt with the same issue. First, if you feel a certain way then that is how you feel and it doesn't matter if someone else shares your feelings or not. Second, I personally disagree with you changing your feelings. Now, I do feel the same as you. My husband had a huge collection of porn before we became a couple. When we took our relationship to that level, I insisted he get rid of it. In the effort of making this brief, I will say that I found out he looked at porn a couple of times after we were married. I felt hurt and betrayed to say the least. For me, it isn't an option. If I ever find out he has done it again we would seperate and I would give divorce a serious consideration. And, I feel the same way you do; I am far from being prude and sex is not lacking in our marriage. We have been married almost six years and have four children ages 5 and under.

Viki - posted on 01/24/2012

The whole issue with porn depends on how it is being used. I was married and when my daughter was 6 months old I found out that my husband had an addiction to porn. I knew that he was watching and looking at magazines and I too thought hes a guy and well its normal. As time went by and baby number 2 came the situation became much more than just a guy thing. I found it on computer, he lost his job because he was watching it at work and masturbating, he got beat up while on business because he over stepped boundaries at a nudy bar. I stayed and supported him through out this whole ordeal until it came to the safety of my children. If it is an addiction is it exactly that an addiction. The endorphins part is true and they cannot go one day without watching porn and masturbating. The urge is so great that they will do in public, lose jobs, watch while children are at home, on social sites soliciting sex etc...

I finally left him when the behaviors transferred to my daughter. I tried my best to make the marriage work but know that as a mother nothing is more important than the safety of your children.

Porn if viewed by both with the emphasis of bringing something interesting to the bedroom is different. If it is not that then it is an addiction. I wish I would have known what I know now. I would have never married this man.

For a long time I felt sorry for him but now I am just disgusted. We need to stop accepting these behaviors from men. We deny and lie to ourselves and at the end the problem does not ever go away. He has to go to counseling and anonymous groups for life. He has to work on this issue for the rest of his life and I do not believe that any one should have to suffer so much.

Jesse - posted on 01/22/2012

You really should watch it with him! just try it, you may even get some ideas and get some skills! why don't you try watching it by yourself first if u are embarrassed!!! I don't see porn as cheating i see it as mixing things up a bit. lol if you give it a go you may even enjoy yourself!!!



I actually love reading men's magazines and will some times watch a bit of porn. I get heaps of idea's and you can learn heaps of different techniques... :D good luck !!! btw some porn can have some really hot guys in it also! you don't have to do the things they do, there are many things i would never do just because i seen it in a porno but i turns my partner on heaps that i'm cool with it and will jion him! It's hot

April - posted on 01/19/2012

I really don't understand how our society is so laid back by the idea that porn is ok. Or to suggest that you should watch it with your spouse. I realize that most pastors don't address the topic or at least not very often. But many people believe porn is progessive. Meaning what works now won't later. What may have been the Victoria's Secret catalog two years ago doesn't "work" anymore. So what level would it stop at?

Now, the idea of how it makes you FEEL is so important. Your boyfriend should quit because of how it makes you feel. Some guys can't though because they ARE addicted. More than likely this isn't new. It's new that he's letting you know about it.

There's a series of books called "Every Man's Challenge" or "Every Young Man's Battle". Good books. I also recomend a movie called "Fireproof"

Alexis - posted on 01/19/2012

Honestly, I have mixed feelings about this. I know the reason I am not okay with porn is because I AM insecure. I am insecure with myself in the first place so I know how you feel about not feeling good enough and such. We dont watch porn and he knows that I do not like it. If he looks at it and watches it, honestly I do not care if I do not see it. This is one of those situations that if its not in my face then whatever. I know my boyfriend thinks other people are attractive and that is completely normal, but if he started pointing out every girl he thought was hot I wouldnt be okay with it. I know some people dont care and good for them, but the fact that my boyfriend doesnt have hot half naked women on the backround of his phone (unless its me of course) is out of respect for MY feelings. I have seen porn that he has looked at and I just shrug it off because it doesnt happen often and he still lets me know how attractive I am and lets me know how much he loves me. I mean I get the awkward "that sucks. she is hotter than I am" feeling BUT if my bf is horny and I am not around and he googles some images to help him out, whatever. He doesnt lie about it, but I told him if I dont see it I do not care as long as its not a compulsive habbit....I just dont want it in my face.



