Do you think its wrong for teens to have babys, even tho ur a teen mom?

Kelly - posted on 02/19/2009 ( 189 moms have responded )

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I HATE seeing pregnant teenagers or teens with babys even tho im a teenage mom! I dont know if its just because i know i was wrong to get pregnant for all the wrong reasons and i hate seeing other kids doing the same thing or what but i just hate seeing teen moms, i think its the mom thing comin out of me haha, I just wanted to know if anyone else feels the same way. I'm mostly sickened by the 13 through 17 year old moms that really gets to me, I'm 19 so im almost not a teenager hah but its just the younger teens that gets to me.

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Rebeka - posted on 09/24/2010

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You Have To Look At It This Way: For Most Of Those Girls, It's For The Best. I Had My Son At 17. If I Didn't Have Him There Is No Telling Where I Would Be. And I Say The Same For A Few Of My Friends That Are Also Teenage Mothers. Aiden Made Me Realize That I Can't Take Life For Granted AnyMore. He Helped Me Grow Wiser And Stronger EveryDay. He Gave Me A Reason To Wake Up EVeryDay. I Am More Of A Person Than I Ever Was WithOut Him. So For Most Young Girls.. It Is A Good Thing. They Will Learn The Definition Of Responsibilities Alot Earlier Because Of Their Decisions They Have Made.

Abigail - posted on 09/24/2010

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I think its wrong, most people below 25 havent matured enough to be able to have a baby. But ultimetly.. it comees down to the mum.. I planned my pregnancy and was ready, and another person I know who didnt plan her pregnancy is still an amazing mother! There are just a feww who let it down for the rest of us.. Be prowd!

Stephanie - posted on 09/24/2010

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Well I was 15 when i got pregnant when my daughter and 16 when I had her. I honestly think that it depends on the situation at hand. I cant say that its right nor can i say that it is wrong. I believe it's just something that happens. Some people say that if the parents of the teens enforce the consequences of what will happen an what not that they wont go out and do it.. but truthfully we all know that if they wanna go out an have sex they will (even with the risk of getting pregnant). But I can't say that it doesn't bother me to see girls (younger than what I was when I got pregnant) pregnant with babies.

Kayly - posted on 09/24/2010

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Im not trying to be mean either i just feel bad for them because they dont get to live their childhood to the fullest and its a shame......i dont regret my son AT ALL but it would have been nice to be able and be a child. i mean, you have to go from a child....to an independent adult +1!!! its hard!

Kayly - posted on 09/24/2010

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I completely understand where you are coming from! i see pregnant teens all around and i just think to myself......you really dont know what your in for.....and i just kinda wish that i wouldnt have saw them.....it makes me upset too!

Hailey - posted on 09/24/2010

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i was 17 my x was 24 he was givin me bull shit he wuld be 2 old for kids soon me lil a silly cow had 1 i dnt regrete her but nw he has gne but i have the best bf ne and my lil girl loves him so i learnt my lesson no more kids for a while

Kayla - posted on 09/23/2010

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I was 19 almost 20 when I got pregnant, I had my son once I was 20. My fiance at the time, (my husband now) and I planned him. I think that if you play, you pay. I loved being pregnant, and think that it looks good on 20-40 year olds. Teenagers are children themselves. Think about this logically, if your child wanted to have sex at 13, are you prepared to help raise their children? Because at 13, you can't support a baby. If you get on welfare, or government aid, it is not you providing for your child, it is everyone else. I was on government medical care when I was pregnant, but I also worked up til I delivered. It sickens me to see babies having babies.

Cynthia - posted on 09/23/2010

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the people at my school i went to thought it was cool to have babys and its not

Angie - posted on 09/23/2010

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i dont think its wrong...im just usually curious about their story (not rude enough to ask tho)

Summer - posted on 09/15/2010

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just an fyi, you dont have to be mature to have sex. You just have to first experience puberty.

