father or step-father not wanting anything to do with me

Paige - posted on 12/04/2009

My Biological father disowned me entirely.. Even though I was 17 when I got prego., i'm 18 now(still prego.), i'm a legal adult and he still refuses to have anything to do with me. On top of that, I got married a month before I got pregnant. So my biofather isn't around anymore. I'm hoping he'll eventually come around.

My step father was excited about being a Grandpa. He even jokes around with me and calls me Aflack. Haha!

I'm sry that's happening to you. I'm sure he'll come around. You could also ask him to sit down and talk to you about whats going on. It lets you both just vent and you can find out why he's being so upset. If you handel the situation maturely, it'll help make you're father realise that your not just another "stupid kid getting pregnant", and that you can handel your situation in a mature adult manner, and he could come around faster. Talking about a situation calmly and maturely has helped me in the past with parent problems lol. It's how I convinced them to let me get married at 17!

Anyways! Good luck! I hope I helped, and i'm sry about your situation. It's never easy to deal with this kind of thing.

Samantha - posted on 12/04/2009

well i didnt really have that kind of issue my mom didnt have a b/f n my dad wasnt around like that but the rest of my family members who was upset at first they all got over it just dont pay it no mind an dont let it bug u b/c stress cud affect your baby.but they will get over it eventually so dont worry

Samantha - posted on 12/03/2009

yea. my mom still sees me but she has to sneek around especially when my sisters are involved and it seems that he just doesn't want to listen or even give me a chance to talk when i was ready... he was wanting me to talk to him about it before i was ready. so that is most likely why he doesn't want anything to do with me. but i am hoping that he will come around fairly soon so that i can see my sisters more than i am able to manage to see them now and not when they are 7 or 8 and have bad thoughts of me in their heads b/c of things my step-dad may say... (he doesn't always talk about a person very nice or anywhere cose)

Mell - posted on 12/02/2009

My dad didn't want to talk to me at all after he found out i was pregnant neither did his girlfriend who i was always close to, they didn't speak to me until my son was born, his girlfriend and him had their baby 2months after, i just had to give him time even though i thought it was stupid of him to ignore me for so long, for some reason its hard for dads when their daughters get pregnant probably because they think of them as their little girl no matter how old or grown up they get

Daphne - posted on 12/01/2009

well my opinion is let him cool off and come around when he is ready, there is nothing u can do about that. im not quite understanding how he is keeping u from your mother and sisters. if your sisters r his actual daughters and not step-daughters then ok he has that rite but your mother is a grown woman and should not let any man stop her from seeing her daughter.

Samantha - posted on 12/01/2009

Thanks

Jannie - posted on 11/30/2009

My dad didn't talk to me for about 2 weeks. But they come around. My dad loves his grand daughter. Just give it some time. Good luck w/everything.

Samantha - posted on 11/30/2009

Well at least I know that this isn't just happening to me...

Brittany - posted on 11/30/2009

It took my dad about six months to come around. It was horrible. Sometimes they just cant handle it for a while.