If you were to watch porn with him I bet you that there would be some hot guys in it and your man wouldnt be thinking about the guy and how much you liked him more, us girls are just so sensitive. I have heard from several guys that its more the 'act' then the actual girls. Watching the act of sex or whatever is really what gets them going, obviously attractive girls are a plus but thats not what they are focussed on.....BUT thats what I heard. Who knows really.

Ausha - posted on 01/14/2012

See, I kinda have the opposite problem?

Not EXACTLY the opposite, but kind of.

My husband looks at pictures of boobies on the internet. Not movies or whatnot. But, Anime? boobies and real ones. He does it very rarely.

AND HE FEELS HORRIBLE ABOUT IT.

We have an extremely healthy relationship physical and emotional. But sometimes a guy just needs to get off real quick. I mean, it's not sexual, he just needs to beat one off and get it over with.

He says that he has me, he shouldn't do it, tries to hide it.

I tell him it's okay, he acts like he wants to get run over by a semi.

I suppose if it were all the time w/out me? Idk. Maybe it would affect me more. But, to me, a little porn here and there, give him his quick w/e, it doesn't affect me. I tell him he needs to do it. I suppose it's just like me reading a naughty book. Not a romance novel, ew. Something tasteful w/yummy sex ;) He never tells me his fantasies, either, I have to rip it out of him.

Maybe ya'll need to talk about the severity of the porn or perhaps discuss how often he does it.

Dusty - posted on 01/14/2012

Looking at porn is not necessarily a bad thing. Is still has a good sex life with you doesn't he? I mean really, do you honestly think he is ever going to meet any of those porn stars? And even if he DID, do you think he would have a chance in hell with them? If it's not affecting your sex life (as in, as long as he still wants sex with you) then I wouldn't worry too much about it. It's NOT cheating on you, & it doesn't make you ugly, or gross to him. It's just a fantasy. Try watching it with him, sometimes it can lead to great sex. You say that you try new things all the time, why can't this be one of them?

Desiree - posted on 12/23/2011

I can say i agree with Vicki & Toni tho.

& Lauren i promise you that just because they're watching porn does NOT mean something is missing in the relaionship. im not saying that, thats NEVER the case BUT in most situations its not...

see i can see both sides of the view. i understand where you girls like Lauren and Ashley would feel that way cuz sometimes i feel that way too. i do agree with lauren on the lying tho. he shouldn't lie about it. THAT'S what makes it so wrong & dirty. as long as he doesnt intentionally keep it a secret i think it's something that you can learn to live with & learn that it really isnt as big of a deal as some of us women like to make it out to be..

Desiree - posted on 12/23/2011

there are too many posts to go thru to see what all the other ladies have been saying but i feel your pain. my fiancé watches porn on the internet & sometimes it does feel like cheating to me but i know he's not trying to do it to hurt me, most guys are just programmed that way... i try to not let it get to me & i try to watch it with him. i think most guys enjoy it when there women enjoy it with them. i know mine does ;) if it's something you definitely cant get past then i'd have a serious talk with him about it but i think if your really happy with your life with him & want to be together just try to let him let u get involved in it too.

also what i mean by most men being programmed that way, they figure they're not actually in the action then its not cheating and most men don't have romantical views like women do. they just see things differently in general. my bf used to think that it wasnt cheating unless it was sex... i changed that pretty quick. lol

Roopam - posted on 11/24/2011

i know what you feel.. i have been there.. trust me you better off taking your heart off him, as if u confront him, then he wil just find some other way to do it. Untill n unless he loves you on top nothing gona change his porn love. dont make him feel u low.. as you should love yourself more.
ps. no one changes for anyone, they only do if they want to do it.

Good luck ..

Mary - posted on 08/27/2011

it depends on the rules of yall relationship. me and mine both watch it but we are both sitll very active with each other. it all depends on what yall decide is right and wrong between yall

Kathy - posted on 08/26/2011

good advice

Victoria - posted on 08/23/2011

My husband does. Yes.
And to be perfectly honest, so do I.
We're both sort of into voyeurism.

