Do you think its wrong for teens to have babys, even tho ur a teen mom?

Maria - posted on 08/12/2011

wow i think someone else on here sounds like an idiot. yea if ur able to make babies then its completely fine! No matter what age, no matter what situation ur in. If you can reproduce then just go on ahead!! Omg that is the craziest most selfish most ridiculous think i have ever heard! She wasnt even doubting her pregnancy ( im assuming ur writing directly to the OP if not then just disregard this post) she was simply saying that she knows it wasnt the best decision for her to get pregnant at the age that she did and that getting pregnant in the situation she was in was also not the best decision. I think that makes her very mature and will make her an even better mother because she can accept that she made some mistakes "getting pregnant for all the wrong reasons" and therefor can do better by her children.

Shae - posted on 08/12/2011

your an idiot i think its worst seeing 40 yr old mums!!! most young mums i know are better then most older mums I KNOW! its the way of life hunny if your able to make babies its not wrong. you wrong for doubting your pregnancy even a little bit

Shae - posted on 08/12/2011

your an idiot i think its worst seeing 40 yr old mums!!! most young mums i know are better then most older mums I KNOW! its the way of life hunny if your able to make babies its not wrong. you wrong for doubting your pregnancy even a little bit

Krystal - posted on 07/17/2011

I with ya on this one! I can not stand seeing young kids having kids. I was 19 when I got pregnant with my daughter, but she was planned (I was engaged at the time) but now I am pregnant with my second and he/she wasn't planned. But I am 21 now. I just think that kids these days (13-17) just want to be young moms because the tv shows like "Teen Mom" glorify it.

Carlyn - posted on 07/14/2011

Its not wrong to be a teen mom, It just means when you do, you have to grow up quicker. Yes, a lot of the teens are still in school, but things happen. Have you ever asked yourself while looking at teenagers that are pregnant, what's their story? You can't judge every teen pregnancy you see. We're just like other mothers out there, just younger and our babies are miricles like every other baby. Just make the teen pregnancy epidemic your motivation to keep your child from becoming a teen parent :) that's how i put it into my mindset.

Taylor - posted on 07/13/2011

im a 17 year old and im a soon to be mom and i dont think its wrong for a teen to be a mom if they are good moms and do all they can for their kids but it is sad that so many teens are pregnant in my high school they are 22 pregnant teens and 7 moms

Monique - posted on 07/13/2011

I dont think its wrong i was 16 when i have my first baby and 18 when i had my secound, i do think that the teens have options and i wouldnt want my daaughters coming home saying there pregnant at a young age. but i think some teens do it to be cool and then they have a big responsibilty to look after . i wouldnt change it for the world i love my kids

Serenity - posted on 07/12/2011

Things happen. You could think of it like this if they are old enough to have sex then they are old enough to take care of the baby that may come along with it, whether that be adoption or taking care of the child theirselves. I had my son the day before my 19th birthday and was pregnant with him the second half of my senior year but that was mine and my husbands choice. I most def. DO NOT encourage it because even still there is so much I may not get to do but I love my son and wouldn't change a thing. You know it may make you sick seeing these girls have babies but at least they are having them and not having abortions, that's what makes me sick.

Mercedes - posted on 07/10/2011

Honestly, I feel bad for teen moms. I know what its like to have your life gone the way you know it. To go to where you are caring for another life and it isnt about you know more. I dont like to see 13/14/15/16 year olds pregnant or have kids. Its sad when teenagers plan their babies cause they dont know what they are really asking for, You have to take care and have a huge responsibility and there are the what ifs/ your child has health problems, colic. Its alot to handle for a older person. I dont think its wrong of me to have my 2 kids by 17. I think its truly wrong when a mother cant stand up knowing when they laid down what happens using protection or not. and give the baby up for adoption or leave it up to someone else.

Mercedes - posted on 07/10/2011

Honestly, I feel bad for teen moms. I know what its like to have your life gone the way you know it. To go to where you are caring for another life and it isnt about you know more. I dont like to see 13/14/15/16 year olds pregnant or have kids. Its sad when teenagers plan their babies cause they dont know what they are really asking for, You have to take care and have a huge responsibility and there are the what ifs/ your child has health problems, colic. Its alot to handle for a older person. I dont think its wrong of me to have my 2 kids by 17. I think its truly wrong when a mother cant stand up knowing when they laid down what happens using protection or not. and give the baby up for adoption or leave it up to someone else.