Eroleen - posted on 09/15/2010

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i think its wrong when ur going around trying to have a baby on purpose knowing ur not ready or getting pregant to keep a guy. but i got preganat at 14 and im not planning any more anytime soon but stuff happens now i'm 18 so i went 4 years without getting preganat again

Ti'Sheeka - posted on 09/15/2010

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Im With You i hate seeing a young girl pregnant if i could i would have waited. im 19 but i have a younger sister who is sneaky she's 14 and i dare her to go get pregnant it will be a cold day in hell lol... but when i found out i was preg i had graduated found a job and was looking for a place but half these girls are still in school or dropping out and dont really have nothing for themselves

Tabatha - posted on 09/15/2010

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I was 18 when I got pregnant with my first child.Me and my boyfriend wanted kids.So we tried.Neither of us had jobs I was a senior in high school&he was a freshmen in college.We had our daughter may 14th 2009.I didn't graduate because they didn't have an alteritvie gym class for pregnant girls which that was the only class i needed.But things worked out.Then dec.24 i conceived my second child.and I just had him on the 1st of this month.I'm 20 with two kids.I have my g,e.d go to college,even though i plan on being a stay at home mom.Just taking course to have some classes under my belt for when i want to go and get a degree.I am happily married to my high school sweetheart.I see nothing wrong with teen moms being any age.As long as they take care of there kid(s) right.Teen moms can be just as good as older mothers.I'm an amazing mother.I get asked all the time how do you keep your cool with a 16month old and a newborn.I told them its called life you learn to suck it up good or bad,and you take whatever god throws at you.Plus it also helps when you raised your first child well,and doesn't have behavior issues.But i do get upset how these girls make promises to get pregnant.I think if your with the right guy and you know he will stay with you the go ahead have a kid(s) but please for the love of god understand the harshness it puts on your life at a young age and how hard it tries your relationship.I think girls need to have speical classes in high school to have a talk with teen moms to understand how hard it is.But other than that go for it.But understand life will never be the same.

Esmeralda - posted on 09/15/2010

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I completely understand where you're coming from. I don't hate them, I just feel sad that so many young girls, including me are having babies so young. I love my daughter, I wouldn't give her up for the world but there's a little part inside of me wishing I would have waited. I live in Compton,CA and teen pregnancy is as common as a cold so it just makes me upset knowing that so many girls starting from the age of 12, are getting pregnant. I just feel like we as teen moms are not making enough effort to educate the younger generations that sex has consequences! No matter how good it feels the child growing inside of you is a decision you will have to live with the rest of your life! Until you are financially stable and know you can give your child good quality of life then don't have sex. Point blank. I know I struggle a lot because I want the best for my daughter. That's how i feel about the issue.

Jennifer - posted on 09/15/2010

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i hate the fact that my lil sister which is only 16 is wanting a baby and it drives me crazy!!! i dont want other teens to go through what i did in high school... it just tears me up inside.

Maureen - posted on 09/15/2010

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i think if u are mature enough 2 hve sex ur mature enough 2 care for a baby i know its hard but u jst got 2 get on nd deal wit it, i also think abortions are wrong u shouldnt be havin unprotected sex if u dont want a baby

Tammy - posted on 09/15/2010

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Wow there are a lot of people here who are quite discriminating of people who are in the same situation they were in. I was 17 when I got preg, 18 when I had my son. Sure he wasn't planned and the father left me and didn't want much to do with it (still doesn't really 2 and a half years later) but I wouldn't change it for the world. I haven't missed out on anything really, I was never a big party person/drinker. I stayed for the quarter year of high school I had left, and graduated (even got 2 awards at graduation) and I'm now at University studying towards an excellent career. I think the main 'problem' I would have with any pregnant people (not just young ones) is if they are doing it for the wrong reason (which I wouldn't know unless I knew them personally). I don't judge people just because I see they are pregnant, I will judge if I know for a fact that they would be bad parents (I do know a couple, and like I said can't tell that unless you know them). The one thing I do HATE is the older first time mums (around 30 yrs or so) who think that because they are older they will be better mums than someone who is 17-18...that's not the case, everyone who is a first time mum is in the same situation, it's just that they will have had more life experience. If someone makes the choice of having sex, they take that responsibility with them that they might get pregnant. Sure they may not be thinking about it at the time they are having sex (I sure wasn't), but it's the truth, you take the risk of getting pregnant every time u have sex, the only 100% sure way to not get preg is by not having sex lol =). Another thing I hate is that at 20yrs old (nearly 21) I am still getting looked at as though I am 16 (must look young) or people even look at my ring finger and once they see there is no ring they give me a wee snarl type look. Honestly people, don't judge unless you know the person and the situation.