Jill - posted on 08/22/2011

My hubby watches it and every now and than I watch it with him. Personally I don't see the big deal. He's even been to the strippers once or twice. The rule in our marriage is whats good enough for you is good enough for me. Mainly saying if he goes to the strippers I'm allowed to go as well. After explaining that to him it clicked that marriage is an even footing ground.

Sheree - posted on 08/21/2011

My partner watches porn every few days, it doesn't bother me, sometimes if its just me and him in the house I'll watch with him and we end turning it off half way threw to have sex anyways, it shoykd worried you too much, if his still coming back to you wanting some then just let him be a boy :-) I'd be scared or worried if he didn't want anything off me at all.

Kim - posted on 08/21/2011

Just a suggestion - IF you're up to it, why not create your own "porn" video of the two of you for him to watch ? You said you've sent him photos, creating a video together wouldn't be much different. It would be private, only for the two of you. Just an idea.

I'm married and a mom of 5 - I no longer have the body I once did, so I know exactly what you mean about feeling "ugly" or not feeling desired by your man. Those porn chicks have "perfect" bodies - huge breasts, round butts and skinny everywhere else. BUT that's their job - they get paid to have implants, to be perfectly in shape and shaved/waxed in all the right places. As moms in the "real world" we don't have the time, the ability, and most definitely not the money for personal trainers, weekly waxing, boob/butt implants, etc. So we don't look as hot as those women on porn-screen - and no, it's not fair, but it's life.
It hurts to feel undesired and unwanted - but it's not what our men are telling us. They love us and desire us, but they also love to look at women with the perfect bodies - what we once had before children - and we can't blame them. I love my husband, still desire him - but he looks nothing like the man I met over 21 years ago. He's aged, he's added weight ... no longer perfect. And just as I like to see those gorgeous hunks in soap operas, he likes to see those perfect chicks in porn. Not exactly the same, but almost.
Anyway, I wish you the best.

Lauren - posted on 08/20/2011

OMG everything u said here my ex did to me.. i was working one night came home he had left the laptop on with all the porn things on and god we had it plenty so i was like how could he actually does this to me because in my eyes its like he would go and cheat or something if he wants to see other girls doing stuff.. so i was fuming.. and i had the worst arguement ever and it was out first full blown up one, he promised everytime he would stop, but he kept going on and lying to me when he knew it hurt me loads.. some girls dont mind it... and i mean i think if he told me and didnt make it like one big lie from the start i woulda been sort of ok about it.. but we had enough sex and we always did different stuff.. it annoys me to this day about that because he never took my feelins in consideration when he went on it.. and it just made me feel disgusting... i even felt like he was missing out on things and asked him like what he was watching it for and we did change things in the bedroom department for him but i change things for him and he still did it over n over. He said everything was amazing with everything and it was a guy thing but i will never get it.. because surely when a guy goes on that he is missing something in the relationship.. I will never understand!

Vicki - posted on 08/19/2011

I do not beleive that watching porn is cheating. My husband and I even watch it together sometimes. I think that many men like the "taboo" of porn and the dirty things they do. It's a fantasy world and that's all. Just as an example, my hubby likes to watch 2 men doing the same girl, but he definitely wants to leave that as a fantasy...he does NOT want me to do 2 men at once! Not sure if that is making sense to you. Just because he likes to watch it, it does not mean he loves you less or finds you less attractive. Try watching it with him. There are so many different sceanrios, you might find one that you even enjoy watching once in a while. It's really not much different than watching a romantic movie with a hot actor and getting turned on. Try to embrace that it is just another avenue for you both to keep your imaginations active.

Toni - posted on 08/18/2011

Greatest saying I have ever heard-"It doesnt matter where you get your appetite, as long as you come home to eat."
My hubby watches porn, but I know it is because I dont mind him doing it.
Everyone goes through stages in their sexuality, and alot of the time partners will be inequal. EG, you hubby may be going through a stage where he has a really high sex drive, but you are going through a low sex drive stage. Later on down the track it will switch. You will be the one with a high sex drive, and him a low sex drive.
I know everyone is different, but I see no harm in watching porn. At least take some comfort in knowing that he isnt getting gratification from another woman.