Janeta - posted on 07/10/2011

It really annoys me when the teen mom says that they purposely got pregnant! I had my daughter when I was seventeen! I was on birthcontrol shots and my boyfriend (at the time now husband) wore a condom and we still got pregnant! It was NO WHERE near planned! I do not sit here and judge other young moms just because we dont know their story! I mean who knows half the people that you look at with babies that gets to you so bad could have been rapped or used protection that failed like mine did! To me it also depends on what kind of mom the teen is! If you were big enough to lay down and get pregnant then you need to step up and take responsibility for your child and not let someone else raise him/her! I DO NOT go any where with out my daughter because I was big enough to lay down and have sex I am big enough to be the one to raise her! I sometimes get aggervated when I see young moms like your saying but then I stop and say 1) i am one of those moms 2) I do not know their story

Sheridan - posted on 07/09/2011

I became a mother at the age of 15, and the situation was nowhere near ideal. But like many people have said, it really depends on what type of person they are. I had plenty of support but have always been aware that no matter how good of a parent you are, you should always wait until you are in a stable and loving relationship where you are financially secure and can provide a good home for a child. It does annoy me when I see teenage girls who make out nothing is going to change once the baby comes and still expect to stay a teenager. It's just not possible, it forces you to grow up whether you want to or not. It really upsets me when people plan to have child at such a young age, so under 18, but then regret it once the baby arrives, they enjoy the attention whilst they're pregnant but don't actually want the responsibility. It's not like a mobile phone that you're excited about at first, but then can return if you stop liking it - you can't take it back and it's unfair for the child to feel unwanted because they did not ask to be born to someone who does not want them.

I'm lucky that I am still in a relationship with the father because having a child put a serious strain on us. We weren't together very long at all when I fell pregnant. But now we are stable, living together, and actually have another child together. It wasn't planned again but being in a much better place now, it wasn't upset like I was with my first. So now, I'm 19 with a 4 year old son and a 3 month old girl. Basically, I don't judge because I know that things can happen even when you think you are prepared but I do not think it is right to assume you are ready to be a parent just because you have had sex.

Terin - posted on 07/09/2011

one more thing. to Laura Lim. I want you to know that I didn't want a baby. I know now that I shouldn't have had sex at such a young age if I didn't want to get pregnant but believe me, it was not in my plans to get pregnant at such a young age. people like you judge wrongly sometimes. Some teenage girls do want babies and do plan them but most don't and it makes me sad to think that there are so many people out there that judge like that. Its NOT cool to get pregnant at a young age. But we're all making the best of it.

Terin - posted on 07/09/2011

I'm 17 almost 18 and my daughter is 10 months old. In my opinion, it's a matter of maturity. I'm going to a mommy school. This is my last year. And about 80% of those girls are ages 14-16. It all depends on the girl that got pregnant. I wasn't ready (at least I didn't feel ready) for a baby at 17 years old. But I made the best of it and I believe I am capable a being a great mom. I am a great mom. I'm married. I've been married for a year and life is going great. My husband's in the army and he's deploying soon But we make good money and support her and spoil her ;) just fine. If you get past your selfishness you can be a good mom. I'll admit it... I hate seeing the younger girls pregnant and the way they act about it. I even hate seeing girls my own age get pregnant because I know that they made the wrong decision. But like me, they'll learn to deal with it. I know some 35 year olds who are worse moms then some of the teen moms I know. I don't necessarily think it's about the age. It's about the maturity and not being selfish.

Terin - posted on 07/09/2011

I'm 17 almost 18 and my daughter is 10 months old. In my opinion, it's a matter of maturity. I'm going to a mommy school. This is my last year. And about 80% of those girls are ages 14-16. It all depends on the girl that got pregnant. I wasn't ready (at least I didn't feel ready) for a baby at 17 years old. But I made the best of it and I believe I am capable a being a great mom. I am a great mom. I'm married. I've been married for a year and life is going great. My husband's in the army and he's deploying soon But we make good money and support her and spoil her ;) just fine. If you get past your selfishness you can be a good mom. I'll admit it... I hate seeing the younger girls pregnant and the way they act about it. I even hate seeing girls my own age get pregnant because I know that they made the wrong decision. But like me, they'll learn to deal with it. I know some 35 year olds who are worse moms then some of the teen moms I know. I don't necessarily think it's about the age. It's about the maturity and not being selfish.