(Sorry if that didn't make much sense, I'm tired lol)

Brie - posted on 09/14/2010

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for me that a hard one, as you can have a going nowhere teen and that gets pregnant and is then making it, or you see a going somewhere teen and has a kid and then goes nowhere, and all that is in between, so I can't give a solid answer which for some is one sided, I would have to be given a teen's profile but even then we all know pregnancy changes the mind so how do we know what will happen so yeah it is creepy but what if a teen parent's child is a great cure maker like for aids or something of similar value

Veronica - posted on 09/14/2010

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well you sound like a hypocrite,why should other teen moms judge other pregnant teens when they themselves had unprotected sex and got pregnant at a young age also,i don't think its wrong but it could be avoided and if alot of us had been alittle safer we might not be teenage moms at all,but i don't regret my actions because seeing my daughter look at me with trust and love in her eyes is enough for me to get on with my life and not sit around acting stuck up towards other girls who are in the same boat i'm in

Cheryl - posted on 09/14/2010

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I got pregnant with my son on my 18th birthday, and 2 years later had my beautiful daughter. By 23 years old i had another daughter. I think you can be a good mother at any age. I had a rough time being a single mom but wouldnt of given it up for the world. My children are all grown now my baby just graduated. I feel you can do anything you set your mind to, just the child or children come first not you anymore most dont realize this concept. I had a wonderful family to help support me, it was very difficult trying to be mom and dad at the same time. Its not easy by no means, but i would not change anything for the world. My children bring me the greatest joys in life. I look at teen moms and i get a little sad at the thought of them losing so much of there life. They should be doing all the normal things teens do, not worrying about diapers, formula, baby sitters to go out if you get time to. I told my kids enjoy your life. There will be plenty of time for kids you cant get that time back, once its gone it is gone. I am so glad none of my children have made me a grandma. Ill be ready when that time comes.

Amanda - posted on 09/14/2010

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i was 15 when i gave birth to my daughter & i dont for one second regret a thing she is the best thing that has ever happend to me and i beleive im a great mum. I dont go out and party and i didnt have her for the attention, on the other hand i hate seeing teen mums pregnant for the attention/money/ and because "they want one" and once they have the baby they pretty much disown him/her and go out partying. I feel age is nothing ABOSOLUTELY nothing it has nothing to do with anyone else as long as they turn out to be great parents and are happy with their choices thats all that matters.

Ro-selina - posted on 09/14/2010

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i was 16 when i got pregnant 17 now ill admit it does piss me off just a wee bit hearing about how 13,14 ,15 yr old girls wish they had babies and are trying to get pregnant! i feel like smacking them across the head! my daughter was concieved through stupidity id come home from work and not want to argue with my boyfriend at the time about contraception so we would go without. i love my daughter i wouldnt change the fact that i had her for anything but.. i was stupid and hate to see people go through what i went through what im going through voluntarily i really does make my blood boil..

Summer - posted on 09/13/2010

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Annabeth Ashton - I too chose to keep my baby when i found out when i was pregnant. my parents nearly shuned me and basically told me that they gave up on me because I was pregnant. Even my friends bluntly told me i wasn't ready and that i was making a mistake (these so called friends of mine are no longer my friends). And what you need to do is tell your friends that they are acting dumb if they think you get bank because of a baby. Dont get me wrong taxes can be nice to recieve but.. you also have to pay for daycare if you work, cloths, diapers, formula,etc. yeah.. If kids were cheap there wouldn't be so many low income families. But whats funny is that once we make decisions that effect us so greatly for the rest of our lifes we caution others. Which is a very good decision because like you mentioned the repercussions behind having a baby is lifelong. I do hope the best for you and every teen mother out there because we are all going to need it. good luck new momma!