Kimberly - posted on 08/17/2011

Pornography is a serious problem. It alters the chemicals in the brain the same way drugs do. He will need counseling to get over this addiction. I attended a class a few weeks ago about pornography and how distructive it is. You can look up pornography addiction recovery. I know of one particular church that has an addiction recovery support group, for both parties involved. My prayers are with you and all the other women of the world who are affected by this.

Ashley - posted on 01/31/2010

i still think that porn is very wrong no matter what, i know he has a sexuality, but he shouldnt even be using his hand, because its not like i dont have sex with him, i give it whenever he wants it...or if i do which is rare lol not that i dont i just like cuddling more lol. Guys are guys thing is bs, because ive never heard girls r girls before when a girl is being bitchy or something, my boyfriend hasnt been watching porn!!! i sent some pictures of me to him thought he would like them dont know if he did...he didnt say anything....and i guess its not that i got used to it its the fact that i know he isnt going to listen if i told him not to. Thank you all for your posts they are all very helpful, some i agree with some i dont...anyways thank you and keep em going!!!!

Arielle - posted on 01/29/2010

That's BS about "guys r guys" and all that! It even says in the bible that just to look is the same as cheating and whatever occupies ur mind/time is what is in ur heart. I wouldn't put up with it. U shouldn't feel like its ur fault or that ur not doing enough. Its his problem and he's not being faithful to u. Tell him that and then stand ur ground. I tend to b a ballsie woman but I would flat out tell him that it's unfaithful and I'm leaving unless u stop! Good luck

Susan - posted on 01/29/2010

my man goes on the website redtube all the time and its "desgusting" i tell him to stop going on it cause it hurts me and makes me very upset but it is always in the history box. my baby is 9 weeks old and im too scared to start having sex again but that isnt the reason he goes on it cause wen i was pregnant he use to go on it as well. it makes me very angry....

Brittani - posted on 01/26/2010

People that watch porn are simply disgusting. If I knew that the person I were with was watching porn it would either come to a sudden halt or he would be packing and leaving. It is not that you do not give him what he needs it is that he has a mental problem. It is so gross. I mean really what is so attractive about a women that has been seen or been with over 100 times... that is so nasty!! It is all in what morals you were raised with and some are better than others. People that watch porn or that are involved in it is not at all positive for our society. Ugh... I can not even get over the fact why somebody would watch porn? I mean what makes them so good, what could you not possible give him that he needs to get from somewhere else? You watching porn with him would not make you any better.

Kymberlee - posted on 01/25/2010

i have talked to a few friends of mine to see what they think and because they have all gotten used to the fact that their boyfiends watch porn and some have even decided to join. I though about it longer and I think it's better to watch porn than to go out and find another girlfriend like my ex, or your boyfriend could offend you by asking you to have a threesome. I think of it this way he has you and a beautiful baby and he is commin home to you and not those fictional, silicone filled, script reading, ladies.and it gives you ideas that you can use at home rather than having sex with other people to get new moves. When he stops to watch rather than make love to you then I think there is a problem hun

Tiffany - posted on 01/14/2010

Ashley you have to remember that you to have separate sexualities he obviously doesn't feel the way you do about porn he will not quit just because you say so! and i will just say i have seen it and my sex life is great even at 39 weeks pregnant! it is not always appropriate to watch or watch together. I would say your sex life is hurting if anyone's is unfortunately and if you really hate porn that much you need to ask him if he could really go the rest of his life with out ever seeing it again!? I don't think so if he says yes he is lying I went 3 years believing that he didn't look at porn but time and time again i would find it and it would disappoint me.... i would hate myself and him on top of not being able to trust him! I just want to worn you it is so hard on a person to be constantly lied to, disappointed, fighting, and paranoid on top of lying to yourself. It is natural to want to see people naked if it wasn't you 2 wouldn't have sex.... quit fighting it. it is just not worth it!