Kathleen - posted on 07/08/2011

when i see friends i went to school with announcing they are pregnant. i aways think OMG they are way to young to have a baby!!! lol i did it the other day to a friend who had a baby.. even tho she was the exact same age i was when i had my first... i think its just because we know whats going to happen to them.. we know how difficult the next few months/years will be for them.. and they still have no idea haha. i dont fell sickened by them. i saw a pregnant girl walking down the road a few weeks ago with her friends and they all looked about 12 or 13 i didnt feel discusted or think she was a slut. i just felt kind of sad for her. just because her life is going to be very hard for a while... maybe even forever.

Victoria - posted on 07/08/2011

I had my daughter when I was 17. She was not planned, but I do not believe in abortion. I created her I am going to care for her. Her father is absent so I did everything I could to support her before she was born and now. I got a job and I was lucky to have parents willing to help. I graduated high school now in nursing school and my daughter is going into Pre-K this year. I know it was hard for me and I was lucky to have help. It is hard for me to see teenage mothers even though I was one. I am 21 now and I try my hardest to tell girls not to get pregnant and to wait. I see alot more girls where I work and I never thought of being a mother at 13 or 16 and I was 16 when I got pregnant. The young ones getting pregnant bother me the most. I just try and talk to them before it happens.

Laura - posted on 06/15/2011

I never thought of having a kid when I was 13 or even 17 and not even when I was 20....I had my first and only kid when I was 24 years old now thats a good age to start having kids. I finished 2 years old college, I had a great job and I had someone by my side to help me. I had everything because I knew that waiting till I was ready both financially and emotionally ready was the best idea. I can't get over how many young moms are out there wanting or already have babies its unreal...it does make me sick to think that young teenagers think its cool to have a baby and not be able to raise it...if you can't handle raising a kid that you shouls keep your legs closed.

Laura - posted on 06/15/2011

I never thought of having a kid when I was 13 or even 17 and not even when I was 20....I had my first and only kid when I was 24 years old now thats a good age to start having kids. I finished 2 years old college, I had a great job and I had someone by my side to help me. I had everything because I knew that waiting till I was ready both financially and emotionally ready was the best idea. I can't get over how many young moms are out there wanting or already have babies its unreal...it does make me sick to think that young teenagers think its cool to have a baby and not be able to raise it...if you can't handle raising a kid that you shouls keep your legs closed.

Amber - posted on 06/04/2011

Im kinda mixed on this one. I dont think they should get pregnant, because being a teen mother isnt easy at all. Personally, I wouldnt change the fact that i was a teen mom. i was also 18 though, had a job, and finished school. But all the ones that are 13,14,15, have no idea what they are getting themselves into. There are some that are 18 that still think oh well how hard can it be? I didnt mean to get pregnant by any means, but i knew it wasnt going to be easy. i didnt go into motherhood thinking life would be the same like some do.

Jessica - posted on 05/23/2011

My biggest concern for these teen moms is that it never gets easier. I had my daughter the month before my 20th birthday, am still with her father, and am turning 24 this year and I still find it incredibly difficult to balance working a full time job in order to keep up with the bills, full time college schedules while maintaining a 4.0, and an ever growing child who needs and wants her mommy. I love her to pieces through and through but I can't help but sometimes wonder what-if.. I've taken the highschool parenting classes, the birthing classes, along with reading and watching many pieces on teen pregnancy and the one thing they never tell you is that you will always be BROKE.. they dont even come close with portraying the kind of expenses that arise with trying to be an "adult" at a young age by having a child. Some of these teen mothers are too young to even get jobs making it taxpayers and their parents jobs to care for the children. Also at 23 I still feel very young, and though I've grown much patience over the years I fear for these younger moms who haven't had the time they need to experience life, develop intellect social skills or patience. Lastly, It's NOT cute and guys wont stay just because they got you pregnant- and if it's love you want: Babies are SELFISH, they dont love but they cry and whine and scream to get what they need, they don't start to develope the ability to love until later in life.

Mell - posted on 05/22/2011

I got pregnant at sixteen and had my son at seventeen, but by that time i had already finished school passed my exams and during the time i was pregnant finished and passed a college course.
Its the younger teens that get me i can imagine having a child at 13 - 15 I remember at that age i had no responsbilities and loving it, I dont like how they think its all a big laugh "Oh im having a baby how cool i cant waiiit" when they dont understand the first thing about it! Id rather see these young teens atleast get some of their teen years out the way before having a child but in the same respect the young teens who get pregnant and just think oh well i can have an abortion really annoy me.
You have to grow up quick being a teen mum its not all cute baby outfits and giggles your going to have this child for the rest of your life to look after.
But i understand that some of the 15 years olds etc who get pregnant do look after their children and do the best they can and i respect that they have stepped up to the mark xx