Jaimi - posted on 09/13/2010

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im not sure i believe its wrong i just believe that some young mothers are better and more prepared then others. there are some that can barely handle there own teenage emotions let alone a baby's. i also think that when you get pregnant young that you miss out on a lot of your life. but on the bright side all of us young mothers get to be kid free a lot younger then others too. ill be 38 when my daughter;s 18 so it works out for some lol.

Annabeth - posted on 09/13/2010

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I am 16 and i had my little boy 9 days ago. I was 15 when i got pregnant and i chose to keep my baby. I do not regret having my son because he means everything to me but at the same time i never thought of the consequences before i got pregnant. I hate it because a few of my friends think it is cool to have a baby and you get heaps of money but having a baby is so much more then just that. I guess i am a bit of a hyprocrite because i hate seeing other teenage mums around my age because i think they too young and don't understand the repercussions. But i guess i can't talk because i know that is what some poeple think of me.

Summer - posted on 09/12/2010

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soo.. i also wanted to add.. There is no such things as "being more mature," or "when you're ready have a baby." If you really think that you're mature now as a teen wait even just a few years. You're not mature, AND you may say you were ready, but were you really? Its not just having a baby you have to think about. I just think a lot of you saying that are, are annoying and ignorant. BUT, if you have your own job, are still going to school, own your own house, and give your children a happy heathly life then youre awesome!! Youre not a part of the statistics.

Summer - posted on 09/12/2010

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I dont think its wrong BUT.. it robs teens of there independance/wildside/the need to explore/or what ever you want to call it after highschool. From experience I hardly had independance after highschool before i got pregnant at 19. Makes me sad now that Im 22 about how Im not experiencing life like a lot of my friends are. Dont get me wrong though, I love my kids but I wish I waited a few more years longer. I say practice abstenance until at least after highschool. Because statistically teen moms get pregnant within 3 years of ther first being born and having issues as well. Not saying that everyone is a part of the statistic but unfortunately a lot of us will be in there.

Dominique - posted on 09/12/2010

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I think that most teens are getting pregnant because their friends are or already have kids. It's not worth it, it takes time and energy and most girls i see here are still going to school. I had graduated and was out of school for almost two years before i got pregnant with my 10 month old daughter. Im 20 now, i wouldn't change anything about being a mom nor would i make a different choice but there are always going to be the days where i say WHAT IF. It doesn't make me a bad mom in anyway shape or form it makes me human. Kids that are 14-17 don't really know the extent of what their getting themselves into. My step sister has a baby who will be 2 in feb. and she just turned 17, yes that made her 15 when she got pregnant. Some girls just don't realize that it really is hard work and that mostly likely at the age of 15 you aren't still going to be with the childs father in a year even. There are way to many girls getting pregnant and then pawning their child off to there parents or babysitters every weekend so they can go out and party. Thats what i hate seeing, i hate reading on myspace or facebook statuses where it says GOING OUT TO NIGHT GONNA GET DRUNK BABYS WITH THE GRANDPARENTS, and its a constant status for them. They need to grow up and take responsibility, their parents weren't the ones who told them to go out and get pregnant they shouldn't be the ones raising the grandbaby. Thats where my problem stands with the whole teen issue.

Samantha - posted on 09/11/2010

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I was 16 when I had my daughter but my husband is 4 years older so I didnt get the major impact of being a teen mom we manage finaces fine and only I needed to worry about school which went quickly at home. Though when I do see some other teen moms that have done it on purpose and there both still doing school its frustrating, I believe they can do it but I know they will have a lot of struggles.

Paige - posted on 09/11/2010

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Well im 17 and i dont think its wrong but i do think its up to us as already teen mothers to express to those in our situation or tryin to be in our situation that its hard and it dont get easier as time goes! no i dont agree with the fact i got pregnant and think it would have been better for me and my daughter if i would have waited but i wouldn't trade izabella for the world and im happy that im blessed with a daughter and im just waiting on her to get here

Kristen - posted on 09/11/2010

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I love the negative comments about other teen moms, when YOU ARE ALL TEEN MOMS...you're trying to talk about moms like me, and you can't even spell...goes to show who's kids will turn out properly, hmmm...