Tiffany - posted on 01/14/2010

If there is one thing I learned it is that jealousy is not the answer. but if you did want something to please yourself go for it he should understand and why should he have all the fun!!!

Tiffany - posted on 01/14/2010

First I just want to say I use to feel just like that I took it so personally but to guys it is different when they do it they don't think about them the way they think about you. they love you, they make love to you, they think about you when they think about there future. They don't think about the girls in the pictures and the movies as REAL women in fact he probably doesn't remember anything about them not only that but I know for a fact he doesn't respect them! But he does respect you it may not feel like when he does that but he does and he is not going to stop doing it because you tell him too, he will just hide it then, no matter how honest you are with each other. why because it makes him feel good ( honestly whats better than an orgasm) that doesn't mean he feels good after he does it he probably feels guilty but it will still happen. My boyfriend and I have been together for four years and in the beginning i wouldn't even let him watch movies with sex in them, it took a lot of trust and honesty about sexuality to talk about the issue and resolve it. I was tired of him lying to me and i just wanted him to be honest about porn ( he was apprehensive about telling me, he thought i was gonna get mad) first i asked why? then I asked what kind are you in too? ( I wanted to make sure it wasn't something freaky like animal porn lol) and it turns out I was imagining that it was much worse than it was. he showed me and it was nothing like i thought It was uncomfortable but it was so much better knowing then we set some boundaries, times when it wasn't appropriate ( when I am sleeping, before sex, ect...) and types I was uncomfortable with. Now I am not being lied too and he and I can feel comfortable with his sexuality.

Christina - posted on 01/14/2010

i know exactly how you feel!!! girl dont stress... all boys do do it i mean my baby daddy does it whenever he has my laptop but if it gets on my nerves i just act like im not interested in having sex... it drives him crazy and then hes more in to me than the porn... its just what boys do dont feel bad about yourself especially because i think its just more of whats going on when boys watch porn than what the girls looks like that they are more interested in...

Laura - posted on 01/14/2010

My partner watches it every night, he knows i don't really like him doing it and it upsets me because it makes me feel ugly and useless.... We have a 6 week old daughter together and i don't really feel like sex. I tend to do something to distract myself while he does it... like fully focus on my daughter and see what developments she has made. If he feels the need to get himself off every night by watchin some dirty women,, i figure that it's his down fall and he cant pick on me for having me own downfalls.

Ashley - posted on 01/14/2010

yea, i know where all of you are coming from, im not as upset, but it is hurting me more then ever, so yesterday i sent him some pictures to his email of me, so that he can look at me and doesnt have to look up other girls, its hard for me to even think of him doing that, but its helpful to think that he rather be aroused from me then some random girl with her finger in her pussy....ugh it makes me so upset but im slowly getting over it...

Lindsay - posted on 01/14/2010

My fiance' does the same thing! I found out when I was six months pregnant that he was watching porn. At the time, I kind of understood because I was big and probably ugly. But now, our daughter is four months old and he is still watching it. He works third shift, too. So i'll be in the bed sleeping, and he's a few feet away watching porn. I've confronted him about it but he isn't going to stop. I told him that if he would rather have images of other women than he doesn't have any need to sleep with me. And so far, we haven't had sex. Hah. I'm hoping that eventually he'll end up wanting the real thing and he'll give up the porn.

Laura - posted on 01/14/2010

Buy yourself a pleasure toy! It is the same thing....I don't agree with porn at all. I feel the same, if he has you to please him why does he feel the need to look at other women to please himself? You will be very surprised of how jealous he will get of your new toy that can easily please you :) Use it once, boast about it to him, your friends whoever. He'll start to forget about his porn and be more focused on the competition between him and your new toy.

Danielle - posted on 01/14/2010

my fiance watches it as well not just on the internet but on his fone hes got countless dvd wen we first got together i used to watch it with him but no i feel since av had a baby its coz i am not gud enuf for him i confronted him about it he told me it dusnt get him aroused he just likes watching in to make our sex life better ahve u ever thought thats y he may be watching it dont feel like its u its not its his problem try watching it with him that seems to turn them on hope this helped x

Ann - posted on 01/14/2010

my husband does it too. its just a guy thing i think.