Jodi - posted on 05/20/2011

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"ur being a bit ov a hipercrit!!!!!i fink its much more responsible to have a baby rather than just have an abortion!!!it shows u r dealing with the concequences ov ur actions!!!!i fink its wrong wen young girls have a baby as a fasion accesory & get there parents to do all the hard work ov actually caring for the baby!!!!!me & all my 'mummy' mates have never bin like that!!!!i was 17 wen i got preg with my 1st n i now have 2 n woodn't change a thing!!!i have a few mates with kids all ranging from 14 - 17 wen they got preg & as far as i can see not 1 ov us are a wose mummy than a mum in her late 20s-30s we just have more energy wich is a bonus!!!lol!!!!"





Enough said.....I don't think I need to say it.

Wolfmama - posted on 05/19/2011

It depends on the support they have. I worked in a daycare that was specifically for teen moms to use while they completed high school and I've met some of the most dedicated and mature women there, all under twenty. However I have also met some of the most misguided and self-absorbed women there as well. I think that the environment that the mothers themselves are in plays a large factor in how they choose to parent their own children because of the support (or lack thereof) that they receive. Adolescence is often considered a toxic stage to have a baby in because we are still developing our sense of self at this time and it is developmentally difficult for women in this stage to expand their egos to include caring for another human being's physical/emotional health. Having a caring and supportive family at this point makes all the difference in learning to parent consciously and positively. Also finding a group of friends that are positive examples to emulate is also important.

Ambyr - posted on 05/19/2011

I think it depends. When I see a well put together teen mom I am fine with it. I figure she is clean, her baby is clean and well taken care of and it doesnt look too bad. Then I see some teen moms that just look like everything around them is a mess and they have no clue what they are doing then I am not so happy with it. I was 17 when I had my first baby and had both my kids by the time I was 18. I know what its like to be judged so I don't like to do it but it still happens.

ALYSSA - posted on 05/19/2011

I got pregnant at 17 with my first child. I started having sex at 17 and was using everything to prevent it but it happened, so I managed. But I would suggest against getting pregnant so young. A lot of young teenagers getting pregnant do not think of the long run consequences. I don't like that some of them get pregnant then get everything from their parents, still party like they are still teenagers, and neglect all responsibility for their child. The 13 and 14 yrs old (no offense to any of those moms) are still growing them selves and to have to take responsibility of a child is crazy. They just gave up their childhood and it can be really damaging to their bodies, not just the outside but their inner organs too.

Karisa - posted on 05/19/2011

oh and then they bitch about getting no sleep and the babies waking up at night and them being cranky. their a baby. what do you think they are gonna do sleep and eat and poop with nothing going on in the middle? no they are so much work and take all of your time they need all of your time not someone elses

Karisa - posted on 05/19/2011

i do agree with you to a certain extent. i didnt mean to get pregnant the first time, but i had lost my first one then got pregnant about the same time and had my little boy last april. he is considered my miracle baby:) because my first one had the embilical cord wrapped around his neck and jaiydyn was fine when he was born. but i do hate seeing all these young girls pregnant. its as if they think its a game and is fun to be a mom in school. but what i really hate is when they have the baby, they spend no time or minimal time with them and give them to their parents to watch while they go out. its time to grow up. and be a mother and take reasponsibility for their actions or just keep their legs shut.

Maria - posted on 05/19/2011

there is just a lot of things that at a young age you dont know yet. Im 21 now and yes me and the father of my child are still together but its been hard. We were not together for that long before we found out about our unplanned blessing. And i feel like we were really lucky. We both got on the ball of course but of us working our butts off both of us in college. We got our apartment before she was born which was the first time we both had ever had an apartment. Now we make good money to where i dont have to work if i dont want to and we just got our first house. BUT thats not how it works for most people. and at 13, 14 it DEFINITELY isnt gonna work like that. Nevermind if the relationship will last but you cant even raise yourself much less a little baby.

Maria - posted on 05/19/2011

I feel exactly the same way!!! And i really dont think im a hypocrite because of it. I got pregnant at 19 and had her at 20 and i still think it was the wrong time and wrong age. Even tho i never regret having her and me and my guy were able to get everything ready before she got here i still wouldve liked for it to have happened a little later like when i was 25 when we already had the house we have now and everything was in order instead of rushing. Yes she is my everything of course but when i see kids at 14 i just hae to laugh not because i think its funny but because i think its so sad at 14 you havent even lived life. At 14 you cant even do anything by yourself!! And i think its sad when they have kids and then its there parents ( the grandparents) that are the ones actually raising them until they are old enough to take over. Anyways it does annoy me and i feel maybe it is a bit of the mother coming out but thats how i feel. i think 18 and 19 is still very young but a little better seeing as you can get married without having your parents give consent. You as an indiviudal can get a job, drive, and get your own place. Anything under 18 is just foolish and selfish.