Haily - posted on 09/11/2010

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I was 16 when i had my little boy and im bout to be 18 now i have TWO babies now...and i dont think its wrong...if you can lay down with someone and make a baby then you better be ready to take care of it. I feel as tho there is a reason for everything....if i would not have had my first baby there is no telling were i would be in life...im sorry if i come of as rude but im really just putting my thoughts out there

Jaylena - posted on 09/11/2010

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Really it depends on the maturity level of the girl having the baby, im 16 and i have a baby, but im not like most 16 year olds, i dont party, i hardly ever go out, i have my own place to live and i study and work. it honestly just depends on that.

Brooke - posted on 09/09/2010

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I see where you are coming from. The fact is most teens will not be able to give a child the best of life as if they could have when they were older. Kids need time to be kids.
I chose this life for myself, I was 17 when we planned on having a baby, I am now 20 and trying for a 2nd. I see this life as the best for me. But it prob isn't the best for most.
there are a lot of young mums who find more important things in life then there own child or children. So no I do not like seeing young mums who do not look after there children. I also do not like 13, 14 or 15 yo's having children either but that is not for me to decide.

Tanya - posted on 09/09/2010

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I haven't read EVERYONES comments, obviously.. and i don't disagree with any, but it does bother me when people say they were ready for a baby. In my opinion.. it doesnt matter it you're 35 or 16, no one is ever 100% ready for a baby. I found out I was pregnant last december, I was 18 years old and 5 weeks along. I turned 19 in April and had my beautiful baby girl about a month ago ( August 11th ). I always wanted kids, 2 at the most in my lifetime.. but I never expected to have one this early. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 n half years, been living together for just a couple months short of that, we both have stable, good paying jobs, and nice things.. we have the means to support a child.. but that's not all it takes. A child puts a lot of stress on the mom, the dad, even the relationship. My boyfriend and I are very good at compromising and sharing the responsibility, but I wouldn't say we were completely ready. I have friends who have babies and younger relatives, but every baby is different. You never know what to expect. There were always a ton of pregnant girls at my high school and I'll admit I was always pretty judgmental, but I don't regret being that way. You never know if someone is going to be a good mom until they have their baby. Some are so excited and happy when they find out they're having a baby, but then when the times comes to being up all night when theyre fussy and having to go to school or work after, or passing up buying that really cute outfit to get your child a can of formula or a package of diapers, some moms cant handle it. I would sacrifice everything for my daughter, and I know my boyfriend would do that same. I don't think a lot of moms who are still in school get the full aspect of parenthood because many have their parents still supporting them.. this sin't true in some cases, but I believe young teens shouldnt be having sex until they can support themselves.. if you can't do that, you shouldnt take the risk of having to support a baby.

Kym - posted on 09/09/2010

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I sort of agree with yuu here... I was 14 when I fell pregnant & 15 when I had my son, Im now 18 and my son is nearly 3... I wasn't ready to become a mum, Me & My partner had only been together for a month b4 I fell pregnant...When I found out I was pregnant I was into drugs & drinking everyday & skipping school. And after I found out I was pregnant I stopped drugs and went back to school & Now Im a stay at home mum & wouldnt change myy lil man for the world.. Me & My partner have been together for nearly 4 yrs now and are engaged and have our own house. But some teen mums aint ready to be mums.. I get really angry wen they palm there kids off so they can go get on the drugs or drink...

Tia - posted on 09/09/2010

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Mmm...well Ihad my first child when I was 18, but I got preg at 17...I try not to judge people because like they say and like I know what is true "God don't make no mistakes" and I don't think he cares what age you are, if he wants to put a child in your life then that is what he is going to do, there is a reason for everything. I sure do thank him for the both of my kids and my fiance' wouldn't change it for the world. God Bless!!!!!!!

Stifler's - posted on 09/09/2010

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Nobody called anyone a bad mum. FFS. Just because someone wrote a post like this being honest about what they think doesn't mean they are personally calling you a bad mum.

