Doctors discriminating against me

Stephanie - posted on 10/07/2010

I agree with i noticed my son wasnt gaining weight and was only going for 5 mins on the breast then coming off screaming and refusing so after a while of this my milk levels had dropped from him not feeding so i asked the doctor for tablets which were recomended to me by 2 midwifes and he said "oh no i dont think they work so im not going to give them to you you will probably just have to put him on the bottle"

Dannii - posted on 10/01/2010

I had the exact same thing with my midwife! Im also 19 and she spoke to me like a child when I was pregnant and told me that my worries were silly when i felt ill. Turns out that i had dangerous pre-eclampsia and that i was i could've requested to be referred to someone else. the best way to change her doctor is to get her registered with a family member at a different practice. me and my partner kept our doctors different just incase we ever wanted a second opinion

Monique - posted on 10/01/2010

if you are uncomfortable with your child's doctor no matter what the reason you have to find a new one. If you can't find a pediatrician with openings try a family practice.

Brittany - posted on 09/30/2010

I really don't think that classifies as discrimination at all...I bet if they're not listening to you they don't listen to any of their patients. Also, if they don't listen and it causes your child to suffer you should do the responsible thing and find a new doctor because if you keep taking her back KNOWING very well that their ignorance causes your child to suffer then you're just as responsible as they are.

Wendy - posted on 09/30/2010

Hi Nellie. First I want to congratulate you on your precious little one! :o) I too had problems with my child's pediatrician, and they came highly recommended to me. I finally switched over to a Naturopath to give it a try after my oldest son had an allergic reaction to penicillin and I will never go back to an allopathic (western medicine) pediatrician again. I've actually seen 2 different Naturopath's and they have both been wonderful! They take the time to listen to you AND ask questions and find a solution that works for you and your daughter. They can prescribe things if necessary (antibiotics, etc.), but they don't just default to that. It's like they have a bigger book of remedies to choose from and they are generally doing what they do for the right reasons. Don't get me wrong, there are good general pediatricians out there and surely some not so good naturopathic pediatricians, but it's a change that I will never regret. As an additional note, if you can find one that is a mother & child naturopath, I've found that helpful too, because sometimes the things that are going on with you have to do with your baby (i.e. sleep deprivation), and vice-versa. I wish you the best of luck with everything!! Stay strong and follow your own instincts as a mother - ALWAYS!

Alexis - posted on 09/30/2010

wow they discrimanate against teen moms so badly my daughta will b 2 in dec but since she was born shes had all kind of prmblems an the doctors wud send us hme then find out its pnemonia

Kaara - posted on 09/30/2010

i had my eldest at 16 and it was really bad for me with the doctors and nurses, until i told them if they didn't start treating me the same way they would treat a mother of around 30 then i would report them to the medical board and have a black mark put against their license. after that they have always treated me with respect and always listen to what im saying.

Desiree - posted on 09/29/2010

u should keep trying to find a new doctor. have you asked ur insurance company itself for a list of pediatricians? i had to do this for myself. thankfully my daughter goes to my old pediatrician so we already had a fairly good relationship & i love all the nurses there. u may have to switch more than once to find a doctor your comfortable with. u could go to a family doctor or a pediatrician. unfortunately some of the doctors are just plain idiots. i have had many doctors blow me off when having problems with my own body when i was younger. they all treated me like i didnt know what was going on in my own body! try to find all the resources you can to help you & your baby. even something as simple as thrush can become deadly if things are let go too far. so its a good thing u did your own research & were able to get it treated. you can ask your local hospital for different resources like the np's. or if you have to take your baby to the er. most doctors would say "better safe than sorry"....

Felicia - posted on 09/29/2010

I agree with all of the above post. Sounds to me that you are one smart lady. I also had my children very young. I am now dealing with grandchildren. Got so sick of know it all doctors. I found a great np. She is so kind and understanding. So i found another np for my parents. She is also so wonderful. They can usully do everything a doctor can. They have more time to listen. Good luck. I will be praying for you.

Stifler's - posted on 09/27/2010

You know what... doctors do this to older mums too because of the hypochondriacs that go to the emergency room over a headache. It's not because you're young.

Donna - posted on 09/27/2010

if u are unhappy with yur childs doctor how come u havent switched. god forbid yur child becomes really sick you need to be comfortable and have confidence in who is treating yur child. do yurself and yur daughter a favor and get a new doctor

Vicki - posted on 09/27/2010

put in a complaint thats all they keeped doing to me they were like your a young mom and its your first everyone always panics with there first but its not like that at all mothers have instincs and there normally right just put in a complaint or ask to speak with someone from the top of surgury that will make them do there job properly i dnt no but all u can do is try

Kelina - posted on 09/25/2010

Be patient. Is there another doctor in the practice that you can see? I never bother seeing my actual doctor cause she's an idiot. Actually i think she's ind of afraid of me now, but that's another story. When you go in to the doctors, even if they say it's nothing, ask them if they can give you some ideas of what to do, what might help, and if they can take a look in her eyes, ears and mouth and listen to her heart and breathing just to make sure. If you think it's something really bad take her to the hospital and refuse to leave until they tell you whats wrong. Discrimination is unfortunately part of being a young mum these days, but that doesn't mean we have to put up with substandard care. Keep trying to find another doctor and in the meantime do your best to get her the attention she needs. Good luck!

Karalyn - posted on 09/25/2010

You could try a health nurse for advice instead of a doctor... But very good for you for standing your ground!

Nellie - posted on 09/25/2010

I want to but I can`t. I`ve been trying to ever since I found out I was pregnant but there`s no available doctors

Kathryn - posted on 09/25/2010

you should cange doctors b/c if the doctor isn't listening to you and something is wrong with your daughter and it goes untreated it could cause even more problems that could be life threatening! when it comes to your babies health you can never e too safe! =)