Julieanne - posted on 03/03/2011

i think 13, 14 and even 15 year old are irresponsible having kids, at least in Nevada....you cant even have a job to support your kid. who is doing that your parents....you need to stay in school, i had my son at 18...i was out of high school in college working full time til i had my son, now i work full time and go to school to be an EMT. I think until you can support yourself fully you shouldn't have any kids. I mean i understand unplanned pregnancies and and stepping up to the plate, but i think you should try to wait. just my opinion

- - posted on 03/02/2011

To me it depends on the reason. What I mean by that is; a couple of months ago i came across these girls in my ex's brother's school. They're 15 & 16. One already had a young child, and the other was pregnant. The only reason she got pregnant was because she thought it would be 'fun'. I could've punched her when she told ME how easy it is being a young mother!! I was 18 and still in school when I had my son, so I think I know what it's like!!
Grr. Some teens really do need a kick up the ass!
(note: The one who already had a child, always left him/her with the grandparents, and they BOTH went out most nights to get drunk!).

Stephanie - posted on 03/02/2011

I feel the same way sometimes, its like girls think its a fad to get pregnant then they dont step up to the plate to be a mom! I know some girls that got pregnant just to get pregnant and one of them lost custody of her child. She just had another baby in Jan. Im not sure if its just me but when I had my daughter she has constantly been with me, except for when i had a job after she turned one but even then first thing I would do when I got off work was go to my moms house to get my daughter. Or even if my mom wanted to keep her over night I would still go over after work and spend time with her! She is my everything! I got pregnant with her3 months before my 18th birthday and I knew right away I was putting the teenage life to rest because being with my daughter was way more important than just going out with friends and leaving her at home! I'm sorry but thats just not good parenting to me! My mother managed to raise 3 children and work and manage to spend all her free time with us making sure we were happy! So having a mother like that just sets the bar high for where I need to be with my children! Some teens I ersonally think just get pregnant to know the feeling and then when the baby is born just basically say whatever and go back to their careless life styles! It upsets me to see young parents for the first time in a while and the be like oh I had a baby but the baby is no where in site! Its just sad! I really think its sad that the grandparents step in to take care of their childs responsibility! I know the statistics show that children of teen moms are more likely to have children in their teen age years but I would not just let my child run around not taking care of their child! no way! they went out and had unprotected sex and wound up pregnant! they will take care of that child! Grant it i would help out take care of the baby while my child goes to school just bc i know day care is ridiculously priced and no teen trying to go to school would be able to afford a day care! I hope the teen moms on here are the type that are with their children as much as they can be!

Monique - posted on 03/01/2011

i think its kinda unapropriate to post this on a site for 'teen moms' knowing its going to offend people?

Kelly - posted on 03/01/2011

i had just 15 when i had my lil girl and i dont think its the age i think its the maturity of the girls that are pregnant.. every one said i was really mature for my age and when i found out i was preg i was scared but not bothered what people thought. i think your more focased on the age of some one and not the maturatity

Jess - posted on 02/28/2011

i had pretty much just turned 17 when i fell pregnant i think tht my friends are silly for wanting children not people i dnt know cause i dont no them or there life experiences! but pretty much all of my friends want babies and i think they are stupid for it cause most of them are still 17 an have just seen me turn 18 and NOT want to go out up town with them! some younger than me can do it an i bet that they are great mum! my mum was 17 when she had my older sister who is now 24, me and both of my sisters have the same parents and my mum and dad are still together! im not saying its a good thing to have babies young but when i found out my mums story i was really shocked tht they had pulled through all of the trouble of have children! but yet my dad did pull his finger out of his ass and provide for his family! i just wish every young mum had it the way my parents were.

Crystal - posted on 02/27/2011

I don't believe its wrong, I just hate seeing teens (13-16years old) have baby's, It takes alot of restorability to raise a baby, Im 19 an make $674 a month, I live on my own pay my own bills, An i live pay check to pay check, I never get to go out to eat because my money go to diapers and stuff 4 the baby,

Christina - posted on 02/26/2011

I get mad when I see irresponsible teen moms, not teen moms in general. I was 17 when I had my son, and I looked about 14yrs old. Everyone thought I was 14yrs old so I really got grief.