Amy - posted on 09/09/2010

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I don't think it's wrong to see other teenaged mothers, I think it's wrong if they keep them and don't take care of them. As long as they are responsible and try to be the best mother they can then age doesn't really matter. I've seen tons of females teens and adults who do wonderfully as mothers and then I've seen my fair share of mothers [again teen and adult] where they don't do anything with or for their child[ren]. Age is just a number to me. I fell pregnant when I was 16 and I knew what to expect when I had sex, but once my son was born I did and still do everything I can to be a great mother.

Kristen - posted on 09/09/2010

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And I also think it's really funny that people are sitting here judging teen moms, and half of you can't even spell...how the hell are you going to teach your kids anything if you don't know it yourself?

Kristen - posted on 09/09/2010

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I think it's wrong that you think that way, I mean honestly, I'm 18 and my son is 1. I got pregnant when I was 17, does that make me a bad mom? NO. Does that mean I had my son under the wrong circumstances? NO. And do I regret it? NO. When I had my son, I was in college, I was doing things with my life. Half of the mothers out there don't even have anything to offer their child. I am a great mom, and the fact that you can walk past young mothers and judge them makes you a bad person. I mean really, do you think I change my kids diapers any different than you do because you're a year or two older? Hell no. I am not a perfect mother, but I'm a great one. And 19 is a teen mom sweetie, so "almost not a teenager" doesn't count. You are what you are. And how are you sickened by the girls that are in the same situation as you? It's a supportive group, not lets trash girls one year younger than me. So maybe the next time you see a young girl walking down the street with her child, you should think of the fact that she is taking care of her kid, and you should be proud. And it's a pretty big ass double standard if you ask me. If you judged me I would laugh in your face because if you look at me and think it's wrong that I have a child young, maybe you're the one who's doing something wrong. My son is smart, healthy, and up to date with every other kid his age, so if you wanna judge someone, judge yourself.

Sarah - posted on 09/09/2010

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I know were you're coming from I hate seeing pregnant school girls .. I just wish they would complete their compulsory education(high school at least so age 16) and at least have some sort of part time job or a way to earn their own money before even thinking about getting pregnant so they don't have to be rely on the government and end up on the dole. I have a 16year old sister (just started college) and I would go ape if I found out that she was pregnant.18 is the ideal age - if you are young that is .. because you are classed as an adult!

I'm 20 years old now and have a 19month old son.
I was 18 when I found out I was pregnant with him (19 when i had him), so technically I was an adult - I had a job (even though it was only part-time at McD's - still is - still there with OH) , I had finished my education - got good GCSE and good/average A Levels ( was in the middle of my A Level exams when I found out and was supposed to be going university to study law in Sept 08 .. that went out the window .. but that isn't compulsory education)
I wasn't with my other half that long when I found out - would be better if we had been together longer but now we're happily engaged and been together almost 3 years.
I still live with my mum - but that was what we planned - we rushed into being parents - we didn't want to rush into getting a house -- we are currently looking for one now though.

my 19 year old sister is now expecting a baby boy this nov - but she's in a pretty stable relationship,finished her education and has a job also.

so we both (even though i do with extra help sometimes) barely rely on the government except for child benefit and tax credits.

TANDRA - posted on 09/09/2010

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I knw wat u mean my sister has a friend she is 15 and she is trying to get pregnant she recently had an abortion now she wants to get pregnant n keep tha baby...I was 3 months away from turning 17 wen I got prego..I jsut turned 18 last month n my daughter Sa'myah is 7 months on tha 15th...I love her to pieces but it is hard..her father isn't in her life I pay for all her stuff pretty much by myself if I need help my dad helps me :-)...and b4 I got pregnant I was never allowed to go out n party or b a normal teenager....n I'm not gunna lie I do go out now mayb 1 every 2 weeks to go party or clubing just to get a break n feel lik a normal teen for a few hours...I have 9 siblings n since I was 6 I have been helping mom take care of kids...but sometimes having my own is stressful especially since I have no help during tha night wen she wakes up and I have to either get up for a full day of work or college classes...daycare is to exspensive for my paycheck...but I got off subject lol sorry yes I hate seeing teen moms I knw I do tha beat that I can bein a mom while stl trying to figure out who I am...n all these 14. 15 yr olds getting prego is rediculous I didn't even start haveing sex til I got prego with my daughter right b4 I turned 17...I even knw of a girl who just turned 13 n she just had her baby about 3 months ago...it's getting quite rediculous if u ask me

Stifler's - posted on 09/09/2010

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I'm young (21) but I do not think it's a good decision financially or socially to have a child at 13/14/15/16/17. High school education is necessary now, things aren't how they used to be when people left school at grade 7 and a woman's purpose in life was to breed. Accidents happen, whatever but society needs to accept that having sex with anyone no matter what contraception you use you still run the risk of being a parent.

Lizeth - posted on 04/27/2009

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I FEEL LIKE... ANY WOMAN THAT CAN HAVE KIDS;THAT ITSELF IS A BLESSING FROM GOD.NOT EVERY WOMEN CAN GIVE BIRTH AND ALSO NOT BECAUSE YOU CAN GIVE BIRTH MAKE YOU A REAL MOTHER,BECAUSE IT TAKES A REAL PERSON TO BE A REAL MOTHER HONEY.

SOMETIMES ACCIDENTS HAPPEN,BUT YOU ALSO HAVE AN OPPURTUNITY TO MAKE A CHOICE,A DECISION.../|ABORTION|\...IF YOU KNOW YOU NOT READY,STILL WANNA HAVE SOME FUN,NOT DONE WITH HIGH SCHOOL YOU DEFINETLY GONE HAVE TO THINK SHYT TWICE...IT AINT GONE BE THE SAME AFTER A CHILD..TRUST ME!!!I I GOT PREGNANT AT 16,HAD MY DAUGHTER AT 17...A SINGLE MOTHER AND IT DOES GET SO FRUSTRATING AT TIMES

YOU SHOULD ALWAYS LISTEN TO YOUR MIND IN THIS TYPE OF SITUATION..N NOT SO MUCH OF THE EMOTIONAL SHYT:HEART...HOPE I HELPED SO PPL.

Chloe - posted on 04/26/2009

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I was 15 when i got pregnant and 16 when i had my son and i hate that people think i shouldn't be a mum because of my age. It wasn't intentional more of an unplanned miracle but i do think its wrong when teens go out trying to get pregnant. I think its really selfish and that if they want kids so badly they should want the best for them and the best thing for them to do is to sort out they're own lifes first. Finnish school, get a job and hopefully a home before they have kids so they can give they're kids a good stable life. Alot of love is good and well and truly needed for raising a baby but thats not the only thing they need to survive.

Dannielle - posted on 04/21/2009

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i dont think, anythink really its their lifr not mine and i am and was ive just turn 18 and i was 16 when i first found out i was pregnant but i knew what i had install for me but i think as the days go on they are gettin younger and younger gettin pregnant and most of them have no idea what they are getting themselfs into so thats wrong cause than the baby gets put than and i hate seening that

Stefanie - posted on 04/20/2009

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i dont really feel bad for the young mothers i feel bad for their babies. now i know some teenager mothers are great and i applaud the ones who take care of their kids and finish high school and go on to further their eduacation like i did. but there are a select few who neglect their children and it makes me very angry if your old enough to have sex and get pregnant your old enough to deal with the consequences having a baby when your a baby yourself isn't easy but it can be done i just wish teens would think about it before they have a baby i feel bad that their are older couples struggling to have children and teens are poping them out one right after another and not taking care of them

Kim - posted on 04/19/2009

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I think it is a bad decision for a teenager to have a baby. Having a baby while you are a teenager means becoming an adult before you are emotionally and financially ready. It is the ultimate responsibilty. One that many "adults" aren't ready for. Life is full of adventures and challenges. Like climbing a mountain. The climb is difficult enough, now try climbing with a 20 lb baby (that's crying, hungry, sleepy, sick or just bored) strapped to you back. You can still make it to the top but you will have to stop more often. You will miss some of the beautiful sights along the way, and it will be difficult to keep up.

Dionne - posted on 04/18/2009

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I had my little girl when I was 15.... I finished school and put myself through college to become a teaching assistant. To be honest I think I had my daughter at the right time because if I didn't have her when I did I wunt have had the motivation to go to college. I don't think it matters what age you have a child I think it's the type of person you are!!!!

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