Jacqui - posted on 02/26/2011

Some girls think that a baby is a fashion accessory or a way to get more money, with all the benefits nowadays. I had my little girl at 15, although we didn;t find out until 2 months before she was due.

Irma - posted on 02/25/2011

I feel the same! I'm also 19 and i got pregnant at age 15:( i guess i feel that way cause i know how tough it is to be a teen mom. I have actually told my friends and younger girls to be careful and dont get pregnant to use protection and enjoy life right now....lol

Ashleigh Jade - posted on 02/25/2011

Im 21 so not a teenager anymore, but had my 1st 2mnyths before i was 17. I now have 3. I think alot of people are a ted hypocritical. Im an awsum mum to my kids so thats all that matters. There are 40tr old ladys in bad marriges and just as unpepared for a baby.

Brittnee - posted on 10/06/2010

ummmm this really gave me something to think about... i dont think it is wrong for teens to have baby's. i was 17 when i got prego but what i feel is wrong is when girls get prego just to "trap" the guy or because they think it will be "fun" where i live there are alot of young teens having babys and i feel bad for them because they dont really know how much their life is going to change.

Lyn - posted on 10/06/2010

Same. I find it terrible some of the teen mum's I see. Although Im pregnant with my first and Im a teen. But not a young teen.

Jessica - posted on 10/06/2010

I'm with you. I hate seeing younger girls who get pregnant so young. It makes me so mad. I got pregnant when i was 17 with my son and then i got pregnant with my daughter and had her about a year or so later. Im 19 now and after i got pregnant with my kids it seemed like everyone was getting pregnant. I watch these tv shows maury and these girls who are 14 and say they want a baby they are ready drives me nuts. Its hard being a mom at 19 even being a 30 year old mom is tuff but at 14 your so not ready.

Alicia - posted on 10/05/2010

I got pregnant at 16 and had my first son at 17, Im 19 and just had my second last month on the 8th. I graduated on time, a full time college student and my fiance is working to support us... Its not ALL teen/young mothers that I hate seeing, its the ones that get pregnant and still act as if they never had a child. The baby gets passed off to grandma, auntie, or whoever and they just breeze by. It just doesnt make sense. I feel that u can be a teen/young mother but if u plan on raising that baby then grow up b4 the child gets here

Danielle - posted on 09/25/2010

well i was 15 when i found out and 16 when i had my son. i dont so much think of it as being wrong but i do think that some teenagers need to be careful. i was in 11th grade when i had him and i made it a point to go back i didnt want to be what in my eyes was the "typical" teenage mom and drop out and i try harder and harder everyday not to become that. i am 22 now and my son is going on 6. i have done it alone for his whole life. his dad has never helped although me and his father still talk from time to time. so i think its been harder for me raising him alone than it was to be a teen mom.

Trish - posted on 09/24/2010

I'm not against Teen mums as long as they take care of their babies. Bringing life into this world is a HUGE responsibility...and some teenagers need to know that getting pregnant is nothing light. My mum had me at 18 and even though life was hard...she was a dang good mum. I wouldn't be where I am without her. I had my baby at 28years and enjoyed having a life and a career. Now I can enjoy my baby.

Shiloh - posted on 09/24/2010

It's mainly the young teen moms who get pregnant on purpose, because i know that contraception does not always work, but i had a friend that got pregnant on purpose and then near the end of the pregnancy she was like denying the baby and not taking her medicine and stuff. She got really sick towards the end because she is so tiny the baby was hurting her back and stuff. but now she goes out like every night to party and its like really? you wanted to have the baby but not take care of it? wtf?

Dee - posted on 09/24/2010

everyone is different i had my son when i was 16, he is now four. I dont think age has anything to do with being a good or bad mum i just think that bad teen mums are publicised more. I know plenty of teen mums i would be happy to leave my son with knowing they are also great mums, but i know quiet a few older ("more appropriatley aged mums") who i would not leave my son with. I think that there seems to be a taboo about out of wed teen mums but i believe the vast majority are doing a great job...even if it takes a little getting used to.

Caitlin - posted on 09/24/2010

I am 17 and pregnant but unlike most of the girls around me who are my age or younger I live with my Fiance and I have a stable life but even with that I would never look down upon a girl who is young and pregnant every girl has a different story whether its rape or whether its stupidity. I feel that as long as they grow up and change their ways then there is no reason for me to judge them.